Determining what communication is while flirting for some can be a challenge when they try to read men or women’s body language.
The hands and the body are the two physical things that can be touched or used to flirt with men or women.
There are times where touching the other person in order to flirt happen for both sexes. There are challenges with the body language of flirting because it is easy to go too far quickly and cross the line of appropriate actions.
While flirting with the hands touching the other person’s body can be done in a few places that right off would be along the realms of appropriate. The first safe place is the upper arm the second place would be the forearm and lastly the hand may be the last place that would be considered appropriate.
Now there are some people who are just more “touchy” than other and may just come across as a big flirt and that is why you would have to look at the body language of the man or the woman who you consider flirting with you. Some of what you would have to consider would be their verbal actions but for the most part most flirting would come across as non verbal.
To determine if someone is flirting with you by touch you would have to consider the other signs of flirting.
Is the man or woman using the other nonverbal communication skills: A head tilt, the arching of eyebrows a wink, fluttering their eyes, licking their lips or even staring at the mouth? Those are all ways that flirting can happen.
The last part of flirting and body language would be contact with the body. There are times where men or women could be completely overt in their actions while flirting. For men or women a body brush can happen or occur. This is where someone brushes up against you and there was not a need. Now if you are in a crowded place it does not mean that someone is interested if they brush against you but if some of the other signs of flirting with body language are used you may have a man or a woman who is interested in you.
The body language of flirting can also use proximity or the distance that one person is from the person who they may be flirting with. In most instances the interested person will draw closer to the person that they are flirting with.
Now whether the person is close in proximity or a little further away “preening” may be used as a way to gain attention. The preening that could be used may include:
- · Playing with hair
- · Fixing clothing are fixing an accessory
- · Rubbing a body part as a way to accentuate that specific area and in some instances this may be an explicit action.
Some of these actions while reading the body language of flirting can be seen directly while some of these actions may be a little more covert. The beast plan of action is to understand what each action means before having to interpret them incorrectly.
Taking your time to learn how to read body language or non verbal communication of flirting and seduction can help you understand more about human relations.
As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language or nonverbal communication.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell
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