Reading body language: There are so many factors in determining what communication is and how people react to your message or messages through verbal and non verbal communication.
You are judged in seconds by others when they meet you and size you up at the same time.
You are judged by your clothes, your accessories, your words, your body movement and even your grooming habits or lack of them.
You have little chance for error and since we live in highly visual and highly judgmental society.
It is hard to determine what is looked at first when people meet you, it could be your:
- · Teeth
- · Clothes
- · Shoes
- · Hands
What if the first thing that people looked at and judged you on beyond your words was your hair?
There are so many things that can go good with your hair and also there are a few things that are not so good.
You can be part of the small segment of society that has been naturally blessed with great genetics or you can be like the rest of everyone else.
There really are three way s that hair can go:
1. Trendy and stylish – This would say that you are worried about what people think or that you are swayed by the way that society feels you should fit into a group. Either way as long as the hair style is done correctly. This trendy style of hair has a low threat of causing you to be judged in negative non verbal terms.
2. Extreme or negative – When this style is used there would be high significance that you would be judged nonverbally and no matter how well your self control of your body language you would have a tough time delivering a positive message. An example would be a hair cut style of a Mohawk in the business setting in a nice suit. This example could also be colored hair or a style that doesn’t match the person who has the style.
In this sense a person who has a bald spot or a comb over and is not secure in who or what they are in the eyes of the person or people who are judging the content of the interaction.
3. Neutral – in this category would be someone who has not fallen into the extremes of being judged by a hair style nor someone who would be in the trendy or fashionable hair style. There would not be much risk or losing social value as long as the person who is being judged is not among others who are in the trendy group or people who are knowledgeable in style.
4. Accessories – You can have all of the right style and it could be the exact perfect cut for your industry or your message but you can do one thing wrong and that would to be choosing the wrong accessory or accessories to put in your hair. If you
choose something that pulls attention from your message you are not communicating effectively and you lose value. Whatever you decide to use it should be subtle and also conform to whatever you event you are invlved with or whatever industry you are in.
It may not make sense that your ability to persuasively persuade others can come down to your hair style or lack of hair style.
Remember you are being judged not only by your message but by your nonverbal actions and attire. By drawing too much attention to any part of what you do that is not needed you can make your message ineffective and inefficient.
As people judge you or interpret your body language your job is to make this task difficult for them by not giving a person or a group a reason to have a negative opinion of you.
As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell
Photo Credits:Sweater Girl by Roland Darby, Natural Beauty Woman by Michal Marcol