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Body language of licking lips

Body language of licking lips: Just for a minute imagine you are sitting in a meeting and the question about the new project goes to Joe and all of the sudden he starts licking his lips. And you think “wow this is unusual I have never seen Joe lick his lips, what on earth does it mean is he lying or is he excited”?

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You ask your boyfriend where he was and all of the sudden all of his body language changes into something not normal. You see him say “I was with Steve” pause … pause … licking his lips  “and we went to a new bar” as he looks away. Could this be a sign and signal that your boyfriend is lying or did he really go to the new bar?

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You go to a new bar and you look over in the corner and notice this girl who winks at you and slowly starts licking her lips. You pull out your phone and Google “Body language of licking lips” to find out how to interpret this sign or signal. Was that a sign of overtly flirting with you, was she thirsty or were her lips chapped?

 

Now it very well may be that licking lips means nothing …but just in case you decide it’s time to find out what the body language of licking lips means.

 

There are plenty of times where people lick their lips and there can be a few reasons why they do so.

  • ·         Out of necessity because of lack of moisture
  • ·         Excitement about an idea or thought non sexual
  • ·         Out of habit
  • ·         Nervous tick
  • ·         Caused by a lie
  • ·         Suggestive

 

Every day reason for licking lips

Now just think for a moment when you were out in the sun and were hot or even possibly when it was really cold and your lips were chapped. Did you lick your lips? The chances are great that you licking your lips meant absolutely nothing but that it was needed. Now if someone were in your peripheral they could read into a little differently. This is a reminder why you need to take a look at what the normal actions are of the person are who you are looking at while interpreting their body language.

 

Excitement and licking lips

There are some people that when they get excited about anything they lick their lips. This rush of energy has to go somewhere for them and the lips are the answer. You would see this as a common trait or action that happens. You would want to know this baseline before making a decision as to whether or not they are lying or if they are just excited about a thought or belief.

 

 Habit of licking lips or biting lips

There are also men and women who have developed the habit of licking or biting their lips over time and it means nothing except that it is a routine behavior. On the other hand if the man, woman or child has a normal behavior of licking their lips and all of the sudden in a situation that normal behavior doesn’t happen there might be a reason for it and it may not be good or it may need nothing at all. This means that it’s time to ask some questions to gather further information about what is going on.

 

 Nervous action of licking lips

On the next spectrum of the level from the body language of licking lips is the nervous tick or action. It may be the pressure of a tough question or an uncomfortable situation or room that would cause one to change their behavior and display. In this nervousness may fall the issue of lying but it doesn’t mean that there is a lie. It could very well be nervous energy just like a man or a woman tapping their foot. In fact you may see foot tapping and lip licking at the same time.

 

 Lying and licking lips

It could very well be that the man, woman or child that you are looking at is asked a tough question they pause and then they lick their lips with another pause and then answer your question. This may be a flat out sign that they are lying but be careful because remember it may be nervous energy. If you are a woman / girl and ask a guy do you love me? If he’s not ready be to answer this question be ready for all sorts of nervous behavior and stalls but even then it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or he’s lying that’s just a tough question all of the sudden.

 

In the case of lying you are looking for abnormal behavior or an action that is not a normal routine for the person that you are looking at. Sometimes it may seem that licking the lips may be a symbolic greasing of the lips to get the big whopper of a lie out of their mouth. This action may take place as a way to get another half a second to figure a story out.

If you spend some time watching the television show “Cops” you will see the suspects start licking their lips after a few tough questions are asked with long pauses or short pauses. Are the suspects lying before or after they lick their lips? Quite possibly but this show is a good place to look and watch for the signs and signals of lying.

 

Just remember before you try and confront your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, kid or coworker of lying look for abnormal behavior then question about it. You may see other signs you have never seen before or you may see normal routines remember the baseline their behavior first.

Seduction and licking of the lips

In the example of the woman licking her lips at the bar that would be considered overt behavior to induce behavior from you or whoever it was generated towards. The licking of the lips may be considered sensual when directed towards a person. Now this is the body language that movies scenes are based upon. You may see a man or woman lick their lips when they meet a new person and they may not even know that they are doing so. Just remember that this may be some nervous energy or it could mean something else entirely. This action may take a few minutes or it may happen instantly depending on what is going on in the mind of the two and the type of chemistry that they have.

 

Now there may be a tendency to look at the lips when a man or woman licks them but you may want to be careful because staring at the lips may be seen as being sexual. So all of the sudden you get excited that someone is licking their lips and you start staring and the other person takes your body language as sexually advanced and that’s not what they were licking their lips for.

Licking lips for many reasons

There may be more than one reason why a person would or could lick their lips while some of them may be good others reasons may be bad. It is important to take the time to learn the behaviors and characteristics of a person’s routine actions or baseline them to determine what their action means or could be interpreted to mean.

 

Understanding body language can help you determine what the actions that other people mean. Learning how to read body language can be fun and also done at home:

 

Now go implement!

 

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Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the nonverbal action of licking lips: Video credit

 

Body language of impatience

Body language of impatience has a few key components that can help you understand and interpret what signs and signals you can watch or see and almost immediately determine impatience. Now there is always the temptation to believe or to think that you know exactly what an action of the body means and therefore what the other person or people are thinking. Base lining or watching the man woman or child to determine their normal behavior patterns is always important to ensure that you read their message right. You will want to watch the person for a few moments to determine normal patterns or routines that they have.

It may be that you are the coolest person on the planet and everyone likes to hang out with you but what about when that person that is with you needs to be somewhere else or they are uncomfortable in their surrounding? You may find that the signs and signals of impatience show through and if they are not deal with your message may be lost.

 

 People can be impatient for many reasons but you will really find that there are really 2 reasons almost everything will fall under:

  • ·         They are not interested in what you have to say or offer because they are busy
  • ·         They have somewhere to be because they are busy and they are not interested in what you have to say or offer

 

As you watch and read the body signals of a person you can work with the top down approach and that is to start with the head and move down the rest of the body.

 

Impatience and the body language of the head, shoulders and torso

You may find that when anyone has somewhere to be they may not keep eye contact with you or may turn their head slightly while talking to you almost as if they are talking out the side of their mouth. The head of the person may even nod their head away from you as a nonverbal way to try and escape form the situation. Where you would normally find good eye contact with the person if you know them and now they will not hold it for very long chances are good that something else is going on and they would rather be somewhere else.

 

When you look at the trunk of the body, the shoulders or even the torso when there is impatience you may also see that there is a shift away from you to a door or someone else, their proximity to you may change. The level of the shoulders may change and tilt away from you or the man, woman or child will lean away from you. This may be a sign that the person you are with does not want to be with you or they need to be somewhere else.  

In some instances you may see the breathing pattern change and the person starts to take deep breaths.

 

Body language of the infamous hand roll

There has been a time where either you have done this or someone has done the action of rolling their hands or arms to you. This sign or signal is a way for the person to say without saying let’s get this ball rolling or move on. If you are a persuader or influencer your commitment to a message or a time has overstepped its bounds and chances are good you are about to lose the arrangement or agreement. This hand or arm roll may also be used with the head nodding as the impatience wears into the conversation. At first these signs may be subtle with a finger roll and may lead into full blown hand and arm rolls.   

 

A common set of body language signs of impatience paired together.

The changes in the body language may include groups or clusters of different actions along with the shifting of the body and or torso.

  • ·         Hand and arm rolls
  • ·         Glaring of the eyes
  • ·         Loss or lack of eye contact
  • ·         Micro expressions of contempt 
  • ·        Shaking of the head  
  •           Deep breaths and or sighs
  • ·         Foot tapping
  • ·         A body tilt toward the door
  • ·         A change in proximity
  • ·         Signs of pouting in the face
  • ·         Over animation in the arms and head
  • ·         Feet shifting away from you

There may also be some ever so subtle signs and signals that may even be considered convert could include the feet and hands of the person who is impatient. It may just be that the person who is impatient is slightly pointing their hand or starts to point a foot away from you.

 

Verbal actions coupled with nonverbal actions   

Impatience not only changes the nonverbal actions of the body but may also include the verbal attributes of another person wanting or having to be somewhere else. The pace of the words may speed up along with sentences that become shorter when impatience is present. Answers to questions may also become “yes” or “no” answers to get away faster.

Couple the all of the actions of the body along with the nonverbal actions and you spot when impatience has set in.

 

What to do with the signs of impatience

There will be times that you will read the signs of impatience and there is a right way to deal with the situation. You can use a phrase similar to “I sense you have somewhere else to be”. Now this can be done wrong if you are not patient and it isn’t vocalized the right way and if that is the case the nonverbal actions of the man or the woman will really change and they will react to you in a negative way.

 

Remember to be patient as you read the body language of others and that your reactions can cause more problems than what you started with.

 

Learning how to read body language can increase you effective communication skills.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language and or nonverbal communication.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Body language of frustration

Body language of frustration: Whether you are out in public, at the office or even at the home there are times where frustration happens. Frustration can be because of you, another person or no one in general.

 

What if there were a way for you to see the signs and signals of frustration to possibly defuse the situation before it escalates to more than what it already is. As you watch the man or the woman there are some very specific actions that happens as the frustrations sets in that you can identify and observe.

 

There may just be a few signs of frustration or you may find that there are many combined together. There are a few items to look at when determining a man or a woman is showing the nonverbal signs of frustration:

  • ·         The facial expressions of the man or the woman
  • ·         The hands and arms of the man or the woman
  • ·         The posture of the man  or the woman
  • ·         The breathing pattern of the man or the woman
  • ·         The proximity of the man or woman

 

Body language of frustration and the face

As a man or woman becomes frustrated you may first see the effects in their face. There may be the micro expressions of disgust or contempt in their face. The frustration in the face may go as far as biting the lip.

 

In some instances the man or the woman may just shake their head “no” and look at the person or even look away from the person that is the “cause” of the emotion and all wht while they may have the micro expressions going for everyone to see.

 

It may just be a sour look on the offenders face that will tip you off to their emotion.

 

If the person becomes angry while frustrated you may see their eyes pin and they may even become locked on the one who has caused the issue.

 

Body language of frustration and movements of the hands and arms

As a man or woman becomes frustrated you may see their hands and arms making sharp and fast movements. They may make a fist with their hands or the fist may be used as control to hold back from doing something they might regret. The man or the woman may push away their frustrations or throw their hands up in the air

 

You may see their arms leave past the area of social value meaning you can see their arms outstretched and animated more than normal.

The movements that you may see with the arms and hands may seem frantic especially the more angry that the man or the woman becomes. In some instances the frustrated person may not even move their arms and they just may be folded. Even with their arms folded you may see their hands shaking.

 

Body language of frustration and the posture of the man or woman

When you see the posture and the movements of the body of a frustrated man or woman the emotion may cause them to stand straight up. There are times where they may turn their body away from the offender who got them frustrated. The chest may be puffed up also as their anger increases.

 

Body language of frustration and the breathing patterns

As the man or the works their way through their emotions you may see them take deep breathes. The breathing pattern may also become shorter. Now there are times where you can’t see the rib cages of most people with clothes on but with anger you may see the excessive or deep breathing as the frustration builds

 

Body language of frustration and proximity

There are a few variations of proximity when men or women become frustrated. As frustration sets in and goes through the stages the proximity may change.  

  • ·         Move towards the person who caused the frustration
  • ·         Move away from the person who caused the frustration

 

There are times where frustrated people move towards the man or the woman who has put them in the emotional state or near the item that is causing them pain or anguish.

 

For some the proximity of the party or item that causes the frustration is enough to get them to move away from the root cause, they may even give up and walk away.

 

Body language of frustrated men or woman and how to deal with them

Knowing the signs and signals of a frustrated person may allow you to defuse the situation by watching your own body language so that you do not activate the law of reaction. You will also want to make sure that you keep away from pointing and also watch your proximity to the person who is either frustrated and make sure you stay out of their bell bubble. Giving the person room so that they are not crowded will help but if you feel that they are closing in on you will want to get away. It is also not a good idea to get them cornered or crowded because frustration can turn to anger.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you in many situations from business to relationships and beyond.

I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions on the body language of frustration.

 

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Body language of speeches

Body language of a speech or public speaking: Leadership requires speeches or lectures from the CEO all of the way down to managers or department heads. You may also see politicians give speeches. While you are reading their body language you may be able to determine a few things from whoever is speaking for whatever reason.

 

If you want to be able to persuade better there is no better avenue than to be able to speak in front of a crowd. For some who do speak in front of a crowd their body language is a distraction and the message that they are trying to deliver is not effective.

 

As with any deciphering of nonverbal communication or reading of body language you will want to baseline the person to set a guide as to what they do and whether it is normal for them or not. A man, woman or child will have different behaviors depending upon the situation and the emotion that they are feeling. Its always a good idea to get a feel for what they do as a routine and what is not normal for them.

 

When you are watching a man or a woman giving a speech there are many items that you can take a look at to determine what is going on with them. You may see signs and or signals of:

  • ·         Nervousness
  • ·         Lies and or deceit
  • ·         Frustration and or anger
  • ·         Surprise

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Body language of nervousness and speaking

First off many people are not comfortable speaking in front of crowds or even groups of one two people let alone a full room so an adventure in speaking brings out the nervousness even for successful leaders. One of the “tells” that you may pick up on is the way that the man or the woman walks to their spot to speak or their pulpit. You may see a lack of confidence or possibly even a slow long walk to where they need to be. For someone who is confident it just seems like they should be there, they have a good stride, they show confidence and they just seem comfortable wherever they are.  

 

As you watch for the nonverbal cues of  nervousness you will see than hands shake or even a look of being lost. You may see signs of lack of confidence with the walk or just while the man or the woman is standing there. Many times the man or the woman will focus in on one or two people that they may think are “safe” and it makes the situation awkward or dilutes the message that is being delivered.

 

If there is a pulpit for the person to stand behind there may be a “death grip” on the edges and the whole speech or talk and the person may learn in. While a woman or a man is behind a pulpit they may just look down at their notes and not even look up at the people that they are addressing.  

 

Body language of lies and or deceit while speaking

While you watch the man or the woman giving a presentation there are signs and signals that you may observe while they present that will give you clues to if they are telling the truth or not.

 

Since you have base lined the speaker you will be able to tell what is a normal or routine action for them or if their touch is out of the ordinary. You will also want to look for a mismatch where they may say that like something but their head shakes no like they were answering a question silently.

 

Some things to watch out for:

 

The man or the woman may show the lobster claw of deception or even touch their face at a point where the story gets too good or over the top. Now blinking can be induced by lighting, contacts or even medical conditions and it doesn’t always mean that the story isn’t true.  

 

Body language of frustration and anger while giving a speech   

Sometimes the man or the woman who is speaking doesn’t have a good or happy message to deliver. The words or the story that they punctuate are done so with their actions most of the time with their arms and or hands. Many times when anger or frustration is present the actions are sharp, overly animated and in some instances choppy. These actions are not to say that the man or the woman isn’t confident it is that they are amped up on emotion.

 

You may see the man or the woman shake their head and smash their lips together, take deep breaths before they speak, point or wag their finger, show the micro expression of disgust or contempt, wave their arm as if they are pushing or sweeping away an invisible object and in some rare instances give obscene gestures.   

 

In some instances there are times where the speech or the talk is on something that has some sorrow attached to it. You will more than likely see a lack of confidence or the shoulders turned in, possible grip on the lectern or pulpit and an overall slowing of the motions of the body.

 

Body language of surprise while giving a speech

Some men or women are given the opportunity to speak in front of a group of people and they were not even expecting it. You can see this when someone wins an event or is called in front of a group when a surprising event happens. In some instances this even may be something that causes sorrow.

 

If the even is good you may see micro expressions of surprise in the person who is asked to speak. There may be a huge genuine smile as a sign of satisfaction and happiness.

 

Learning how to read body language or interpret nonverbal communication can benefit you in the business world, personal life and or any given situation.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of a speech!

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Body language of shoulder shrugs

Body language of a shoulder shrug: There are very few actions that you can do nonverbally that are almost universal. On that list is or almost universal or universal nonverbal signs are:

 

 

The ability to read body language or nonverbal communication is about base lining or watching the man or the woman to make sure that what you are predicting or observing is accurate.

 

The shoulder shrug is an action where the shoulders go up while a question is asked or when a statement is made. Now this action can happen for the person asking the question or answering the question or the statement. There may also be a facial expression where the eyebrows go up along with the shoulder movement along with possible cheek movement and in some instances the eyes may be closed. There are many variations of facial expressions or even micro expressions that can be used with the shoulder shrug.

 

Along with the movements of the shoulders you may see that man woman or child raise their hands with their palms up. Some will explain that a person with the palms of their hands up is a sign of honesty or it could just be part of the shoulder shrug.

 

Body language of the shoulder shrug and what it means

There are a few things that the shoulder shrug can mean.

1.         I don’t know

2.         I don’t care or its up to you

3.         Uncertainty or on the fence about the options

 

No matter what the reason that the shoulder shrug is used the actions of the body will be similar whether the person doesn’t know, doesn’t care or even has uncertainty.

 

Body language of shoulder shrug while negotiating or arguing  

There are times where the shoulder shrug can be used as a nonverbal action to engage in conversation or argument to get the other person to talk. This strategy can be used in negotiation or arguments where as it is a reaction to a question. A question or statement is made towards one person and there really isn’t a verbal answer just the shoulder shrug, the use or no verbal actions in a way is the statement to get the person who asked the question or made the original stamen to keep talking.

 

Now this persuasive strategy works the best if its only used one time in a conversation or an interaction with a group or individual, the more that it is used the more it is seen as a ploy and loses persuasive power.  

 

When this action is used in an argument it can make the situation worse as it can be considered a sign of not caring by the person reading the action. The man or woman may think the shoulder shrug means one thing when the person using it means another. The best thing to do at this point is to ask for clarification about what is going on. Now it is important to know that the shoulder shrug can cause problems where the other person wants you to react.

 

Body language of shoulder shrug and travel

When you don’t have the capability to speak another language whether you are in your native land or not the shoulder shrug is the way to explain nonverbally to the other person or people that you don’t know or understand.

 

Having the ability to read the signs and signals of body language does give you an upper hand in business, dating and even personal life:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of a shoulder shrug.

 

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the body language and nonverbal signs of the shoulder shrug: Video credit.   

Body language of steepling

Body language of steepling: You may find yourself in a position where you are reading the nonverbal signs or signals of steepling. Usually you will find this body language action in the world of business or politics.

 

If you are viewing a man or a woman and watching their body language and see them take their fingertips and press them together while pushing out the palms of the hands almost like there is an invisible ball that they are holding onto that is a similar size of their hands.

 

Now when you see steepling there may be a few things that you can read into but as always you will want to watch the man or the woman for a moment to get a baseline as to what is going on. The signs, signals or thoughts that can come from steepling can be:

  • ·         Confidence
  • ·         Arrogance
  • ·         In some instances a power play or a false body language sign

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Body language of steepling and confidence  

Typically steepling is considered a sign of confidence about a message or subject. You could see a businessman or woman in front of the board room steeple after a message. It is possible to see a politician steeple while in a debate when they want to deliver a strong point or they may steeple the entire time that they are talking. There are times in business while negotiating where you may see a manager, department head, buyer or a CEO steeple during a conversation.

 

Now you may interpret the signs of lack of confidence if the man or the woman is constantly shifting the position of their steeple.

 

You will want to take a look at the proximity of the person steepling to others to see where the power may be coming from. It may not be normal to have a person steeple within a close distance of another person, that may be a sign something is going on.

 

Body language of steepling and arrogance

As you read the body language of men and women you can see or read into other items as you interpret the actions that you are observing. There are times where steepling is beyond confidence and could be an indication of arrogance. The places you may see this is where a person who is powerful or thinks that they are powerful believes their message is superior. In this case you will see the steepling and quite possibly the micro expressions of disgust or even contempt through their facial expressions.

 

The body language of steepling and arrogance could be seen in front of a news crew, in a sales meeting from the buyer or the seller, in a court room while someone is on the stand.

 

Body language of steepling as a false body language sign

Being able to read and or understand nonverbal communication can help you see that sometimes people will use body language as a way to show something that they may not be. Take for instance someone is going into negotiations for a business opportunity and they see on the internet that steepling is a sign of power. Now this person knows that they lack power so they use this nonverbal action or sign to portray something that they are not. A skilled person who understands body language may be able to pick up on this “tell” or mistake.  

 

A give away for a false body language sign with steepling may be in the shoulders. When you look at the signs of a confident man or woman you will see that for the most part their shoulders are pulled back. In the case of a false sign the man or woman may bring their shoulders in. The other items to look at would be:

  • ·         The feet to see if they are tapping
  • ·         The breathing pattern of the man or the woman to see if it stays consistent
  • ·         The lack of fluid motions in the arms or head

 

If you were to observe what you think is a false sign of body language you may wan to ask some specific questions to the man or the woman to put some pressure on them to see what type of response that you get not only nonverbally but also verbally. You may jst find that there is more to the story than what is being said.    

 

Learning how to read body language or nonverbal communication could give yu the edge in business, dating and even negotiating with others;

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of steepling:

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reading body language dangers

Reading body language dangers: You may not have considered that there is any danger when it comes to reading body language. Even the experts make mistakes when interpreting what a signor signal may mean. The biggest danger is that you are wrong in a given situation and it creates some repercussions that cannot be repaired.  

 

Now there is something that happens when men or women decide that they want to understand nonverbal communication better and that is they try to hard an read too much into a situation to reveal what they have though.

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Reading body language and trying too hard

When men or women become interesting in reading body language they become eager to use their skills to help shed some light on a situation. The problem is moving too quickly of believing that every action has a meaning behind it.

 

Many times there is an underlying meaning to what the actions of the body mean. But on some occasions there is no meaning to what an action does or becomes.

 

Base lining the actions of a man, woman or child can help reveal what is really going on while interpreting the nonverbal communication of others.

 

Body language and the law of reaction

The people around you react to what you think is going on and when it comes to reading body language it only matters what the person thinks you are thinking. Their reaction is being based upon the thoughts and beliefs that they have about body language and what they think that an action means.

 

You may become an expert at reading body or an aspiring one but still you must be aware that there are many wrong beliefs as to what an action of the body equals and that means a set action or response will happen. Boyfriends have beliefs about what they think an action means when he sees his girlfriend talk to other guys. The action may be harmless but the reaction may cause problems. In all realities the action meant nothing but the boyfriend wanted the action to mean something. She may not have been lying but he wanted it so bad that he read into the actions to prove it.

 

There are time where you will want to believe so badly that an action really means something that you will do everything in your power to prove it right. This means you will dig in your heels sort of speak and defend your position even if you are wrong.

 

Reading body language and the danger of being right

There is another danger with reading body language or nonverbal communication and that is that you are right with what you read. You may find yourself in a position where you know that something is wrong and you can’t say anything. It may be that you catch your friends wife in a lie and know that something is up. It can even go the other way and that is you find out your friend is lying to his wife about something and it could even be cheating.

 

You may want to say something but there are times where you can’t, you will have to follow your own conscious as the way that you act.

 

You may be right when reading the nonverbal communications of others and their intention, you may even know that they are lying because you have used base lined the situation or you have read the micro expression of contempt when in the middle of a agreement. The challenge is when the people in your group do not agree with your assertions of beliefs as to what the facial expressions mean or could lead to.  

 

The bigger danger is when you want to use the “I told you so” card later on down the road when your assertions were right about the dating, business or even just everyday life situation.

 

Reading body language and being patient

Be patient as you read the nonverbal actions of others especially when you are still learning your skills.

 

Be patient in reacting to others and their body language

 

Be patient before you describe what an actions could mean because there are times where relationships depend upon your description of the intentions of others.

 

Remember just like any other skill you will have to take the time to become better at what you do.

 

Reading body language or nonverbal communication can be used for so many things:

  • ·         Business
  • ·         Dating
  • ·         Making your communication better

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the dangers of reading body language.

 

 

 

 

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Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body language and the dangers of learning by Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell  

Body language of yawning

Body language of yawning: It never seems to fail that you are in a meeting and the guy next to you yawns but does it covertly and the next thing that you know you too are yawning.

 So first off are yawns contagious?

 You bet they are..

 Is there a nonverbal communication to yawning?

 Yes and no.

 There are plenty of reasons why a man or woman yawns and depending upon the circumstances its harmless to annoying. You may see people yawn:

  • ·         From boredom
  • ·         As an automatic response to someone else who has yawned or out or just watching caused by rapport or empathy
  • ·         When someone is tired or hot

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As with any body language reading out in the field whether in business, dating or in your personal life it is a good idea to baseline the situation to make sure that your reaction or your question is correct.

 

Body language of yawning and boredom

When was the last time that you were bored in a meeting, on a date or even sitting with your boyfriend or girlfriend and they yawned and you took it that they were not too excited to be there with you? You make a comment your body language changes you react, they then react and the next thing you know this innocent nonverbal action turns into an argument.

 

Now yawning may be from boredom but chances are if you are with an adult they know that it is not polite to yawn when another person is talking or interacting with another man woman or child.

 

Now there are some nonverbal signs that would be considered rude and that is when a man woman or child goes out of their way to show off while they yawn. It may be that there is a speaker or teacher who is talking and the subject is not that interesting or the person just does it to be rude.

 

In some instance you may be able to pick up on some micro expressions to see what the man or the woman is thinking. In some instances the person who is yawning to create some attention may keep looking at their watch and or the door as a sign that they have better or other places to be.

 

Body language of yawning and an automatic reaction?

Now what if yawning were an automatic reaction and you couldn’t stop yourself from automatically doing what the other person around you is doing. This may be a conditioned response out of empathy triggered by mirror neurons but that is not 100% accurate.

 

There are times where you are watching television or a movie and an actor yawns and it may trigger you to yawn in this case it would be an automatic reaction. A more likely situation is that a person near you yawns and it triggers you to yawn.

 

It has been figured that around age 4 is when yawing starts to be contagious to children and when this reaction does not happen it may be a clue that the child has some disorders because they should be an automatic reaction.

 

Body language of yawning and being tired or hot

There are plenty of theories why men or women yawn and one of them is that their need to be an increase blood to the brain or to keep the temperature of the brain down (University of Albany 2007). There is also a theory that there are neurotransmitters that trigger a yawn in order to help speed up the body to keep from getting tired. Now it may even be a triggered response to being hot and working on cooling the body down.

 

Just remember that whatever you believe a yawn means may cause you to react to a man or woman around you in a way that could be right or wrong so be sure to read the situation correctly.

 

There are some animals that yawning is contagious to:

  • ·         Cats big or small
  • ·         Dogs
  • ·         Horses

 

Body language of yawning and ancient cultures.

Some ancient cultures believe that when men or women yawn the soul is trying to escape and the action of covering the mouth helps keep the soul from exiting the body. Now this may be the truth but it’s not likely from a scientific standpoint.

 

No matter what you believe about the body language of yawns there is one cool tip that you can use when people are over and you wan them to leave. Yawn and get up then tell them its time for you to go to bed. In most cases they get this overly overt body language action and leave so you can go to bed.

 

Reading body language can help you out in your business life, dating and even just to have some fun:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about body language of yawning.

 

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares the body language of a yawn: video credit  

Body language of yes or no

Body language of yes or no: Much of the communication that we do has nothing to do with what our mouths say. You read the body language of others all day long and sometimes its like an expert and the others times you may fall into the amature category.

 

The nonverbal cues that are given off while you talk come from your face, arms, hands, body and your feet. Sometimes you use your body to give out information, there are times where you are not even aware that you are giving information out while sometimes you leak the nonverbal actions that get you caught quite possibly in a lie.

 

Signs of yes and no with body language

Every culture and even some sub cultures have signs and signals that relate to body language. Some signs are almost universal throughout the world but there is not one item of communication that is 100% universal.

 

As always it’s important to baseline any individual that you are researching or reading. The cost of being right while reading body language can be bragging rights while being wring can end relationships. Your ability to baseline information and interpret the actions that are going on will depend on patience and experience.

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Body language and the signs of yes

Typically when a man, woman or child uses the body language signs of yes there is an action where the head nods up and down, that may be one time or many times. Now this action of up and down can “leak” to other parts of the body. In American Sign Language (ASL) the action to say yes is a fist that is moved up and down.

 

The nonverbal sign of shaking a head up and down to signify “yes” can be understood in almost all situations even when two people don’t even speak the same language.

 

There are times where other signs of the body are used to agree with an action and that can be a thumbs up in the western world. You may even see a wink as a way to agree with a statement or an action. There are people who may even agree with a smile.

 

Body language and the signs of no

The signs of saying “no” are typically demonstrated by moving the head to the left or to the right. This sign if fairly universal throughout the world and it is even understood when the person does not speak your language.

 

The nonverbal actions of saying “no” do not always come from the movement of the head. They can come from moving an arm or arms laterally almost like the movement is pushing something away.

 

You may see the sign of a thumbs down as in disapproval along with a facial expression of anger, contempt or even disgust. In extreme cases the body language of “no” may become physical when that happens the body language of the protagonist or antagonist may also sign signs of animation.

 

 A past president was caught lying when his arms did not match his words when he said he did not perform an act. This mismatch of body language is not always caught but it is something that should be caught by an expert. 

 

If you were to wear a device that could block sound for a day where you really could not hear you would find out just how much nonverbal communication is used.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you close more sales, catch a boyfriend or girlfriend lying or just may you a better communicator overall.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments or questions about the body language of “yes” or “no”.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the body language of “yes” or “no”

Body language of listening

 

Body language of listening: One of the biggest complaints among people who have conversations is that the man or the woman is not listening.

 

It doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship, work for someone or even have kids at some point you have wondered if the people around you are listening.

 

As with any project or time with reading the body language of others you will want to baseline or watch the person for a moment to understand their signs and or signals before making a judgment.  

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Nonverbal signs of listening

There are a few nonverbal signs when it comes to listening:

  • ·         Eye contact
  • ·         Direction of the body
  • ·         Tilt of the head
  • ·         Nonverbal actions
  • ·         Micro expressions

 

Body language of eye contact and listening

When talking to others both men and women prefer that the person that is listening has good eye contact with the speaker. For most people it’s a sign of respect and just a good overall sign that the eye contact is present. Now there are people who pretend that they are listing and they have great eye contact. If it’s just eye contact and no other nonverbal sign the man or woman may be concerned that listening is not happening.

 

Nonverbal actions of listening and the direction of the body  

Now when a man or woman is listening to you they may turn their body slightly while they listen. If you are not familiar with the person facing each other and standing or sitting too close may cause some altercations. If there is an anticipation of issues it may be best to slightly turn to not aggravate the man or the woman talking to you. This may work well for relationships or in business interactions, just remember slight as it may be a sign that you want to be out of the conversation.

 

When the man, woman or child is not facing you there will be signs and signals that you will want to look for like shaking the head or using a symbol.

 

Body language of listening and the tilt of the head

For some men or women that listen actively they will tilt their head to the right or to the left and may even turn their head towards the speaker. Now this is not always the case but there are times where people do so and it may even be when it is difficult to hear in a loud location. Tilting the head is not a definite sign that there is listening going on but may give you a clue to if the man or the woman is listening to what you are saying.

 

Nonverbal actions of listing

Now some of the other signs and signals of listening is the head, hand or arm movement or even symbols that could be shown. Now people may shake their head yes or no when they listen to you. Now this may be through a sales presentation, a sermon, an argument between a boyfriend or girlfriend or just an everyday conversation.

 

You may see a man or women give you the thumbs up sign here in the United States or even use an arm swipe as to say no way. There may even be a time where the man or the woman throws their hands up as a sign of giving up while you talk and that may just be a sign that they are about to give up and walk away.

 

There may even be some signs by shrugging the shoulders or throwing the hands up in the air. There are times where people get impatient and tap pens or anything similar.

 

Micro expressions and the signs of listening  

As a man or women listens to you they may get emotional for the good or even for the bad and you may be able to see that through their microexpressions. You may have a coworker or friend that gets angry from your conversation and when you see that you may want to change the course of the conversation. It doesn’t make sense for you to expect the other person to listen to you and you then not listen to them.

 

You will also want to show your active listening body language or nonverbal communication with the other man or woman. Just remember the law of reaction because the reaction or the signs and signals you exhibit may cause the other person to react to what you do.  Be patient with others while they communicate and they should be patient with you.

 

Learning how to read body language can be fun and make your own communication more effective.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of listening

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

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