Body language of impatience has a few key components that can help you understand and interpret what signs and signals you can watch or see and almost immediately determine impatience. Now there is always the temptation to believe or to think that you know exactly what an action of the body means and therefore what the other person or people are thinking. Base lining or watching the man woman or child to determine their normal behavior patterns is always important to ensure that you read their message right. You will want to watch the person for a few moments to determine normal patterns or routines that they have.
It may be that you are the coolest person on the planet and everyone likes to hang out with you but what about when that person that is with you needs to be somewhere else or they are uncomfortable in their surrounding? You may find that the signs and signals of impatience show through and if they are not deal with your message may be lost.
People can be impatient for many reasons but you will really find that there are really 2 reasons almost everything will fall under:
- · They are not interested in what you have to say or offer because they are busy
- · They have somewhere to be because they are busy and they are not interested in what you have to say or offer
As you watch and read the body signals of a person you can work with the top down approach and that is to start with the head and move down the rest of the body.
Impatience and the body language of the head, shoulders and torso
You may find that when anyone has somewhere to be they may not keep eye contact with you or may turn their head slightly while talking to you almost as if they are talking out the side of their mouth. The head of the person may even nod their head away from you as a nonverbal way to try and escape form the situation. Where you would normally find good eye contact with the person if you know them and now they will not hold it for very long chances are good that something else is going on and they would rather be somewhere else.
When you look at the trunk of the body, the shoulders or even the torso when there is impatience you may also see that there is a shift away from you to a door or someone else, their proximity to you may change. The level of the shoulders may change and tilt away from you or the man, woman or child will lean away from you. This may be a sign that the person you are with does not want to be with you or they need to be somewhere else.
In some instances you may see the breathing pattern change and the person starts to take deep breaths.
Body language of the infamous hand roll
There has been a time where either you have done this or someone has done the action of rolling their hands or arms to you. This sign or signal is a way for the person to say without saying let’s get this ball rolling or move on. If you are a persuader or influencer your commitment to a message or a time has overstepped its bounds and chances are good you are about to lose the arrangement or agreement. This hand or arm roll may also be used with the head nodding as the impatience wears into the conversation. At first these signs may be subtle with a finger roll and may lead into full blown hand and arm rolls.
A common set of body language signs of impatience paired together.
The changes in the body language may include groups or clusters of different actions along with the shifting of the body and or torso.
- · Hand and arm rolls
- · Glaring of the eyes
- · Loss or lack of eye contact
- · Micro expressions of contempt
- · Shaking of the head
- Deep breaths and or sighs
- · Foot tapping
- · A body tilt toward the door
- · A change in proximity
- · Signs of pouting in the face
- · Over animation in the arms and head
- · Feet shifting away from you
There may also be some ever so subtle signs and signals that may even be considered convert could include the feet and hands of the person who is impatient. It may just be that the person who is impatient is slightly pointing their hand or starts to point a foot away from you.
Verbal actions coupled with nonverbal actions
Impatience not only changes the nonverbal actions of the body but may also include the verbal attributes of another person wanting or having to be somewhere else. The pace of the words may speed up along with sentences that become shorter when impatience is present. Answers to questions may also become “yes” or “no” answers to get away faster.
Couple the all of the actions of the body along with the nonverbal actions and you spot when impatience has set in.
What to do with the signs of impatience
There will be times that you will read the signs of impatience and there is a right way to deal with the situation. You can use a phrase similar to “I sense you have somewhere else to be”. Now this can be done wrong if you are not patient and it isn’t vocalized the right way and if that is the case the nonverbal actions of the man or the woman will really change and they will react to you in a negative way.
Remember to be patient as you read the body language of others and that your reactions can cause more problems than what you started with.
As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language and or nonverbal communication.
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Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the nonverbal actions of impatience: Video credit