Body language of impatience

Body language of impatience has a few key components that can help you understand and interpret what signs and signals you can watch or see and almost immediately determine impatience. Now there is always the temptation to believe or to think that you know exactly what an action of the body means and therefore what the other person or people are thinking. Base lining or watching the man woman or child to determine their normal behavior patterns is always important to ensure that you read their message right. You will want to watch the person for a few moments to determine normal patterns or routines that they have.

It may be that you are the coolest person on the planet and everyone likes to hang out with you but what about when that person that is with you needs to be somewhere else or they are uncomfortable in their surrounding? You may find that the signs and signals of impatience show through and if they are not deal with your message may be lost.

 

 People can be impatient for many reasons but you will really find that there are really 2 reasons almost everything will fall under:

  • ·         They are not interested in what you have to say or offer because they are busy
  • ·         They have somewhere to be because they are busy and they are not interested in what you have to say or offer

 

As you watch and read the body signals of a person you can work with the top down approach and that is to start with the head and move down the rest of the body.

 

Impatience and the body language of the head, shoulders and torso

You may find that when anyone has somewhere to be they may not keep eye contact with you or may turn their head slightly while talking to you almost as if they are talking out the side of their mouth. The head of the person may even nod their head away from you as a nonverbal way to try and escape form the situation. Where you would normally find good eye contact with the person if you know them and now they will not hold it for very long chances are good that something else is going on and they would rather be somewhere else.

 

When you look at the trunk of the body, the shoulders or even the torso when there is impatience you may also see that there is a shift away from you to a door or someone else, their proximity to you may change. The level of the shoulders may change and tilt away from you or the man, woman or child will lean away from you. This may be a sign that the person you are with does not want to be with you or they need to be somewhere else.  

In some instances you may see the breathing pattern change and the person starts to take deep breaths.

 

Body language of the infamous hand roll

There has been a time where either you have done this or someone has done the action of rolling their hands or arms to you. This sign or signal is a way for the person to say without saying let’s get this ball rolling or move on. If you are a persuader or influencer your commitment to a message or a time has overstepped its bounds and chances are good you are about to lose the arrangement or agreement. This hand or arm roll may also be used with the head nodding as the impatience wears into the conversation. At first these signs may be subtle with a finger roll and may lead into full blown hand and arm rolls.   

 

A common set of body language signs of impatience paired together.

The changes in the body language may include groups or clusters of different actions along with the shifting of the body and or torso.

  • ·         Hand and arm rolls
  • ·         Glaring of the eyes
  • ·         Loss or lack of eye contact
  • ·         Micro expressions of contempt 
  • ·        Shaking of the head  
  •           Deep breaths and or sighs
  • ·         Foot tapping
  • ·         A body tilt toward the door
  • ·         A change in proximity
  • ·         Signs of pouting in the face
  • ·         Over animation in the arms and head
  • ·         Feet shifting away from you

There may also be some ever so subtle signs and signals that may even be considered convert could include the feet and hands of the person who is impatient. It may just be that the person who is impatient is slightly pointing their hand or starts to point a foot away from you.

 

Verbal actions coupled with nonverbal actions   

Impatience not only changes the nonverbal actions of the body but may also include the verbal attributes of another person wanting or having to be somewhere else. The pace of the words may speed up along with sentences that become shorter when impatience is present. Answers to questions may also become “yes” or “no” answers to get away faster.

Couple the all of the actions of the body along with the nonverbal actions and you spot when impatience has set in.

 

What to do with the signs of impatience

There will be times that you will read the signs of impatience and there is a right way to deal with the situation. You can use a phrase similar to “I sense you have somewhere else to be”. Now this can be done wrong if you are not patient and it isn’t vocalized the right way and if that is the case the nonverbal actions of the man or the woman will really change and they will react to you in a negative way.

 

Remember to be patient as you read the body language of others and that your reactions can cause more problems than what you started with.

 

Learning how to read body language can increase you effective communication skills.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language and or nonverbal communication.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Body language of frustration

Body language of frustration: Whether you are out in public, at the office or even at the home there are times where frustration happens. Frustration can be because of you, another person or no one in general.

 

What if there were a way for you to see the signs and signals of frustration to possibly defuse the situation before it escalates to more than what it already is. As you watch the man or the woman there are some very specific actions that happens as the frustrations sets in that you can identify and observe.

 

There may just be a few signs of frustration or you may find that there are many combined together. There are a few items to look at when determining a man or a woman is showing the nonverbal signs of frustration:

  • ·         The facial expressions of the man or the woman
  • ·         The hands and arms of the man or the woman
  • ·         The posture of the man  or the woman
  • ·         The breathing pattern of the man or the woman
  • ·         The proximity of the man or woman

 

Body language of frustration and the face

As a man or woman becomes frustrated you may first see the effects in their face. There may be the micro expressions of disgust or contempt in their face. The frustration in the face may go as far as biting the lip.

 

In some instances the man or the woman may just shake their head “no” and look at the person or even look away from the person that is the “cause” of the emotion and all wht while they may have the micro expressions going for everyone to see.

 

It may just be a sour look on the offenders face that will tip you off to their emotion.

 

If the person becomes angry while frustrated you may see their eyes pin and they may even become locked on the one who has caused the issue.

 

Body language of frustration and movements of the hands and arms

As a man or woman becomes frustrated you may see their hands and arms making sharp and fast movements. They may make a fist with their hands or the fist may be used as control to hold back from doing something they might regret. The man or the woman may push away their frustrations or throw their hands up in the air

 

You may see their arms leave past the area of social value meaning you can see their arms outstretched and animated more than normal.

The movements that you may see with the arms and hands may seem frantic especially the more angry that the man or the woman becomes. In some instances the frustrated person may not even move their arms and they just may be folded. Even with their arms folded you may see their hands shaking.

 

Body language of frustration and the posture of the man or woman

When you see the posture and the movements of the body of a frustrated man or woman the emotion may cause them to stand straight up. There are times where they may turn their body away from the offender who got them frustrated. The chest may be puffed up also as their anger increases.

 

Body language of frustration and the breathing patterns

As the man or the works their way through their emotions you may see them take deep breathes. The breathing pattern may also become shorter. Now there are times where you can’t see the rib cages of most people with clothes on but with anger you may see the excessive or deep breathing as the frustration builds

 

Body language of frustration and proximity

There are a few variations of proximity when men or women become frustrated. As frustration sets in and goes through the stages the proximity may change.  

  • ·         Move towards the person who caused the frustration
  • ·         Move away from the person who caused the frustration

 

There are times where frustrated people move towards the man or the woman who has put them in the emotional state or near the item that is causing them pain or anguish.

 

For some the proximity of the party or item that causes the frustration is enough to get them to move away from the root cause, they may even give up and walk away.

 

Body language of frustrated men or woman and how to deal with them

Knowing the signs and signals of a frustrated person may allow you to defuse the situation by watching your own body language so that you do not activate the law of reaction. You will also want to make sure that you keep away from pointing and also watch your proximity to the person who is either frustrated and make sure you stay out of their bell bubble. Giving the person room so that they are not crowded will help but if you feel that they are closing in on you will want to get away. It is also not a good idea to get them cornered or crowded because frustration can turn to anger.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you in many situations from business to relationships and beyond.

I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions on the body language of frustration.

 

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Body language of successful women

 

Body language of successful women: Having the ability to read body language like an expert  can help you in many situations whether professional, personal or even when it is dangerous. Understanding the cues or nonverbal actions that men and women take will allow you the ability.

 

Women have some specific traits that they have when it comes to body language and typically women are softer when it comes to their actions and what they do than what you would find with the body language of a man. This is not a judgment or a bad thing it just is what it is.  

 

The approach that women have when working with others is different than what a man might do and this ranges from the way that they walk up to a man or woman and what body language or nonverbal actions that they use.

 

Women have come far in the short span of the last 50 years just going back that far it wasn’t common for a woman to own a business or to be successful without a man. It’s a great and fantastic thing that it is more and more common to see successful women.

 

When it comes to the nonverbal signs of successful women there will be plenty of “maybe’s and “possibly” statements as there is no exact uniform body language of successful women or men just some common threads that may or may not happen as with any other reading of nonverbal actions.

 

As a general guide you will always want to baseline the man or the woman that you want to read the body language of especially if you are going to interact, you will not want to have some issues with the law of reaction.  

 

When successful women read your body language or nonverbal actions know and understand that you will be under far more scrutiny than you would be of that of a successful man, they will know what to look for.

 

Body language of successful women and confidence

Typically for all of the issues that have held women successful women back they will normally show good signs of confidence. The successful women will normally glide while they walk and it will seem like its even. The eye contact may be stronger than normal as successful women have probably been “eye checked” to see how serious they may be about their business strategies and or tactics and this may really be the case when a man doesn’t believe that “she” will be able to succeed.   Women can tell when a man or another woman lacks confidence as they have been approached for dating and can interpret the bad sigans and signals from the lack of confidence.

 

Body language of successful women’s hands and touching others  

Typically women take better care of their hands than what men do. You may notice that a successful woman has possible manicured hands and clean skin. A woman who is successful may or may not touch others but when she does it will be appropriate to make sure that the wrong message is not sent to the recipient especially if the recipient is a man. To put it simply a successful woman will know where to touch and where not to no matter what her hands look like.

 

Pay attention to how you touch a woman successful or not for them it will be a comfort zone issue. Know that the general rule is that it is ok to touch a woman after they have touched you in limited locations like particularly on the back of their arm from the shoulder to the elbow. Now for the guys who think that they are pick up artists or alpha males the men may think that these rules do not apply to them.

 

If you are a man or woman reading this women will be looking at your hands to determine what they can decipher about you without even talking.  

 

Body language of successful women’s clothing

You may find that successful women dress well, now that doesn’t always mean expensive cloths but you will find that most of the time successful women will make sure that their presentation of what they wear is acceptable to the other women and men around them.

 

If you get the chance to ask women who they dress up for whether its shoes, clothing, makeup, accessories and they will normally say that they way that they look is for other women to not be judged by them. This may not be the case for men, for the most part men only worry about what woman think (this is not a 100% for every man).

 

A successful woman will show through he nonverbal signs of her clothing that she is a force to be reckoned with especially if she is used to seeing the micro expressions of contempt.

 

Women whether successful or not will typically pay attention to how other women and men are dressed and make their decisions based upon what they see.

 

Body language of successful women’s accessories

You will find that successful women will typically know the limitations of what accessories should be worm in each occasion. You may find that “she” has bracelets, earrings, pendants on a chain or a ring that are tasteful but not excessive. This is not a 100% rule as some successful women make sure that you know she has money and the diamonds and gold will prove it.

 

You may find that the successful woman is carrying a nice purse and that her accessories have to match what she is wearing.

 

 

Body language of successful women’s shoes

Men typically don’t understand that for women shoes are an accessory that can make or break an outfit whether a woman is successful or not it is typical for women to pay close attention to shoes but not just theirs, but your also.

 

For some women dirty shoes are a deal breaker especially if you have not taken care of yours. That means that they better be cleaned and or polished and this could be for a man or a women. Women usually pay more attention to details and make their decisions based upon “gut instinct” more than what men do.

 

If you tell a woman that you are successful the shoes that you wear as a man or a woman may just give away whether you are telling the truth or fabricating your abilities.    

 

Body language of successful women’s nonverbal actions

Successful women will understand the rules of proximity even if they don’t know a name like “bell bubble”. Women can be more intuitive when it comes to dealing with others and may have a better sense of paying attention to what their body is doing so that they do not have to answer for it later.

 

A successful women will pay attention to your nonverbal actions to see if what you are saying will match up to what your body is saying or doing.

 

It is not ever a good idea to lie to someone but lying to a successful woman would be a mistake especially if they have kids because they are used to seeing kids make things up to not get into trouble. If she thinks for a second that you are not being truthful chances are you are done and will not get a second chance.  

 

Body language of successful women and double standards

Over the years with women being around business the unofficial rules have relaxed but there still is plenty of room to make changes. You may see successful women show the signs of frustration while dealing with others especially if there are double standards as to what they are doing and dealing with men. Women can touch other women or men but its not the other way around for women getting touched by men there is a double standard but that isn’t a bad thing.

 

 

Body language of successful women as times change

It’s a good thing to see women making their way more into the business world. A recent article said that 70% of all new businesses being started are by women. It will be interesting to see the types of changes that move forward as women become more successful and the culture of business changes. Hopefully the endeavors work out for the women and you will get more of a chance to read the nonverbal actions and signs of successful women in the future.

 

Reading the body language of anyone can be beneficial to your professional, personal and even dating life. Home study course can be used when you want and at your own pace.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of successful women.

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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body language of negotiation

Body language of negotiation: There are plenty of times where you can use body language or nonverbal communications to your advantage. Negotiating is something that people do on a dialy basis but may not even notice that they are doing it.

 

You may use the body language of negotiation with:

  • ·         Your co workers
  • ·         Your significant other
  • ·         Your kids
  • ·         The neighbor you don’t really like
  • ·         When buying a big ticket item

 

Body language of negotiation with coworkers

Using body language while negotiating may happen by the way that you stand. When you are face front to a man or woman there is a certain value to the direction that you face. You may have one of your feet pointing to the door as if you are saying I have somewhere else to be. This nonverbal action may just put the pressure on your coworker to answer you faster for something you want.

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Body language of negotiation with significant others

While dealing with your significant other you may bite your lip when they ask for “permission” to go somewhere with the friend you don’t like. The biting of the lip or smashing of the lips together may say my mouth is saying “yes” but my brain and my heart are telling me “no”. You may even see the deep breath being taken almost to say “here we go again” without saying it.

 

In some instances the body language of negotiation may be slamming a door or an item down when a question is asked. Anytime that body language is used to relay a message it may be used as a negotiation ploy.

 

Body language of negotiation with kids

So your kid cut their arm and you don’t want them to panic so you use your body language to get them to not freak out. You may disguise your true feelings with a smile it may not be a true smile but you may act like its no big deal. You may have a difficult kid to deal with and you find that it is easier to make a request of them where you are almost talking through the house away from them, you are using your body language where it cant be seen and where theirs cant be seen so there is no reaction. Believe it or not you use negotiation and body language more than you would guess.

 

Body language of negotiation with the neighbor

You may have to deal with a difficult neighbor and you decide to take them a plate of cookies so that your hands are full so that you don’t use an offensive nonverbal hand gesture. You may even have the talkative neighbor so you decide to negotiate your time by having the conversation far away so they it is understood that you have things to do but it isn’t with them.

 

Body language of negotiation with salespeople

Now there are not many times where people feel like they have to negotiate but it is something that is done every day. The nonverbal communication while making sales is no different, you will use your body language in a way that you may not even know you are doing it. Remember that a salesperson who has been out in the field for a while will know what you are up to. So you wait for the “glance” or the facial expression” from your significant other just when the “closing question” is asked and you know who can be the bad guy and say “you have to think about it”.

 

The salesperson may use a lack of body language when you ask for a discount.

 

You may rub your face and breath a deep sigh when he or she counters.

 

The salesperson may just shake their head “yes” or “no” when you ask for a discount.

 

You may even get the end of the negotiation sign with body language and that is the handshake to signify that the dealing is over and you are both satisfied with the offer.

 

Body language of negotiation everyday    

You may have just found that you use body language of negotiation more than you thought of. You may even have found that you negotiate more than what you thought. Keep your eyes open today or tomorrow to how often that you use nonverbal actions to negotiate for something.

 

Body language of negotiation requires learning nonverbal communication

You could spend time and energy trying to find the best place to learn nonverbal communication or body language and not get the right product. The search is over learn how to read the body language signs and signals you have been looking for like the body language of a liar. Its all right here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of negotiation.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

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law of reaction

Law of reaction: Whether you are reading the body language of others, learning how to persuade or just interacting with a loved one it is important for you to watch how you respond to others.

 

The law of reaction is that you will react to what the other man, woman or group of people around you based upon their reaction. This reaction can be based on nonverbal communication of facial expressions or even a body action like crossed arms.

 

To put this into context let’s say  you are talking to your significant other and they ask how your day was. You respond “fine” but there was a little attitude in your voice. They would then react to your “fine” and get a little attitude themselves and say “I should have never asked” then you get a little more upset and the conversation goes to the moon and doesn’t work out and some issues are created.

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The same thing can happen with nonverbal communication or body language.

 

The law of reaction and body language:

When it comes to body language one of the first items to learn is that it only matters what the other person thinks is going on.

 

If a man or woman thinks that arm crossed means being closed off then to them your crossed arms gives you an edgy appearance. Your crossed arms that cause for comfort for you then causes an issue with the man or the woman and they then react to your body language in a way they think is appropriate.

 

You then react in a way that you think is appropriate defending yourself …

 

Then the situation escalates and there really is a confrontation because now you are closed off and don’t want to listen and are angry that there was a misinterpretation about what was going on.

 

Now if you were to already able to interpret and understand body language your would have known the cues to uncross your arms because the feeling of “being closed off” may appear.

 

The law of reaction happens everyday: You will react all day long to things that happen and your reactions will cause others to react to what you have done. This ongoing reaction happens vocally, non-verbally and even though digital transmissions like email or text messages. This is one reason why it is so important that your message is refined and easy to understand. You job is to also have some patience when others react to your message before you react it will show to others that you are more in control of the situation even if it is your fault and you did not communicate effectively.

Just think of how many relationships whether in business or personal life suffer from those who react the wrong way. In the sales world this is the difference between reacting vs responding. Take the time to clarify before you choose the next action to take but also pay attention to your nonverbal actions to see if another person may see them as threatening or closed off.

 

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the law of reaction.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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