Reading body language: Attempting to talk to a man or woman takes a few skills that you may not know about and they have everything to do with your reading body language and nonverbal communication skills.
If you are a man and you are about to walk up and introduce yourself to a new woman you will have to be careful to not screw this approach up…
…and yes you can make some huge mistakes when it comes to approaching a woman.
When it comes to someone especially woman reading your body language you must know that above all else women need to protect themselves from harm. You must absolutely remember this fact: Women will do what they have to so that they can be protected and if you approach the woman wrong you will get shut down.
Really it’s that quick?
if you break the boundary of trust of a woman before you have her trust it may never happen and you get no second chance.
So what are the best ways to approach a woman that allows them to feel safe and read your body language and or nonverbal communication?
- · Always approach a woman from angles and not from behind of straight on
- · Never touch an unknown woman from the back on the shoulder
- · Never grab a woman to get their attention from the front side or the back (this should not have to be stated but some people out there need it)
- · Interrupting a woman speaking may cause you harm
- · If you hang out too long to talk to a woman you have lost value
- · As an added bonus approaching a woman in a bachelorette party will not work out 99.99% of the time, especially when the woman is with their friends.
Reading body language of approaching a woman
If you are a man just for a second imagine the harm that go towards a woman and think about what happens if you startle her? If you scare a person especially a woman from the beginning you will have a tough time gaining her trust. If you scare her good luck getting her phone number, email address or even being friended on Facebook. In all realities you are going to get a fake number.
The best thing to do is to walk into a woman’s sight form an angle so that they can see you so that you do not scare or startle her. You will also want to observe her “bell bubble” and not get too close so that she can see you fully. In this approach you will also want to keep your hands visible so that she can see that you are not a threat. If you have any type of threat that is felt at also she will go into survival mode and you will get rejection instantly.
Reading body language of touching an unknown woman
Approaching a woman from behind and then touching her shoulder to get her attention may get you hurt instantly. It is not a good idea to get attention of a woman from touching her unless you have been out in the dating field for a while or have learned some tricks from Pick up artists (PUA) and even then this approach can go wrong.
Grabbing a woman will do the same thing as touching her but her danger level inside her mind will go up instantly and you will lose any ability to persuade her for contact information.
Reading the body language of interrupting a woman
Sometimes men will want to interrupt a woman to get their attention while approaching them for the first time. You will want to look for a break where she has the chance to address you.
Now PUA’s will teach you the three second rule and that is: If you see someone that you are attracted to you should and will approach that woman within 3 seconds of seeing her or making eye contact.
If you have made eye contact and approach a woman it is different than just walking up and interrupting her.
Think about it for a second you had eye contact and it’s not really interrupting her if she knows you are on your way to talk to her. Now this can go either way you will be received well or you will get shut down.
There are really no other options when it comes to approaching a woman.
Approaching a woman does takes some body language skills and some reading of the situation on your part. Remember that you must think about how she sees your approach as safe or dangerous. If you approach her in a safe manner where she does not see you as a threat you will have a better chance of winning.
If you approach a woman wrong, touch her or interrupt her and your chances of getting another chance of meeting her again with positive results.
As always I would like to thank you in advance for your questions and or comments about approaching a woman.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell
Young Woman by David Castillo Dominici, Happy Couple In Night Club by photostock:Photo credit for reading body language of approaching a woman expalined by body language expert Scott Sylvan Bel