Reading body language: Flirting is one of the most misunderstood concepts when it comes to others reading the body language of men or women, in the last article on reading body language the head was used to describe some of the ways that a man could be flirted with along with a woman.
Understanding what communication is being presented in front of you may help you to determine if someone is interested in you for more than just a friendship. Reading the body language of flirting will go into other items besides the actions of a man or woman’s head tilts, there is the art of reading facial expressions.
The facial features of flirting can include using
- · Eyebrows
- · Eyes
- · The mouth
Using eyebrows to flirt
There are very specific things that people will do to flirt with a man or a woman and there can just be one thing used in their body language that can be read into. When a person is using their nonverbal communication and eyebrows they may arch them quickly once or twice to see if the other person is receptive to the advance. In some instances the flirter will make sure that their message is seen and will arch their eyebrows a few times. If done too many times towards a target that is being flirted at the flirter may be seen as being desperate or even that there may be a lack of social value.
Part of the fun for some of the people who flirt with others is the thrill of the chase. Once this flirter reaches and gains the attention of their target they may just give up and move onto the next person hat they wish to target. So as a side note there are people out there who just are flirting to get a quick fix of attention.
Once someone has possibly used their head or eyebrows they may use their eye or eyes to gain attention they may even use their eyes to grab your attention. When people use this nonverball communication there may be a few things that can be done:
1. Flirting action of Winking – This wink can just be from a quick action or they even wink once slower than what you would think. The downside is that you may think that someone was flirting and they may just have something in their eye.
2. The flirting action of batting the eyes – Sometimes women while flirting will bat their eyes or flutter them at a person that they may interested in. This is not as common as a wink at a person to flirt with them.
3. The flirting action of the stare – Sometimes to get the attention one may stare to at a person to flirt with them or use this action for a while until the other person looks and then the eyebrows can be arched or a wink can be used.
4. How to flirt with your mouth. Sometimes while flirting will blow a kiss and even sometimes as a overt action some will lick their lips. It is good to know that sometimes people may unconsciously lick their lips when they are attracted to you. Sometimes even a smile can be considered a form of flirting but it will really depend upon the situation. As a side note if you stare at someone lips while they are talking to you and this is not a situation where flirting is involved it can be looked at like a sexual advance.
While being flirted with the nonverbal communication from the other person may be overt in nature or almost covert depending upon the situation. Knowing what each action being used with these body language techniques can help you land a new friend or even just to learn to have more fun.
As with reading the body language of other people there are times where you can be right with your interpretation of the actions or you could be wrong.
Body language exercise
One of the things that can be done to practice flirting is just to arch your eyebrows once with a person whether you are interested in them or not. The nonverbal communication exercise can be done just about anywhere but if you are married or have a significant other this action may not be the best idea for you.
As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading or interpreting body language.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell
Photo credits: Young Woman by David Castillo Dominici, Beautiful Asian Woman by nuchylee