Reading body language: There are so many ways that we are judged for our communication both verbally and nonverbally. When most people communicate they use their hands for some sort of gesture to add to their words and that adds to their communication.
The body language that is read from the use of hands to communicate can be interpreted in so many ways good or bad.
First off an effective communicator would not put their hands too far away from their body. This would push the hands out past the “Bell Bubble”. When other people are reading your body language in their eyes you may lose social value when your hands get too far away from your body as it may be seen as a lack of control.
Social value would be your perceived value by others as they watch your body language as one complete action.
Reading the body language of the hands
The hands tell so much when it comes to a person and looking at them could give you a clue as to what the person does for a living. Are the hands of the man or the women that is being read by another person:
- · Smooth and soft
- · Rough and callused
- · Clean consistently
- · Dirty and stained
All of these appearances of the hands will tell you what type of job that the man or woman may have. If a man has callused hands it could be a sign that the work that is done is rough. If the hands of the man are soft it may mean that he has an easy job. Now these two differences are not absolutes as someone who works with their hands may use gloves.
It would be wrong to judge this situation quickly because some people who work with their hands take very good care of them and it would be hard to tell what type of job they have.
These small clues from reading the hands can give you some information but not all of what you would need to make an informed explanation as to the state of the man.
Now reading the body language of a woman’s hands is similar to the hands of men. You will look for the same items when it comes to the condition of the skin. Are her hands soft and smooth or does it look and seem as if she works with them. Now if you are a man you would have to be very careful as to make an observation about a woman’s hands that is something that is saved for a woman to say to other women.
Reading the condition of the hands and body language
Now the condition of the skin for men or women is one thing but the fingernails are another item all together. Reading into the fingernails of the man or woman go one more step as to what the person does. There are some men and or women who don’t care what their nails look like so what does that say about the person? Not much exactly as they may not care or understand that there may be a meaning associated with the looks of their nails or they may have a job or trade where it does not matter.
So what kinds of jobs matter when it comes to the condition of hands and fingernails for a man or women while reading into their body language? Professional jobs:
- · Doctors – sometimes*
- · Attorneys – sometimes*
- · Salespeople – sometimes*
- · Jewelers – sometimes*
*It says sometimes because only sometimes it matters and sometimes it doesn’t.
For jobs where it does matter what the hands look like it would be a good idea to get manicures performed too keep up the appearance of the hands to be read by others in a manner where it gives an advantage. If a man or a woman gets a manicure does it mean that they are more detailed oriented? It is possible but it doesn’t mean that they are. Does it mean that they will communicate better? It may if the man or woman is put under scrutiny for what their hands look like.
So now that you have the appearance of what the hands can mean how does this really affect body language?
The hands may draw a reaction like repulsion or disgust or they may even draw surprise when they are neat and clean.
People look at your hands and fingernails more than people would guess especially when women meet other men or women.
Your hands are usually in front of you when you are communicating so they are one of the first things that people may have the capability of judging once they get close to you.
It is important to also remember that when people are reading your body language or nonverbal communication skills they are reacting to what they believe your body language means.
As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of hands.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell
Hands Concept by Idea go, Empty Handed by Michal Marcol :Photo credits for reading the body language of hands