Body language of impatience

Body language of impatience has a few key components that can help you understand and interpret what signs and signals you can watch or see and almost immediately determine impatience. Now there is always the temptation to believe or to think that you know exactly what an action of the body means and therefore what the other person or people are thinking. Base lining or watching the man woman or child to determine their normal behavior patterns is always important to ensure that you read their message right. You will want to watch the person for a few moments to determine normal patterns or routines that they have.

It may be that you are the coolest person on the planet and everyone likes to hang out with you but what about when that person that is with you needs to be somewhere else or they are uncomfortable in their surrounding? You may find that the signs and signals of impatience show through and if they are not deal with your message may be lost.

 

 People can be impatient for many reasons but you will really find that there are really 2 reasons almost everything will fall under:

  • ·         They are not interested in what you have to say or offer because they are busy
  • ·         They have somewhere to be because they are busy and they are not interested in what you have to say or offer

 

As you watch and read the body signals of a person you can work with the top down approach and that is to start with the head and move down the rest of the body.

 

Impatience and the body language of the head, shoulders and torso

You may find that when anyone has somewhere to be they may not keep eye contact with you or may turn their head slightly while talking to you almost as if they are talking out the side of their mouth. The head of the person may even nod their head away from you as a nonverbal way to try and escape form the situation. Where you would normally find good eye contact with the person if you know them and now they will not hold it for very long chances are good that something else is going on and they would rather be somewhere else.

 

When you look at the trunk of the body, the shoulders or even the torso when there is impatience you may also see that there is a shift away from you to a door or someone else, their proximity to you may change. The level of the shoulders may change and tilt away from you or the man, woman or child will lean away from you. This may be a sign that the person you are with does not want to be with you or they need to be somewhere else.  

In some instances you may see the breathing pattern change and the person starts to take deep breaths.

 

Body language of the infamous hand roll

There has been a time where either you have done this or someone has done the action of rolling their hands or arms to you. This sign or signal is a way for the person to say without saying let’s get this ball rolling or move on. If you are a persuader or influencer your commitment to a message or a time has overstepped its bounds and chances are good you are about to lose the arrangement or agreement. This hand or arm roll may also be used with the head nodding as the impatience wears into the conversation. At first these signs may be subtle with a finger roll and may lead into full blown hand and arm rolls.   

 

A common set of body language signs of impatience paired together.

The changes in the body language may include groups or clusters of different actions along with the shifting of the body and or torso.

  • ·         Hand and arm rolls
  • ·         Glaring of the eyes
  • ·         Loss or lack of eye contact
  • ·         Micro expressions of contempt 
  • ·        Shaking of the head  
  •           Deep breaths and or sighs
  • ·         Foot tapping
  • ·         A body tilt toward the door
  • ·         A change in proximity
  • ·         Signs of pouting in the face
  • ·         Over animation in the arms and head
  • ·         Feet shifting away from you

There may also be some ever so subtle signs and signals that may even be considered convert could include the feet and hands of the person who is impatient. It may just be that the person who is impatient is slightly pointing their hand or starts to point a foot away from you.

 

Verbal actions coupled with nonverbal actions   

Impatience not only changes the nonverbal actions of the body but may also include the verbal attributes of another person wanting or having to be somewhere else. The pace of the words may speed up along with sentences that become shorter when impatience is present. Answers to questions may also become “yes” or “no” answers to get away faster.

Couple the all of the actions of the body along with the nonverbal actions and you spot when impatience has set in.

 

What to do with the signs of impatience

There will be times that you will read the signs of impatience and there is a right way to deal with the situation. You can use a phrase similar to “I sense you have somewhere else to be”. Now this can be done wrong if you are not patient and it isn’t vocalized the right way and if that is the case the nonverbal actions of the man or the woman will really change and they will react to you in a negative way.

 

Remember to be patient as you read the body language of others and that your reactions can cause more problems than what you started with.

 

Learning how to read body language can increase you effective communication skills.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language and or nonverbal communication.

 

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Body language of yawning

Body language of yawning: It never seems to fail that you are in a meeting and the guy next to you yawns but does it covertly and the next thing that you know you too are yawning.

 So first off are yawns contagious?

 You bet they are..

 Is there a nonverbal communication to yawning?

 Yes and no.

 There are plenty of reasons why a man or woman yawns and depending upon the circumstances its harmless to annoying. You may see people yawn:

  • ·         From boredom
  • ·         As an automatic response to someone else who has yawned or out or just watching caused by rapport or empathy
  • ·         When someone is tired or hot

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As with any body language reading out in the field whether in business, dating or in your personal life it is a good idea to baseline the situation to make sure that your reaction or your question is correct.

 

Body language of yawning and boredom

When was the last time that you were bored in a meeting, on a date or even sitting with your boyfriend or girlfriend and they yawned and you took it that they were not too excited to be there with you? You make a comment your body language changes you react, they then react and the next thing you know this innocent nonverbal action turns into an argument.

 

Now yawning may be from boredom but chances are if you are with an adult they know that it is not polite to yawn when another person is talking or interacting with another man woman or child.

 

Now there are some nonverbal signs that would be considered rude and that is when a man woman or child goes out of their way to show off while they yawn. It may be that there is a speaker or teacher who is talking and the subject is not that interesting or the person just does it to be rude.

 

In some instance you may be able to pick up on some micro expressions to see what the man or the woman is thinking. In some instances the person who is yawning to create some attention may keep looking at their watch and or the door as a sign that they have better or other places to be.

 

Body language of yawning and an automatic reaction?

Now what if yawning were an automatic reaction and you couldn’t stop yourself from automatically doing what the other person around you is doing. This may be a conditioned response out of empathy triggered by mirror neurons but that is not 100% accurate.

 

There are times where you are watching television or a movie and an actor yawns and it may trigger you to yawn in this case it would be an automatic reaction. A more likely situation is that a person near you yawns and it triggers you to yawn.

 

It has been figured that around age 4 is when yawing starts to be contagious to children and when this reaction does not happen it may be a clue that the child has some disorders because they should be an automatic reaction.

 

Body language of yawning and being tired or hot

There are plenty of theories why men or women yawn and one of them is that their need to be an increase blood to the brain or to keep the temperature of the brain down (University of Albany 2007). There is also a theory that there are neurotransmitters that trigger a yawn in order to help speed up the body to keep from getting tired. Now it may even be a triggered response to being hot and working on cooling the body down.

 

Just remember that whatever you believe a yawn means may cause you to react to a man or woman around you in a way that could be right or wrong so be sure to read the situation correctly.

 

There are some animals that yawning is contagious to:

  • ·         Cats big or small
  • ·         Dogs
  • ·         Horses

 

Body language of yawning and ancient cultures.

Some ancient cultures believe that when men or women yawn the soul is trying to escape and the action of covering the mouth helps keep the soul from exiting the body. Now this may be the truth but it’s not likely from a scientific standpoint.

 

No matter what you believe about the body language of yawns there is one cool tip that you can use when people are over and you wan them to leave. Yawn and get up then tell them its time for you to go to bed. In most cases they get this overly overt body language action and leave so you can go to bed.

 

Reading body language can help you out in your business life, dating and even just to have some fun:

 

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Body language of yes or no

Body language of yes or no: Much of the communication that we do has nothing to do with what our mouths say. You read the body language of others all day long and sometimes its like an expert and the others times you may fall into the amature category.

 

The nonverbal cues that are given off while you talk come from your face, arms, hands, body and your feet. Sometimes you use your body to give out information, there are times where you are not even aware that you are giving information out while sometimes you leak the nonverbal actions that get you caught quite possibly in a lie.

 

Signs of yes and no with body language

Every culture and even some sub cultures have signs and signals that relate to body language. Some signs are almost universal throughout the world but there is not one item of communication that is 100% universal.

 

As always it’s important to baseline any individual that you are researching or reading. The cost of being right while reading body language can be bragging rights while being wring can end relationships. Your ability to baseline information and interpret the actions that are going on will depend on patience and experience.

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Body language and the signs of yes

Typically when a man, woman or child uses the body language signs of yes there is an action where the head nods up and down, that may be one time or many times. Now this action of up and down can “leak” to other parts of the body. In American Sign Language (ASL) the action to say yes is a fist that is moved up and down.

 

The nonverbal sign of shaking a head up and down to signify “yes” can be understood in almost all situations even when two people don’t even speak the same language.

 

There are times where other signs of the body are used to agree with an action and that can be a thumbs up in the western world. You may even see a wink as a way to agree with a statement or an action. There are people who may even agree with a smile.

 

Body language and the signs of no

The signs of saying “no” are typically demonstrated by moving the head to the left or to the right. This sign if fairly universal throughout the world and it is even understood when the person does not speak your language.

 

The nonverbal actions of saying “no” do not always come from the movement of the head. They can come from moving an arm or arms laterally almost like the movement is pushing something away.

 

You may see the sign of a thumbs down as in disapproval along with a facial expression of anger, contempt or even disgust. In extreme cases the body language of “no” may become physical when that happens the body language of the protagonist or antagonist may also sign signs of animation.

 

 A past president was caught lying when his arms did not match his words when he said he did not perform an act. This mismatch of body language is not always caught but it is something that should be caught by an expert. 

 

If you were to wear a device that could block sound for a day where you really could not hear you would find out just how much nonverbal communication is used.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you close more sales, catch a boyfriend or girlfriend lying or just may you a better communicator overall.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments or questions about the body language of “yes” or “no”.

 

 

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Body language of glasses

Body language of glasses: When looking at the body language of men or women who wear glasses there is definitely some nonverbal communication going on whether they think so or not.  

 

When you look at a man or a woman you make some assumptions about them and how they will be or even their intelligence level. When you make these assumptions you will fall into the law of reaction.

 

Body language experts will share with you it only matters what the viewer thinks is going on and this is important to note as you will think certain things about people by the way that they dress, their accessories and even the way that they look physically.

 

Is that a bad thing…

 

Not really as we are a very visual society and part of that is making judgments about people and their nonverbal actions.

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Body language of glasses and your thoughts

When you see or think of a man or woman with glasses what are some of your common thoughts about the person that is wearing them

  • ·         Smart
  • ·         Book worm
  • ·         Some may find glasses sexy
  • ·         Interesting
  • ·         Educated
  • ·         Mild mannered
  • ·         Persuader
  • ·         No thoughts or beliefs at all about the person

 

No matter what your first thought is there was a message sent by the man or the woman who has the accessory

 

Body language of glasses and location

When looking at the body language of men or women that wear glasses you will want to look at their location.

 

Are they at school?

 

Are they at work?

 

Should they have surgery to not have to wear glasses?

 

Do they have a lack of confidence in social situations because they are wearing glasses?

 

Sometimes men and or women will not wear their glasses to certain events because they think that they will be judged socially. In some of these instances they may wear contacts or the men or the woman may go without their glasses even if it could be a safety concern for driving or being out in public.

 

 

Body language of glasses a super hero article

For some people who are in the business of persuading others they may have frames that are real from glasses but the lenses are not prescription. Now at first this persuasion strategy may sound strange but wait a second.

 

Who was the smartest kid in school?

 

The kid with glasses…

Who was the kid you couldn’t hit or be mad at?

 

The kid with glasses…

 

Who had all of the smart answers?

 

The boy or girl with glasses

 

Sure they were made fun of but they had special protection and because they had glasses those boys and girls become men and women and now the have special powers

 

..because they are smart and have all of the answers and you can’t get mad at them

 

So in this case the glasses can be a prop that gives the wearer power but it’s also a disguise or these glasses give the man, woman, boy or girl confidence when they are worn and that helps make them become a super hero article.

 

When someone has glasses on you may see body language of confidence or you may even see a lack of confidence.

 

Whatever you see in the body language or the nonverbal communication of men or women you will want to take the time to base line the situation so that you interpret the signs and signals the right way.

Learning how to read body language can be fun even when interpreting what glasses mean for nonverbal communication.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of glasses.

 

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Body language of mirroring

Mirroring body language: There are plenty of cool things that you can do when it comes to learning how to read body language or even interpret the nonverbal signs of men or women. One of the most important items that you can learn to help your persuasive abilities, best of all when done right you have some covert skills and it’s all nonverbal.

 

The term mirroring means that you would do nonverbally what the other person does:

  • ·         They woman touches her face, you touch your face
  • ·         She crosses her legs you cross your legs
  • ·         The man smiles you smile
  • ·         You yawn and then she yawns
  • ·         He touches you, you touch him back

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Wait it means that the mirroring and body language goes both ways?

 

Yes it does and you may have not ever noticed that salespeople may have mirrored you.

 

There is a point where you build enough rapport where they may start to follow you and then follow your lead (pace).

 

Body language mirroring of similar not exact

Mirroring body language can go wrong and that is for a few reasons and it makes your actions overt instead of covert:

 

Too similar too soon means that your reaction is too quick and that is a common body language mistake. The whole idea for your mirroring or copying is to be covert and not overt. When mirroring is done right the other person may or may not know that you are either pacing them or mirroring them.

 

Many times when people hear about or are shown mirroring they become too eager to get started and their movements are so quick that it isn’t really natural. These super skills that are supposed to help along with the process of rapport and or the persuasion process then end up hurting the person that they are supposed to help.

 

Just be patient when learning this new covert body language skill and you will be rewarded.

 

Body language of mirroring of similar

When mirroring a man or woman your bodies actions only have to be similar.

  • ·         When she touches her face you can touch you’re a few seconds later but do not touch it in the same exact spot
  • ·         When he crosses his legs you can wait a few seconds or a moment and then you cross your legs

 

 

Body language of pacing and leading

Pacing and leading is a strategy from NLP. Pacing means that you are following a man or woman. Leading would be when they are following you. Now throughout an interaction you can switch up the leader or the pacer.

 

You will know you are in good rapport when it goes both ways. At some moments it may be a body language strategy to give up some power and follow a man or woman and in some instances you may want to be in charge and have them follow you.

 

Body language of mirroring and touch

Now when it comes to touch there are common mistakes that you can make. In real time if you are waiting 5 – 10 seconds after someone makes movement for you to copy you will want to wait a few seconds longer if this action has to do with touch. You will have to practice this out with another man or woman that you know but you cannot tell them what you are doing to so that you can get the timing right. You can let the man or the woman in on your secret after you have practiced a few times. Mirroring touch has to feel natural or the situation will become very awkward.

 

Touching too quickly is also a common body language mistake.

 

Body language of mirroring and where to practice

How to learn body language made simple. You can practice mirroring body language anywhere and find it to be an effective use of nonverbal communication. You can just sit down at the coffee shop and watch a man or woman out of the corner of your eye and do a similar action and then when the man or woman changes their position you wait a few moments or even seconds and then do something similar but not exact. You may even want to watch the distance that you keep from the person when you make the touch so that you know where your proximics are or the “bell bubble”

 

Normally when someone hears about mirroring or wants to learn about it they make this common mistake for body language and that is to move too quickly.

 

As a side note while mirroring a man or woman out in public they may come over to you and ask questions like “Do we know each other”? This action is common along with them interacting with you somehow.

 

You can literally practice mirroring men or women’s nonverbal actions anywhere and get the same type of results. You may notice the next time someone is trying to influence you that they start to mimic or mirror your actions. You will be able to tell how good they are by their lag time or if they have just started by their ability to covertly mirror others.

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Body language of disgust

Body language of disgust: Reading the body language of men or women can help you understand and interpret the situation around you.

 

The ability to read the body language of disgust along with being able to interpret the micro expressions can help you decide what the next step should be in:

  • ·         Business
  • ·         Dating or existing relationships
  • ·         Surrounding situations

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Body language of disgust and micro expressions

Being able to read the micro expression of disgust will give you many advantages. When reading the facial expressions of a man or a woman there are two places that you will want to look so that you can interpret what is going on.

  1. 1.      The bridge of the nose between the eyebrows
  2. 2.      The top of the lip

 

When a man or woman shows disgust with their nonverbal communication they will push or smash their eyebrows together at the same time their top lip will come up and may even flatten out.  

 

Micro expressions may last just a brief amount of time usually less than a second so it is important to be able to recognize them quickly. When your knowledge and skills for reading micro expressions have increased it will almost be like you have the ability to read minds when you see what others are displaying with their faces.

You may even find that the micro expression of contempt can help you understand a situation better.

 

Body language of disgust in business

You may have a meeting planned and you have the next greatest idea that will revolutionize your industry but you must get it past the board. Everything goes well and you look over at one of the executives and there is disgust on his face. Being able to spot the body language of disgust would allow you to examine why the executive does not like your new idea. This identification would also you the knowledge to recap or question why things did not go so well.

 

Body language of disgust in dating or existing relationships

Being able to read the nonverbal communication and facial expressions seen in disgust can help you understand what is going on in a relationship. If this sign or micro expression is seen frequently you will be able to foresee future problems in the relationship. Your partner may not know that they are displaying the facial features that would give away their position.

 

Body language of disgust in surrounding situations  

If you are in a part of town that is unknown to you and there are people who are in your surroundings you may be able to tell who may be a threat to your safety just by the expression on their face. You may be able to determine whether or not one of these people intend to harm you in any way. The detection of these facial expressions and the knowledge of what they mean are universal around the world so whether or not you speak the same language you would be able to tell what someone else has the potential to do.

 

Body language of disgust in general

The body language of disgust is not a good emotion to have displayed by another man or woman when you think all is going well. The feeling of disgust would hurt a relationship in any given situation and now you know how to detect what others are thinking.

 

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Body language mistakes

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Body language mistakes: Now there are so many things that you can do right when using body language to be more persuasive. You don’t have to be an expert to know about body language that can offend others.

 

Now think for just a second about when you get to see a hidden message that others have not. It may happen on television or it can be something that you catch out of the corner of your eye. Now what if you were the one who made the body language mistake?

 

Body language mistakes in a covert manner

It is possible to have some covert messages or even embedded commands build into body language or non verbal communication. Now some of these messages are so strong that the “non verbal” element really doesn’t matter and the message really isn’t covert anymore.  

 

Salespeople make the body language mistake of letting their minds go on autopilot and allow their facial expressions and or hand gestures to display what they are thinking without thinking. The response that may happen is not always the best. In this instance the potential client does not have to be the best at reading people he or she is not engaged anymore and the chances of business happening are slim to none when these covert body language messages are caught.

 

The first thing for you to know if you live your life in a profession that requires your ability to persuade others is that your body language mistakes can be caught and beat. It is best for you to know about body language or nonverbal communication to help you understand the signs and signals that may allow others to interpret your message incorrectly.

 

Body language mistake of fingers

In the western culture it is common to point with your index finger, the digit closest to your thumb. Its not nice to point and this hand gesture can get you in trouble when done wrong because it can trigger the “rejection mechanism” in the mind of the person being pointed at.

 

There are some people who point with their middle finger …

 

And those people create problems for themselves with the covert body language mistake. Their message may not have a negative non verbal element but when the person gets caught by the brain with the hidden or covert body language message it is tough to recover because who is going to confront a person about being “flipped off” as its called here in the United states or even “flipping the bird”

 

What is body language? Very destructive when perceived wrong is the answer..

 

Its best to not point with anything but your index finger when need and if at all possible it is best to use a pen when available or an open palm. You don’t have to be an expert at reading people to know when the middle finger is used to convey a thought or message.

 

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Reading body language of pickup artists

Reading body language: There is a certain allure set aside for the man who is considered a Pick up artist (PUA) in men’s magazines. Pick up artists are meant to be some magical creature that every man wants to be like because of the way that they can attract women to their persona.

 

The first step in interpreting the body language of the pickup artist is his person. This is the walk of confidence that the man has while entering a room that is meant to grab the attention of the women in the room or bar. This body language that the room is supposed to be reading shows that he is meant to be with any woman in the room. This confidence is also meant to build desire into any woman who see and view the PUA.

 

A smart pick up artist knows that in order to be seen he must stay away from the edges of vision so he will place himself in the center of the room so that he may be the center of attention as much as possible this is a huge part of his “game”.

 

Attention is everything

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and his swagger

The body language of a pickup artist will show confidence in every way possible; he will stand with confidence and obey the laws of proximity and the “bell bubble”. The pickup artist will be aware of the proximity of the people who are his friends but also their body language as to what they are reacting to.

 

The pickup artist will smile and look at everyone in the room even if they have disgust and disdain for him. He will ignore the statements made about him or he may react verbally with a smart remark.

 

Everything for the pick up artist has been engineered before he walked into the room. His clothing was well thought out, his accessories were predetermined hours earlier and even locations where he ends up may have been previously staked out.

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and peacocking

The clothing of a pickup artist may be a little different than what you would think. Everything is done to draw attention to himself of the opposite sex. The man may wear something that is unusual like a scarf or a piece of jewelry. These articles used are conversation starters for sure just unusual enough to get that extra bit of attention from the other guys in the room and even the alpha male.

 

The articles used to attract women nonverbally can even be part of women’s clothing. The scents used can be those of perfume just to get the extra touch and get her to question if it was from another woman who was interested causing her to be interested now.

 

Everything worn by the pickup artist whether clothing or scents is designed to build attention in a way that creates people either talking to the pickup artist or about him. This attention feeds into the persona of the man and helps build his confidence.

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and “kino”

When it comes to reading body language and the actions of others including pick up artists kinesthetics is important. The word “Kino” is used meaning touch. The job of the pickup artist is to get playful touch in as soon as possible. The main goal is to show confidence and intent but to remain as playful as possible.

 

Touch crosses social boundaries and once crossed it is easier for the woman to relax around the pick up artist and buy into his persona and what he is saying to her. The more she is touched the more her guard drops or the more comfortable she becomes over time the more relaxed she will become.

 

Reading body language of pick up artists with body space and anchoring

Pick up artists usually work in groups of two or more or teams. The job of the wing man is to be support for their fellow pick up artists but at the same time getting more attention from the men and the women in the room. They may use each other’s bodies to have the right amount of anchoring or being in a good visible spot for others to see. The anchor may be the best seat in the house where the PUA may sit or stand with confidence.

 

Wherever he is the body language signs and signals of the pickup artist will show that he is relaxed and supposed to be right where the action is.

 

He may surround himself with adoring women who want his attention which will in turn cause other women to want to be within proximity to figure out who the man of mystery is. The closer in proximity the women are to him the better chance that the PUA has of gamming or working on his game with his new “target”.

 

While anchoring good interactions take place in one location and bad interactions will take place in another.

 

The best ally the PUA has is the attention that he gets from everyone in the room. This creates a buzz and creates attention and builds the confidence or swagger of the man.

 

A good pick up artist is good at reading the body language of others but also for using his to gain attention or know how to diffuse a bad situation.

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and bouncing

Once a location has been determined to be the venue must change. The whole goal is to get the girl away from the location where she was before. This can be for a mini date like a quick breakfast at 2:00am or even for activities back at home.

 

In some instances the whole goal is to get others to see the PUA to leave so that an internal sort of jealousy is built or even a feeling of exclusion.

 

This does build into the desire mechanism in the brain on the part of the person who is “missing out” on whatever the pickup artist has to offer especially if he is leaving with more than one girl.

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and rejection

A pick up artist who has been out in the field or “gaming” for a while will know that he will be rejected by women over time. The body language or on verbal reaction from him will show that the rejection is no big deal and that there are plenty of others who would be happy to be the center of his attention.

 

When the pick up artist does get the reaction that he wants he does not celebrate because it would create bad attention. On the other hand it is the same with rejection a good pick up artist will not react badly when he is rejection by his target he will just move on as nothing has phased him.  

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and his verbal attributes

There are a few things that need to be explained about the pickup artist and how he will use verbal actions to help with his nonverbal game. PUA’s will typically have a call sign or a nick name that they go by. In some instances the name will only be used on the internet in chat rooms but some of the guys will use them in the real world.

 

The nick name or call sign gives them confidence and allure and may help with their mystic and swagger. The whole intention of the pickup artist is attention from person or the group that they are targeting.

 

Remembering that the while goal of the body language and nonverbal actions is to build attraction and desire by increasing attention many great things can be learned from watching and reading the body language of a pickup artist.

 

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language signs and signals of pickup artists.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language games

Reading body language: Learning how to read people through the use of analyzing body language can be fun.

 

Sure you can read how to look at each body part, learn how to interpret facial expressions of eve go online and study how people interact through proximity. What will really help you learn how to read and understand body language better is to dissect it in real life.

 

Reading body language games to learn nonverbal communication
Reading body language games to understand body language

 

Reading body language can be learned by games

When people want to learn how to read other peoples nonverbal actions they are shocked about where to gain these skills and capabilities.

 

The first Reading body language game can be played with a few people by going out to a bar about 10:00pm or later. Just know that your job is not to drink you are there to learn. When you are done learning then you can drink. There are some very specific reasons why you want to choose a bar. People will let their guards down after a few drinks. Their actions in some instances will be exaggerated and reading their body language can and will be easier because of it.

 

The way that this body language game goes it to figure out a person between your group and then determine what the nonverbal communication means. Now you can get away with more silliness when you are at a bar with people who are drinking. You can even get other people involved in your “game” and they will have fun also.

 

When you think that you have determined what has gone on go over and buy the guy or girl a drink and ask them. Let them know you are doing a body language experiment and they will let you in on what is going on. If they decide that they do not want in on your fun try with another person.

 

Watching men hit on women or even guys who think that they are pick up artists (PUA) can show you the body language of rejection all of the way to the body language of seduction that you can read real time. If you are close enough you can hear the interactions between the men and women. The benefit for you is that you get to learn in real time and see just what some nonverbal actions are.

 

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Reading body language games for interpretations of nonverbal signs

 

Reading body language for sales as a game the blank slate surprise

Under pressure people dominate traits come out. If you are in any type of sales the best way to make this happen is through surprise. You can learn not just a lot but a ton from being put under pressure. This works especially well when this sales training technique is videotaped or recorded to watch later.

 

The setup for this even is simple. A person goes shopping and picks up a few items:

  • ·         Small lunch sacks (brown and not see through
  • ·         Random taboo products think adult novelty toys
  • ·         Random items from the house

 

You then take the items and put them in the brown bags and put them on a table on in a box. The salesperson is given 30 second to look at the item while it is still in the bag. Once the salesperson has had their time to look at their item they then do a 2 minute infomercial on the “product” that they have in the bag.

 

This game that can be used to learn about body language reading will show what the salesperson does when they are nervous, what they do when they are confident and what they do when they get stumped. The communication when verbal or nonverbal will show every flaw or even perfection.

 

Some of the best items for this game are ones that are taboo and that can create the most discomfort or embarrassment.

 

For salespeople who are more advanced there is no 30 second prep time for the “actor” it the infomercial is instant. This puts even more pressure on the actor because there is no preparation time. No matter how good the salesperson or “actor” is this body language reading event will show some sort of weakness in the nonverbal communication skills and signs.

 

This “game” needs to be recorded on film so that the actor can watch what they have done because if you just tell them they will not believe what was done. The actions of their hands, facial expressions and general body language can be dissected slowly and even repeated over and over again.

 

Now you don’t have to be a salesperson to benefit from these sales games you can be a person that just wants to learn how to read nonverbal actions. Your dominate traits will come out on film and you can determine what actions that you do can get you in trouble when communicating with others.

 

Reading body language and nonverbal communication to become an expert can be learned here.

 

I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about games you can learn to read body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

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Reading the body language of car salesmen

Reading body language: Car salespeople almost invoke the same amount of fear into people as IRS agents. Being able to read the body language or non-verbal communication of car salesmen may just take away some of the fear before you walk on the lot.

 

Before you read the body language of a car salesman it is important to know what your body language is doing or what your communication is doing nonverbally. If you are uncertain of anything your nonverbal communication will show this.

 

Now there are times to be scared but dealing with salespeople is just like dealing with anyone else. Time will be what is on your side or what is against you. Your body language will show hungry or tired so the best game plan of going into a dealership means that you have enough sleep. When you get hungry your defenses go down and you will make decisions that you may not have wanted to previously. You will have issues of buying if you are tired.

 

For you have the best chances of getting what you want it is a good idea to eat before you go to a car lot and to also bring some food and drinks with you. Now besides getting your loan from a bank or credit union before you show up on the car lot food, drinks and a calculator are the best things to have in your arsenal.

 

On your end while buying a car your body language can give up your position or your beliefs.  The best thing for you to remember on your side is to not give up too much reaction or too much emotion. Be careful to not show:

  • ·         Fear
  • ·         Anger
  • ·         Frustration
  • ·         Excitement at some stages

 

Now as you enter a car lot there are things that you should know. On any lot there are behind the scene games going on and you enter the game without even knowing. As you drive up there is a “fight” between salesmen as to who is going to get to talk to you. In some instances it is up to who is selling or who is not.

 

As you get out of your car you may be given up on by the salesman who wanted you as a “client” previously because the way that you look or the clothes that you are wearing.

 

You will be approached by a rogue salesperson who may ask if they can help you. For some dealerships this may not be able to happen until you put your hands in your pockets or look tawards the front of the building. If hand in the pockets are needed of or the look to the building is required the people who are the spotters will signal the salespeople to meet with you.

 

Your first salesperson is there to read your body language and get some information from you to see if you are a good potential client for the sales team. If you are a difficult buyer and the salesmen is experienced he will signal the people in the tower who are watching to send over a new salesperson in a few minutes.

 

This signal that he uses will seem like normal body language, he may straighten his, run his hands through his hair, adjust his jacket or even actually signal with his hands in a way that you just think that he is using nonverbal communication.

 

The salesman is reading everything about you, he has more than likely done this before and you are not the first person that he has “sold” something to. He or she will be able to tell more about you than you think just from a few minutes, yes you are being judged and it may not be fair to you but that is how it works.

 

Once you decide you want to take the car for a test drive you enter into a sales funnel and everything has been engineered for you to buy something.

  • ·         The test drive is meant for you to take ownership and get used to being behind the wheel.
  • ·         Part of the test drive should be on the freeway to get the feel of what it is like to go to work
  • ·         Driving on the side streets is to get the feel of what it is like to drive to the store
  • ·         If you are married or in a relationship it is now time to switch seats and get the other person to drive.

 

You look at the other person and give the “nod” or “wink” and the salesperson reads your body language and know that it is time to go deeper into the funnel.

 

You go back to the dealership and go from a large lot to a big office and then into a smaller cubicle. There are signs everywhere that are meant to prime you with numbers to get you used to seeing dollar amounts as high or higher than monthly payments or even as much as the car. The signs around the area will have people smiling or families together once again more primes.

 

You then sit at a round table and you are sat together so that the salesman can watch the both of you being separated is a difficult thing to deal with because the salesman cannot see you make signals or winks. Know that in some places there may be cameras to look for your nonverbal communication and to look for your readiness to move forward.

 

Being brought to a smaller area is done on purpose to make you feel tighter, closer but also to control you more.  

 

The car salesman may give off more covert signals to his helpers once again along the lines of a hand sign, moving a tie, tying a shoe or just about a million other nonverbal communications to signal where the sales call is going.

 

Know that the more that you are consumed with information the more difficult it may be to keep up so that small items are slipped in. Using a 4 square sales process is a way that the information difficult to keep up with.

 

The salesman is looking at your body language bit also listening to phrases you say like: “When we get this car home” or even “I can’t wait to take this car to….” Your words are signs that you desire ownership.

 

At this point whatever “deal” you came up with will fall through and the salesperson may get disappointed and show signs of stress with his body language. The salesman may rub his head, his chin or the back of his neck. He may say things like: I cant believe this has happened” or “let me go talk to my manager”. This is all done on purpose to give you and the other person with you time to talk and get your game plan together. No in some places the sales floor may have a microphone on it and what you are saying may be head, in some places you may be on video and your nonverbal communication is being watched.

 

The salesguy or girl will come back with a counter offer and get excited for what he or she came up with. The deal that he or she has will be slightly more than what you wanted but you will be asked to see if you can make the payment or take a car with fewer options for the same amount as the car that you were shown.

 

Once again your body language will be watched for your buying signs and or signals. The phone may ring with a last minute offer and the call is scripted and in some instances there may be tones in the phone that tell the salesman what type of credit you have. His body language has been scripted and he or she has been coached as to what to do exactly, it is no mistake.

 

From here you either make the deal or you do not. Know that you becoming tired and putting time into the situation are done on purpose because once people have invested significant time into something they typically will not walk away. Know that if you are slightly tired or hungry it is easier to get to yes and a sale.

 

A little of this information will go past body language but it is good to know what you will do and pay before you go to the car lot. Having your budget set and knowledge of your credit helps you more than you would know. Having financing before you go to the car lot will give you an upper hand with negotiating but remember reading body language for you and the salesperson has a great deal to do with reactions.

 

Know that there are many great salespeople who will do the right thing for you in most situations and just like everything else there will be those few who ruin it for the “good guys”. As a side note not all car lots are bad or use deceptive behavior but it is good to know what to look for when there are the ones who bend the rules of ethics.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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