Body language of speeches

Body language of a speech or public speaking: Leadership requires speeches or lectures from the CEO all of the way down to managers or department heads. You may also see politicians give speeches. While you are reading their body language you may be able to determine a few things from whoever is speaking for whatever reason.

 

If you want to be able to persuade better there is no better avenue than to be able to speak in front of a crowd. For some who do speak in front of a crowd their body language is a distraction and the message that they are trying to deliver is not effective.

 

As with any deciphering of nonverbal communication or reading of body language you will want to baseline the person to set a guide as to what they do and whether it is normal for them or not. A man, woman or child will have different behaviors depending upon the situation and the emotion that they are feeling. Its always a good idea to get a feel for what they do as a routine and what is not normal for them.

 

When you are watching a man or a woman giving a speech there are many items that you can take a look at to determine what is going on with them. You may see signs and or signals of:

  • ·         Nervousness
  • ·         Lies and or deceit
  • ·         Frustration and or anger
  • ·         Surprise

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Body language of nervousness and speaking

First off many people are not comfortable speaking in front of crowds or even groups of one two people let alone a full room so an adventure in speaking brings out the nervousness even for successful leaders. One of the “tells” that you may pick up on is the way that the man or the woman walks to their spot to speak or their pulpit. You may see a lack of confidence or possibly even a slow long walk to where they need to be. For someone who is confident it just seems like they should be there, they have a good stride, they show confidence and they just seem comfortable wherever they are.  

 

As you watch for the nonverbal cues of  nervousness you will see than hands shake or even a look of being lost. You may see signs of lack of confidence with the walk or just while the man or the woman is standing there. Many times the man or the woman will focus in on one or two people that they may think are “safe” and it makes the situation awkward or dilutes the message that is being delivered.

 

If there is a pulpit for the person to stand behind there may be a “death grip” on the edges and the whole speech or talk and the person may learn in. While a woman or a man is behind a pulpit they may just look down at their notes and not even look up at the people that they are addressing.  

 

Body language of lies and or deceit while speaking

While you watch the man or the woman giving a presentation there are signs and signals that you may observe while they present that will give you clues to if they are telling the truth or not.

 

Since you have base lined the speaker you will be able to tell what is a normal or routine action for them or if their touch is out of the ordinary. You will also want to look for a mismatch where they may say that like something but their head shakes no like they were answering a question silently.

 

Some things to watch out for:

 

The man or the woman may show the lobster claw of deception or even touch their face at a point where the story gets too good or over the top. Now blinking can be induced by lighting, contacts or even medical conditions and it doesn’t always mean that the story isn’t true.  

 

Body language of frustration and anger while giving a speech   

Sometimes the man or the woman who is speaking doesn’t have a good or happy message to deliver. The words or the story that they punctuate are done so with their actions most of the time with their arms and or hands. Many times when anger or frustration is present the actions are sharp, overly animated and in some instances choppy. These actions are not to say that the man or the woman isn’t confident it is that they are amped up on emotion.

 

You may see the man or the woman shake their head and smash their lips together, take deep breaths before they speak, point or wag their finger, show the micro expression of disgust or contempt, wave their arm as if they are pushing or sweeping away an invisible object and in some rare instances give obscene gestures.   

 

In some instances there are times where the speech or the talk is on something that has some sorrow attached to it. You will more than likely see a lack of confidence or the shoulders turned in, possible grip on the lectern or pulpit and an overall slowing of the motions of the body.

 

Body language of surprise while giving a speech

Some men or women are given the opportunity to speak in front of a group of people and they were not even expecting it. You can see this when someone wins an event or is called in front of a group when a surprising event happens. In some instances this even may be something that causes sorrow.

 

If the even is good you may see micro expressions of surprise in the person who is asked to speak. There may be a huge genuine smile as a sign of satisfaction and happiness.

 

Learning how to read body language or interpret nonverbal communication can benefit you in the business world, personal life and or any given situation.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of a speech!

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Body language of shoulder shrugs

Body language of a shoulder shrug: There are very few actions that you can do nonverbally that are almost universal. On that list is or almost universal or universal nonverbal signs are:

 

 

The ability to read body language or nonverbal communication is about base lining or watching the man or the woman to make sure that what you are predicting or observing is accurate.

 

The shoulder shrug is an action where the shoulders go up while a question is asked or when a statement is made. Now this action can happen for the person asking the question or answering the question or the statement. There may also be a facial expression where the eyebrows go up along with the shoulder movement along with possible cheek movement and in some instances the eyes may be closed. There are many variations of facial expressions or even micro expressions that can be used with the shoulder shrug.

 

Along with the movements of the shoulders you may see that man woman or child raise their hands with their palms up. Some will explain that a person with the palms of their hands up is a sign of honesty or it could just be part of the shoulder shrug.

 

Body language of the shoulder shrug and what it means

There are a few things that the shoulder shrug can mean.

1.         I don’t know

2.         I don’t care or its up to you

3.         Uncertainty or on the fence about the options

 

No matter what the reason that the shoulder shrug is used the actions of the body will be similar whether the person doesn’t know, doesn’t care or even has uncertainty.

 

Body language of shoulder shrug while negotiating or arguing  

There are times where the shoulder shrug can be used as a nonverbal action to engage in conversation or argument to get the other person to talk. This strategy can be used in negotiation or arguments where as it is a reaction to a question. A question or statement is made towards one person and there really isn’t a verbal answer just the shoulder shrug, the use or no verbal actions in a way is the statement to get the person who asked the question or made the original stamen to keep talking.

 

Now this persuasive strategy works the best if its only used one time in a conversation or an interaction with a group or individual, the more that it is used the more it is seen as a ploy and loses persuasive power.  

 

When this action is used in an argument it can make the situation worse as it can be considered a sign of not caring by the person reading the action. The man or woman may think the shoulder shrug means one thing when the person using it means another. The best thing to do at this point is to ask for clarification about what is going on. Now it is important to know that the shoulder shrug can cause problems where the other person wants you to react.

 

Body language of shoulder shrug and travel

When you don’t have the capability to speak another language whether you are in your native land or not the shoulder shrug is the way to explain nonverbally to the other person or people that you don’t know or understand.

 

Having the ability to read the signs and signals of body language does give you an upper hand in business, dating and even personal life:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of a shoulder shrug.

 

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Body language of a hoodie

 

Body language of a hoodie: While reading body language there are a few things that you must do first while determining what the nonverbal communication means.

 

There are a few thins to think about when you are interpreting the body language of a person that you are reading.

 

Anytime you are reading body language or nonverbal communication you must first baseline the situation.

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Read the context of the situation

The situation for any body language reading includes:

  • ·         People or groups associated
  • ·         The location of the person or the people
  • ·         The context of the location
  • ·         The norms of society for the location at hand
  • ·         The possibilities of what happened before you started base lining the situation

 

When looking at what someone is wearing you must first determine what is going on in their surroundings. Someone wearing a hoodie when it’s cold outside may not be abnormal as someone wearing a hoodie while its warm may not be out of the norm either.

 

One of the things to look at is what is the person who is wearing the hoodie up? To add to the situation the clothes do not always determine what a person is up to the person may have just arrive upon whatever is going on.

 

So the question is for the person wearing the hoodie comfortable or are they up to no good? Some people automatically think that the body language associated with a hoodie is offensive.

 

Now if you think that a hoodie has the signs and signals of causing trouble or problems you may fall into the Law of reaction. When you interact with person you will react to them and they will then react to you. In some ways the thoughts that you have about a person become a self-fulfilling prophesy.

 

Some men or women that wear hoodies cover their face. Now for some there is a lack of trust if the face and the eyes cannot be seen. When the hood of a hoodie is used it makes it difficult to the full face. The fear from the hood being over the head comes from the thought that the man or the woman wearing the hoodie is covering their face to hide it so that they can do bad things. In most instances the person who is reacting to the hoodie may be wrong and in some situations they may be right.

 

The body language or the nonverbal communication of the hands and arms mist be looked at also when reading the body language of a hoodie.

 

Does it seem like the man or the woman is trying to hide?

 

Does it seem that the man or the woman is comfortable?

 

Is it too hot to wear the hoodie?

 

Does the clothing fit the situation or is it out or the norm?

 

Could there be more to the story?

 

Is the man or the woman doing other things you may consider strange?

 

Is there any other possible reason why the man or the woman may be wearing a hoodie?

 

There is so much more to look at then just the clothes and that should give you something to think about when looking at the nonverbal communication and association of any clothing article that may have a stigma or pre conceived thought about it.  

 

Learning how to read body language can open your mind to other ideas and beliefs:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of a hoodie.

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Now go implement!

 

Video credits for reading body language of a hoodie – Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language of heaphones

Reading body language of headphones: With all of the technological advances that we have today one of the most common items that people carry is a smart phone. Now with a phone there are many things that people can do whether checking emails, looking something up on their browser but along with those two features people listen to music on their head phones.

 

It may even be that the man or the woman whose body language you are reading is just using an mp3 player and not their phone.

 

Reading the body language of headphones will help you understand if the person is just listening to music, avoiding talking to people or trying to talk to people or draw attention by their actions.

 

There are so many items that a person could be listening to while you read their body language and it could be that they are listening to:

•           Music

•           Training information like sales or negotiating

•           A prerecorded conference call

•           Not even listening to anything at all so people will ignore them but will speak when wanted to.

 

Reading body language of avoidance with headphones

When a person is listening to music and wanting to get away from others you will notice that they will make weak or no eye contact. Along with the weak eye contact if walking they will take a path to avoid people also.

 

The person who is using the nonverbal communication of avoidance may walk at a fast pace to get past others.

 

It is even common place to see people wearing their headphones and while working to avoid others the headphones may keep mall kiosk people from asking questions or interacting. The avoidance is common for men or women at the gym, while at work and even sometimes at play.  

 

Reading body language of interaction with headphones

On the other hand you may have a person who is wearing their headphones but also interacting with other people. You will notice that they make eye contact with others and that they may smile to people as they go by. This would be a clue that the person with the headphones on is willing to interact.

 

The person who is willing to interact with others may show the signs with their body language by having one cup off their ear or they may have a bud from the smaller headphones out of an ear. This man or woman may take the cup off or the bud out just in time to interact with another person.

 

Reading body language of headphones getting attention

Now if the person who is wearing the headphones is trying to attract attention they will associate much more moving physically to get people to notice them. They may bang their head they may dance along with the song or they may just move their arms. Verbally they may sing to get the attention of others. The man or the woman with their headphones on may even try to get others to dance with them.

 

In all there are many themes you can pick up from reading and interpreting the nonverbal communication of others while wearing head phones but the best way to learn how to read oterhs is here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language or non verbal communication of others.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Video credit: Reading body language of others – Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell  

Offensive body language

Offensive body language: Offensive body language doesn’t just come from your hands; while others are reading your body language they may become offended from different parts of your body.

 

Reading body language of offensive gestures

Your hands are used so much to communicate no matter what part of the world you are from.

 

Now in some spots of the world some symbols have different meanings than other parts of the world. So you want to say that everything is ok in the United States and think it’s a safe sign to pass off you may find that others who are reading your body language may be offended.

 

You decide that you want to give the thumbs up and think it’s a harmless action…

 

Once again as your nonverbal communication with your hands may confuse others who are reading your body language may get the sense you are being rude.

 

So you decide that you want to point at others, well that may not be considered rude all of the time or from many countries but it does lessen the effectiveness of your ability to persuade the person that you are pointing at.

 

Waiving a fist at a person can get you into a fight or altercation that can get out of hand so the waive of a fist for some may show power and for others it shows aggression.

 

This should not have to be mentioned but in the United States and other countries waiving a middle finger at a person or group is a giant step above the fist waiving and can be seen as a huge insult.  

 

It is important to pay attention to the people that you are with or around when using body language that may offend others.  

 

Reading body language of offensive feet signals

Your feet are the closest body part to the ground in most instances and to point at a person with your feet shows the person who is receiving the point may find that you have no value for them.

 

You walk on dirt with your feet

 

You step on less desirable items with your feet

 

So it would make sense that some people would find your body language offensive?

 

Reading body language of offensive touch

Now there are some social boundaries that seem like they should just make sense but there are some out there that just don’t get the social cues or they just do not care. Touching others in inappropriate places can get you in trouble. If you are reading the body language of others while watching interactions going on you may see some interesting facial expressions or reactions.

 

Touching others can be easy to remember so that you do not offend others. If you are a man and you are going to touch a woman the best and most appropriate place would be the back of the arm from the shoulder to the elbow, not the back, not the chest or the buttocks the arm. In some instances you can get away with the top of the hand.

 

Now for women who are touching men the rules may just as well get thrown out the window. If the touch is flattering to the man he will not care of believe the body language or touch is offensive. The same rules somewhat apply though even though with men the rule are more loose than with the women. The arm or the hand will work but not the leg, chest or stomach.

 

It is tough enough in some industries for women to be taken seriously because of their gender and if they buy into the flirting it may just hurt their real capabilities.

 

Reading body language of offensive proximity

There are some people who just don’t care how close you stand to them or if you touch them and then there is the rest of the world. Some men or women may find that your proximity to them may cause problems. A good rule of thumb is to stand at least 18 – 24 inches (40 cm) from people who you are not close with and sometimes more distance helps but not too much. If you are too far away from the man or woman they may find your body language not just offensive but strange.

 

Keeping the distance of the “bell bubble” will help others from reading your body language as offensive and combine the distance with offensive touch and you will stay away from dangers of getting too close for comfort.

 

Reading body language of offensive looks

Reading the “stink eye” or dirty looks causes people to be uncomfortable with the body language being presented. The “stink eye” may not always be on purpose. This facial featured look may just be a reaction on the part of the man or the women who is making the face. The “stink eye” can be more of a stare than anything else.

 

In some instances people will stick out their tongues or stick their fingers in their mouths when dealing with children as a way to have fun or scare children but when this action is done to an adult it may mean that there is no mutual respect or an anger or frustration involved.

One of the items that would go on the list of offensive looks would to be not to look at the person who is talking.  By looking at the person who is talking to you it shows a level of respect. If you were to turn your back on a person as they talk to you it shows a lack of respect and create altercations, anger and sometimes physical interactions.

 

Having good eye contact will keep you out of trouble with not giving enough attention to a message.

 

A yawn may be an offensive action when done with noise and excessive action. It is possible to yawn without noise or the body language that can be read as being bored. Done as silently as possible with a slight hand cover will keep your body language from being read as offensive.

 

Reading body language of offensive sitting

How you sit while talking to another may be seen as offensive. Without sitting straight up the man or woman may not think that you take their message seriously. If you are sitting in a slouched position while they are talking or presenting you may be showing body language that you are bored. The same goes with having a fist or hand under your chin.

 

Crossing your legs can cause some harm if done too often to draw attention to your actions. If you are a female wearing a skirt this action may be seen as a way to create undue attention. Some may find this body language flattering or a form of seduction so be careful even if done on accident.

 

Rocking back and forth can also cause some attention that is unneeded and can be seen as a distraction or rude to someone who is speaking or presenting.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you understand the signs and signals of what to do in public or what can be seen as offensive.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading offensive body language.

 

Now go implement!  

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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