Body language of steepling

Body language of steepling: You may find yourself in a position where you are reading the nonverbal signs or signals of steepling. Usually you will find this body language action in the world of business or politics.

 

If you are viewing a man or a woman and watching their body language and see them take their fingertips and press them together while pushing out the palms of the hands almost like there is an invisible ball that they are holding onto that is a similar size of their hands.

 

Now when you see steepling there may be a few things that you can read into but as always you will want to watch the man or the woman for a moment to get a baseline as to what is going on. The signs, signals or thoughts that can come from steepling can be:

  • ·         Confidence
  • ·         Arrogance
  • ·         In some instances a power play or a false body language sign

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Body language of steepling and confidence  

Typically steepling is considered a sign of confidence about a message or subject. You could see a businessman or woman in front of the board room steeple after a message. It is possible to see a politician steeple while in a debate when they want to deliver a strong point or they may steeple the entire time that they are talking. There are times in business while negotiating where you may see a manager, department head, buyer or a CEO steeple during a conversation.

 

Now you may interpret the signs of lack of confidence if the man or the woman is constantly shifting the position of their steeple.

 

You will want to take a look at the proximity of the person steepling to others to see where the power may be coming from. It may not be normal to have a person steeple within a close distance of another person, that may be a sign something is going on.

 

Body language of steepling and arrogance

As you read the body language of men and women you can see or read into other items as you interpret the actions that you are observing. There are times where steepling is beyond confidence and could be an indication of arrogance. The places you may see this is where a person who is powerful or thinks that they are powerful believes their message is superior. In this case you will see the steepling and quite possibly the micro expressions of disgust or even contempt through their facial expressions.

 

The body language of steepling and arrogance could be seen in front of a news crew, in a sales meeting from the buyer or the seller, in a court room while someone is on the stand.

 

Body language of steepling as a false body language sign

Being able to read and or understand nonverbal communication can help you see that sometimes people will use body language as a way to show something that they may not be. Take for instance someone is going into negotiations for a business opportunity and they see on the internet that steepling is a sign of power. Now this person knows that they lack power so they use this nonverbal action or sign to portray something that they are not. A skilled person who understands body language may be able to pick up on this “tell” or mistake.  

 

A give away for a false body language sign with steepling may be in the shoulders. When you look at the signs of a confident man or woman you will see that for the most part their shoulders are pulled back. In the case of a false sign the man or woman may bring their shoulders in. The other items to look at would be:

  • ·         The feet to see if they are tapping
  • ·         The breathing pattern of the man or the woman to see if it stays consistent
  • ·         The lack of fluid motions in the arms or head

 

If you were to observe what you think is a false sign of body language you may wan to ask some specific questions to the man or the woman to put some pressure on them to see what type of response that you get not only nonverbally but also verbally. You may jst find that there is more to the story than what is being said.    

 

Learning how to read body language or nonverbal communication could give yu the edge in business, dating and even negotiating with others;

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of steepling:

 

 

 

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Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reading body language dangers

Reading body language dangers: You may not have considered that there is any danger when it comes to reading body language. Even the experts make mistakes when interpreting what a signor signal may mean. The biggest danger is that you are wrong in a given situation and it creates some repercussions that cannot be repaired.  

 

Now there is something that happens when men or women decide that they want to understand nonverbal communication better and that is they try to hard an read too much into a situation to reveal what they have though.

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Reading body language and trying too hard

When men or women become interesting in reading body language they become eager to use their skills to help shed some light on a situation. The problem is moving too quickly of believing that every action has a meaning behind it.

 

Many times there is an underlying meaning to what the actions of the body mean. But on some occasions there is no meaning to what an action does or becomes.

 

Base lining the actions of a man, woman or child can help reveal what is really going on while interpreting the nonverbal communication of others.

 

Body language and the law of reaction

The people around you react to what you think is going on and when it comes to reading body language it only matters what the person thinks you are thinking. Their reaction is being based upon the thoughts and beliefs that they have about body language and what they think that an action means.

 

You may become an expert at reading body or an aspiring one but still you must be aware that there are many wrong beliefs as to what an action of the body equals and that means a set action or response will happen. Boyfriends have beliefs about what they think an action means when he sees his girlfriend talk to other guys. The action may be harmless but the reaction may cause problems. In all realities the action meant nothing but the boyfriend wanted the action to mean something. She may not have been lying but he wanted it so bad that he read into the actions to prove it.

 

There are time where you will want to believe so badly that an action really means something that you will do everything in your power to prove it right. This means you will dig in your heels sort of speak and defend your position even if you are wrong.

 

Reading body language and the danger of being right

There is another danger with reading body language or nonverbal communication and that is that you are right with what you read. You may find yourself in a position where you know that something is wrong and you can’t say anything. It may be that you catch your friends wife in a lie and know that something is up. It can even go the other way and that is you find out your friend is lying to his wife about something and it could even be cheating.

 

You may want to say something but there are times where you can’t, you will have to follow your own conscious as the way that you act.

 

You may be right when reading the nonverbal communications of others and their intention, you may even know that they are lying because you have used base lined the situation or you have read the micro expression of contempt when in the middle of a agreement. The challenge is when the people in your group do not agree with your assertions of beliefs as to what the facial expressions mean or could lead to.  

 

The bigger danger is when you want to use the “I told you so” card later on down the road when your assertions were right about the dating, business or even just everyday life situation.

 

Reading body language and being patient

Be patient as you read the nonverbal actions of others especially when you are still learning your skills.

 

Be patient in reacting to others and their body language

 

Be patient before you describe what an actions could mean because there are times where relationships depend upon your description of the intentions of others.

 

Remember just like any other skill you will have to take the time to become better at what you do.

 

Reading body language or nonverbal communication can be used for so many things:

  • ·         Business
  • ·         Dating
  • ·         Making your communication better

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the dangers of reading body language.

 

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Micro expressions explained

 

Micro expressions and body language: When reading non verbal communication or even reading body language knowing how to identify and interpret micro expressions can help you “see” emotions by looking at facial features.

 

There are 6 universal human emotions that can be read world wide in anyone’s facial expressions:

  • ·         Anger
  • ·         Contempt
  • ·         Disgust
  • ·         Fear
  • ·         Sadness
  • ·         Surprise

 

Reading facial expressions: When it comes to reading the facial expressions and micro expressions it is important to note that these actions may last less than a fraction of a second. In less than an instant you may almost be able to “read minds”.

 

Micro expressions are looked at through:

  • ·         The eyebrows
  • ·         The bridge between the top of the nose and the eyebrows
  • ·         The eye lids both upper and lower
  • ·         The eyes
  • ·         The lips

 

Now it may be that there are  few combinations between what is listed or it may be just one place to look to determine what emotion is being displayed. When you have the capability of understand and interpret these nonverbal cues you can save yourself from everything from dangerous situations all the way to knowing when a person doesn’t want to be in a relationship.

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Micro expressions of anger: When examining the emotion of anger you would look at the eyebrows and the lips. Knowing this micro expression would allow you to possible get out of a dangerous situation.

 

Micro expressions of contempt: If you know how to spot contempt in the facial expressions of a man or a woman you can tell when they have a lack of respect for you. This facial expression happens at the mouth only. This micro expression is great to know for salespeople and someone who is in a relationship.

 

Micro expressions of disgust: This expressions utilizes the between the eyebrows and the upper lip. If you see this emotion in a relationship you may be able to tell if it is in trouble.

Micro expressions of Fear: As a man or woman shows the micro expressions of fear you would look at their eyebrows, eyelids and the mouth

 

Micro expressions of sadnessWhile reading the emotion of sadness you would look at the eyes and the mouth to determine if a man or a woman was feeling this emotion.

 

Micro expressions of Surprise: This facial expression happens at the eyebrows, the eyes and the mouth. When you know how to read this emotion you would be able to see if someone was expecting to know information or if they were hiding something from someone. This is a great micro expression to know for someone who is in law enforcement or even a lawyer.

 

Reading body language for “tells”: Body language and non verbal communication is far more than a resources of figuring out how to tell is someone is lying to you. There are times where you can see their emotions happen and you can react accordingly. Now for some people they may overreact and that will not work well,

 

Keys to learning how to read others body language: There are some fun ways to learn how to read body language and the rest of the non verbal actions and they can range from being fun to taking a course here are a few ways:

  • ·         Buy the newsstand magazines and avoid reading the headlines of the articles, guess what is going on from the pictures and then read the articles
  • ·         Watch others in action one of the best places to go and learn what others are doing with their non verbal communication is at a bar after a person has had a few drinks, they will let their guard down. Just remember if you are going to partake in the fun do so after your class. If you have too much fun learn the body language of a designated driver by getting one.
  • ·        Order a course on how to read body language and one of the best ones can be ordered here:

 

Just like any other item you would like to learn about there is a certain amount of time involved to do so.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for you comments and or questions about micro expressions and how to read them:

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

 

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Body language of sadness

 

Body language of sadness: When looking at the body language of men or women there are ways to almost “read minds” by being able to understand and interpret the micro expressions of sadness.

 

When you are sad there are certain things that you will do nonverbally and there are specific things you will do with your facial features. The body language of sadness has some very specific things that happen with the face.

 

You can read the micro expressions of sadness by looking at:

  • ·         The eyes
  • ·         The mouth

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Micro expressions of sadness and the eyes

When a man or a woman is sad their eyes will droop from the top and while looking at them they will not have focus. It will almost seem like they are not looking at anything in specific or have nowhere to go. There is no sense of purpose about the man or the woman who is showing the signs and signals of sadness.

 

Micro expressions of sadness and the mouth

As you look at a person who is displaying the micro expression of sadness you will see their mouth turn down with a slight pull to the corners. This look will be like a slight pout. You may even see a little twitching when looking at the corners

 

Micro expressions and the rest of the body language of sadness

Any emotion will leak through other parts of the body when someone is living through them. Most of the time when a man or woman is sad you will see them moving slower than normal almost like they are in a sped up version of slow motion. You may see their arms folded as if they are holding themselves. There may even be more signs in the body language of someone who is showing the emotion of sadness and that may be they the man or the woman will look downwards consistently. Last of all you may see that the man or woman who is sad breathes slower than normal.

 

Its always a good idea to baseline a person who’s body language you are reading first. This means that you watch their actions and or their micro expressions for a moment before coming to a conclusion about what their body language is saying.

 

Learn how to read body language and micro expressions

No matter what micro expression that you want to learn how to read or what signs and signals of body language you find interesting you will want to see what you do when you yourself live through the emotion. Whether you want to understand any of the 6 mico expressions of:

 

It will help you to see what you may do in the same given situation.

 

In order to do this you may have to think about something that has happened to get you to this emotion, watch a movie or even talk to someone you don’t like on the phone. Whatever you decide to do to get to your emotion remember that this is a learning experience and not to act out on the emotion you are practicing.

 

Learning how to read body language or even micro expressions can be made easy with this at home study course:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language and micro expressions of sadness.

 

Now got implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Body language of anger

Body language of anger: When reading the nonverbal communication of men or women there are sometimes where the body language is 100% obvious. There are also times where you will have to read into the micro expressions of others the help you understand or interpret what is going on.

 

Micro expressions are really a way that you can read minds of other people by looking at what they are doing.  You can even tell if they are surprised or have contempt just from looking at the face.

 

It is important to remember that most mirco expression only happen for a fraction of a second and some instances they can last longer. You may just get an ever so slight moment to catch on to what a man or woman is feeling or thinking.

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While reading the micro expressions of anger you will want to look at the face of the man or woman and look for:

  • ·         The eyebrows
  • ·         The eyes
  • ·         The mouth

 

Body language of anger – The eyebrows

The micro expressions of men and women will be the same when it comes to anger. You will start by looking at their eyebrows. When angry the eyebrows will tilt in towards the center of the face or both will be flat and lower. There will be times where the nonverbal communication of anger will be felt from others just from looking at the eyebrows.

 

Body language of anger – The eyes

When reading the body language of anger the eyes will have a glare to them. In some instances the man or the woman will squint their eyes and in some instances even with the eyebrows down or flat the eyes will be wide open.

 

Body language of anger – The mouth

The body language of anger in a man or woman will also show through with their mouth. When the micro expressions of anger is shown at the mouth it will be done so through the narrowing of the lips. It may seem as if the man or the woman is biting their lips or holding them so tight they can’t let a word out of their mouth.

 

Body language of anger – other nonverbal cues from the body

When people are angry their body language or actions will be more animated. The man or the woman may shake their finger at another person and at times their hands will be as far away from the body as possible. You may see the person stomp, waive their arms, punch at non animated objects or people or they may just ball up wherever they are. When a man or woman is angry it is best to leave them alone and stay away from them as your actions may provoke them even further.

 

How to improve your micro expression skills

In order to experience the body language of anger one of the best things to do is look in the mirror and pretend that you are angry. You will want to look at your eyebrows, your nose and your mouth so that you can see exactly what your own micro expressions are and what your nonverbal communication shows others when you have a feeling or an emotion that can be read off of your face. This goes for any of the other micro expressions also.

 

Learning how to read the body language of others may sometimes may seem like the ability to be a mind reader  you can learn the skills of nonverbal communication here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of anger!

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reading body language of rolled sleeves

Reading body language of rolled sleeves: You can learn a lot about others by looking at their nonverbal communication and the way that they wear their clothes.

 

When people roll their sleeves there are 3 main reasons:

  1. 1.      The person is working with current trends
  2. 2.      The person doesn’t want to get their clothes dirty
  3. 3.      The person wants to appear to others that he or she is “working hard”

 

Body language  of rolling sleeves for trend

One of the current trends for men is to roll their sleeves of “flip” them up. In some instances the shirts will have a design on the inside sleeve because it was not meant to be left buttoned. When this is done for trend it more of a matter of fitting in so that there is not negative attention. There is some social value to appear like others.  While reading the body language of a man rolling his sleeves for trend you could assume it is somewhat for the fitting in but also to get some attention.

 

An offshoot of the trend may be to show a bracelet or a watch to gain some attention through their nonverbal communication. Some people who wear expensive watches may do so just to see if others are paying attention to the social status of the jewelry. In a case like this the body language used may be more exaggerated with the arms.  

 

Body language of rolling the sleeves for work

While reading the body language of someone working and rolling their sleeves the man or woman isn’t really doing the rolling to fit within a persona or to get attention they are doing so to get some work done. Their nonverbal communication may show them as being serious or working hard on a project or service. You may see the person not making much contact with others or you could see the man or the women lifting, cleaning or even moving products. This person who is working may give off the feeling through their body language that they are in a hurry or that they are willing to take time with whatever they are working on.

 

Body language of rolling sleeves to appear as hard work is being done

For some people who roll their sleeves they want to appear like they are working harder than what they really are by using their nonverbal communication to express this idea. Many times you will see politicians who while working in town halls do so to give the appearance of being just like everyone there who is hard working or that more work is being done that what is really going on.

 

Now there are some politicians or people who really are working hard but for the most part they have been “coached” by a body language or persuasion expert to help build a persona that identifies with a person or a group.

 

Whatever the reason a man or woman rolls their sleeves you can read from their body language and interpret the situation to help understand the best way to identify what message that they are trying or are delivering.

 

Learn how to read the body language of men and women

Learning how to read and interpret body language or non verbal communication can help you understand the unintentional messages of men or women and can be learned here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of rolled sleeves.

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Now go implement!

 

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Reading body language of heaphones

Reading body language of headphones: With all of the technological advances that we have today one of the most common items that people carry is a smart phone. Now with a phone there are many things that people can do whether checking emails, looking something up on their browser but along with those two features people listen to music on their head phones.

 

It may even be that the man or the woman whose body language you are reading is just using an mp3 player and not their phone.

 

Reading the body language of headphones will help you understand if the person is just listening to music, avoiding talking to people or trying to talk to people or draw attention by their actions.

 

There are so many items that a person could be listening to while you read their body language and it could be that they are listening to:

•           Music

•           Training information like sales or negotiating

•           A prerecorded conference call

•           Not even listening to anything at all so people will ignore them but will speak when wanted to.

 

Reading body language of avoidance with headphones

When a person is listening to music and wanting to get away from others you will notice that they will make weak or no eye contact. Along with the weak eye contact if walking they will take a path to avoid people also.

 

The person who is using the nonverbal communication of avoidance may walk at a fast pace to get past others.

 

It is even common place to see people wearing their headphones and while working to avoid others the headphones may keep mall kiosk people from asking questions or interacting. The avoidance is common for men or women at the gym, while at work and even sometimes at play.  

 

Reading body language of interaction with headphones

On the other hand you may have a person who is wearing their headphones but also interacting with other people. You will notice that they make eye contact with others and that they may smile to people as they go by. This would be a clue that the person with the headphones on is willing to interact.

 

The person who is willing to interact with others may show the signs with their body language by having one cup off their ear or they may have a bud from the smaller headphones out of an ear. This man or woman may take the cup off or the bud out just in time to interact with another person.

 

Reading body language of headphones getting attention

Now if the person who is wearing the headphones is trying to attract attention they will associate much more moving physically to get people to notice them. They may bang their head they may dance along with the song or they may just move their arms. Verbally they may sing to get the attention of others. The man or the woman with their headphones on may even try to get others to dance with them.

 

In all there are many themes you can pick up from reading and interpreting the nonverbal communication of others while wearing head phones but the best way to learn how to read oterhs is here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language or non verbal communication of others.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of crossed arms

Reading body language: One of the most common asked questions or comments made about reading body language besides how to tell if a man or woman is cheating is what does crossed arms mean when looking at nonverbal communication.

 

How often have you thought that crossed arms mean that a person was not open to you or what you were saying?

 

How many times have you been upset when reading into this body language?

 

Reading body language of women with crossed arms
Reading body language expert reveals crossed arms

 

Now what happens if what you thought meant something that it really didn’t.

 

Being a body language expert that can read situations would require you to understand what is comfortable for people.

 

Just like people have misconceptions about blinking rates and people lying people routinely get what crossed arms mean as body language wrong as many times as they get it right.

 

Reading into crossed arms and body language  

The part of your brain that says crossed arms means a person is turned off or not talking to you is partially correct. There are times where men and women cross their arms as a way to say with their body that a message needs to be defended against or that something was said that wasn’t good to hear needs to be blocked out.

 

Crossing the arms in an instance of protection or indifference does mean that the message is not wanted or listened to.  

 

For just a second cross your arms as if you don’t want to listen to what someone has to say maybe a friend or partner has said something to you recently you could think of that.

 

What does your body language feel like to you?

 

Did you start to get frustrated or angry?

 

Where you turned off to what was going on around you.

 

In this instance your body language would have red like people would think when they see someone who crosses their arms and decides to not listen.

 

If you were to go way back into time and see where the human mind became programed from because of danger you would be able to see somewhere in there that covering up the core of the body is a good thing that protects you.

 

In some instances crossed arms are a defensive mechanism and it does mean that the person is not listening and their body language proves it.

 

Reading crossed arms as a good thing when body language is being used

Men can say one thing and women can say another, interpreting and understanding crossed arms may be the complete opposite of not listening or being turned off.

 

In some instances people will cross their arms when they are comfortable.

 

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Reading body language of crossed arms expert examination

 

Oh and you thought that he or she wasn’t listening all those times….

 

Want to learn an expert body language exercise? Sit in your chair and fold your arms so that you  get comfortable. Now note to yourself how easy or how hard it may be to listen to people as they talk to you.

 

Would you be able to process what they say or would you be in a state where you couldn’t listen?

 

If you become comfortable it may be easier for you to listen to a message.

 

What has changed for you and your beliefs of crossing your arms and if people are listening to you?

 

So when you read the body language of others your interpretation and understanding can be completely correct or way off. Determining what is going on will depend on the context and the proximity that people hold with each other.

 

If there is tension going on someone with crossed arms could be impatient, tired, upset, turned off or just about any other negative emotion out there.

 

In a situation that isn’t tense it could be that the person you are reading is comfortable and relaxed and open to everything that you are saying.

 

Your beliefs about body language and nonverbal communication will cause you to react either positive or negatively to the people around you. Take your time to examine the normal actions of the person that you want to read the signs and signals of when it comes to body language.

There is one last thing to think about when it comes to reading into what crossed arms mean and that is what is typical for people from a region or even a different part of the world? Is this action normal for the man or woman or are you just trying to read into the situation so that it fits your beliefs?

 

Reading body language like an expert can be easy and fun all at the same time, learn how to read the body language of others

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about crossed arms and body language.

 

Now go implement

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of mirroring and rapport

Reading body language: People have the ability to build comfort while in the presence of others and the body language of rapport will give that comfort and that comes through the use of mirroring. All of these fancy words can be summed up as a way to help others be like you or you be like them.

 

First off for someone to be comfortable you will have to understand what the other person is doing with their body.

 

You must ask yourself a few questions to help build rapport and to use mirroring correctly.

 

Is the target person in a good or bad mood? This is important because you will need to know what is comfortable when mirroring and what is not because you will need to be similar.

 

Reading body language of mirroring
Reading body language skill of mirroring

You must also determine what your intention is and what you want to do, are you just trying to build comfort or mirror the person or are you trying to build rapport because they are two separate things.

 

Using body language by mirroring others to build comfort

Mirroring would just be to copy the actions of another person to build comfort as rapport follows after another word for this would be synchronicity.

 

When you mirror the body language that you read of the other person you will make similar actions that they do. Now there are some mistakes that people make when mirroring the body language of others to help build rapport:

  • Mirroring too quickly
  • Trying to hard to build comfort non verbally by being too similar

 

When you copy the body language of another person to mirror you will want to do this slowly and not at the same exact time as the other person this would be uncomfortable and the other person subconsciously or consciously would think something strange would be going on.

 

By moving too quickly you will give up your strategy and it may build mistrust.

 

If you are sitting and the target person crosses their legs you would wait a few seconds and cross your legs in a similar fashion it would not have to be exact.

 

If the person that you are mirroring reacts to changing their body language by changing theirs you have made a mistake at this point you would need to slow down. This going too quickly when mirroring others would fall into the trying too hard by doing to many items as the target person.

 

You don’t have to be in the exact position as the other person just similar this is where the trying too hard comes in.

 

Body language reading can help you build rapport

If the goal is to build comfort through the use of body language or non verbal communication taking your time with the other person is the key to both of these items.

 

Building rapport is a term used in Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP it means that you are similar, not exact and that happens from mirroring another person. Synchronicity would be another explanation of rapport. Similar but not exact is key.

 

  • The person slouches in their chair and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.
  • The person folds their arms and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.
  • The person crosses their legs and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.

 

Once again the key here is similar but not exact and a little slower than the other person.

 

Reading body language of building rapport
Reading body language while building rapport

The places that you can use mirroring and rapport can be numerous.

  • Work
  • Dating
  • At a party
  • At the coffee shop
  • At church

 

The places and times that you can use this body language skill are endless. Learning how to read the signs and signals of body language can be done through practicing mirroring to gain rapport.

Body language reading assignment

To learn how to build rapport by mirroring you can use a simple strategy to learn this talent.

 

Decide to spend some time out for an hour somewhere that there are other people who you can mirror. The best thing is to not attract too much attention to yourself and just be similar to a person that you choose. Now this target can be a man or a woman and it doesn’t matter their age.

 

Do as much of your work mirroring and build rapport through your peripheral vision. Remember to go slow and make your moves a little slower than the other person. As your starting to gain rapport you will notice yourself starting to want to move faster this is a sign that you are getting close to rapport.  This also means that your body language reading is close to what it needs to be.

 

After accepting this assignment that will not only help you learn how to read body language but will also give you the skill of mirroring and then building rapport. You may just find while doing this skill building exercise that the people that you mirror and then build rapport with will approach you in some instances.

 

This exercise may just help you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend in a covert way without them knowing why they were attracted to you. You may just gain a new client or even help yourself get out of a tense situation.

 

 Learn how to read body language like an expert

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about mirroring and rapport.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language: Are your clothes nonverbal communication?

Reading body language: Reading or understanding body language has many twists and turns. Knowing what facial expressions mean can get you so far and then you need more information.

 

Nonverbal communication is more than just a few of your  bodies actions it can even include a few items you have not thought of to communicate with others.

 

Take for example that you decide to go out for a night on the town and you want to attract some females or males depending on your tastes. You decide that in order to attract men or women through your body language that you want to dress better than any body else who will be at the club you are going to. Is that a form of body language or non verbal communication…

 

This isn’t a trick question.

 

Yes or no…

 

Ok so you are right the way that you wear your clothes speaks volumes about you, are the clothes:

  • ·         In style, extreme or casual  – This could explain the type of or amount of value you put on what society thinks of you or the person wearing the clothes. There are some who only buy name brands or designer clothes and then there are people who don’t buy clothes based on anything else but how much they cost or how cheap they are.
  • ·         Tight or lose around the body – Is the person wearing the clothes in shape or does it seem odd for the way that the clothes fit onto the body?
  • ·         Cleaned recently or are the clothes dirty – When was the last time that the clothes were washed?
  • ·         Worn excessively or are the clothes newer – There are some people who wear the clothes to the very end and then there are those who consistently buy new clothes.
  • ·         Pressed, ironed or wrinkled – does the person wearing the clothes pay attention and make sure that they look the best possible all of the time.

 

That is just the tip of the iceberg now you get to take a look at the accessories but for a few moments the focus will stay on the clothing.

 

Is it easier to approach a person in nice clothes or in clothes that may not attract others? When was the last time you asked a homeless person for directions? Did you not ask the homeless person question because of the way that he or she looked? Is it your beliefs of their non verbal  communication that caused you to not talk to this person or was it something else?

 

Is it easy to approach you with what you wear or is your non verbal communication along with your body language telling people to stay away.

 

In order for you to communicate effectively with your body language and non-verbal communication you must first be prepared and that comes from how you have dressed yourself along with how you have paid attention to details of your clothes and your accessories.

 

Yes that does also mean your shoes should be cleaned and polished also since it is one of the first thing that women look at besides your teeth and your wallet.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions

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Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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