Body language of frustration

Body language of frustration: Whether you are out in public, at the office or even at the home there are times where frustration happens. Frustration can be because of you, another person or no one in general.

 

What if there were a way for you to see the signs and signals of frustration to possibly defuse the situation before it escalates to more than what it already is. As you watch the man or the woman there are some very specific actions that happens as the frustrations sets in that you can identify and observe.

 

There may just be a few signs of frustration or you may find that there are many combined together. There are a few items to look at when determining a man or a woman is showing the nonverbal signs of frustration:

  • ·         The facial expressions of the man or the woman
  • ·         The hands and arms of the man or the woman
  • ·         The posture of the man  or the woman
  • ·         The breathing pattern of the man or the woman
  • ·         The proximity of the man or woman

 

Body language of frustration and the face

As a man or woman becomes frustrated you may first see the effects in their face. There may be the micro expressions of disgust or contempt in their face. The frustration in the face may go as far as biting the lip.

 

In some instances the man or the woman may just shake their head “no” and look at the person or even look away from the person that is the “cause” of the emotion and all wht while they may have the micro expressions going for everyone to see.

 

It may just be a sour look on the offenders face that will tip you off to their emotion.

 

If the person becomes angry while frustrated you may see their eyes pin and they may even become locked on the one who has caused the issue.

 

Body language of frustration and movements of the hands and arms

As a man or woman becomes frustrated you may see their hands and arms making sharp and fast movements. They may make a fist with their hands or the fist may be used as control to hold back from doing something they might regret. The man or the woman may push away their frustrations or throw their hands up in the air

 

You may see their arms leave past the area of social value meaning you can see their arms outstretched and animated more than normal.

The movements that you may see with the arms and hands may seem frantic especially the more angry that the man or the woman becomes. In some instances the frustrated person may not even move their arms and they just may be folded. Even with their arms folded you may see their hands shaking.

 

Body language of frustration and the posture of the man or woman

When you see the posture and the movements of the body of a frustrated man or woman the emotion may cause them to stand straight up. There are times where they may turn their body away from the offender who got them frustrated. The chest may be puffed up also as their anger increases.

 

Body language of frustration and the breathing patterns

As the man or the works their way through their emotions you may see them take deep breathes. The breathing pattern may also become shorter. Now there are times where you can’t see the rib cages of most people with clothes on but with anger you may see the excessive or deep breathing as the frustration builds

 

Body language of frustration and proximity

There are a few variations of proximity when men or women become frustrated. As frustration sets in and goes through the stages the proximity may change.  

  • ·         Move towards the person who caused the frustration
  • ·         Move away from the person who caused the frustration

 

There are times where frustrated people move towards the man or the woman who has put them in the emotional state or near the item that is causing them pain or anguish.

 

For some the proximity of the party or item that causes the frustration is enough to get them to move away from the root cause, they may even give up and walk away.

 

Body language of frustrated men or woman and how to deal with them

Knowing the signs and signals of a frustrated person may allow you to defuse the situation by watching your own body language so that you do not activate the law of reaction. You will also want to make sure that you keep away from pointing and also watch your proximity to the person who is either frustrated and make sure you stay out of their bell bubble. Giving the person room so that they are not crowded will help but if you feel that they are closing in on you will want to get away. It is also not a good idea to get them cornered or crowded because frustration can turn to anger.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you in many situations from business to relationships and beyond.

I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions on the body language of frustration.

 

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Body language of holding hands

Body language of holding hands: Reading body language is all about looking at the person or the people and then taking the time to make an interpretation of what is going on. It really depends more about what the viewer thinks of the activities because the other person or people will react to what they think you believe is going on.

 

First off it’s a good reminder that it is important to baseline any situation that you are reading.

 

The nonverbal cues given by men and women holding hands can be read through a few different criteria:

 

  • ·         The proximity or the distance between the two people holding hands
  • ·         Where the hands are being grasped by the men and women
  • ·         The pace or speed of walking of the men and women in question
  • ·         Where the people are or the social surrounding  

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Body language of Proximity:

When reading the body language of holding hands it is important to look at how close the people are in relation to each other. It’s not just how close they are but it’s also how they hold each others hand. You have probably seen the guy holding the girls hand where he doesn’t really seem like he wants to hold the hand. Typically you will see a firm grasp but light grasp of the hand instead a lose grip on the fingers. You would see men and women in a loving relationship have a common grasp with each other.

 

Body language of relationships

When looking at how men and women hold hands you can get a feel for their relationship in some instances. There are times where one of the people has a scowl on their face, in some instances their may be the micro expression of contempt or possibly even the flash of anger.  There are times where you may see one of the people holding the others hand with wrap around the wrist. Some men and or women in close relationships will hold or pull each other close as they walk together or even sit together.

 

Normally the men and the women who are getting along well or in a good relationship will have a natural glide. Sometimes when there are problems or issues in the relationship you may see one person pulling the other as they walk or the man be walking faster than the other. On the other hand you may see those who are in a loving relationship walking slow and looking or gazing at each other.  

 

What you want to look for is a common stride or pace between the two whether fast or slow.

 

If the couple is sitting you may see the man or woman holding the other person hand close they may even have the hand pulled up onto a part of the body. There are times where the hand may be getting rubbed by either person.

 

Body language of possession

When looking at the proximity of the men and women holding hands there are times where the bodies of the men and or the women are just too close, at sometimes just flat out awkward to look at. You will see people in a relationship within the bell bubble but when the proximity becomes too close it is may of a sign of possession or a really close relationship. You would only be able to tell by looking at the two people and base lining what their actions are.  

 

The body language of possessiveness may just go one step further and that is when the man or women will have a good arm lock around the shoulder of the other person with them. When the two people walk together the person who may be possessive is standing straight up while the other man or woman is pulled in almost to the point where the man or woman who is being possessed has to walk leaning into the possessor.  You will typically see this type of possessive activity between younger couples.

 

You will want to look for jerky movements between the two and staring at others from one of the parties at the people around them.

 

Reading body language risks

There is always a risk in reading body language and that is you can make assumptions too quickly as to what is going on and you may have the possibility of being wrong. Learning how to read the nonverbal communication of others takes time and patience. While reading the body language of others it is important to baseline the actions nonverbally as to what the men and or the women are doing.

 

Reading body language takes training and or a home study course for you to learn the right way instead of guessing.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of holding hands.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

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Body language of mirroring

Mirroring body language: There are plenty of cool things that you can do when it comes to learning how to read body language or even interpret the nonverbal signs of men or women. One of the most important items that you can learn to help your persuasive abilities, best of all when done right you have some covert skills and it’s all nonverbal.

 

The term mirroring means that you would do nonverbally what the other person does:

  • ·         They woman touches her face, you touch your face
  • ·         She crosses her legs you cross your legs
  • ·         The man smiles you smile
  • ·         You yawn and then she yawns
  • ·         He touches you, you touch him back

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Wait it means that the mirroring and body language goes both ways?

 

Yes it does and you may have not ever noticed that salespeople may have mirrored you.

 

There is a point where you build enough rapport where they may start to follow you and then follow your lead (pace).

 

Body language mirroring of similar not exact

Mirroring body language can go wrong and that is for a few reasons and it makes your actions overt instead of covert:

 

Too similar too soon means that your reaction is too quick and that is a common body language mistake. The whole idea for your mirroring or copying is to be covert and not overt. When mirroring is done right the other person may or may not know that you are either pacing them or mirroring them.

 

Many times when people hear about or are shown mirroring they become too eager to get started and their movements are so quick that it isn’t really natural. These super skills that are supposed to help along with the process of rapport and or the persuasion process then end up hurting the person that they are supposed to help.

 

Just be patient when learning this new covert body language skill and you will be rewarded.

 

Body language of mirroring of similar

When mirroring a man or woman your bodies actions only have to be similar.

  • ·         When she touches her face you can touch you’re a few seconds later but do not touch it in the same exact spot
  • ·         When he crosses his legs you can wait a few seconds or a moment and then you cross your legs

 

 

Body language of pacing and leading

Pacing and leading is a strategy from NLP. Pacing means that you are following a man or woman. Leading would be when they are following you. Now throughout an interaction you can switch up the leader or the pacer.

 

You will know you are in good rapport when it goes both ways. At some moments it may be a body language strategy to give up some power and follow a man or woman and in some instances you may want to be in charge and have them follow you.

 

Body language of mirroring and touch

Now when it comes to touch there are common mistakes that you can make. In real time if you are waiting 5 – 10 seconds after someone makes movement for you to copy you will want to wait a few seconds longer if this action has to do with touch. You will have to practice this out with another man or woman that you know but you cannot tell them what you are doing to so that you can get the timing right. You can let the man or the woman in on your secret after you have practiced a few times. Mirroring touch has to feel natural or the situation will become very awkward.

 

Touching too quickly is also a common body language mistake.

 

Body language of mirroring and where to practice

How to learn body language made simple. You can practice mirroring body language anywhere and find it to be an effective use of nonverbal communication. You can just sit down at the coffee shop and watch a man or woman out of the corner of your eye and do a similar action and then when the man or woman changes their position you wait a few moments or even seconds and then do something similar but not exact. You may even want to watch the distance that you keep from the person when you make the touch so that you know where your proximics are or the “bell bubble”

 

Normally when someone hears about mirroring or wants to learn about it they make this common mistake for body language and that is to move too quickly.

 

As a side note while mirroring a man or woman out in public they may come over to you and ask questions like “Do we know each other”? This action is common along with them interacting with you somehow.

 

You can literally practice mirroring men or women’s nonverbal actions anywhere and get the same type of results. You may notice the next time someone is trying to influence you that they start to mimic or mirror your actions. You will be able to tell how good they are by their lag time or if they have just started by their ability to covertly mirror others.

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of mirroring.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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base lining body language

Reading body language: When it comes to reading the nonverbal communication of men or women there are a few things that you must do first in order to make sure that you read the situation the right way. For the ability to read body language effectively you must take the time to base line the situation.

 

The signs of body language can be overt or right out in the open and the man or the woman doesn’t care that you and everyone else sees them or the man or the woman does not really have control of what they are doing with their nonverbal communication.

 

The signals of nonverbal communication may also be covert where the people around may not see what one person does with their body language. This may be a threatening gesture all of the way to something seductive.

 

Base lining and body language

Men, woman and kids have set routines when it comes to gestures and ticks in their body language. Now there may be the sign of lying and touching the face but if the man or the woman consistently touches their face there is a high probability that they may not be lying.

 

Most readings of body language or nonverbal communication are based on probability. In order to understand what type of probability there is and the accuracy of the read one must take the time to figure out the normal routines of the person that is being read. Reading real time requires the use of probabilities.

 

In gambling they use the word “tell” as a way to describe the body language of a gambler who has a sign or signal when something good or bad happens.

 

How to baseline to read body language

Base lining others can happen real time or as the man, woman or child is in action. This reading can take place live or may even be done over video camera. There is also a possibility that there is video of the subject that can be read to help get a grasp for normal routines. In some instances their can be a great deal learned about the person by looking at pictures. Base lining the body language of others is a highly visible actions since you must be able to see what the body is doing.

 

 

Base lining and normal actions   

When base lining the normal actions of a man, woman or child you will watch what their body is doing by looking at:

  • ·         Their hands and arms
  • ·         Their facial expressions
  • ·         The direction and spacing of the body
  • ·         Their bell bubble and or proximity to others
  • ·         Their automatic gestures

 

Base lining of the hands and body language

Many people talk with their hands and they have gestures that are common for them to use. Some nationalities and regions have hand gestures that they use consistently and they may have a totally different meaning in other parts of the world. In some places talking with hands is not just normal but almost required to communicate effectively.

 

Base lining and facial expressions

Facial expressions can be a rich body language pool of knowledge when it comes to what the other person may or may not be thinking, Micro expressions may be used to determine what an emotion is and when reading the rest of the body may result in almost near mind reading experience of others. Looking at the eyes, eyebrow and mouth can help determine what emotion or emotions are present.

 

Base lining and the direction and spacing of the body

While base lining the body language of others it is important to note the distance between the people involved. You may be able to understand the nonverbal communication better by looking at the direction the body is facing compared to the other people in the conversation or the group. Talking face to face means one thing and talking to a man or a woman’s back means something different so it is relevant to understand and interpret what is going on.

 

Base lining and bell bubble and or proximity to others

Not only is it important to know what direction the body is facing to interpret nonverbal communication but it is also important to not the distance between the man or the woman that is being looked at. People who just met will typically have a greater distance from people who are friends and people who are close friends or intimate can be closer in proximity than those who are just friends.

 

The distance between those communication can help you interpret, understand and baseline a situation better.   

 

The bell bubble describes the distance between men and or woman and can be described as personal space.

 

Base lining and automatic gestures

When reading the body language of a subject you will watch for routine or automatic gestures that they have. When a man or a woman lies they may change their routines as to what their body language does. They may have had a hand gesture or facial expressions that they use and when the emotion or context of the situation changes the routine or the facial expression may change. You will want to look for the changes that take place and the is the whole point of base lining how people communicate nonverbally.

 

In order to interpret body language effectively you must take the time to base line the nonverbal communication of others.

 

Learning how to read body language can be fun and informative all at the same time, one of the best courses to take can be from home: learn more here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about base lining and reading body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Offensive body language

Offensive body language: Offensive body language doesn’t just come from your hands; while others are reading your body language they may become offended from different parts of your body.

 

Reading body language of offensive gestures

Your hands are used so much to communicate no matter what part of the world you are from.

 

Now in some spots of the world some symbols have different meanings than other parts of the world. So you want to say that everything is ok in the United States and think it’s a safe sign to pass off you may find that others who are reading your body language may be offended.

 

You decide that you want to give the thumbs up and think it’s a harmless action…

 

Once again as your nonverbal communication with your hands may confuse others who are reading your body language may get the sense you are being rude.

 

So you decide that you want to point at others, well that may not be considered rude all of the time or from many countries but it does lessen the effectiveness of your ability to persuade the person that you are pointing at.

 

Waiving a fist at a person can get you into a fight or altercation that can get out of hand so the waive of a fist for some may show power and for others it shows aggression.

 

This should not have to be mentioned but in the United States and other countries waiving a middle finger at a person or group is a giant step above the fist waiving and can be seen as a huge insult.  

 

It is important to pay attention to the people that you are with or around when using body language that may offend others.  

 

Reading body language of offensive feet signals

Your feet are the closest body part to the ground in most instances and to point at a person with your feet shows the person who is receiving the point may find that you have no value for them.

 

You walk on dirt with your feet

 

You step on less desirable items with your feet

 

So it would make sense that some people would find your body language offensive?

 

Reading body language of offensive touch

Now there are some social boundaries that seem like they should just make sense but there are some out there that just don’t get the social cues or they just do not care. Touching others in inappropriate places can get you in trouble. If you are reading the body language of others while watching interactions going on you may see some interesting facial expressions or reactions.

 

Touching others can be easy to remember so that you do not offend others. If you are a man and you are going to touch a woman the best and most appropriate place would be the back of the arm from the shoulder to the elbow, not the back, not the chest or the buttocks the arm. In some instances you can get away with the top of the hand.

 

Now for women who are touching men the rules may just as well get thrown out the window. If the touch is flattering to the man he will not care of believe the body language or touch is offensive. The same rules somewhat apply though even though with men the rule are more loose than with the women. The arm or the hand will work but not the leg, chest or stomach.

 

It is tough enough in some industries for women to be taken seriously because of their gender and if they buy into the flirting it may just hurt their real capabilities.

 

Reading body language of offensive proximity

There are some people who just don’t care how close you stand to them or if you touch them and then there is the rest of the world. Some men or women may find that your proximity to them may cause problems. A good rule of thumb is to stand at least 18 – 24 inches (40 cm) from people who you are not close with and sometimes more distance helps but not too much. If you are too far away from the man or woman they may find your body language not just offensive but strange.

 

Keeping the distance of the “bell bubble” will help others from reading your body language as offensive and combine the distance with offensive touch and you will stay away from dangers of getting too close for comfort.

 

Reading body language of offensive looks

Reading the “stink eye” or dirty looks causes people to be uncomfortable with the body language being presented. The “stink eye” may not always be on purpose. This facial featured look may just be a reaction on the part of the man or the women who is making the face. The “stink eye” can be more of a stare than anything else.

 

In some instances people will stick out their tongues or stick their fingers in their mouths when dealing with children as a way to have fun or scare children but when this action is done to an adult it may mean that there is no mutual respect or an anger or frustration involved.

One of the items that would go on the list of offensive looks would to be not to look at the person who is talking.  By looking at the person who is talking to you it shows a level of respect. If you were to turn your back on a person as they talk to you it shows a lack of respect and create altercations, anger and sometimes physical interactions.

 

Having good eye contact will keep you out of trouble with not giving enough attention to a message.

 

A yawn may be an offensive action when done with noise and excessive action. It is possible to yawn without noise or the body language that can be read as being bored. Done as silently as possible with a slight hand cover will keep your body language from being read as offensive.

 

Reading body language of offensive sitting

How you sit while talking to another may be seen as offensive. Without sitting straight up the man or woman may not think that you take their message seriously. If you are sitting in a slouched position while they are talking or presenting you may be showing body language that you are bored. The same goes with having a fist or hand under your chin.

 

Crossing your legs can cause some harm if done too often to draw attention to your actions. If you are a female wearing a skirt this action may be seen as a way to create undue attention. Some may find this body language flattering or a form of seduction so be careful even if done on accident.

 

Rocking back and forth can also cause some attention that is unneeded and can be seen as a distraction or rude to someone who is speaking or presenting.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you understand the signs and signals of what to do in public or what can be seen as offensive.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading offensive body language.

 

Now go implement!  

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of Presidential candidates Part 1

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Reading body language: While reading the body language of aspiring leaders there are a few things to remember. An effective leader is one that communicates a message effectively. On the other hand because someone is a good communicator it does not make them an effective leader.

 

Presidential campaigns and debates from the Democrats and the Republicans and all parties are put under scrutiny when it comes to their candidate as to the message that he or she can deliver. Reading the body language of the nominee or the contender during the debates gives a glimpse of what the man or woman would do under pressure in front of cameras if there were an accident, act of nature, war or anything else that a President may have to deal with while in office.

 

In some instances the reactions to the man or the woman who is hopeful of becoming president is over read and in some instances the man or the woman is set up to get a reaction that can be read into.

 

Reading the body language of reactions

Your body language and the interpretation comes one to one thing and that is the reaction from the other person. Looking at the law of reaction when it comes to body language and reading into the situation it is important to point out whatever you are watching and reading into only matters as to what you believe. So you think that the Presidential hopeful is closed off because he or she crosses their arms, then that is what it means.

 

Hope is not a strategy for the man or woman seeking the nomination to move forward in the election process.

 

Every good reaction in the body language that is being read by the viewer gives the man or the woman a little more confidence in the viewer’s eyes. Every blunder when it comes to the nonverbal communication of the man or the women takes a little away from their campaign for the moment or for good in some instances.  

 

Huge key point: No matter in politics, business, relationships and even friendships people are judged on their body language reactions to incidents, questions, agreements, stories, other body language and even beliefs.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates during the debates

People want to see that their leader is strong and appears strong in public and this strength can be seen through the confidence of the leader. A confident leader has a few traits when it comes to reading their body language:

  • ·         An effective posture
  • ·         Gliding movements
  • ·         Good eye contact
  • ·         Good awareness of proximity to others
  • ·         Using the body as a stage and keeping aware of the “Bell Bubble”
  • ·         Stays away from body language signs and signals of lying or deceit
  • ·         Displaying the correct emotion to be read from the crowd of citizens, constituents or clients.

                   

Reading the body language of confidence by a Presidential candidate during a debate

The posture of leaders or presidential hopefuls is usually that of one of a man or woman who stands straight up. Their chin is not too far up as to seem arrogant but not low enough to seem depressed. This posture helps the person watching or viewing the ability to determine the leader or Presidential candidate understands the situation and has control over what is going on behind the scenes.

 

The lack of a good posture in a moment of presenting may show the signs and signals of weakness or defeat.

 

The debates allows for the viewer to decide who would be best to run the country based upon what they see and hear from the Presidential candidate and this includes what body language that is read into by the viewer especially that of confidence.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidate movements

When a Presidential candidate being whether a man or woman have confidence their body language shows the signs of it. A confident Presidential candidate will have a glide to their actions, they will not seem jerky and on the other hand they will not seem too fast. The body language of a strong Presidential candidate will be smooth and that smoothness will convey confidence even in the face of a difficult or bad question about something they have done in the past.

 

If a video clip is replayed of the Presidential candidate at the debate and their words do not go over well the visual signs of the man or woman being confident may be enough to sway a voter because they were able to connect a good emotion with the sight of the candidate showing confidence through difficult times.

 

Think about the times where you have seen what is going on with the show on television and could not hear the words but you were able to interpret or even possibly understand the situation because you were able to pick up on the nonverbal cues of the people in the show.

 

On the other hand you may have seen a show and the body language of a guest you were reading led you to believe that the person on the show was having difficulties with what was either being said or what was being done. Nonverbal actions may be able to make up for verbal mistakes in some instances.

 

Reading body language of eye contact from Presidential candidates

Presidential candidates who have and maintain good eye contact from those who are viewing their debates may be seen as more Presidential by those reading their body language because there may be more of a connection to the audience or the viewer.

 

Good eye contact can make or break a conversation or a debate for a Presidential Candidate.

 

Great eye contact may take someone who was not really into a Presidential candidate before the debate to a believer into what they are saying or what they propose to do. Now it is difficult to experience real eye contact from a person who is watching a debate through a television but when a Presidential candidate connects with the live audience or crown it may be conveyed through the screen and give the feeling to the television viewer of real.

 

If a tough question was asked during the debate of the Presidential candidate did they look away and try not to answer the question or did they tackle it head on with good eye contact like hey had nothing to hide along with showing confidence in their posture?

 

Did they look into the camera or at the crowd when they were asked about a tough position they have held and now want to change because of public opinion?

 

Think back to when you were a kid and dealing with a Mother or Father, if you didn’t give them good eye contact when they asked about something you did or were going to do did they think you were lying?

 

You may get that chance to decide who is the best fit for you and your beliefs while watching the Presidential Debates.

 

The same goes for Presidential candidates who debate from the Republican or even Democrat parties or even those from the Libertarians or Green parties.

 

In the next article we will discuss a few more exciting things about reading the body language of Presidential candidates while debating.

 

Reading the body language of politicians or those who want to be politicians is a great skill to learn here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of presidential candidates.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

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Reading body language of successful men or women

Reading body language: Watching others and interpreting their actions out in public may help you understand how to read the body language of successful people better.

 

If you are up for a challenge in just about every city around the world there are places where you can go and learn about people more than you might imagine.

 

Ok so it’s not a school but that is a good guess if that is what you were thinking…

 

If you really want to learn the art of reading body language of other people there are two great locations to go.

  • ·         A bar about 11:00 pm or after
  • ·         A mall where there are both people of low income and people of higher incomes

 

Today’s information will be based on the second option or place to go and learn nonverbal communication skills.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shows the body language of successful women and men
Reading the body language of successful women and men

 

Reading the body language of successful people can help you understand what actions make these people successful and what may be keeping others from gaining what they want from life.

 

You may be shocked as you find out a few things about your neighbors that can make all of the difference in the world for you.

 

Just think for a second ponder this…

 

Have you ever taken the time to see how successful people walk?

 

Not just their confidence but how fast they walk?

 

You may think that is an absurd thing to think about when it comes to reading the body language of successful people but it is the basis of reading into what they do and what makes them successful.

 

If you have somewhere to be do you walk slowly or do you walk fast?

 

When you are reading the body language of successful people you will notice that they tend to walk in a pace like they know where they are going because they do. Successful people know that their time is valuable and they have more things that they could be doing besides just strolling for the day. Even on weekends or time off you will normally see successful people in a “hurry” to get to where they are going.

 

On the other hand you will normally see people in less advantageous fiscal setting walk slow to where they are going. Now this is not always an absolute but in many instances this can  be seen.

 

Reading body language of successful peoples jewelry and accessories   

Sometimes people will go overboard to make up for a lack of something and many times that will be in the form of jewelry for successful people. Successful men or women will typically wear a nice watch or a ring but they do not go overboard. Some people would have you believe that successful people are dripping in jewelry or diamonds and while this may happen for gala events it not always the way it is.

 

In many instances successful men or women do what they can to hide some of their more expensive jewelry or accessories. Now this is not always the case because there are some men and women who would like to flaunt their success with their body language or with their jewelry or accessories.

 

Fashion magazines would lead you to believe that successful people carry one specific brand or style of purse or shoes and while there are some successful men or women that do have a few items it may be more of a celebrity who will not touch anything else but a few brands.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shows you how to read the body language of successful men and women
Reading body language of successful men and women

 

Reading the body language of successful men may show that they have a custom suit, one of the designer ties or even custom shoes. On his off time you may find that he has a few favorite brands or designers that he wears during the evening or the weekend but more than likely just has some sort of jeans and t-shirt attire for the off time. Usually these clothes are comfortable and completely opposite as to what some media outlets would want you to think.

 

Reading the body language of confidence in successful men or women

Successful men or women will show confidence while others read their body language. In some instances their body language will read arrogance but this is not always the case. Successful men or women will seem to others as they know what they want because in many instances they do. When dealing with successful men or women their nonverbal communication may show more  impatience than someone with less success when their time is being wasted because they understand just how much their time is worth or that they may be working on another project or idea.

 

You may find that a successful man or woman has fluid movements when talking with others that seem smooth and not overdone. Their hand gestures are typically done in a way where they stay within the “bell bubble” and you would also find that they understand their social value. Most successful people understand how to communicate with others but they may not be entirely effective at it. It takes communication skills to work with others and make deals. Successful men or women may understand their proximity while around others while some arrogant successful people may not care as to what others think of them.  

 

No matter what you think of those who make a good deal of money or who are successful you will find that their nonverbal communication skills or their body language that can be read may be more refined especially if they are used to dealing in high net worth situations. Not every person can be placed in a cookie cutter mold and while some people will fit into these guidelines when it comes to clothing and accessories or confident actions or arrogant actions it is good to note the actions and body language they may display.

 

Reading body language like an expert is a communication skill that can help you become more successful and can be learned here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance  for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of successful men or women.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

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Reading body language of approaching women

Reading body language: Attempting to talk to a man or woman takes a few skills that you may not know about and they have everything to do with your reading body language and nonverbal communication skills.

 

If you are a man and you are about to walk up and introduce yourself to a new woman you will have to be careful to not screw this approach up…

 

…and yes you can make some huge mistakes when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

When it comes to someone especially woman reading your body language you must know that above all else women need to protect themselves from harm. You must absolutely remember this fact: Women will do what they have to so that they can be protected and if you approach the woman wrong you will get shut down.

 

Instantly

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman
Reading body language of approaching a woman the right way

 

Really it’s that quick?

 

Yes instantly,

 

if you break the boundary of trust of a woman before you have her trust it may never happen and you get no second chance.  

 

So what are the best ways to approach a woman that allows them to feel safe and read your body language and or nonverbal communication?

  • ·         Always approach a woman from angles and not from behind of straight on
  • ·         Never touch an unknown woman from the back on the shoulder
  • ·         Never grab a woman to get their attention from the front side or the back (this should not have to be stated but some people out there need it)
  • ·         Interrupting a woman speaking may cause you harm
  • ·         If you hang out too long to talk to a woman you have lost value
  • ·         As an added bonus approaching a woman in a bachelorette party will not work out 99.99% of the time, especially when the woman is with their friends.

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman

If you are a man just for a second imagine the harm that go towards a woman and think about what happens if you startle her? If you scare a person especially a woman from the beginning you will have a tough time gaining her trust. If you scare her good luck getting her phone number, email address or even being friended on Facebook. In all realities you are going to get a fake number.

 

The best thing to do is to walk into a woman’s sight form an angle so that they can see you so that you do not scare or startle her. You will also want to observe her “bell bubble” and not get too close so that she can see you fully. In this approach you will also want to keep your hands visible so that she can see that you are not a threat. If you have any type of threat that is felt at also she will go into survival mode and you will get rejection instantly.

 

Reading body language of touching an unknown woman

Approaching a woman from behind and then touching her shoulder to get her attention may get you hurt instantly. It is not a good idea to get attention of a woman from touching her unless you have been out in the dating field for a while or have learned some tricks from Pick up artists (PUA) and even then this approach can go wrong.

 

Grabbing a woman will do the same thing as touching her but her danger level inside her mind will go up instantly and you will lose any ability to persuade her for contact information.

 

Reading the body language of interrupting a woman

Sometimes men will want to interrupt a woman to get their attention while approaching them for the first time. You will want to look for a break where she has the chance to address you.

 

Now PUA’s will teach you the three  second rule and that is: If you see someone that you are attracted to you should and will approach that woman within 3 seconds of seeing her or making eye contact.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares how to approach a woman
Reading body language of approaching a single woman

 

 If you have made eye contact and approach a woman it is different than just walking up and interrupting her.

 

Think about it for a second you had eye contact and it’s not really interrupting her if she knows you are on your way to talk to her. Now this can go either way you will be received well or you will get shut down.

 

There are really no other options when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

Approaching a woman does takes some body language skills and some reading of the situation on your part. Remember that you must think about how she sees your approach as safe or dangerous. If you approach her in a safe manner where she does not see you as a threat you will have a better chance of winning.

 

If you approach a woman wrong, touch her or interrupt her and your chances of getting another chance of meeting her again with positive results.

 

Reading body language like an expert requires you to understand and interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication and those skills can be gained here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your questions and or comments about approaching a woman.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

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Reading body language of leaders part 1

Reading body language: Some people have it and some people fake it. How to read body language sings of a leader can help you understand who has the traits and who does not.

 

Sometimes people are thrust into leadership and excel at what they do and some people just cant lead their way out of a wet paper sack.

 

Reading body language leaders who are effective
Reading body language of leaders messages

 

There are a few items when reading the body language of a leader to note to scrutinize their leadership through nonverbal communication:

  • ·         Crispness of body movements
  • ·         Keeping hands and nonverbal communication in the “bell bubble”
  • ·         Posture while standing or sitting
  • ·         Facial expressions or lack of them
  • ·         How the leader interacts when delivering a good or bad message
  • ·         How the leader interacts with good or bad questions
  • ·         If the leader makes the common mistakes of lying.

 

Reading the body language of leaders can help you to know what to do and not to do in front of the media or even in front of your office.

 

Body language of confidence through movement

People who are confident have a glide to their movements whereas they are not too jerky and not too rigid.  For the most part this ability to have movements that glide signifies comfort and in turn will allow those who are watching the leader to help see confidence in their message. Now the person who is the leader may have an ability to fake confidence somewhat and when this happens there will be a point where their guard drops and their weakness can be seen through. While you view them they will have a point where something may not seem right and it may just be a brief second where they make a facial expression or they lose their posture. The leader in a moment of weakness may even use his hands or part of his body to block a bad question.  

 

Body language of hand movements for a leader

For a leader to have strong verbal and nonverbal communication skills they need to know what they can or cannot do with their hands and arms. It may seem silly to say that man or woman has to watch how far away their arms get from their body but a strong communicator knows that a person judging them will only give them one shot as to be seen as strong and a capable leader.  That is part of the price to pay to lead. Keeping hands close to the body but not too close will show through nonverbal communication that the leader has self-control. Self-control shows the person or the crowd that the leader has the attributes of someone who can spearhead an organization, country, group or any other place where needed.

 

Reading body language of a leaderhip style
Reading body language of leaders who are confident

 

Reading body language of a leaders posture

A leader when delivering their message has to have the right posture. The way that he or she stands or sits will show confidence or defeat. When a leader stands with confidence they will be completely upright and straight unless there is a medical condition or injury, their shoulders will be square and slightly rolled back. As they look out at their people, group or even congregation their chin will be up but no so far that they show arrogance. Throughout their interaction this posture will stay unless there is a moment of weakness that shows through.

The posture of the leader in question when the combination of posture, hand gesture and smoothness of body movements combine they may show through as a sort of charisma by the viewers of the leader.

 

Part 2 of how to read the body language of a leader…

 

Learning how to read body language like an expert can be fun an informational.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of a leader.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott  Bell Sylvan

 

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Reading body language of hands

Reading body language: There are so many ways that we are judged for our communication both verbally and nonverbally. When most people communicate they use their hands for some sort of gesture to add to their words and that adds to their communication.

 

The body language that is read from the use of hands to communicate can be interpreted in so many ways good or bad.

 

First off an effective communicator would not put their hands too far away from their body. This would push the hands out past the “Bell Bubble”. When other people are reading your body language in their eyes you may lose social value when your hands get too far away from your body as it may be seen as a lack of control.

 

Reading body language of the hands of women
Reading body language includes the hands

 

Social value would be your perceived value by others as they watch your body language as one complete action.

 

Reading the body language of the hands

The hands tell so much when it comes to a person and looking at them could give you a clue as to what the person does for a living. Are the hands of the man or the women that is being read by  another person:

  • ·         Smooth and soft
  • ·         Rough and callused
  • ·         Clean consistently
  • ·         Dirty and stained

 

All of these appearances of the hands will tell you what type of job that the man or woman may have. If a man has callused hands it could be a sign that the work that is done is rough. If the hands of the man are soft it may mean that he has an easy job. Now these two differences are not absolutes as someone who works with their hands may use gloves.

 

It would be wrong to judge this situation quickly because some people who work with their hands take very good care of them and it would be hard to tell what type of job they have.

 

These small clues from reading the hands can give you some information but not all of what you would need to make an informed explanation as to the state of the man.

 

Now reading the body language of a woman’s hands is similar to the hands of men. You will look for the same items when it comes to the condition of the skin. Are her hands soft and smooth or does it look and seem as if she works with them. Now if you are a man you would have to be very careful as to make an observation about a woman’s hands that is something that is saved for a woman to say to other women.

 

Reading the condition of the hands and body language

Now the condition of the skin for men or women is one thing but the fingernails are another item all together. Reading into the fingernails of the man or woman go one more step as to what the person does. There are some men and or women who don’t care what their nails look like so what does that say about the person? Not much exactly as they may not care or understand that there may be a meaning associated with the looks of their nails or they may have a job or trade where it does not matter.

 

So what kinds of jobs matter when it comes to the condition of hands and fingernails for a man or women while reading into their body language?  Professional jobs:

  • ·         Doctors – sometimes*
  • ·         Attorneys – sometimes*
  • ·         Salespeople – sometimes*
  • ·         Jewelers – sometimes*

 

*It says sometimes because only sometimes it matters and sometimes it doesn’t.

 

Reading body language of hands can explain occupation
Reading body language of mens hands

 

For jobs where it does matter what the hands look like it would be a good idea to get manicures performed too keep up the appearance of the hands to be read by others in a manner where it gives an advantage. If a man or a woman gets a manicure does it mean that they are more detailed oriented? It is possible but it doesn’t mean that they are. Does it mean that they will communicate better? It may if the man or woman is put under scrutiny for what their hands look like.   

 

So now that you have the appearance of what the hands can mean how does this really affect body language?  

 

The hands may draw a reaction like repulsion or disgust or they may even draw surprise when they are neat and clean.

 

People look at your hands and fingernails more than people would guess especially when women meet other men or women.

 

Your hands are usually in front of you when you are communicating so they are one of the first things that people may have the capability of judging once they get close to you.

 

It is important to also remember that when people are reading your body language or nonverbal communication skills they are reacting to what they believe your body language means.  

 

Reading body language of hands can help you seem like you can read the minds of others. Learn how to read body language like an expert here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of hands.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

Hands Concept by Idea go, Empty Handed by Michal Marcol :Photo credits for reading the body language of hands