Body language of shyness

 

Body language of shyness: The nonverbal actions of shy men or women can help you understand the nonverbal actions that someone would take.

 

Many times introverts or shy people will have many of the same traits or characteristics. Just because someone may have one or two of the traits of a shy person does not mean that the person is shy. It is always important to base line the body language of a man or woman before you draw your conclusions or thoughts about who or what they are.  Whether it is for business, pleasure or even dating these signs and signals will help you interpret how to interact with a shy person.  

 

Nonverbal communication of a shy man or woman may include:

  • ·         Little or no eye contact
  • ·         Less proximity around others
  • ·         Nonverbal actions of the arms and or head

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Many times people who are shy have little or no eye contact with others. You may see a man, man woman or child try to avoid eye contact with others while out walking around in public or even private. For some this may be a condition that becomes consistent over time and become a normal action.

 

Shy people know that eye contact may create conversation or interactions. Many times interactions with crazy people happens because good or strong eye contact is made.

 

Proximity of shy people and others

When a shy person is around others you may see that they do what they can to stay away from the people that they do not know. Even with some friends you may or may not see the shy man or woman even near or in the Bell Bubble or within the intimate distance of friends. In a social setting you may not see a shy person in the center of the room without a friend or group of friends. Shy people tend to stay out of the possibility of even being the center of attention.

 

Many times shy people will not wear flashy clothes but there is a chance that some will do so to get attention drawn to them so that people will approach them.

 

Nonverbal actions of shy people

As you observe the nonverbal actions of shy men or women you may see that their arms are folded or their head may be down. Now this isn’t always the case just as with every other aspect of body language there isn’t always exact actions that take place but many common ones that you can baseline.

 

How to interact with shy men or women

Interacting with shy people can go wrong if you act too quickly because not all of the time are they used to close proximity or others talking to them. You will want to watch the body language of a shy man or women as you approach them as you will literally see them start to get uncomfortable when you have entered into their private space and that space may be larger than for someone who is very outgoing.

 

When approaching a shy woman you would want to enter into her field from an area what she can she and the best way may be from an angle instead of head on or from behind.

 

You will not want to touch a shy man or woman too quickly as this may be too much for them to process.

 

Smiling may help with your endeavor but if you smile too much or too hard it may seem a little creepy or that you are trying too hard.

 

With shy men or women it is important to be patient with them as you interact with them just like anyone else but it may take even more time than normal  

How to read body langauge: Knowing what body language means can be the differnce between friends or no friends. The best place to learn about body langauge is from this home study course

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of shy men or women.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the body langauge of shyness: video credit

 

 

 

 

body language of winking

Body language of winking: Sometimes you get it when people look at you, that’s right someone gives you a wink but you don’t quite know if they are having fun and in some instances you don’t know if they are flirting with you.

 

So what exactly is the body language of a wink?

  •          It could be that the man or woman is just having fun
  •          It could be that the man or woman is emphasizing a point
  •          It could be that the man or woman is flirting with you
  •          It could even be that the man or woman is blinking and you may be misreading the situation

 

Body language of winking and fun

Reading the body language of a wink means that you have to understand or be able to interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication. In some instances men or woman will wink to just have fun. Some older men just like to wink and they get into the habit of it and sometimes this can be taken as flirting but it is all in fun. Sometimes you will see adults wink at kids as a gesture of fun.

 

Body language of winking and emphasizing a point

The wink or the winking can be used at the end of a joke or at the end of some retort. In some instances a wink may be used as a negotiation ploy to get the other side fired up or to prove a point as to what is going on. In some places the wink is used as a way to say for you to understand “I see you and don’t think I don’t see what is going on” in an instance like that it isn’t hard to interpret the message. The facial expression will be easy to interpret as a sign of danger from the stare afterward.

 

Body language of winking and flirting

In the case of flirting the wink may happen across a room or right next to you. You may see the body language of the wink and you may know that the man or the woman is flirting with you. In the case of not knowing if you would like to know for sure you would want to look at his or her eye contact. Is there or was there eye contact before or after the wink. Is his or her body directed towards you? If she is winking at you is she preening her hair or clothes? These are all signs that the nonverbal communication of the wink was a sign of flirting.  In the case of flirting there will be some facial expressions that will be read. It may be a slight smile or smirk along with the wink or it may even be a flash of the eyebrows.

 

Body language of winking and not understanding nonverbal communication

Sometimes you can just read body language wrong or even read more into a situation than what is really happening. In some instances you may think that a man or woman is winking at you and they really have something in their eye. It may even be that the man or woman is not flirting with you and at your angle it looks like they are winking at you. In any even a wink has more meanings that could be understood than just flirting. It may even be that the man or woman is nervous.

 

It is important for you to take the time to understand your social situation as to why a man or woman may be winking at you and interpret them correctly. Are they doing so in fun, to make or emphasize a point , is he or she flirting or are you misreading the situation?

Body langauge of winking and how to read like an expert

Learning how to read body language like an expert requires you to learn from one and that can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of winking.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

:Video credit for Reading body language of winking by Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language of approaching women

Reading body language: Attempting to talk to a man or woman takes a few skills that you may not know about and they have everything to do with your reading body language and nonverbal communication skills.

 

If you are a man and you are about to walk up and introduce yourself to a new woman you will have to be careful to not screw this approach up…

 

…and yes you can make some huge mistakes when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

When it comes to someone especially woman reading your body language you must know that above all else women need to protect themselves from harm. You must absolutely remember this fact: Women will do what they have to so that they can be protected and if you approach the woman wrong you will get shut down.

 

Instantly

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman
Reading body language of approaching a woman the right way

 

Really it’s that quick?

 

Yes instantly,

 

if you break the boundary of trust of a woman before you have her trust it may never happen and you get no second chance.  

 

So what are the best ways to approach a woman that allows them to feel safe and read your body language and or nonverbal communication?

  • ·         Always approach a woman from angles and not from behind of straight on
  • ·         Never touch an unknown woman from the back on the shoulder
  • ·         Never grab a woman to get their attention from the front side or the back (this should not have to be stated but some people out there need it)
  • ·         Interrupting a woman speaking may cause you harm
  • ·         If you hang out too long to talk to a woman you have lost value
  • ·         As an added bonus approaching a woman in a bachelorette party will not work out 99.99% of the time, especially when the woman is with their friends.

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman

If you are a man just for a second imagine the harm that go towards a woman and think about what happens if you startle her? If you scare a person especially a woman from the beginning you will have a tough time gaining her trust. If you scare her good luck getting her phone number, email address or even being friended on Facebook. In all realities you are going to get a fake number.

 

The best thing to do is to walk into a woman’s sight form an angle so that they can see you so that you do not scare or startle her. You will also want to observe her “bell bubble” and not get too close so that she can see you fully. In this approach you will also want to keep your hands visible so that she can see that you are not a threat. If you have any type of threat that is felt at also she will go into survival mode and you will get rejection instantly.

 

Reading body language of touching an unknown woman

Approaching a woman from behind and then touching her shoulder to get her attention may get you hurt instantly. It is not a good idea to get attention of a woman from touching her unless you have been out in the dating field for a while or have learned some tricks from Pick up artists (PUA) and even then this approach can go wrong.

 

Grabbing a woman will do the same thing as touching her but her danger level inside her mind will go up instantly and you will lose any ability to persuade her for contact information.

 

Reading the body language of interrupting a woman

Sometimes men will want to interrupt a woman to get their attention while approaching them for the first time. You will want to look for a break where she has the chance to address you.

 

Now PUA’s will teach you the three  second rule and that is: If you see someone that you are attracted to you should and will approach that woman within 3 seconds of seeing her or making eye contact.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares how to approach a woman
Reading body language of approaching a single woman

 

 If you have made eye contact and approach a woman it is different than just walking up and interrupting her.

 

Think about it for a second you had eye contact and it’s not really interrupting her if she knows you are on your way to talk to her. Now this can go either way you will be received well or you will get shut down.

 

There are really no other options when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

Approaching a woman does takes some body language skills and some reading of the situation on your part. Remember that you must think about how she sees your approach as safe or dangerous. If you approach her in a safe manner where she does not see you as a threat you will have a better chance of winning.

 

If you approach a woman wrong, touch her or interrupt her and your chances of getting another chance of meeting her again with positive results.

 

Reading body language like an expert requires you to understand and interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication and those skills can be gained here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your questions and or comments about approaching a woman.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

Young Woman by David Castillo Dominici, Happy Couple In Night Club by photostock:Photo credit for reading body language of approaching a woman expalined by body language expert Scott Sylvan Bel

Reading body language of hands

Reading body language: There are so many ways that we are judged for our communication both verbally and nonverbally. When most people communicate they use their hands for some sort of gesture to add to their words and that adds to their communication.

 

The body language that is read from the use of hands to communicate can be interpreted in so many ways good or bad.

 

First off an effective communicator would not put their hands too far away from their body. This would push the hands out past the “Bell Bubble”. When other people are reading your body language in their eyes you may lose social value when your hands get too far away from your body as it may be seen as a lack of control.

 

Reading body language of the hands of women
Reading body language includes the hands

 

Social value would be your perceived value by others as they watch your body language as one complete action.

 

Reading the body language of the hands

The hands tell so much when it comes to a person and looking at them could give you a clue as to what the person does for a living. Are the hands of the man or the women that is being read by  another person:

  • ·         Smooth and soft
  • ·         Rough and callused
  • ·         Clean consistently
  • ·         Dirty and stained

 

All of these appearances of the hands will tell you what type of job that the man or woman may have. If a man has callused hands it could be a sign that the work that is done is rough. If the hands of the man are soft it may mean that he has an easy job. Now these two differences are not absolutes as someone who works with their hands may use gloves.

 

It would be wrong to judge this situation quickly because some people who work with their hands take very good care of them and it would be hard to tell what type of job they have.

 

These small clues from reading the hands can give you some information but not all of what you would need to make an informed explanation as to the state of the man.

 

Now reading the body language of a woman’s hands is similar to the hands of men. You will look for the same items when it comes to the condition of the skin. Are her hands soft and smooth or does it look and seem as if she works with them. Now if you are a man you would have to be very careful as to make an observation about a woman’s hands that is something that is saved for a woman to say to other women.

 

Reading the condition of the hands and body language

Now the condition of the skin for men or women is one thing but the fingernails are another item all together. Reading into the fingernails of the man or woman go one more step as to what the person does. There are some men and or women who don’t care what their nails look like so what does that say about the person? Not much exactly as they may not care or understand that there may be a meaning associated with the looks of their nails or they may have a job or trade where it does not matter.

 

So what kinds of jobs matter when it comes to the condition of hands and fingernails for a man or women while reading into their body language?  Professional jobs:

  • ·         Doctors – sometimes*
  • ·         Attorneys – sometimes*
  • ·         Salespeople – sometimes*
  • ·         Jewelers – sometimes*

 

*It says sometimes because only sometimes it matters and sometimes it doesn’t.

 

Reading body language of hands can explain occupation
Reading body language of mens hands

 

For jobs where it does matter what the hands look like it would be a good idea to get manicures performed too keep up the appearance of the hands to be read by others in a manner where it gives an advantage. If a man or a woman gets a manicure does it mean that they are more detailed oriented? It is possible but it doesn’t mean that they are. Does it mean that they will communicate better? It may if the man or woman is put under scrutiny for what their hands look like.   

 

So now that you have the appearance of what the hands can mean how does this really affect body language?  

 

The hands may draw a reaction like repulsion or disgust or they may even draw surprise when they are neat and clean.

 

People look at your hands and fingernails more than people would guess especially when women meet other men or women.

 

Your hands are usually in front of you when you are communicating so they are one of the first things that people may have the capability of judging once they get close to you.

 

It is important to also remember that when people are reading your body language or nonverbal communication skills they are reacting to what they believe your body language means.  

 

Reading body language of hands can help you seem like you can read the minds of others. Learn how to read body language like an expert here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of hands.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

Hands Concept by Idea go, Empty Handed by Michal Marcol :Photo credits for reading the body language of hands

Reading body language when hugging

Reading body language: There are many mysteries on this planet that has baffle people and scientists for years and that is understanding or reading the body language when hugging.

 

Ok so the scientists are not baffled in most instances but many times people are in general when it comes to interpreting hugs between people.

 

Think about the last time that you received a hug from someone and how would you categorize the person who gave you the hug, were they:

  • ·         A friend
  • ·         A relative
  • ·         A significant other
  • ·         A stranger

 

Now reading body language when hugging you really have to determine what category the other person falls into for the basic hugs out there. Interpreting hugs will help you determine what type of relationship people have or even

 

Reading body language when men and women hug
Reading body language of a hug

 

Reading the body language when giving or receiving a full hug

A full hug is what you see goods friends or people who are in a relationship give. The body language or non verbal cues come from the proximity or distance apart that the people are when giving a full hug. The two people in question are comfortable enough to not just touch shoulders but embrace and allow the rest of their bodies touch. This is something that would be uncomfortable for people who are not close to perform without strange facial expressions or even making the embrace faster than what should seem normal.

 

Reading the body language when giving or receiving a full hug with embrace

Now a full hug with an embrace is a full hug but longer almost to say nonverbally this is a hug that has been waiting a long time to happen. Normally you will see this when the people in question are very good friends or intimate. You would see this type of hug in the news when a Marine or soldier comes home after a long tour and hugs his or her significant other. It’s a long hug but almost may seem like a celebration at the same time.

 

There is more to this hug than meets the eye, when a person hugs another person and wraps their arms around the other person fully it takes
plenty of trust on the part of the person who is getting the hug. This is not a simple act. Sometimes people who are cheating get caught this way, the hug is too familiar. People who receive full hugs are not strangers and this hug is not an accident or casual.

 

Reading body language of a half hug when in public  

The first hug would be a half hug. This is where you may stand side to side with a person and use one arm to hug the other person as they hug you. Reading this body language would give you the idea that the person is an acquaintance or a relatively new friend. This hug is safe for those involved because it really has no jealous problems that could arise with most people. The half hug may be used in a social situation where there are many people to meet and greet with.

 

The types of people who could give you a half hug would be friends, relatives, sometimes significant others but it may be uncomfortable for a stranger to give a half hug depending on regions or countries. In the United States there is a barrier for most people when it comes to touching someone unknown for some.

Reading body language when women give a half hug
Reading body language when men give a half hug

Reading the body Language when giving a A frame hug

The A frame hug is an unusual type of hug when seen from people who are observing 2 people use this type of embrace. This is where the two people hugging don’t want to get too close to each other but lean forward to meet and give a hug, from a distance it looks like the two people are making an A. Now this may be a bro hug where one arm is used to wrap around the other person or it could even be a full hug where both parties wrap their arms around each other. This encounter may seem unusual because the body language shows a lack of comfort. The whole aura is this hag may even mage bystanders who are reading the body language subconsciously uncomfortable.  

 

 

Reading body language when giving an leaning A frame hug

Leaning A frame hug is similar to the full A frame hug but done from the side as a half hug. Once again the people observing this non verbal communication may read into the situation and see the people as possible friends, people who are have a stressful relationship or even new acquaintances. This type of hug can also be seen from people who are first dating or pre teens this can be commonly seen after school or at malls for this range of ages.

 

A hug can mean something or a hug can mean nothing, it depends upon the situation and the context of where the people are.

 

If you would like to learn how to read body language like an expert, this would be your best resource to understand and interpret body language and read situations.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading and interpreting the body language of hugs.   

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo Credits: Hugging Young Couple by photostock

Reading body language of flirting men and women part 3

Reading body language: While reading and interpreting the body language of flirting by men or women the head, eyes, mouth and eyebrows have been discussed.

 

Determining what communication is while flirting for some can be a challenge when they try to read men or women’s body language.

 

The hands and the body are the two physical things that can be touched or used to flirt with men or women.

 

Reading body language and how women flirt
Reading body language signs and signals of flirting

 

There are times where touching the other person in order to flirt happen for both sexes. There are challenges with the body language of flirting because it is easy to go too far quickly and cross the line of appropriate actions.

 

While flirting with the hands touching the other person’s body can be done in a few places that right off would be along the realms of appropriate. The first safe place is the upper arm the second place would be the forearm and lastly the hand may be the last place that would be considered appropriate.  

 

Now there are some people who are just more “touchy” than other and may just come across as a big flirt and that is why you would have to look at the body language of the man or the woman who you consider flirting with you. Some of what you would have to consider would be their verbal actions but for the most part most flirting would come across as non verbal.

 

To determine if someone is flirting with you by touch you would have to consider the other signs of flirting.

 

Is the man or woman using the other nonverbal communication skills: A head tilt, the arching of eyebrows a wink, fluttering their eyes, licking their lips or even staring at the mouth? Those are all ways that flirting can happen.

 

The last part of flirting and body language would be contact with the body. There are times where men or women could be completely overt in their actions while flirting. For men or women a body brush can happen or occur. This is where someone brushes up against you and there was not a need. Now if you are in a crowded place it does not mean that someone is interested if they brush against you but if some of the other signs of flirting with body language are used you may have a man or a woman who is interested in you.

 

The body language of flirting can also use proximity or the distance that one person is from the person who they may be flirting with. In most instances the interested person will draw closer to the person that they are flirting with.

Now whether the person is close in proximity or a little further away “preening” may be used as a way to gain attention. The preening that could be used may include:

  • ·         Playing with hair
  • ·         Fixing clothing are fixing an accessory
  • ·         Rubbing a body part as a way to accentuate that specific area and in some instances this may be an explicit action.

 

Reading body language and signs of flirting
Reading body language and the signs of flirting by touch

 

Some of these actions while reading the body language of flirting can be seen directly while some of these actions may be a little more covert. The beast plan of action is to understand what each action means before having to interpret them incorrectly.  

 

Taking your time to learn how to read body language or non verbal communication of flirting and seduction can help you understand more about human relations.  

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language or nonverbal communication.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:  Business Women by photostock, Asian Model Woman-Thai Ethnicity Beauty by posterize

Reading body language: How to spot a liar part 2

Reading body language: When reading the body language of deception or lies there is a long list of items to look at to determine if a man or woman is lying.

 

There is one universal body part to look at while determining if nonverbal communication is accurate.

 

While reading the body language of a man or woman it is important to get a feel for their normal activities or body language signs that are normal for them. When you have taken the time to learn people body language signals that they use when they are being inaccurate it will almost seem that you can read minds or that you are clairvoyant.   

 

Take for instance a person who is nervous when they are under pressure they will have certain things that they do constantly. It could be that they:

  • ·         Rub their hands
  • ·         Sweat when nervous
  • ·         Dressed different than what they are comfortable in
  • ·         Shift more than normal
  • ·         Licking their lips
  • ·         Playing with their hair
  • ·         Touching their face
  • ·         Abnormal movement in their chair or seat
  • ·         Lack of eye contact or over excessive eye contact
  • ·         Breath differently taking deep breathes or even staggered breaths
  • ·         Tap their feet on the ground or their hands on a table
  • ·         Directing the feet towards an exit

 

Now everyone has a go to body language or non verbal “tell” when they are nervous and it is important to identify it when possible. This idea has been mentioned quite a few times in order to remind you that under any given circumstance people will react in a specific way. This nonverbal “tell” may even include a facial expression or a signature movement with the hands or even a nod. The problem is that many times “tells” of nervousness can be the same tells that a person uses when they are lying.

 

How to tell if someone is lying with body language
Is my girlfriend cheating on me signs of body langugae

 

How to tell if a man or woman is lying!

 

So what happens if you meet a person for the first time and you don’t have a lot of time to determine if they are telling you the truth? There are a few things that will help determine if what they are saying is as accurate as their body language.

 

One way is that their story may be too good to be true or over told to make up what they think would be a deficiency in their own story. In this example the story may seem like it is pushed through and either overly detailed in areas that you would not normally ask about or seem like the story is too fast and there are too many holes that do not make sense. You would be able to look for abnormal actions like touching the face or even using the lobster claw of deception.

 

One way that commonly gets confused when it comes to reading body language especially when it comes to lying is that of the direction and orientation of the eyes.

 

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming teaches that by looking at the location of the iris of the eye can determine the modality of learning for a person meaning are they:

  • ·         Visual or a person who learns from sight and sees what is going on.
  • ·         Kinesthetic or a person that learns and is comfortable with touch or feels their way through things.
  • ·         Auditory or a person who learns from hearing what needs to be done and listens intently.

 

Now there is an age old fairy tale that explains that when people look up and to the left there is fabricating going on or there may be a lie going on. In NLP this would signify visual construction (Vc) and if the person looked up and to the right this would signify visual remembered (Vr). The reason that this is thought of as a big deal is because in this theory visual construction means making up a story, fabrication or changing the story or even flat out lying.

 

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming is not always right when it comes to any of their teachings but it does construct good guidelines for the way that things can be. When it comes to body language or non verbal communication there is not any rule that is 100% usable every time.

 

This theory of visual reconstruction would be great except that it is wrong and has been proven through a few studies done including one performed by Dr. Kevin Hogan. Police use this in interrogations, the military uses this style of lie detecting while interpreting stories about actions people have taken.

 

In some instances when men or women are lying they will not look at you while they are talking, now this may not mean that there is a lie directly going on but there is definitely something wrong with whatever they are talking about. This would also go with direct eye contact or looking someone in the eye. Now if a person has too much eye contact with you it is uncomfortable but if they do not make enough or if they break away too long at the wrong time it may be that there is a lie involved.

A good skilled liar knows this and may make the correct amount of eye contact and not really give off any signs of a lie. Most of the time when this situation happens you are dealing with a great manipulator and this type of person is great at guilting you into thinking that all of the problems and or issues are your fault. This is usually their giveaway more than
their body language and it is a verbal sign.

How to tell if your boyfriend is cheating on you
is my boyfriend cheating on me

Places to use body language signs or signals

 

Now where else could you use this information? There are plenty of places:

  1. 1.      A Job interview
  2. 2.      Dating or seduction
  3. 3.      Determining if a boyfriend or girlfriend is lying about where they were last night

 

Now what happens if you jump to conclusions too soon while reading the body language of males or females? You lose contracts, relationships, friends and you can even make some enemies. Understanding or interpreting body language and non verbal communication means you must be able to separate fact from fiction when it comes to knowing what is real and can help you or what is sometimes correct.

 

People have a tough enough time believing information and adding in the layer of detecting lies through nonverbal communication and half-truths makes this task even more difficult.    

 

What is body language? That answer will be up to you and what you think the other person communication is and how they fill in the voids of what you thinks as the viewer.

 

It is entirely possible for you to read a situation the wrong way and your reaction as it has been explained previously is what will cause a reaction in the other person. You must take the time to baseline people and understand their actions and why they perform them unless you are in a situation where you have to make a split second decision then go the direction where it keeps you the safest.

 

One of the biggest mistakes that can be made is believing that one “tell” of a body language sign or signal is a definite. One of these items is the blinking rate of a person or touching the face means that there is a definite lie. In either instance when a person uses these “tells” this is an area where something just inst quite right but does not mean that there is a definite lie. Making the mistake of saying there is an absolute tell of lying would be inaccurate. These examples could be used for politicians all the way to salespeople.

 

The key is to take you time to understand what peoples actions mean nonverbally.

 

As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits: Man by Salvatore Vuono, Woman On The Phone by Stuart Miles

Reading body language: The non verbal language of women part 3

Reading body language of women: Understanding female body language includes non verbal communication, apparel and accessories. Looking at what women decide to wear can help you determine many thins about them but specifically what women decide to wear can teach you many things about her non verbal communication.

 

When reading the body language of women there is one single item that almost every time is the one accessory that she will worry about more than anything else..

 

Now as a side note when a woman gets dressed is she more interested in dressing for the men or for the women?

 

Reading body language of women for seduction or attraction
Attract women with this nonverbal communication skill

 

Quick answer for the man or for the women?

 

Many times when women get dressed up they are doing what they can to not have other women discuss what they are wearing or how they are wearing it.

 

Many times when it comes to reading the body language of women of their non verbal communication to be more specific men do not even think of this.

 

Women know that for the most part they can do what they like for the most part and some of that may include flirting or seduction and most guys will eat this act up.

 

On the other hand the women are competing against each other for status or attention.

 

Ok so you do not believe this:

 

Next time you go out for a night on the town and you are in a small venue look at how women scan the room to check out their competition so that they “know” what they are up against.

 Know what to look at when determining female body language

They check out the other woman’s:

  • ·         Hair to see if the cut is nice and current
  • ·         Her makeup to see how it was applied
  • ·         Her top or blouse to see how it fits or even possibly to see if it is a designer label
  • ·         Her jewelry to see how extravagant it is or if she has a trophy ring (that means its big and that would equal her man has money for some reason the bugger the ring the more he loves her)
  • ·         Her chest to see what she is stacked against
  • ·         Her waist line to see if she is overweight
  • ·         Her backside to see if she is fit
  • ·         What type of nylons or possible legging she has on
  • ·         Lastly they look at other women’s shoes

 

All of these items are then added up in some mental mathematical size up and then deducted from her beauty or lack of and then a decision is made about what type of competition *she* is.

 

Now in all of this there is one accessory that has more weight than most items…

 

… and that would be her shoes.

 

If you are a man and you think you know about the non verbal communication of women and you don’t include her shoes into the equation you have made a mistake.

 

For women shoes make the outfit and are the keys to the kingdom.

 

Readinge the nonverbal communication of women and their shoes
Learn how to read the body language of women

 

Guys worry about their body language sometimes if they think about it. What women worry about has many more aspects they worry about facial expressions or features, body language signals, non verbal signs of flirting and so much more.

 

How understanding the body language of women can help with attraction

 

Now if you wanted to impress that special woman that you meet one of the best ways to grab her attention may be something you may have thought of as a joke.

 

The best non-verbal feature to comment on for a woman is her shoes. Now if you are looking to strike a conversation in a manner where you may be attracted or flirting there does have to be some finesse when it comes to making the comment on one of the most important accessories ever made for a woman.

 

Guys look at shoes as a part of clothing women look at shoes as one of the single most important inventions ever next to chocolate. For woman shoes make and finish or complete the outfit. For guys they are just boxes and boxes of costly shoes in the closet with funny names:

  • ·         Peeps
  • ·         Sling backs
  • ·         Pumps
  • ·         Flats
  • ·         Wedge
  • ·         Loafers

And the list can go on not to mention the designers who make them Jimmy Choo, Stuart Weitzman, Vera Wang, Prada, Christian Louboutin, Dior and so many more.

 

For guys or men there is no comparison for articles of clothing.  For women this *is* everything because more time is worried about shoes than the clothes that are worn. This is the non-verbal key.

 

Now if you want to master the skill of attraction, seduction or if you just want to impress a woman comment on how her shoes compliment or finish her outfit.  There is one bit of warning if you do this complement too soon in the conversation she will pick up on your fake complement and if you slide it in too late it will not fit in the conversation.

 

Reading female body language covers clothes, actions and even accessories.

 

In order for you to attract the girl you may need to increase you skills when relating to nonverbal communication and complementing shoes is one special key that unlocks many doors.  The attraction may not come from body signs or signals but your attention to detail and being able to complement it.

 

If you are a man and are competing with other men for the attention of a woman your ability to pick out some subtle clues may just help you.

 

Now this may not be of what you thought when you started to learn about seduction or even attraction but shoes are a simple topic to do some homework on. Go to a website where you could buy some women’s shoes. You could then learn about the types styles and manufacturers. Thinking ahead of other men and take some notes and your time invested would be less than half an hour or you could try and use the same old pick up line that other guys have tried.

 

Learning how to read, interpret and understand body language may increase your knowledge in more areas than facial expressions, body signs or even posture. It is ok to go and take physical field trips or even virtual trips to increase your ability to read non verbal communication.  Reading body language can open doors or even get you the girl when you know how to ask the right question or make the perfect statement.

 

I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell  

Photo credits: Stiletto Shoe by Boaz Yiftach, Group Of Girls Partying by photostock

Reading body language: The non verbal language of women part 2

Reading body language of women: While understanding the body language of women it is important to remember that first you should observe her non verbal communication to determine or base line her actions. This understand of what is normal for her is a key to interpreting body language correctly.

 

The body language of women may differ from the body language of men in a few ways. Going back and understanding the natural born tendencies in women to protect themselves from men or attackers of either gender knowing where to stand or even how close in proximity is important.

 

If you are working on determining her non verbal communication to see if a woman is interested into you there are a few signs to look for when it comes to body language signs of attraction.

 

When a woman is attracted to you her body language will cause her to “preen”. This action of preening could include her playing with her hair or clothing or even an object like a glass. If in the animal world this would be a sign of the woman’s capability to clean and take care of herself but also at the same time demonstrating that she is a capable mate.

 

If a woman is attracted to you she may use smiles as her body language to get your attention. Now the smile that a woman would use would be a genuine smile and not the kind that kids make when taking pictures in the 3rd grade. This smile used as nonverbal communication would not be a constant smile because that may just be creepy and strange it would be a shorter gesture.  

 

Now sometimes women will flirt with men and they may just wink or blink at a guy. You may smile back at her and then she may wink or even raise her eyebrows as a sign that she is interested. In some instances she may even motion for you to come over this may be an overt sign of body language and would definitely mean that she is interested in you in some way or another.

 

While determining if she is attracted to you through her body language you can look at her feet belly button and neck dimple. Now these three items can help in indicating or understanding the body language of attraction. When a woman is interested in her she may be more inclined to point her feet in your direction when standing in a group or even if it is just the two of you. Looking at her proximity or how close she to you will help be a good judge or indicator. If she enters your bell bubble or gets closer than 18 inches this is a good sign that she is comfortable with you or even interested.

 

The next step to see if her body language is showing that she is interested in you would be to look at her belly button will help indicate attraction or if she is interested. When people are concerned about their safety they will do what they can to cover up vital organs and what is common when someone is nervous or even scared would be to cover the belly button. If you are looking at the feet of a woman to determine if she is attracted her belly button would also face you directly.

 

Adding one more layer to understanding the body language of women or attraction would to be the neck dimple. If her feet and her belly button are facing you then so should her neck dimple. This is the area above her collar bone but below her chin. This is another area of the body when would need to be protected in a time of danger and when it is left open shows that there is no fear or reason to be concerned.   

 

When all three areas of the feet, belly button and neck dimple line up these are good signs that there is attraction but this is not definite. This body language of women is important to understand as a basic safety need protect. If you are attracted to a women and she starts to cover these areas or directing them away form you it may mean that she is not interested and her body language of attraction is showing it.

 

To determine if a woman is interested in you checking her body language or looking at her eyes

Can help determine if she is interested or even flirting. In most instances when attraction is present in men or women the eyes will dilate or even stay fixated on you longer. This fixation could help you determine if she is attracted to you. There is always a downside when looking for body language signs of attraction and that is misunderstanding what the person is looking at. She may be looking at someone or something behind you if you are a distance apart. If you are closer in proximity there would be no mistake if she was looking at you with attraction.

 

Now if you are new to flirting with women or understanding the signs or signals of attraction keeping eye contact too long is not the right thing to do in fact it may just have the opposite effect and cause the person to think that you are strange. Interpreting the body language of flirting may take some time to learn if you have not learned about it previously.

 

When the body language of women turns to attraction her non verbal cues may include her skin changing color or becoming flush, her lips may become more red and in some instances her actions over all may become slower as to attract more attention. In some instances these moves may become seductive or even suggestive. In those specific instances the message should be very clear and it would not take mind reading to understand the situation. This seductive body language would not need you to be clairvoyant as to intentions.

 

More ways to determine if a woman is interested in you she may touch you on your arm or shoulder. Now this touch doesn’t always mean that there is attraction she may just be a kinesthetic or touchy person. You may have to take some time with this nonverbal communication to see what is going on. Now if you are used to women flirting with you would know what this “touch” would mean. If you are not used to women flirting with you it may take some time for you to catch on that she is interested in you. If you are not used to women touching you this action could possibly be misread very easily.  

 

She may take something from you as a playful action along with all of the other body language signs or signals of flirting or attraction. The taking of an object from you would be used as an attention getting device. At this point she may become more playful and even start laughing. This playful activity of flirting may common at any age and not just defined by one group.

 

As one last non verbal tip to see if a woman is interested in you at in a public setting you can look at your watch. The way that you would use this would require the help of a wing man. This action is very simple you would look at your watch as if you have somewhere to be if there is a woman who is attracted to you she will also look at her wrist as if there was a watch there. Your friend or wingman would then share with you who may have the possibility of being attracted to you. At this point you would either take the time to flirt with her or go over and use your verbal skills and talk to her.

 

Learning the body language of attraction for women or being able to read their non verbal communication when it comes to flirting can be misjudged so it is important to decipher the situation correctly. Your communication skills can be increased by learning and understanding what your body movements and actions can mean.

 

As always i would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

Scott Sylvan Bell

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Reading body language: The non verbal lanaguge of women

Reading body language: The reading of female body language is something that stumps most men and may even confuse women. Reading her nonverbal communication may stump even the smartest of men.

 

 To understand or interpret the body language of women you must first understand the prewiring done by nature.

 

 What communication is to a woman will be determined by what has happened previously in her life. Your non verbal communication skills must be honed in order to effectively portray your masculine abilities.

 

 Women are innately born to take care of themselves and others. This instinct will cause women to react to the gestures, non verbal communication and body language of men.

 

 In instances this will cause the fight or flight mechanism in her brain to trip.

 

 Think about the last time that you got to close to a woman and she backed away from you and reacted in a way like you were trying to walk off with her purse and you had no such thoughts.

 

 Women are prewired to protect their bodies from men who would try to harm them. Then again yo have to remember that they are used to men trying to hunt them for their goods sort of speak.

 

 Knowing how to get close to a woman without triggering her instinct to run or mace a man is something that men all too often feel is a mysterious answered locked away in some box.

 

 The first step is to make a woman feel safe by you using the correct body language, this includes how fast you walk up to her and how close in proximity that you get with your first “meeting” or encounter. Now this proximity will be decided by where you are meaning:

  • ·         A park
  • ·         A bar or pub
  • ·         Church
  • ·         Work
  • ·         Any type of social gathering.

 

 The distance or proximity that you can work with will change depending on the venue and how skilled you are at using your body language or nonverbal communication.  If anything you do seems strange to her then almost certainly her defenses will go up and you are out of the game for getting a number, email address or Facebook friend.

 

 Stand too close you lose and then again if you stand too far away you will also have trouble. Standing 4- 5 feet away upon meeting would be acceptable and then slowly drawing in instead of the rush to get within 18 inches.  

 

 If you observe the rules of body language correctly then you would know that getting into her Bell bubble too soon would cause harm.

 

 Now that proximity has been dealt with your hands will need to be used correctly to convey that you are safe to be around. Keeping your hands visible in a non-threatening manner will help you but that is not all.

 

 If this is a business meeting or a setting where shaking a hand with an introduction is ok, do you know what is acceptable and what is not acceptable for your non verbal communication?

 

 Going for touch too soon or giving a death grip hand shake may destroy your chances of the right or correct first meeting. This is bad non verbal communication and a reminder that you handshake if appropriate should be firm.

 

 A body language tip to understanding the body language of women is to slightly glance at her hand to see if she is about to raise it to shake your hand, you will see her shoulder start to dip slightly this may tell you that she is ready for a handshake.

 

 Now what if this isn’t a meeting for business and you would like to get to know this special woman better. You may decide that you want to use the body language of attraction to get this woman’s attention and in this instance it would be good to know and understand the body language of men.

 

 If you smile too soon you will seem like a creepy stalker who will get a fake number for sure, if you are too serious of your facial expression is wrong once again you will get shut down instantly.

 

 Now some pick up artists will share with you that it is a good idea to touch a woman early on in the “game” so that she gets used to you touching her. Touch done wrong this can get you in trouble, even done right this “kino” (short for kinesthetic) action may disqualify you as cool guy before you even get close to finding out her real name.

 

 Getting to know a women by approaching her the right way will help you “get the girl” knowing your body language or how non verbal communication works just give you an upper hand.

 

 Next up part 2 – The nonverbal or body language of women and even possibly seduction.

 

 As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions!

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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