Body language of licking lips

Body language of licking lips: Just for a minute imagine you are sitting in a meeting and the question about the new project goes to Joe and all of the sudden he starts licking his lips. And you think “wow this is unusual I have never seen Joe lick his lips, what on earth does it mean is he lying or is he excited”?

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You ask your boyfriend where he was and all of the sudden all of his body language changes into something not normal. You see him say “I was with Steve” pause … pause … licking his lips  “and we went to a new bar” as he looks away. Could this be a sign and signal that your boyfriend is lying or did he really go to the new bar?

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You go to a new bar and you look over in the corner and notice this girl who winks at you and slowly starts licking her lips. You pull out your phone and Google “Body language of licking lips” to find out how to interpret this sign or signal. Was that a sign of overtly flirting with you, was she thirsty or were her lips chapped?

 

Now it very well may be that licking lips means nothing …but just in case you decide it’s time to find out what the body language of licking lips means.

 

There are plenty of times where people lick their lips and there can be a few reasons why they do so.

  • ·         Out of necessity because of lack of moisture
  • ·         Excitement about an idea or thought non sexual
  • ·         Out of habit
  • ·         Nervous tick
  • ·         Caused by a lie
  • ·         Suggestive

 

Every day reason for licking lips

Now just think for a moment when you were out in the sun and were hot or even possibly when it was really cold and your lips were chapped. Did you lick your lips? The chances are great that you licking your lips meant absolutely nothing but that it was needed. Now if someone were in your peripheral they could read into a little differently. This is a reminder why you need to take a look at what the normal actions are of the person are who you are looking at while interpreting their body language.

 

Excitement and licking lips

There are some people that when they get excited about anything they lick their lips. This rush of energy has to go somewhere for them and the lips are the answer. You would see this as a common trait or action that happens. You would want to know this baseline before making a decision as to whether or not they are lying or if they are just excited about a thought or belief.

 

 Habit of licking lips or biting lips

There are also men and women who have developed the habit of licking or biting their lips over time and it means nothing except that it is a routine behavior. On the other hand if the man, woman or child has a normal behavior of licking their lips and all of the sudden in a situation that normal behavior doesn’t happen there might be a reason for it and it may not be good or it may need nothing at all. This means that it’s time to ask some questions to gather further information about what is going on.

 

 Nervous action of licking lips

On the next spectrum of the level from the body language of licking lips is the nervous tick or action. It may be the pressure of a tough question or an uncomfortable situation or room that would cause one to change their behavior and display. In this nervousness may fall the issue of lying but it doesn’t mean that there is a lie. It could very well be nervous energy just like a man or a woman tapping their foot. In fact you may see foot tapping and lip licking at the same time.

 

 Lying and licking lips

It could very well be that the man, woman or child that you are looking at is asked a tough question they pause and then they lick their lips with another pause and then answer your question. This may be a flat out sign that they are lying but be careful because remember it may be nervous energy. If you are a woman / girl and ask a guy do you love me? If he’s not ready be to answer this question be ready for all sorts of nervous behavior and stalls but even then it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or he’s lying that’s just a tough question all of the sudden.

 

In the case of lying you are looking for abnormal behavior or an action that is not a normal routine for the person that you are looking at. Sometimes it may seem that licking the lips may be a symbolic greasing of the lips to get the big whopper of a lie out of their mouth. This action may take place as a way to get another half a second to figure a story out.

If you spend some time watching the television show “Cops” you will see the suspects start licking their lips after a few tough questions are asked with long pauses or short pauses. Are the suspects lying before or after they lick their lips? Quite possibly but this show is a good place to look and watch for the signs and signals of lying.

 

Just remember before you try and confront your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, kid or coworker of lying look for abnormal behavior then question about it. You may see other signs you have never seen before or you may see normal routines remember the baseline their behavior first.

Seduction and licking of the lips

In the example of the woman licking her lips at the bar that would be considered overt behavior to induce behavior from you or whoever it was generated towards. The licking of the lips may be considered sensual when directed towards a person. Now this is the body language that movies scenes are based upon. You may see a man or woman lick their lips when they meet a new person and they may not even know that they are doing so. Just remember that this may be some nervous energy or it could mean something else entirely. This action may take a few minutes or it may happen instantly depending on what is going on in the mind of the two and the type of chemistry that they have.

 

Now there may be a tendency to look at the lips when a man or woman licks them but you may want to be careful because staring at the lips may be seen as being sexual. So all of the sudden you get excited that someone is licking their lips and you start staring and the other person takes your body language as sexually advanced and that’s not what they were licking their lips for.

Licking lips for many reasons

There may be more than one reason why a person would or could lick their lips while some of them may be good others reasons may be bad. It is important to take the time to learn the behaviors and characteristics of a person’s routine actions or baseline them to determine what their action means or could be interpreted to mean.

 

Understanding body language can help you determine what the actions that other people mean. Learning how to read body language can be fun and also done at home:

 

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Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the nonverbal action of licking lips: Video credit

 

body language of tapping feet

 

 

Body language of tapping feet: Reading body language may take you plenty of places and while learning how to interpret nonverbal communication every motion of the body may mean something. There are even times where body language has no meaning or the nonverbal communication is being used to create tension or even to hide or mask the real situation.

 

While men or woman tap their feet there may be a few reasons why they do so:

  • ·         Nervousness
  • ·         Habit
  • ·         To annoy people or for fun

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Reading the body language of nervousness

There are times where people have nervous reactions to a situation and they do not have control of what their body does. Nervousness can usually start with the hands shaking or even the feet or a foot tapping. You would want to baseline the man, woman or child that you are reading the body language of. If someone were having a time where they are nervous the foot would start tapping just at or about that point in time. Most people cannot stop their foot or feet from shaking or tapping.

 

Reading the body language of habitual actions  

Some people for a level of comfort automatically shake or tap their foot or feet. In this case while base lining the person you would find that this action happens no matter what, it’s not a case of nervousness but one of habit. It makes it difficult to determine if there is any other emotion or action taking place.

 

In some instances people will do what they can to throw off the ability to read the nonverbal actions by consistently having a nervous tick that masks the real actions.

 

There are just some people who tap their feet all of the time and it means absolutely nothing. When read wrong this can lead the reader to think that the person is lying or trying to hide something.  

 

Reading the body language of annoyance

Now there are times where people will use their body language just to annoy you. Some kids will tap their feet in order to get their siblings angry. These actions may with the body can take their toll on emotions and drive adults and kids up the wall. The tapping of the feet can happen anywhere from a quiet library all of the way to sitting at dinner.

 

Reading body language requires that you look at the situation to see what is going on and why someone may have the body language or reactions that they do. Sometimes the body language is a cry for attention and it is important to baseline the situation so that you are not a victim of the law of reaction.

 

Learning how to read body language can take some time and whether it is to learn for fun or for business this is the best place to learn using this home study course.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of tapping feet.

 

 

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Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the body language of tapping feet: video credit

Reading body language of nervousness

Reading body language: Most people have fears of appearing nervous in so many situations. Sometimes this fear is warranted and sometimes it is not.

 

Many times people will ask “what can I do so that I do not appear nervous when others read my body language”?

 

There could be millions of reasons that you could be nervous some of these reasons could be seen from others as being legitimate and in some instances the reasons for your nervousness may seem silly to others.

  • ·         About to ask a woman for her phone number
  • ·         Go in for a job interview
  • ·         Get pulled over by a police officer

 

What would have to be identified first would be what is making you look nervous when it comes to others reading your body language?

 

reading body language while a woman is nervous
Reading body language signs of a nervous woman

 

The items in your body language that are making you look nervous are:

  • ·         Touching your face
  • ·         Rapid breathing
  • ·         Shifty behavior or actions that show fidgeting  
  • ·         Rubbing your neck
  • ·         Rubbing your hands
  • ·         Tapping your fingers
  • ·         Shaking of body parts like legs or arms
  • ·         Rigid body movement
  • ·         Frozen actions or an inability to move
  • ·         Flush complexion
  • ·         Locking your ankles
  • ·         Holding on tightly to chair arms or other objects
  • ·         Verbal actions would include stuttering or talking fast

 

When it comes to being nervous and the body language that you portray other people may be flattered or on the other end of the spectrum concerned that you have this issue. In instances of dating so men or women would consider this as a good thing while some man or women would say that nervousness shows a lack of confidence.

 

For a job interview it may not be a good thing that the person who is hiring you sees you as being nervous. If it is your first time sitting in front of a hiring manager and you are 16 years old it may be expected. If you are 5 years past college graduation you may be losing out on what is thought of you.

 

Reading your body language of nervousness

When people are put under pressure their positive and negative traits appear. It is good for you to know what your nervous traits are so that you can adopt your body language so that you are not seen or read as being nervous by others. One way to do this is by putting yourself in a situation where you can be videotaped. You would want to look for any of the signs of nervousness listed previous and make note of what actions that you make.

 

Many people will not chose to do simple actions because they are afraid of what they will see, You will look silly on video and that is ok and to be expected when working on your own body language.

 

Reading body language signals of nervousness
Reading body language to see if a man is nervous

 

To work on your body language so that you do not appear nervous the first thing that you will have to do is to get your body to relax.

  • ·         Breathe slower and put your arms by your side or on your lap.
  • ·         Avoid folding your hands or fidgeting.
  • ·         Remember to not touch your face.
  • ·         In some instances you will see people lock their ankles in front of themselves or under their chair. Think about how people are in a dentist’s chair to visualize the locking of ankles or the death grip on the chair arms. If you are a man sit in a way where your feet are on the floor. For a woman crossing your legs may be expected if you are siting.

 

Wherever you are or whatever you are doing be patient and slow down and you will be perceived as being less nervous with your body language and those who are reading it.

 

There are plenty of things that you can do to learn how to read body language like an expert, this is a course you can take to understand and read others like a book

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of nervousness.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Scared by graur razvan ionut,Nervous Woman by David Castillo Dominici :Photo credits for reading the body language of nervousness  

Reading body language of fidgeting

Reading body language: In every day interactions people have beliefs about your nonverbal communication.

 

Things that we forget about as communicators just get stuck on auto pilot when it comes to our body language.

 

Hypnotist will point out that “you can feel your right big toe throb” because it is pointed out. Reading body language or controlling your nonverbal actions are similar to the example of what the hypnotist would tell you.

 

Reading body language of fidgeting and negative signs
Reading body language of fidgeting women

 

Fidgeting has to be one of the most common actions that gets picked up easy by a person who is viewing you as a communicator. While the person watches reads your body language they see your fidgets as:

  • ·         Nervousness
  • ·         Possible signs and signals you are lying
  • ·         Lack of self-control

 

 

 

Fidgeting can be:

  • Playing with your hair
  • Wringing your hands or being occupied with them or something in them
  • Playing with something in front of you or onyour clothes
  • Tapping the table

Reading the body language of fidgeting

Nervousness has many things that play out and fidgeting is one of them. Some people will play with their hands either rubbing them together or picking on their fingernails. The reasons that a person could be nervous may there is plenty of stress on the person or it is natural. There are some who just over time have started to fidget like some lick their lips.

 

Now for those who want to look at every body language sign and signal as a hotspot of someone lying this really may be one of those nonverbal actions that do point to someone not being truthful or that they are telling a lie.

 

Just because someone fidgets somehow it does not make them a liar remember it could be that they are just nervous.

 

Just for a second pretend that when you were stopped by the police for something but you don’t know why. You have not been in trouble in your life and you get hauled into the police station for a lineup for a crime that you didn’t commit. Would you be nervous? Yes you would be. Would you be fidgeting with something, your hands, your hair or even a piece of paper and a pen? That’s a good possibility. Would it be called for? Yes it would and it would almost be expected.

 

Now take an everyday example: You are at breakfast at a diner with a significant other and you are fidgety. Is this normal for you? Possibly, but what if the fidgeting wasn’t there? That could mean that something is going on that would need to be investigated more.

 

Just because someone has an action in their body language that can be read as bad does not determine for 100% that that they are doing the action that you believe.

 

Some say that when people are fidgety that it is an instant sign that they are lying. That could be the case if they are not a person who fidgets normally.

 

People under stress will fidget, people who are nervous will fidget and people who have a

natural action of fidgeting will fidget. Body language means to people what it does as the other persons actions happen, and that means if that person thinks that fidgeting is a “tell’ that you are lying then in their mind you are a liar.

 

The tough thing about reading body language is that so many people believe so many different things. If someone has read that fidgeting is a sure sign or “tell” that you are a liar then it is difficult to prove otherwise until the person learns that they are wrong and then accepts that their knowledge and skills of reading body language are flawed.

 

Reading body language for the sings of fidgeting
Reading body language of fidgeting for salespeople

 

Fidgeting on a date could signify to some that you lack confidence and do not deserve the person that you are with. Fidgeting on a job interview may mean that you are lying about your qualifications. Fidgeting with a significant other can mean that you are just being you.

 

Reading body language and good signs of fidgeting

If you are playing poker you can use fidgeting as a way to throw a “tell” so that the opponent may think that you don’t have a good hand. In this case fidgeting is a good thing for you to do if you think that as a strategy it will give you an upper hand between you and the other players.

 

Oh so you thought that all examples here would be negative. In just about everything there can be a positive and a negative including using fidgeting to your advantage.

 

Ok so you want another example where fidgeting could be good for you? That would be if you are buying something and you know that you have room to negotiate or maybe you think that you don’t have room to negotiate. When you as the buyer get to the end of the conversation of price for the product or service you would just be quiet and fidget for a minute and more than likely the salesman will lower the price if he doesn’t know or understand your game. In this case fidgeting can make you money or save you some.

 

Nervous signs of communication can sometimes be a good thing like in gambling or negotiating.

 

 

Go out and fidget the right way for your own personality but be aware that others can see it for something that it may not be.

 

Reading body language is a skill that you can learn from a body language expert. Learn how to read body language signs and signals here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about fidgeting and body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Oops Gesture by Michal Marcol,Tied Hand by Danilo Rizzuti :Photo credits for reading body language of fidgeting