Body language of licking lips

Body language of licking lips: Just for a minute imagine you are sitting in a meeting and the question about the new project goes to Joe and all of the sudden he starts licking his lips. And you think “wow this is unusual I have never seen Joe lick his lips, what on earth does it mean is he lying or is he excited”?

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You ask your boyfriend where he was and all of the sudden all of his body language changes into something not normal. You see him say “I was with Steve” pause … pause … licking his lips  “and we went to a new bar” as he looks away. Could this be a sign and signal that your boyfriend is lying or did he really go to the new bar?

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You go to a new bar and you look over in the corner and notice this girl who winks at you and slowly starts licking her lips. You pull out your phone and Google “Body language of licking lips” to find out how to interpret this sign or signal. Was that a sign of overtly flirting with you, was she thirsty or were her lips chapped?

 

Now it very well may be that licking lips means nothing …but just in case you decide it’s time to find out what the body language of licking lips means.

 

There are plenty of times where people lick their lips and there can be a few reasons why they do so.

  • ·         Out of necessity because of lack of moisture
  • ·         Excitement about an idea or thought non sexual
  • ·         Out of habit
  • ·         Nervous tick
  • ·         Caused by a lie
  • ·         Suggestive

 

Every day reason for licking lips

Now just think for a moment when you were out in the sun and were hot or even possibly when it was really cold and your lips were chapped. Did you lick your lips? The chances are great that you licking your lips meant absolutely nothing but that it was needed. Now if someone were in your peripheral they could read into a little differently. This is a reminder why you need to take a look at what the normal actions are of the person are who you are looking at while interpreting their body language.

 

Excitement and licking lips

There are some people that when they get excited about anything they lick their lips. This rush of energy has to go somewhere for them and the lips are the answer. You would see this as a common trait or action that happens. You would want to know this baseline before making a decision as to whether or not they are lying or if they are just excited about a thought or belief.

 

 Habit of licking lips or biting lips

There are also men and women who have developed the habit of licking or biting their lips over time and it means nothing except that it is a routine behavior. On the other hand if the man, woman or child has a normal behavior of licking their lips and all of the sudden in a situation that normal behavior doesn’t happen there might be a reason for it and it may not be good or it may need nothing at all. This means that it’s time to ask some questions to gather further information about what is going on.

 

 Nervous action of licking lips

On the next spectrum of the level from the body language of licking lips is the nervous tick or action. It may be the pressure of a tough question or an uncomfortable situation or room that would cause one to change their behavior and display. In this nervousness may fall the issue of lying but it doesn’t mean that there is a lie. It could very well be nervous energy just like a man or a woman tapping their foot. In fact you may see foot tapping and lip licking at the same time.

 

 Lying and licking lips

It could very well be that the man, woman or child that you are looking at is asked a tough question they pause and then they lick their lips with another pause and then answer your question. This may be a flat out sign that they are lying but be careful because remember it may be nervous energy. If you are a woman / girl and ask a guy do you love me? If he’s not ready be to answer this question be ready for all sorts of nervous behavior and stalls but even then it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or he’s lying that’s just a tough question all of the sudden.

 

In the case of lying you are looking for abnormal behavior or an action that is not a normal routine for the person that you are looking at. Sometimes it may seem that licking the lips may be a symbolic greasing of the lips to get the big whopper of a lie out of their mouth. This action may take place as a way to get another half a second to figure a story out.

If you spend some time watching the television show “Cops” you will see the suspects start licking their lips after a few tough questions are asked with long pauses or short pauses. Are the suspects lying before or after they lick their lips? Quite possibly but this show is a good place to look and watch for the signs and signals of lying.

 

Just remember before you try and confront your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, kid or coworker of lying look for abnormal behavior then question about it. You may see other signs you have never seen before or you may see normal routines remember the baseline their behavior first.

Seduction and licking of the lips

In the example of the woman licking her lips at the bar that would be considered overt behavior to induce behavior from you or whoever it was generated towards. The licking of the lips may be considered sensual when directed towards a person. Now this is the body language that movies scenes are based upon. You may see a man or woman lick their lips when they meet a new person and they may not even know that they are doing so. Just remember that this may be some nervous energy or it could mean something else entirely. This action may take a few minutes or it may happen instantly depending on what is going on in the mind of the two and the type of chemistry that they have.

 

Now there may be a tendency to look at the lips when a man or woman licks them but you may want to be careful because staring at the lips may be seen as being sexual. So all of the sudden you get excited that someone is licking their lips and you start staring and the other person takes your body language as sexually advanced and that’s not what they were licking their lips for.

Licking lips for many reasons

There may be more than one reason why a person would or could lick their lips while some of them may be good others reasons may be bad. It is important to take the time to learn the behaviors and characteristics of a person’s routine actions or baseline them to determine what their action means or could be interpreted to mean.

 

Understanding body language can help you determine what the actions that other people mean. Learning how to read body language can be fun and also done at home:

 

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Body language of speeches

Body language of a speech or public speaking: Leadership requires speeches or lectures from the CEO all of the way down to managers or department heads. You may also see politicians give speeches. While you are reading their body language you may be able to determine a few things from whoever is speaking for whatever reason.

 

If you want to be able to persuade better there is no better avenue than to be able to speak in front of a crowd. For some who do speak in front of a crowd their body language is a distraction and the message that they are trying to deliver is not effective.

 

As with any deciphering of nonverbal communication or reading of body language you will want to baseline the person to set a guide as to what they do and whether it is normal for them or not. A man, woman or child will have different behaviors depending upon the situation and the emotion that they are feeling. Its always a good idea to get a feel for what they do as a routine and what is not normal for them.

 

When you are watching a man or a woman giving a speech there are many items that you can take a look at to determine what is going on with them. You may see signs and or signals of:

  • ·         Nervousness
  • ·         Lies and or deceit
  • ·         Frustration and or anger
  • ·         Surprise

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Body language of nervousness and speaking

First off many people are not comfortable speaking in front of crowds or even groups of one two people let alone a full room so an adventure in speaking brings out the nervousness even for successful leaders. One of the “tells” that you may pick up on is the way that the man or the woman walks to their spot to speak or their pulpit. You may see a lack of confidence or possibly even a slow long walk to where they need to be. For someone who is confident it just seems like they should be there, they have a good stride, they show confidence and they just seem comfortable wherever they are.  

 

As you watch for the nonverbal cues of  nervousness you will see than hands shake or even a look of being lost. You may see signs of lack of confidence with the walk or just while the man or the woman is standing there. Many times the man or the woman will focus in on one or two people that they may think are “safe” and it makes the situation awkward or dilutes the message that is being delivered.

 

If there is a pulpit for the person to stand behind there may be a “death grip” on the edges and the whole speech or talk and the person may learn in. While a woman or a man is behind a pulpit they may just look down at their notes and not even look up at the people that they are addressing.  

 

Body language of lies and or deceit while speaking

While you watch the man or the woman giving a presentation there are signs and signals that you may observe while they present that will give you clues to if they are telling the truth or not.

 

Since you have base lined the speaker you will be able to tell what is a normal or routine action for them or if their touch is out of the ordinary. You will also want to look for a mismatch where they may say that like something but their head shakes no like they were answering a question silently.

 

Some things to watch out for:

 

The man or the woman may show the lobster claw of deception or even touch their face at a point where the story gets too good or over the top. Now blinking can be induced by lighting, contacts or even medical conditions and it doesn’t always mean that the story isn’t true.  

 

Body language of frustration and anger while giving a speech   

Sometimes the man or the woman who is speaking doesn’t have a good or happy message to deliver. The words or the story that they punctuate are done so with their actions most of the time with their arms and or hands. Many times when anger or frustration is present the actions are sharp, overly animated and in some instances choppy. These actions are not to say that the man or the woman isn’t confident it is that they are amped up on emotion.

 

You may see the man or the woman shake their head and smash their lips together, take deep breaths before they speak, point or wag their finger, show the micro expression of disgust or contempt, wave their arm as if they are pushing or sweeping away an invisible object and in some rare instances give obscene gestures.   

 

In some instances there are times where the speech or the talk is on something that has some sorrow attached to it. You will more than likely see a lack of confidence or the shoulders turned in, possible grip on the lectern or pulpit and an overall slowing of the motions of the body.

 

Body language of surprise while giving a speech

Some men or women are given the opportunity to speak in front of a group of people and they were not even expecting it. You can see this when someone wins an event or is called in front of a group when a surprising event happens. In some instances this even may be something that causes sorrow.

 

If the even is good you may see micro expressions of surprise in the person who is asked to speak. There may be a huge genuine smile as a sign of satisfaction and happiness.

 

Learning how to read body language or interpret nonverbal communication can benefit you in the business world, personal life and or any given situation.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of a speech!

 

 

 

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Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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body language of blinking

Body language of blinking: When reading the body language or nonverbal communication of others one of the items that may identify deceit, lies, stress or even medical conditions is blinking. The action of blinking happens naturally and you can easily make mistakes when it comes to interpreting what blinking means.

 

There are some actions that people really cannot control that perform necessary functions and blinking is one of them.  This action keeps the eyes moisturized but also protects the eyes from debris and bright lights.

 

The average person blinks every 3-12 seconds and that can work out to 8-10 blinks per minute unless under stress or medical conditions.

 

Under stress, while fabricating or while lying the rate of blinking may increase.

  

Body language of blinking and lying

One common mistake that people make when reading the body language of a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is that they are too quick to believe that excessive blinking is a definite sign of lying.

 

One of the signs of deception and or lying can be excessive blinking and through plenty of misinformation it’s an automatic belief in some it means lying. Now it may also be that the man or woman is under stress. You will have to be careful and baseline the person that you are examining to look for traits that would lead you to understand if it is a lie that is causing the blinking or jest the stress of being questioned. You will also want to take a look at the micro expressions that a man or woman has because if the person does not know about the accusations they should show surprise.

 

As a man or woman lies they may have a cluster of body language actions that happen when they start to deceive or fabricate. There may be touching of the face, excessive licking of the lips, a change in the breathing patterns, lack of eye contact, a long rub or stroke of a body part like the arm or leg. With these clusters you may notice that the blink rate would increase. This is where you would want to start questioning the story of what is going on if there is a combination of these items going on.  

 

It could be either be the stress of the encounter or the fact that the man or woman is lying and in some instances it could be both. Just take your time before you make a judgment.  

 

Body language of stress or fatigue

Fatigue or stress also may directly influence the rate of blinking. When being questioned by a significant other the stress alone may cause some questions about the blink rate. The signs and signals of stress or fatigue will be slower actions from the body.  

 

 

Body language of blinking and allergies and medical conditions  

Nervous system ailments can cause men or women to blink faster than normal and these faster blinks will be consistent for the most part.

 Having contacts in may also cause extra blinking so if you know that the man or woman has contacts there is a time where you may want to count this item.

When eyes are itchy there are times where men and or women will blink faster than normal, you may see that they eyes are red and or puffy when this happens. When there is an issue or medical condition the faster blink rate may or may not be consistently fast. There are some people that when interacting with others that blink faster than what they would if they were not. People who work in dimly lit areas may also have blinking triggered.

 

Reading the body language of others along with their nonverbal signs and signals can help you understand if a man or woman is lying.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about blinking and lying.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

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body language of tapping feet

 

 

Body language of tapping feet: Reading body language may take you plenty of places and while learning how to interpret nonverbal communication every motion of the body may mean something. There are even times where body language has no meaning or the nonverbal communication is being used to create tension or even to hide or mask the real situation.

 

While men or woman tap their feet there may be a few reasons why they do so:

  • ·         Nervousness
  • ·         Habit
  • ·         To annoy people or for fun

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Reading the body language of nervousness

There are times where people have nervous reactions to a situation and they do not have control of what their body does. Nervousness can usually start with the hands shaking or even the feet or a foot tapping. You would want to baseline the man, woman or child that you are reading the body language of. If someone were having a time where they are nervous the foot would start tapping just at or about that point in time. Most people cannot stop their foot or feet from shaking or tapping.

 

Reading the body language of habitual actions  

Some people for a level of comfort automatically shake or tap their foot or feet. In this case while base lining the person you would find that this action happens no matter what, it’s not a case of nervousness but one of habit. It makes it difficult to determine if there is any other emotion or action taking place.

 

In some instances people will do what they can to throw off the ability to read the nonverbal actions by consistently having a nervous tick that masks the real actions.

 

There are just some people who tap their feet all of the time and it means absolutely nothing. When read wrong this can lead the reader to think that the person is lying or trying to hide something.  

 

Reading the body language of annoyance

Now there are times where people will use their body language just to annoy you. Some kids will tap their feet in order to get their siblings angry. These actions may with the body can take their toll on emotions and drive adults and kids up the wall. The tapping of the feet can happen anywhere from a quiet library all of the way to sitting at dinner.

 

Reading body language requires that you look at the situation to see what is going on and why someone may have the body language or reactions that they do. Sometimes the body language is a cry for attention and it is important to baseline the situation so that you are not a victim of the law of reaction.

 

Learning how to read body language can take some time and whether it is to learn for fun or for business this is the best place to learn using this home study course.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of tapping feet.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reading body language of Presidential candidates Part 2

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Reading Body language of Presidential candidates in the debates

Reading body language: Presidential candidates are under a magnifying glass sort of speak when it comes to their presentations at debates or even out in public.

 

In some instances some parts of their lives are dissected over and over again, in some instances for a few this isn’t the case. This open dissection of a Presidential Candidate puts plenty of stress on them while out on the campaign trail and with that stress comes “mistakes” for the man or woman with their body language.

 

Reading the body language of a presidential candidate may help you gain a better understanding of the man or woman who hopes to become The President of the United States and in some instances the revelations about the person and the body language that others are reading may just be the hopes of the person who is reading the Presidential candidate.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates and their proximity to others

 

Proximity to others is an important aspect of reading body language and even self-control. How close you stand or sit next to people becomes important as the message that is being delivered. Now this may not seem like a big deal but if you were under scrutiny about personal business and even political relationships previous to wanting the President it becomes more important.  

 

When connecting with people it is important to know what distance is acceptable and what distance becomes inappropriate or even awkward.  The whole life of a political candidate may be put out for all to judge and things that may not seem significant can be beat into the dirt until they seem like they are.

 

When reading the body language of political candidates it is important to remember that the angle on one camera can tell a completely different story than the angle on another camera.

 

Proximity can show power depending upon where the person stand or sits in regards to other people and or candidates along with the ability to show weakness.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates and the “Bell Bubble”

If you were to consider the body a stage anything on the outside of 18 inches or 40 cm is really past personal space. When a Presidential candidate is within that space of another man or woman they have entered into their “Bell Bubble” Gestures outside of the 18” area away from the body may cause the Presidential candidate to lose value because they lack self-control.

 

When you get a chance later look into a mirror and talk with your armsn extended as far away form your body as possible and try to imagine a time where this type of nonverbal communication would be acceptable except for when you were in danger. Just move your mouth like you are talking . Now imagine for a moment that you were near a person and you were using the body language that is outside of the “Bell Bubble”, would the man or woman be comfortable?

 

Now just think for a second if the Presidential candidate were being viewed on television would their speech make sense if they were having a conversation and their hands or arms traveled outside of their “Bell Bubble”? It’s not a good idea to break the “Bell Bubble”.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates and lies or looking for lies

Some would say that all Presidential candidates are liars and when reading their body language they all leak deceit. Now as long as the politician follows the Law of proximity and keeps with the “Bell Bubble” and hasn’t done anything too silly in their past they must now keep away from body language signs and signals of lying.

 

Nonverbal signs and signals a Presidential candidate is lying

 

There are a few items that may help indicate that a person is lying:

  • ·         Their blink rate – possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Touching anything on their face neck or head – possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Looking the other way – possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Using their arms to distance themselves from the story or question at hand– possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Becoming flush or pale after an answer
  • ·         Biting the lips or wrapping their teeth with their lips
  • ·         Some verbal actions would be to ask the question again or when their vocal pattern changes.

 

Remember that when it comes to reading the body language of Presidential candidates or anyone else you must first watch them for a while to baseline them to ensure what you are accusing them of has happened. If the presidential candidate is lying it’s not an accusation anymore. Just because these signs and signals of body language are happening it does not mean there is a lie it means that there could be a lie with emphasis on the word “may”.

 

Body language of a Presidential hopefuls emotions

A presidential hopeful can destroy their candidacy by reacting the wrong way to a question, action or story with their emotions. Remembering that the Presidential candidate is under much scrutiny sometimes they are baited to react to situations so they can be shown as immature or something more than what they are.  

 

  • ·         Displaying the correct emotion to be read from the crowd of citizens, constituents or clients.
  • ·         Show the verbal and body language signs of leadership throughout their “sales process” of working to become President of the United States.

 

The people voting for the Presidential candidate may not really understand in a deep level as to what they are seeing when reading the body language of the man or woman’s emotions or facial expressions while watching them on the debates or out on the trail but they will understand what they see and make their own observations.

 

The biggest questions to answer when watching and reading the body language of Presidential candidates is are they lying about what they are saying or are they reacting badly to questions or comments made towards them?

 

Learning how to read body language of Presidential candidates can help you understand and interpret what they body of a politician is saying.

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of leaders part 2

Reading body language: Leadership has many important facets but one of the most important is the nonverbal communication that underlies the body language of the leader.  There are times where the actions of the body while communicating will erode the message from the leader.

Reading body language of leaders part 1

 

Reading body language of female leaders
Reading body language of effective leaders

 

At some point either our vocal words will betray us or the actions of the body will. There is however a downside and that is when people are watching you and listening have their own opinion to what your words and actions mean to them.

 

Reading body language of facial expressions

While watching the body language of a leader and interpreting their facial features may be the most telling and or damaging at the same time. Most people do not have the ability to hide what their face is doing. In many instances it is the hardened liar is used to keeping his or her facial features under wrap as to not give the emotion attention.

 

Most leaders who have spent time in front of audiences have had coaching as to what to do or not to do. Any body language coach worth their weight will help their clients learn to not use too many facial features because they may not connect with the viewer or client.

 

A good leader will keep their facial features blank when needed, disgusted when needed or even excited when needed. What you will find is that a well taught leader will use their facial expressions when needed and hopefully for them their body language that is being read will come across as confident.  On the other hand you may have someone who is a great leader but has not been coached as to what to do in public who can lose credibility because of their lack of training.

 

Reading the body language of a leaders message

Leaders know that they will at some point not only be on the end of a good message but they will also be on the receiving end of a bad message. Now there will be a mix of the posture, facial expressions and the movements of their body will either make or break the message of the leader. When a good message is delivered it is hard for the leader to ruin their fortune with body language but it can be done. When a leader gets caught up with a bad question or message you will see with some people their body language “squirm” for either a fraction of a second or even a few seconds. The leader may show in their body language:

  • ·         A new facial expression
  • ·         A deep breath
  • ·         The skin may become read or the leader may become blush
  • ·         The leader may have a body part that starts shaking
  • ·         The hands may now be used somehow to block the message or the answer
  • ·         Verbally the leader may stutter or the real answer may even be revealed and then the body language follows

When a leader has to deliver a bad message they may show the signs of sympathy, their body movements may be slower, their facial features may show sorrow or frustration and or the body language of the leader may lose the appeal of confidence (sunk in shoulders, loss of the glide in the movements of the body)

 

Reading the body language of reactions to questions

When reading the body language of a leader you will see that leaders who have a bad message will flinch when a tough question is asked. The nonverbal communication of the leader may or will display just as it would when either getting or giving a good or bad message.

 

Reading body language of a liar leader
Reading body language of leaders who lie

 

Usually a well-trained leader will know that a difficult question will be asked of them at the worst time and they have practiced scenarios so that their body language will not betray them. A well trained leader will also have been taught about composure when things are going well for them so that their reaction in their body language does not come across as gloating or arrogance.

 

Reading the body language of a leader lying

Leaders who have made the mistake of lying in public and then have been caught wish that they would not have leaked their mistakes. There are some very specific things that people do when they lie:

  •           Touch their face
  • ·         Become flush or blush
  • ·         Cover their mouths after the lie or even try to shovel the words back into their mouths
  • ·         Rub their bodies after the lie. The face, head, arms, legs or even the neck
  • ·         Look another direction than what they were looking before
  • ·         Lose composure of confidence
  • ·         The blinking rate may increase

 

Now any of these actions for the body language of lying may happen by themselves of a few can work together in a cluster. This “cluster of lies” becomes evident as it happens for those who can read the signs and signals of liars or the body language of liars.

 

Watching a leader and looking at their body language can be an eye opening experience. You may want to watch to see if they are telling the truth or if they are lying. You may want to read the body language and nonverbal communications to tell if they would make a good leader. In your judgment remember that first you must watch them and baseline their actions to see what is normal vs abnormal and to also see if they are reacting to someone else.  

 

Learning how to read body language like an expert may be easier than you would think.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of leaders.

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

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Reading body language of crossed arms

Reading body language: One of the most common asked questions or comments made about reading body language besides how to tell if a man or woman is cheating is what does crossed arms mean when looking at nonverbal communication.

 

How often have you thought that crossed arms mean that a person was not open to you or what you were saying?

 

How many times have you been upset when reading into this body language?

 

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Reading body language expert reveals crossed arms

 

Now what happens if what you thought meant something that it really didn’t.

 

Being a body language expert that can read situations would require you to understand what is comfortable for people.

 

Just like people have misconceptions about blinking rates and people lying people routinely get what crossed arms mean as body language wrong as many times as they get it right.

 

Reading into crossed arms and body language  

The part of your brain that says crossed arms means a person is turned off or not talking to you is partially correct. There are times where men and women cross their arms as a way to say with their body that a message needs to be defended against or that something was said that wasn’t good to hear needs to be blocked out.

 

Crossing the arms in an instance of protection or indifference does mean that the message is not wanted or listened to.  

 

For just a second cross your arms as if you don’t want to listen to what someone has to say maybe a friend or partner has said something to you recently you could think of that.

 

What does your body language feel like to you?

 

Did you start to get frustrated or angry?

 

Where you turned off to what was going on around you.

 

In this instance your body language would have red like people would think when they see someone who crosses their arms and decides to not listen.

 

If you were to go way back into time and see where the human mind became programed from because of danger you would be able to see somewhere in there that covering up the core of the body is a good thing that protects you.

 

In some instances crossed arms are a defensive mechanism and it does mean that the person is not listening and their body language proves it.

 

Reading crossed arms as a good thing when body language is being used

Men can say one thing and women can say another, interpreting and understanding crossed arms may be the complete opposite of not listening or being turned off.

 

In some instances people will cross their arms when they are comfortable.

 

Reading body language of crossing arms
Reading body language of crossed arms expert examination

 

Oh and you thought that he or she wasn’t listening all those times….

 

Want to learn an expert body language exercise? Sit in your chair and fold your arms so that you  get comfortable. Now note to yourself how easy or how hard it may be to listen to people as they talk to you.

 

Would you be able to process what they say or would you be in a state where you couldn’t listen?

 

If you become comfortable it may be easier for you to listen to a message.

 

What has changed for you and your beliefs of crossing your arms and if people are listening to you?

 

So when you read the body language of others your interpretation and understanding can be completely correct or way off. Determining what is going on will depend on the context and the proximity that people hold with each other.

 

If there is tension going on someone with crossed arms could be impatient, tired, upset, turned off or just about any other negative emotion out there.

 

In a situation that isn’t tense it could be that the person you are reading is comfortable and relaxed and open to everything that you are saying.

 

Your beliefs about body language and nonverbal communication will cause you to react either positive or negatively to the people around you. Take your time to examine the normal actions of the person that you want to read the signs and signals of when it comes to body language.

There is one last thing to think about when it comes to reading into what crossed arms mean and that is what is typical for people from a region or even a different part of the world? Is this action normal for the man or woman or are you just trying to read into the situation so that it fits your beliefs?

 

Reading body language like an expert can be easy and fun all at the same time, learn how to read the body language of others

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about crossed arms and body language.

 

Now go implement

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of biting lips

Reading body language: Biting the lip can be seen as strange behavior from some while others may see this as a sign or signal of discomfort.

 

Anytime that you are reading body language there are some assumptions that are being made as to what the nonverbal communication aspect is. Of course there is the possibility of being wrong. There is no definite action of anything that can 100% be correct when it comes to reading the language of the body. This is true for understanding and interpreting seduction, lies, nervousness or even being truthful.

 

Reading body language signs and signals in real life

So you are having a conversation with a significant other and after you ask the question of him or her you notice that they bite their lip. Now in the back of your mind you think back and ask yourself “what does it mean when someone bites their lip”? You begin to panic because it may mean that there is some lie going on, but what if you are wrong about reading his or her body language. You react in the wrong way and it creates some problems.

 

Reading body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains biting lips
Reading body language of biting the lower lip

So just what does biting a lip mean, is it good or is it a bad action?

 

Biting the lip can mean a few things when being read by others:

  •           Lying by the person or even withholding information
  •           Nervousness or a habit
  •           Anger or frustration
  •           Thinking
  •           Flirting

 

Now all of these examples of reading the body language of biting the lip can be absolutely wrong and it may have the possibility of meaning nothing at all and the meaning can be different for men or women.

 

Biting the lip and lying

Starting with lying the action of biting a lip can be a sign or signal that the person with this action is being inaccurate and telling a lie. The biting of the lip could also be a way to hold the information internally by locking the lips down enough so that talking cannot be done. Sometimes the bite can happen before the lie and sometimes it can happen after the lie. It may even mean that the person is fabricating or embellishing a story or statement. A person biting their lip does not always mean that they are showing definite signs or signals of lies.

 

Biting the lip and nervousness or as a habit

Another explanation of a person biting their lip is that they can be nervous and it is nothing more than a nervous tick and a comfortable action that they use to mask discomfort in a situation. In some instances this type of body language can be read as a lie. If read into too much the meaning will become distorted, there are some people who use this as a go to nonverbal action after saying something and it means absolutely nothing.

When using base lining a person who uses this body language action of a normal interaction it would be seen that this is more of a comfort action than anything diabolical.

 

Biting the lip and anger

In the action or reaction of anger some people will bit their lip to keep themselves from saying something that they do not want to say. This is a control issue and there are times where whatever words are being thought of are better off left unsaid. Sometimes this can be the reaction of seething anger of someone who is beyond furious.There are also times where people who are frustrated will bite their lip as a sign of their impatience.

 

 

 Biting the lip in thought

Some people will bite their lip while they are thinking and this nonverbal action is harmless. If read wrong someone may see this as a “sure tell” that the person is lying. When read wrong this can create some real problems. This is similar to someone who uses this action like someone who is nervous. In most instances this can be seen more along the lines of uncertainty if a question is asked while looking for facts.

 

Biting the lip and flirting

In some instances some people will bite their lip when flirting now this is not just an action that a woman would use, sometimes a man could do
this also. This would be done to draw attention to the person.

 

Reading body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains women biting their lips
Reading body language of women biting their lips

As like any other body language reading it is important to take the time to understand the situation that is going on before reading what people are doing nonverbally.

Many times body language reading requires you to understand that your interpretations are just a glimpse into what may be happening and there is no definite action that means the same thing 100% of the time especially when it comes to the differences between men and women. Remember that the reaction from your body language will be read by the other person and they can be right or wrong also.

 

To become a body language expert requires an understanding of the basics of nonverbal communication.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of biting lips.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell – Body language expert

 

Lips Showing Nervous Woman by Stuart Miles,Woman Biting On Her Lip  by David Castillo Dominici :Photo credits of reading body language of biting lips

 

Reading body language: How to spot a liar part 2

Reading body language: When reading the body language of deception or lies there is a long list of items to look at to determine if a man or woman is lying.

 

There is one universal body part to look at while determining if nonverbal communication is accurate.

 

While reading the body language of a man or woman it is important to get a feel for their normal activities or body language signs that are normal for them. When you have taken the time to learn people body language signals that they use when they are being inaccurate it will almost seem that you can read minds or that you are clairvoyant.   

 

Take for instance a person who is nervous when they are under pressure they will have certain things that they do constantly. It could be that they:

  • ·         Rub their hands
  • ·         Sweat when nervous
  • ·         Dressed different than what they are comfortable in
  • ·         Shift more than normal
  • ·         Licking their lips
  • ·         Playing with their hair
  • ·         Touching their face
  • ·         Abnormal movement in their chair or seat
  • ·         Lack of eye contact or over excessive eye contact
  • ·         Breath differently taking deep breathes or even staggered breaths
  • ·         Tap their feet on the ground or their hands on a table
  • ·         Directing the feet towards an exit

 

Now everyone has a go to body language or non verbal “tell” when they are nervous and it is important to identify it when possible. This idea has been mentioned quite a few times in order to remind you that under any given circumstance people will react in a specific way. This nonverbal “tell” may even include a facial expression or a signature movement with the hands or even a nod. The problem is that many times “tells” of nervousness can be the same tells that a person uses when they are lying.

 

How to tell if someone is lying with body language
Is my girlfriend cheating on me signs of body langugae

 

How to tell if a man or woman is lying!

 

So what happens if you meet a person for the first time and you don’t have a lot of time to determine if they are telling you the truth? There are a few things that will help determine if what they are saying is as accurate as their body language.

 

One way is that their story may be too good to be true or over told to make up what they think would be a deficiency in their own story. In this example the story may seem like it is pushed through and either overly detailed in areas that you would not normally ask about or seem like the story is too fast and there are too many holes that do not make sense. You would be able to look for abnormal actions like touching the face or even using the lobster claw of deception.

 

One way that commonly gets confused when it comes to reading body language especially when it comes to lying is that of the direction and orientation of the eyes.

 

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming teaches that by looking at the location of the iris of the eye can determine the modality of learning for a person meaning are they:

  • ·         Visual or a person who learns from sight and sees what is going on.
  • ·         Kinesthetic or a person that learns and is comfortable with touch or feels their way through things.
  • ·         Auditory or a person who learns from hearing what needs to be done and listens intently.

 

Now there is an age old fairy tale that explains that when people look up and to the left there is fabricating going on or there may be a lie going on. In NLP this would signify visual construction (Vc) and if the person looked up and to the right this would signify visual remembered (Vr). The reason that this is thought of as a big deal is because in this theory visual construction means making up a story, fabrication or changing the story or even flat out lying.

 

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming is not always right when it comes to any of their teachings but it does construct good guidelines for the way that things can be. When it comes to body language or non verbal communication there is not any rule that is 100% usable every time.

 

This theory of visual reconstruction would be great except that it is wrong and has been proven through a few studies done including one performed by Dr. Kevin Hogan. Police use this in interrogations, the military uses this style of lie detecting while interpreting stories about actions people have taken.

 

In some instances when men or women are lying they will not look at you while they are talking, now this may not mean that there is a lie directly going on but there is definitely something wrong with whatever they are talking about. This would also go with direct eye contact or looking someone in the eye. Now if a person has too much eye contact with you it is uncomfortable but if they do not make enough or if they break away too long at the wrong time it may be that there is a lie involved.

A good skilled liar knows this and may make the correct amount of eye contact and not really give off any signs of a lie. Most of the time when this situation happens you are dealing with a great manipulator and this type of person is great at guilting you into thinking that all of the problems and or issues are your fault. This is usually their giveaway more than
their body language and it is a verbal sign.

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Places to use body language signs or signals

 

Now where else could you use this information? There are plenty of places:

  1. 1.      A Job interview
  2. 2.      Dating or seduction
  3. 3.      Determining if a boyfriend or girlfriend is lying about where they were last night

 

Now what happens if you jump to conclusions too soon while reading the body language of males or females? You lose contracts, relationships, friends and you can even make some enemies. Understanding or interpreting body language and non verbal communication means you must be able to separate fact from fiction when it comes to knowing what is real and can help you or what is sometimes correct.

 

People have a tough enough time believing information and adding in the layer of detecting lies through nonverbal communication and half-truths makes this task even more difficult.    

 

What is body language? That answer will be up to you and what you think the other person communication is and how they fill in the voids of what you thinks as the viewer.

 

It is entirely possible for you to read a situation the wrong way and your reaction as it has been explained previously is what will cause a reaction in the other person. You must take the time to baseline people and understand their actions and why they perform them unless you are in a situation where you have to make a split second decision then go the direction where it keeps you the safest.

 

One of the biggest mistakes that can be made is believing that one “tell” of a body language sign or signal is a definite. One of these items is the blinking rate of a person or touching the face means that there is a definite lie. In either instance when a person uses these “tells” this is an area where something just inst quite right but does not mean that there is a definite lie. Making the mistake of saying there is an absolute tell of lying would be inaccurate. These examples could be used for politicians all the way to salespeople.

 

The key is to take you time to understand what peoples actions mean nonverbally.

 

As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits: Man by Salvatore Vuono, Woman On The Phone by Stuart Miles

Reading body language: What not to do with your hands

Reading body language: One of the largest mistakes people make when communicating is probably something that they would not ever think of off the top of their head.

Many times people have no clue as to what their hands are doing, where their hands are going. Even worse the Person who is under scrutiny has not idea what non-verbal message that they are delivering. While reading body language it is important to note that whatever the internal meaning of the body language is to the viewer that is their reality. The viewer thinks you are put off so they react. The viewer things you are interested so they act accordingly. There is plenty of room to be wrong in any instance when reading body language.

Super huge point: You can guess the wrong thing as to what body language is saying. Deciphering is not just the case of looking at just one picture and knowing instantly what the other person is thinking or feeling. You can read a situation wrong and it can be detrimental to whatever you are doing.

When it comes to you or someone else out in public where you can go wrong is by touching your face. If you are in sales it is absolutely imperative that you do not touch your face with your fingers. If it is possible using your shoulder or the back of your hand is recommended.

Just think of what this action says to your potential client whether they are reading your body language the right or the wrong way.

If you touch your nose for instance that person may be thinking “I hope he doesn’t try and shake my hand” instead of focusing on your sales message. This is just one way that your body language can hurt your abilities.

Another possibility is that the person who is reading your body language may think that you are fidgeting and may not be trustworthy. Now remember their reading of your body language has nothing to do with your intentions  just what they believe.

Pinocchio was this mythical creature that when he lied his nose grew. In many instances where people lie they start touching their face and you may or may not pick up on it subconsciously. This is a huge reason alone why you should not touch your face whether in a sales call or talking to a significant other.

Many times when people lie their body language will show through as they will try to either cover their mouth after lying or they will with motions try to put the words back into their mouths by making a cupping motion. In some instances the offender will actually use both of their hands and roll them over the top of each other.

Lastly some people will rub their necks as a result of a lie but this is not always the case the person may be under stress and the neck rubbing is how they deal with it.

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

Scott Sylvan Bell

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