Reading body language of flirting men and women part 3

Reading body language: While reading and interpreting the body language of flirting by men or women the head, eyes, mouth and eyebrows have been discussed.

 

Determining what communication is while flirting for some can be a challenge when they try to read men or women’s body language.

 

The hands and the body are the two physical things that can be touched or used to flirt with men or women.

 

Reading body language and how women flirt
Reading body language signs and signals of flirting

 

There are times where touching the other person in order to flirt happen for both sexes. There are challenges with the body language of flirting because it is easy to go too far quickly and cross the line of appropriate actions.

 

While flirting with the hands touching the other person’s body can be done in a few places that right off would be along the realms of appropriate. The first safe place is the upper arm the second place would be the forearm and lastly the hand may be the last place that would be considered appropriate.  

 

Now there are some people who are just more “touchy” than other and may just come across as a big flirt and that is why you would have to look at the body language of the man or the woman who you consider flirting with you. Some of what you would have to consider would be their verbal actions but for the most part most flirting would come across as non verbal.

 

To determine if someone is flirting with you by touch you would have to consider the other signs of flirting.

 

Is the man or woman using the other nonverbal communication skills: A head tilt, the arching of eyebrows a wink, fluttering their eyes, licking their lips or even staring at the mouth? Those are all ways that flirting can happen.

 

The last part of flirting and body language would be contact with the body. There are times where men or women could be completely overt in their actions while flirting. For men or women a body brush can happen or occur. This is where someone brushes up against you and there was not a need. Now if you are in a crowded place it does not mean that someone is interested if they brush against you but if some of the other signs of flirting with body language are used you may have a man or a woman who is interested in you.

 

The body language of flirting can also use proximity or the distance that one person is from the person who they may be flirting with. In most instances the interested person will draw closer to the person that they are flirting with.

Now whether the person is close in proximity or a little further away “preening” may be used as a way to gain attention. The preening that could be used may include:

  • ·         Playing with hair
  • ·         Fixing clothing are fixing an accessory
  • ·         Rubbing a body part as a way to accentuate that specific area and in some instances this may be an explicit action.

 

Reading body language and signs of flirting
Reading body language and the signs of flirting by touch

 

Some of these actions while reading the body language of flirting can be seen directly while some of these actions may be a little more covert. The beast plan of action is to understand what each action means before having to interpret them incorrectly.  

 

Taking your time to learn how to read body language or non verbal communication of flirting and seduction can help you understand more about human relations.  

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language or nonverbal communication.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:  Business Women by photostock, Asian Model Woman-Thai Ethnicity Beauty by posterize

Reading body language of flirting men and women part 1

Reading body language: Flirting has to be one of the most mysterious items when it comes to people wanting to know how to read body language.

 

Understanding and interpreting what others mean when they flirt almost seems like a secret passed down between secret societies.

 

Flirting is something that you do with your body language to see if another person is interests in you. Sometimes this flirting can be done to get just a little attention or it can be done to find a date with a man or a women or it can even be done on the path to a soul mate.

 

Knowing what each part of the body can do to help you flirt gives you an advantage, it can also clue you in why you keep meeting interesting people and they think that you are into them.

 

Flirting women and their body language
Reading body language of flirting women for dating

Reading the body language men or women flirting or even learning how to flirt with a man or woman can be fun and find you some new friends.

 

Learning and understanding these nonverbal cues will tune you in to all the times where someone has flirted with you and you were oblivious to the body language that the person was using to flirt with you.

 

To learn how to flirt it may take a visit to some information learned from pick up artists (PUA). One of the first rules taught to men who want to learn how to pick women up is the “Three second rule” this rules states that the woman, man or “target” should either be approached or flirted with within 3 seconds of finding interest in the person so that you do not build up internal resistance.

 

The body language of flirting can follow these rules but you don’t have to. Flirting can be done on your own time but understand that if you decide to take too long with setting the “hook” on some sort of attraction the man or woman that you are interested in may not ever get your nonverbal messages.

 

To learn how to flirt you must first learn what tools that you have on your body first, they are from the top:

  • Your head
  • Your eyebrows
  • Your eyes
  • Your mouth
  • Your body
  • Your hands

 

Now this may seem like it could just be your whole body to make flirting happen and that can be the case also.

 

Using your head to flirt

When you flirt with a man or a woman your head is used as a way to show interest in the other person. Sometimes with your body language you will decide to tilt you head towards the person or “target” you are interested in and when you are done playing with your “target” you may decide to pull away.

 

The tilting of your head towards a person or a way from a person can show interest and begin to flirt. This is the first part of the equation of flirting and not meant to be the whole series of actions but to start at the top of the body is the best place.

 

If you learn how to tilt your heard correctly during conversations this skill can be used for far more than flirting it can be used for persuasive sales skills. This is just one of the parts for one of the first steps. You must build a foundation to correctly convey the body language of flirting.

 

Reading body language of flirting women
Reading body language can teach you flirting by women

While talking with another person the tilting of the head slightly to forwards, backwards to the left or to the right can convey interest in the subject or the person almost as if you are asking the other person to tell you more by pulling your ear away from them slightly and the opposite would to be to tilt your head towards the person as to show you do not believe what they are saying.  This skill must be practiced flirt before you try to flirt if you do not know what you are doing. Use the flirting exercise below.

 

Flirting exercise

Now you can test this while talking to another person by slightly leaning your head into the conversation to see the reaction of the other person and then you will want to do the opposite and lean your head out of conversations lightly. A word of warning when overdone the other person will think that you are strange so you must be careful with how far you lean your head towards or away from a person and how often you do this. Slight tilt is the key for this nonverbal strategy to work.

 

On of the best places to practice the body language of flirting is at a place far from your home where you know that you will not run into people you will ever see again that way there is no real risk if someone thinks you are strange but if you find someone who is interested the sky is the limit for you.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of flirting.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:Gossiping by Ambro, Smiling Woman by David Castillo Dominici

Reading body language: How to interpret proximity

Reading body language:
When learning how to read body language or interpret non-verbal communications
there are a few concepts to build on and learn.

 

One of the first concepts to learn after social value or how
your message is viewed and judged by others would be the concept of proximity.

 

When evaluating the context of a situation and working on
understanding body language through pictures or judging a live situation
knowing how close people are can determine much of what is going on.

Understanding body langauge and proximity
interpreting body language of men and women

 

The distance that people are from each other is defined as
proximity. Whether you are reading male or female body language it is important
to understand what distances between people will change the meaning or context
of the situation. Even if you are working on deciphering what business people
are doing in relation to proximity the same rule apply.

 

There are certain distances for people where you are:

  • Intimate as in a relationship or even a really
    good friend
  • A close friend
  • A relative
  • A friend
  • A just introduced
  • Unknown or an enemy

 

The normal area to be considered intimate for a friend or a
relationship would be within 18 inches, a friend would be from the 18 inch range
to 36 inches and an unknown situation may be from 36 inches and beyond.

 

When reading or understanding body language you will need to
determine the context of the situation by understanding the relationship
between the people or the group that you are evaluating to determine what would
be appropriate. When looking at proximity it is your job to determine what is
going on in just a few seconds or within a minute what is going on.

 

It is possible to misread a situation as the distances
listed are only a guideline and not always an absolute. It is possible when
looking at a situation quickly to misread how the people being judged interact.

 

Reading the body language of men and women and interpreting the meanings
No verbal skills? try learning how to read body language.

Reading body language and interpreting what is being
conveyed is a skill that is sharpened over time and not just something that can
quickly be learned. Starting with the basics and moving from there will help to
build a foundation of knowledge that will help you over time.

 

As a homework assignment while out and about or even at work
start to pay attention as to how close people can get to each other before they
react by moving away from the other person. After a while you may start to see
people a little differently and may even determine that things are going on
that you may not have previously thought.

 

Your beliefs may change from seeing how people touch each
other, how close they stand, where they talk to each other when talking and how
comfortable they are when in the 18 in range or closer.

 

There is not a paper to turn in with the assignment as you
can do this work anywhere:

  • School
  • Work
  • At a gym
  • At a mall
  • At the corner market

 

It’s fun sometimes to just guess what people are doing or
how they are associated, if you have enough courage sometimes you can just go
and open up a conversation and ask people. If you get nervous tell them it is
an assignment for a communication course you are taking. Its ok people are
curious and they will open up. You may even find your “story” as a good way to meet
people.

 

Interpreting nonverbal communication can be fun and almost
be seen as mind reading. Reading the body language of attraction is something
that can be learned over time but the first thing you should master is
understanding proximity between people and what it may mean.

 

As a last note when learning about body language there are
three things that can happen:

  1. You
    can be right, this would mean that you have judged the context of the situation
    correctly and identified what is happening or has happened
  2. You
    are partially correct and have identified some of the things going on but
    somewhere you were wrong
  3. You
    were wrong altogether and misread the situation or the context

 

There really are not any other options when learning about
body language or non-verbal communication skills.

 

The next class for you will be on the “Bell Bubble”.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your
comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:Smiling Business Women In Focus by photostock, Couple Celebrating Together by photostock