Body language of holding hands

Body language of holding hands: Reading body language is all about looking at the person or the people and then taking the time to make an interpretation of what is going on. It really depends more about what the viewer thinks of the activities because the other person or people will react to what they think you believe is going on.

 

First off it’s a good reminder that it is important to baseline any situation that you are reading.

 

The nonverbal cues given by men and women holding hands can be read through a few different criteria:

 

  • ·         The proximity or the distance between the two people holding hands
  • ·         Where the hands are being grasped by the men and women
  • ·         The pace or speed of walking of the men and women in question
  • ·         Where the people are or the social surrounding  

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Body language of Proximity:

When reading the body language of holding hands it is important to look at how close the people are in relation to each other. It’s not just how close they are but it’s also how they hold each others hand. You have probably seen the guy holding the girls hand where he doesn’t really seem like he wants to hold the hand. Typically you will see a firm grasp but light grasp of the hand instead a lose grip on the fingers. You would see men and women in a loving relationship have a common grasp with each other.

 

Body language of relationships

When looking at how men and women hold hands you can get a feel for their relationship in some instances. There are times where one of the people has a scowl on their face, in some instances their may be the micro expression of contempt or possibly even the flash of anger.  There are times where you may see one of the people holding the others hand with wrap around the wrist. Some men and or women in close relationships will hold or pull each other close as they walk together or even sit together.

 

Normally the men and the women who are getting along well or in a good relationship will have a natural glide. Sometimes when there are problems or issues in the relationship you may see one person pulling the other as they walk or the man be walking faster than the other. On the other hand you may see those who are in a loving relationship walking slow and looking or gazing at each other.  

 

What you want to look for is a common stride or pace between the two whether fast or slow.

 

If the couple is sitting you may see the man or woman holding the other person hand close they may even have the hand pulled up onto a part of the body. There are times where the hand may be getting rubbed by either person.

 

Body language of possession

When looking at the proximity of the men and women holding hands there are times where the bodies of the men and or the women are just too close, at sometimes just flat out awkward to look at. You will see people in a relationship within the bell bubble but when the proximity becomes too close it is may of a sign of possession or a really close relationship. You would only be able to tell by looking at the two people and base lining what their actions are.  

 

The body language of possessiveness may just go one step further and that is when the man or women will have a good arm lock around the shoulder of the other person with them. When the two people walk together the person who may be possessive is standing straight up while the other man or woman is pulled in almost to the point where the man or woman who is being possessed has to walk leaning into the possessor.  You will typically see this type of possessive activity between younger couples.

 

You will want to look for jerky movements between the two and staring at others from one of the parties at the people around them.

 

Reading body language risks

There is always a risk in reading body language and that is you can make assumptions too quickly as to what is going on and you may have the possibility of being wrong. Learning how to read the nonverbal communication of others takes time and patience. While reading the body language of others it is important to baseline the actions nonverbally as to what the men and or the women are doing.

 

Reading body language takes training and or a home study course for you to learn the right way instead of guessing.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of holding hands.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

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base lining body language

Reading body language: When it comes to reading the nonverbal communication of men or women there are a few things that you must do first in order to make sure that you read the situation the right way. For the ability to read body language effectively you must take the time to base line the situation.

 

The signs of body language can be overt or right out in the open and the man or the woman doesn’t care that you and everyone else sees them or the man or the woman does not really have control of what they are doing with their nonverbal communication.

 

The signals of nonverbal communication may also be covert where the people around may not see what one person does with their body language. This may be a threatening gesture all of the way to something seductive.

 

Base lining and body language

Men, woman and kids have set routines when it comes to gestures and ticks in their body language. Now there may be the sign of lying and touching the face but if the man or the woman consistently touches their face there is a high probability that they may not be lying.

 

Most readings of body language or nonverbal communication are based on probability. In order to understand what type of probability there is and the accuracy of the read one must take the time to figure out the normal routines of the person that is being read. Reading real time requires the use of probabilities.

 

In gambling they use the word “tell” as a way to describe the body language of a gambler who has a sign or signal when something good or bad happens.

 

How to baseline to read body language

Base lining others can happen real time or as the man, woman or child is in action. This reading can take place live or may even be done over video camera. There is also a possibility that there is video of the subject that can be read to help get a grasp for normal routines. In some instances their can be a great deal learned about the person by looking at pictures. Base lining the body language of others is a highly visible actions since you must be able to see what the body is doing.

 

 

Base lining and normal actions   

When base lining the normal actions of a man, woman or child you will watch what their body is doing by looking at:

  • ·         Their hands and arms
  • ·         Their facial expressions
  • ·         The direction and spacing of the body
  • ·         Their bell bubble and or proximity to others
  • ·         Their automatic gestures

 

Base lining of the hands and body language

Many people talk with their hands and they have gestures that are common for them to use. Some nationalities and regions have hand gestures that they use consistently and they may have a totally different meaning in other parts of the world. In some places talking with hands is not just normal but almost required to communicate effectively.

 

Base lining and facial expressions

Facial expressions can be a rich body language pool of knowledge when it comes to what the other person may or may not be thinking, Micro expressions may be used to determine what an emotion is and when reading the rest of the body may result in almost near mind reading experience of others. Looking at the eyes, eyebrow and mouth can help determine what emotion or emotions are present.

 

Base lining and the direction and spacing of the body

While base lining the body language of others it is important to note the distance between the people involved. You may be able to understand the nonverbal communication better by looking at the direction the body is facing compared to the other people in the conversation or the group. Talking face to face means one thing and talking to a man or a woman’s back means something different so it is relevant to understand and interpret what is going on.

 

Base lining and bell bubble and or proximity to others

Not only is it important to know what direction the body is facing to interpret nonverbal communication but it is also important to not the distance between the man or the woman that is being looked at. People who just met will typically have a greater distance from people who are friends and people who are close friends or intimate can be closer in proximity than those who are just friends.

 

The distance between those communication can help you interpret, understand and baseline a situation better.   

 

The bell bubble describes the distance between men and or woman and can be described as personal space.

 

Base lining and automatic gestures

When reading the body language of a subject you will watch for routine or automatic gestures that they have. When a man or a woman lies they may change their routines as to what their body language does. They may have had a hand gesture or facial expressions that they use and when the emotion or context of the situation changes the routine or the facial expression may change. You will want to look for the changes that take place and the is the whole point of base lining how people communicate nonverbally.

 

In order to interpret body language effectively you must take the time to base line the nonverbal communication of others.

 

Learning how to read body language can be fun and informative all at the same time, one of the best courses to take can be from home: learn more here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about base lining and reading body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Body langauge and lack of confidence

 

Reading body language: While reading the body language of men or women you may find a few traits that will reveal some of the information about them that you can interpret to understand how to interact with them.

 

When it comes to nonverbal communication and the clues that it gives you can read whether a man or woman has confidence or lacks it.

 

When reading the body language to determine the confidence level you will want to look at a few items:

  • ·         The head
  • ·         The face
  • ·         The shoulders and arms
  • ·         The walk
  • ·         General body movements

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Body language of the head and lack of confidence

When a man or woman lacks confidence they may walk or move around with their head down or you may see that the chin becomes closer to the chest. This does not always happen it is just one of the signs or items that may or may not occur. In some instances the man or woman will not make eye contact

 

Body language of the face and the lack of confidence

The face may reveal some of the signs of lack of confidence though micro expressions and it could be through sadness. You may see the face pointed down and a possible pucker on the face. As with any part of reading body language you may or may not see this action and it may or may not combine with the other signals of the body. You may see a frown or even a scowel on the face.  

 

Lack of confidence and the shoulders and arms

When a man or woman lacks confidence their shoulders may roll in. This may or may not be disguised by folded arms. You may notices the body movements are not fluid.

 

Walking and the lack of confidence

While reading the nonverbal signs of a man or women to determine the confidence or the lack of confidence one of the “tells” that may give away what is going on may be the walk or the speed of the walk. Sometimes when people lack confidence they walk slower or lose their fluid motion or stride.

 

Body movements that give away lack of confidence

As you watch a man or woman and baseline their actions nonverbally you may notice a few things or you may just see one item that could help you determine or give you clues as to what is going on. The hands and the movements of the body can give away many of these clues and when looking for confidence or the lack of confidence these two items can help. When there is the possibility of the lack of confidence not only is it possible for the man or the woman to lose their stride while they walk but they may also lose the fluid movements of the body. It is a possibility that the movements may become slower or jerky when confidence is lost.  

 

You may even see the man or the woman to do what they can to cover their face when there is some stressful moments but this not always happen.

 

Baseline your body language reading

When reading the body language of others it is important to take the time to look and see what is going on in the surroundings but also to take a moment to read what the man or the woman is doing. Be patient and take your time because if you read a situation wrong you may notice that the reaction can create some issues. Most of the time the body language can give you a general idea of what is going on but remember there are times where you can be wrong so take you time.

 

To learn how to read body language at home you can learn from the source here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for you comments and or questions about reading the body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

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Reading body language: What not to do with your hands

Reading body language: One of the largest mistakes people make when communicating is probably something that they would not ever think of off the top of their head.

Many times people have no clue as to what their hands are doing, where their hands are going. Even worse the Person who is under scrutiny has not idea what non-verbal message that they are delivering. While reading body language it is important to note that whatever the internal meaning of the body language is to the viewer that is their reality. The viewer thinks you are put off so they react. The viewer things you are interested so they act accordingly. There is plenty of room to be wrong in any instance when reading body language.

Super huge point: You can guess the wrong thing as to what body language is saying. Deciphering is not just the case of looking at just one picture and knowing instantly what the other person is thinking or feeling. You can read a situation wrong and it can be detrimental to whatever you are doing.

When it comes to you or someone else out in public where you can go wrong is by touching your face. If you are in sales it is absolutely imperative that you do not touch your face with your fingers. If it is possible using your shoulder or the back of your hand is recommended.

Just think of what this action says to your potential client whether they are reading your body language the right or the wrong way.

If you touch your nose for instance that person may be thinking “I hope he doesn’t try and shake my hand” instead of focusing on your sales message. This is just one way that your body language can hurt your abilities.

Another possibility is that the person who is reading your body language may think that you are fidgeting and may not be trustworthy. Now remember their reading of your body language has nothing to do with your intentions  just what they believe.

Pinocchio was this mythical creature that when he lied his nose grew. In many instances where people lie they start touching their face and you may or may not pick up on it subconsciously. This is a huge reason alone why you should not touch your face whether in a sales call or talking to a significant other.

Many times when people lie their body language will show through as they will try to either cover their mouth after lying or they will with motions try to put the words back into their mouths by making a cupping motion. In some instances the offender will actually use both of their hands and roll them over the top of each other.

Lastly some people will rub their necks as a result of a lie but this is not always the case the person may be under stress and the neck rubbing is how they deal with it.

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

Scott Sylvan Bell

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