Body language of holding hands

Body language of holding hands: Reading body language is all about looking at the person or the people and then taking the time to make an interpretation of what is going on. It really depends more about what the viewer thinks of the activities because the other person or people will react to what they think you believe is going on.

 

First off it’s a good reminder that it is important to baseline any situation that you are reading.

 

The nonverbal cues given by men and women holding hands can be read through a few different criteria:

 

  • ·         The proximity or the distance between the two people holding hands
  • ·         Where the hands are being grasped by the men and women
  • ·         The pace or speed of walking of the men and women in question
  • ·         Where the people are or the social surrounding  

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Body language of Proximity:

When reading the body language of holding hands it is important to look at how close the people are in relation to each other. It’s not just how close they are but it’s also how they hold each others hand. You have probably seen the guy holding the girls hand where he doesn’t really seem like he wants to hold the hand. Typically you will see a firm grasp but light grasp of the hand instead a lose grip on the fingers. You would see men and women in a loving relationship have a common grasp with each other.

 

Body language of relationships

When looking at how men and women hold hands you can get a feel for their relationship in some instances. There are times where one of the people has a scowl on their face, in some instances their may be the micro expression of contempt or possibly even the flash of anger.  There are times where you may see one of the people holding the others hand with wrap around the wrist. Some men and or women in close relationships will hold or pull each other close as they walk together or even sit together.

 

Normally the men and the women who are getting along well or in a good relationship will have a natural glide. Sometimes when there are problems or issues in the relationship you may see one person pulling the other as they walk or the man be walking faster than the other. On the other hand you may see those who are in a loving relationship walking slow and looking or gazing at each other.  

 

What you want to look for is a common stride or pace between the two whether fast or slow.

 

If the couple is sitting you may see the man or woman holding the other person hand close they may even have the hand pulled up onto a part of the body. There are times where the hand may be getting rubbed by either person.

 

Body language of possession

When looking at the proximity of the men and women holding hands there are times where the bodies of the men and or the women are just too close, at sometimes just flat out awkward to look at. You will see people in a relationship within the bell bubble but when the proximity becomes too close it is may of a sign of possession or a really close relationship. You would only be able to tell by looking at the two people and base lining what their actions are.  

 

The body language of possessiveness may just go one step further and that is when the man or women will have a good arm lock around the shoulder of the other person with them. When the two people walk together the person who may be possessive is standing straight up while the other man or woman is pulled in almost to the point where the man or woman who is being possessed has to walk leaning into the possessor.  You will typically see this type of possessive activity between younger couples.

 

You will want to look for jerky movements between the two and staring at others from one of the parties at the people around them.

 

Reading body language risks

There is always a risk in reading body language and that is you can make assumptions too quickly as to what is going on and you may have the possibility of being wrong. Learning how to read the nonverbal communication of others takes time and patience. While reading the body language of others it is important to baseline the actions nonverbally as to what the men and or the women are doing.

 

Reading body language takes training and or a home study course for you to learn the right way instead of guessing.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of holding hands.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

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Body language of mirroring

Mirroring body language: There are plenty of cool things that you can do when it comes to learning how to read body language or even interpret the nonverbal signs of men or women. One of the most important items that you can learn to help your persuasive abilities, best of all when done right you have some covert skills and it’s all nonverbal.

 

The term mirroring means that you would do nonverbally what the other person does:

  • ·         They woman touches her face, you touch your face
  • ·         She crosses her legs you cross your legs
  • ·         The man smiles you smile
  • ·         You yawn and then she yawns
  • ·         He touches you, you touch him back

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Wait it means that the mirroring and body language goes both ways?

 

Yes it does and you may have not ever noticed that salespeople may have mirrored you.

 

There is a point where you build enough rapport where they may start to follow you and then follow your lead (pace).

 

Body language mirroring of similar not exact

Mirroring body language can go wrong and that is for a few reasons and it makes your actions overt instead of covert:

 

Too similar too soon means that your reaction is too quick and that is a common body language mistake. The whole idea for your mirroring or copying is to be covert and not overt. When mirroring is done right the other person may or may not know that you are either pacing them or mirroring them.

 

Many times when people hear about or are shown mirroring they become too eager to get started and their movements are so quick that it isn’t really natural. These super skills that are supposed to help along with the process of rapport and or the persuasion process then end up hurting the person that they are supposed to help.

 

Just be patient when learning this new covert body language skill and you will be rewarded.

 

Body language of mirroring of similar

When mirroring a man or woman your bodies actions only have to be similar.

  • ·         When she touches her face you can touch you’re a few seconds later but do not touch it in the same exact spot
  • ·         When he crosses his legs you can wait a few seconds or a moment and then you cross your legs

 

 

Body language of pacing and leading

Pacing and leading is a strategy from NLP. Pacing means that you are following a man or woman. Leading would be when they are following you. Now throughout an interaction you can switch up the leader or the pacer.

 

You will know you are in good rapport when it goes both ways. At some moments it may be a body language strategy to give up some power and follow a man or woman and in some instances you may want to be in charge and have them follow you.

 

Body language of mirroring and touch

Now when it comes to touch there are common mistakes that you can make. In real time if you are waiting 5 – 10 seconds after someone makes movement for you to copy you will want to wait a few seconds longer if this action has to do with touch. You will have to practice this out with another man or woman that you know but you cannot tell them what you are doing to so that you can get the timing right. You can let the man or the woman in on your secret after you have practiced a few times. Mirroring touch has to feel natural or the situation will become very awkward.

 

Touching too quickly is also a common body language mistake.

 

Body language of mirroring and where to practice

How to learn body language made simple. You can practice mirroring body language anywhere and find it to be an effective use of nonverbal communication. You can just sit down at the coffee shop and watch a man or woman out of the corner of your eye and do a similar action and then when the man or woman changes their position you wait a few moments or even seconds and then do something similar but not exact. You may even want to watch the distance that you keep from the person when you make the touch so that you know where your proximics are or the “bell bubble”

 

Normally when someone hears about mirroring or wants to learn about it they make this common mistake for body language and that is to move too quickly.

 

As a side note while mirroring a man or woman out in public they may come over to you and ask questions like “Do we know each other”? This action is common along with them interacting with you somehow.

 

You can literally practice mirroring men or women’s nonverbal actions anywhere and get the same type of results. You may notice the next time someone is trying to influence you that they start to mimic or mirror your actions. You will be able to tell how good they are by their lag time or if they have just started by their ability to covertly mirror others.

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Offensive body language

Offensive body language: Offensive body language doesn’t just come from your hands; while others are reading your body language they may become offended from different parts of your body.

 

Reading body language of offensive gestures

Your hands are used so much to communicate no matter what part of the world you are from.

 

Now in some spots of the world some symbols have different meanings than other parts of the world. So you want to say that everything is ok in the United States and think it’s a safe sign to pass off you may find that others who are reading your body language may be offended.

 

You decide that you want to give the thumbs up and think it’s a harmless action…

 

Once again as your nonverbal communication with your hands may confuse others who are reading your body language may get the sense you are being rude.

 

So you decide that you want to point at others, well that may not be considered rude all of the time or from many countries but it does lessen the effectiveness of your ability to persuade the person that you are pointing at.

 

Waiving a fist at a person can get you into a fight or altercation that can get out of hand so the waive of a fist for some may show power and for others it shows aggression.

 

This should not have to be mentioned but in the United States and other countries waiving a middle finger at a person or group is a giant step above the fist waiving and can be seen as a huge insult.  

 

It is important to pay attention to the people that you are with or around when using body language that may offend others.  

 

Reading body language of offensive feet signals

Your feet are the closest body part to the ground in most instances and to point at a person with your feet shows the person who is receiving the point may find that you have no value for them.

 

You walk on dirt with your feet

 

You step on less desirable items with your feet

 

So it would make sense that some people would find your body language offensive?

 

Reading body language of offensive touch

Now there are some social boundaries that seem like they should just make sense but there are some out there that just don’t get the social cues or they just do not care. Touching others in inappropriate places can get you in trouble. If you are reading the body language of others while watching interactions going on you may see some interesting facial expressions or reactions.

 

Touching others can be easy to remember so that you do not offend others. If you are a man and you are going to touch a woman the best and most appropriate place would be the back of the arm from the shoulder to the elbow, not the back, not the chest or the buttocks the arm. In some instances you can get away with the top of the hand.

 

Now for women who are touching men the rules may just as well get thrown out the window. If the touch is flattering to the man he will not care of believe the body language or touch is offensive. The same rules somewhat apply though even though with men the rule are more loose than with the women. The arm or the hand will work but not the leg, chest or stomach.

 

It is tough enough in some industries for women to be taken seriously because of their gender and if they buy into the flirting it may just hurt their real capabilities.

 

Reading body language of offensive proximity

There are some people who just don’t care how close you stand to them or if you touch them and then there is the rest of the world. Some men or women may find that your proximity to them may cause problems. A good rule of thumb is to stand at least 18 – 24 inches (40 cm) from people who you are not close with and sometimes more distance helps but not too much. If you are too far away from the man or woman they may find your body language not just offensive but strange.

 

Keeping the distance of the “bell bubble” will help others from reading your body language as offensive and combine the distance with offensive touch and you will stay away from dangers of getting too close for comfort.

 

Reading body language of offensive looks

Reading the “stink eye” or dirty looks causes people to be uncomfortable with the body language being presented. The “stink eye” may not always be on purpose. This facial featured look may just be a reaction on the part of the man or the women who is making the face. The “stink eye” can be more of a stare than anything else.

 

In some instances people will stick out their tongues or stick their fingers in their mouths when dealing with children as a way to have fun or scare children but when this action is done to an adult it may mean that there is no mutual respect or an anger or frustration involved.

One of the items that would go on the list of offensive looks would to be not to look at the person who is talking.  By looking at the person who is talking to you it shows a level of respect. If you were to turn your back on a person as they talk to you it shows a lack of respect and create altercations, anger and sometimes physical interactions.

 

Having good eye contact will keep you out of trouble with not giving enough attention to a message.

 

A yawn may be an offensive action when done with noise and excessive action. It is possible to yawn without noise or the body language that can be read as being bored. Done as silently as possible with a slight hand cover will keep your body language from being read as offensive.

 

Reading body language of offensive sitting

How you sit while talking to another may be seen as offensive. Without sitting straight up the man or woman may not think that you take their message seriously. If you are sitting in a slouched position while they are talking or presenting you may be showing body language that you are bored. The same goes with having a fist or hand under your chin.

 

Crossing your legs can cause some harm if done too often to draw attention to your actions. If you are a female wearing a skirt this action may be seen as a way to create undue attention. Some may find this body language flattering or a form of seduction so be careful even if done on accident.

 

Rocking back and forth can also cause some attention that is unneeded and can be seen as a distraction or rude to someone who is speaking or presenting.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you understand the signs and signals of what to do in public or what can be seen as offensive.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading offensive body language.

 

Now go implement!  

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of pickup artists

Reading body language: There is a certain allure set aside for the man who is considered a Pick up artist (PUA) in men’s magazines. Pick up artists are meant to be some magical creature that every man wants to be like because of the way that they can attract women to their persona.

 

The first step in interpreting the body language of the pickup artist is his person. This is the walk of confidence that the man has while entering a room that is meant to grab the attention of the women in the room or bar. This body language that the room is supposed to be reading shows that he is meant to be with any woman in the room. This confidence is also meant to build desire into any woman who see and view the PUA.

 

A smart pick up artist knows that in order to be seen he must stay away from the edges of vision so he will place himself in the center of the room so that he may be the center of attention as much as possible this is a huge part of his “game”.

 

Attention is everything

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and his swagger

The body language of a pickup artist will show confidence in every way possible; he will stand with confidence and obey the laws of proximity and the “bell bubble”. The pickup artist will be aware of the proximity of the people who are his friends but also their body language as to what they are reacting to.

 

The pickup artist will smile and look at everyone in the room even if they have disgust and disdain for him. He will ignore the statements made about him or he may react verbally with a smart remark.

 

Everything for the pick up artist has been engineered before he walked into the room. His clothing was well thought out, his accessories were predetermined hours earlier and even locations where he ends up may have been previously staked out.

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and peacocking

The clothing of a pickup artist may be a little different than what you would think. Everything is done to draw attention to himself of the opposite sex. The man may wear something that is unusual like a scarf or a piece of jewelry. These articles used are conversation starters for sure just unusual enough to get that extra bit of attention from the other guys in the room and even the alpha male.

 

The articles used to attract women nonverbally can even be part of women’s clothing. The scents used can be those of perfume just to get the extra touch and get her to question if it was from another woman who was interested causing her to be interested now.

 

Everything worn by the pickup artist whether clothing or scents is designed to build attention in a way that creates people either talking to the pickup artist or about him. This attention feeds into the persona of the man and helps build his confidence.

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and “kino”

When it comes to reading body language and the actions of others including pick up artists kinesthetics is important. The word “Kino” is used meaning touch. The job of the pickup artist is to get playful touch in as soon as possible. The main goal is to show confidence and intent but to remain as playful as possible.

 

Touch crosses social boundaries and once crossed it is easier for the woman to relax around the pick up artist and buy into his persona and what he is saying to her. The more she is touched the more her guard drops or the more comfortable she becomes over time the more relaxed she will become.

 

Reading body language of pick up artists with body space and anchoring

Pick up artists usually work in groups of two or more or teams. The job of the wing man is to be support for their fellow pick up artists but at the same time getting more attention from the men and the women in the room. They may use each other’s bodies to have the right amount of anchoring or being in a good visible spot for others to see. The anchor may be the best seat in the house where the PUA may sit or stand with confidence.

 

Wherever he is the body language signs and signals of the pickup artist will show that he is relaxed and supposed to be right where the action is.

 

He may surround himself with adoring women who want his attention which will in turn cause other women to want to be within proximity to figure out who the man of mystery is. The closer in proximity the women are to him the better chance that the PUA has of gamming or working on his game with his new “target”.

 

While anchoring good interactions take place in one location and bad interactions will take place in another.

 

The best ally the PUA has is the attention that he gets from everyone in the room. This creates a buzz and creates attention and builds the confidence or swagger of the man.

 

A good pick up artist is good at reading the body language of others but also for using his to gain attention or know how to diffuse a bad situation.

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and bouncing

Once a location has been determined to be the venue must change. The whole goal is to get the girl away from the location where she was before. This can be for a mini date like a quick breakfast at 2:00am or even for activities back at home.

 

In some instances the whole goal is to get others to see the PUA to leave so that an internal sort of jealousy is built or even a feeling of exclusion.

 

This does build into the desire mechanism in the brain on the part of the person who is “missing out” on whatever the pickup artist has to offer especially if he is leaving with more than one girl.

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and rejection

A pick up artist who has been out in the field or “gaming” for a while will know that he will be rejected by women over time. The body language or on verbal reaction from him will show that the rejection is no big deal and that there are plenty of others who would be happy to be the center of his attention.

 

When the pick up artist does get the reaction that he wants he does not celebrate because it would create bad attention. On the other hand it is the same with rejection a good pick up artist will not react badly when he is rejection by his target he will just move on as nothing has phased him.  

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and his verbal attributes

There are a few things that need to be explained about the pickup artist and how he will use verbal actions to help with his nonverbal game. PUA’s will typically have a call sign or a nick name that they go by. In some instances the name will only be used on the internet in chat rooms but some of the guys will use them in the real world.

 

The nick name or call sign gives them confidence and allure and may help with their mystic and swagger. The whole intention of the pickup artist is attention from person or the group that they are targeting.

 

Remembering that the while goal of the body language and nonverbal actions is to build attraction and desire by increasing attention many great things can be learned from watching and reading the body language of a pickup artist.

 

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language signs and signals of pickup artists.

 

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Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Body language of alpha males

Body language: There is something about an Alpha male that eludes men and women’s ability to ascertain what makes them so special. When reading the body language of an alpha male there are quite a few things that the man will do that gets attention not only form the woman but also the men.

 

Both genders can read into the body language of confidence and that is one of them key items that an alpha male will portray.

 

Reading the body language of an alpha male in a room

If you are reading the body language of an alpha male in a room you will notice a few things:

  • ·         The alpha male will go wherever he wants
  • ·         The alpha male will do what he wants
  • ·         The alpha male will talk to who he wants even if that person is in a relationship
  • ·         In essence the alpha male will do what he wants when he wants

 

It doesn’t matter where the alpha male is in the room he gets attention and it is almost magnetic because he knows that he can get away with what he wants when he wants it.  That is the alpha male.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares how to read the body language of alpha males
Reading the body language of alpha males

 

In some instances the alpha male will use his special powers to get the attention that he needs from the men or woman that he wants to mate with.

 

Some people may confuse his confidence for arrogance but in some instances his arrogance is beyond his confidence. This arrogance may be seen through the eyes of contempt

 

Reading the body language of an alpha male in business

The alpha male will normally take the lead in many things in life and while in the business world he will do the same. You may find that he will live life by the motto of “it’s better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission” and sometimes he will cross the line and forget to ask for forgiveness.

 

In a room of business people the alpha male will take the best seat at the table or in the room. For the men in the room who don’t have the same type of special powers they may not say anything to the man when it comes to him doing something out of place.

 

The alpha male may have a natural ability to lead others or he may be ineffective but just goes with whatever because he feels that he can.

 

At a table he may take up more space than the other guys by spreading his arms or legs to take up more space. He may be fidgety while others talk and verbally he may just talk over the other men and woman in the room.

 

Whether standing or sitting you may find that the alpha male may break the unwritten laws of body language when it comes to proximity or the “Bell bubble”  

 

You would read his body language and find confidence in his actions no matter where he is in the room or who he is with.

 

The alpha male may display arrogance and sit with his fingers locked behind his head and lean back in his chair while others are talking.

 

The alpha may seem impatient with others ideas and thoughts and tell everyone what he thinks no matter what the outcome is.  

 

Reading body language of an alpha male in dating and relationships

There are many similarities between what an alpha male does in the business world and in the dating world:

  • ·         Taking the best seat
  • ·         Walking in front of others
  • ·         Stands and sits with a wide stance
  • ·         Holds and maintains eye contact longer than most
  • ·         Touches others freely
  • ·         Keeps his chin up
  • ·         Leaves his body open not covering vital body parts
  • ·         Has the consistent body language of confidence
  • ·         Automatically tells others what to do and yes it may come across wrong

 

While out on a date or in a bar the alpha male might display any of the characteristics that you may find in the business world.

 

The clothing of the alpha male could go a few ways. Pick up artists would say that the guy would “peacock” his clothes and or accessories as a way to get attention from others, but in most instances the alpha male would not have to do this since he would know how to get attention without gimmicks.  

 

Body language expert Scott Sylva Bell interprets the body language of alpha males
Reading body language of alpha males to understand their nonverbal actions

 

You may find the clothing of an alpha male to be trendy for whatever group or association as he would be seen as one that may be a leader. It doesn’t matter if he rides a Harley and wears blue jeans and leathers or if he is in the business world and wears a 5,000 suit. Whatever group he is associated with he is the one who sets the trends of his association.

 

Reading the body language of alpha males can be done best at bars or clubs. You will notice how the interactions happen with those who are not alpha males almost as if it is an unwritten code. The men who are not the alphas will automatically allow the alpha to take the lead.

 

There are some people who do not care for the nonverbal actions of the alpha male and this could be seen as a huge turn off.

 

Taking the time to read the body language of others means that you must first learn the “norms” of the man or the woman by watching them to see consistent behaviors. This base lining of the body language will help you read the situation better.

 

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for you comments and or questions about the body language of alpha males.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of Presidential candidates Part 1

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Reading body language: While reading the body language of aspiring leaders there are a few things to remember. An effective leader is one that communicates a message effectively. On the other hand because someone is a good communicator it does not make them an effective leader.

 

Presidential campaigns and debates from the Democrats and the Republicans and all parties are put under scrutiny when it comes to their candidate as to the message that he or she can deliver. Reading the body language of the nominee or the contender during the debates gives a glimpse of what the man or woman would do under pressure in front of cameras if there were an accident, act of nature, war or anything else that a President may have to deal with while in office.

 

In some instances the reactions to the man or the woman who is hopeful of becoming president is over read and in some instances the man or the woman is set up to get a reaction that can be read into.

 

Reading the body language of reactions

Your body language and the interpretation comes one to one thing and that is the reaction from the other person. Looking at the law of reaction when it comes to body language and reading into the situation it is important to point out whatever you are watching and reading into only matters as to what you believe. So you think that the Presidential hopeful is closed off because he or she crosses their arms, then that is what it means.

 

Hope is not a strategy for the man or woman seeking the nomination to move forward in the election process.

 

Every good reaction in the body language that is being read by the viewer gives the man or the woman a little more confidence in the viewer’s eyes. Every blunder when it comes to the nonverbal communication of the man or the women takes a little away from their campaign for the moment or for good in some instances.  

 

Huge key point: No matter in politics, business, relationships and even friendships people are judged on their body language reactions to incidents, questions, agreements, stories, other body language and even beliefs.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates during the debates

People want to see that their leader is strong and appears strong in public and this strength can be seen through the confidence of the leader. A confident leader has a few traits when it comes to reading their body language:

  • ·         An effective posture
  • ·         Gliding movements
  • ·         Good eye contact
  • ·         Good awareness of proximity to others
  • ·         Using the body as a stage and keeping aware of the “Bell Bubble”
  • ·         Stays away from body language signs and signals of lying or deceit
  • ·         Displaying the correct emotion to be read from the crowd of citizens, constituents or clients.

                   

Reading the body language of confidence by a Presidential candidate during a debate

The posture of leaders or presidential hopefuls is usually that of one of a man or woman who stands straight up. Their chin is not too far up as to seem arrogant but not low enough to seem depressed. This posture helps the person watching or viewing the ability to determine the leader or Presidential candidate understands the situation and has control over what is going on behind the scenes.

 

The lack of a good posture in a moment of presenting may show the signs and signals of weakness or defeat.

 

The debates allows for the viewer to decide who would be best to run the country based upon what they see and hear from the Presidential candidate and this includes what body language that is read into by the viewer especially that of confidence.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidate movements

When a Presidential candidate being whether a man or woman have confidence their body language shows the signs of it. A confident Presidential candidate will have a glide to their actions, they will not seem jerky and on the other hand they will not seem too fast. The body language of a strong Presidential candidate will be smooth and that smoothness will convey confidence even in the face of a difficult or bad question about something they have done in the past.

 

If a video clip is replayed of the Presidential candidate at the debate and their words do not go over well the visual signs of the man or woman being confident may be enough to sway a voter because they were able to connect a good emotion with the sight of the candidate showing confidence through difficult times.

 

Think about the times where you have seen what is going on with the show on television and could not hear the words but you were able to interpret or even possibly understand the situation because you were able to pick up on the nonverbal cues of the people in the show.

 

On the other hand you may have seen a show and the body language of a guest you were reading led you to believe that the person on the show was having difficulties with what was either being said or what was being done. Nonverbal actions may be able to make up for verbal mistakes in some instances.

 

Reading body language of eye contact from Presidential candidates

Presidential candidates who have and maintain good eye contact from those who are viewing their debates may be seen as more Presidential by those reading their body language because there may be more of a connection to the audience or the viewer.

 

Good eye contact can make or break a conversation or a debate for a Presidential Candidate.

 

Great eye contact may take someone who was not really into a Presidential candidate before the debate to a believer into what they are saying or what they propose to do. Now it is difficult to experience real eye contact from a person who is watching a debate through a television but when a Presidential candidate connects with the live audience or crown it may be conveyed through the screen and give the feeling to the television viewer of real.

 

If a tough question was asked during the debate of the Presidential candidate did they look away and try not to answer the question or did they tackle it head on with good eye contact like hey had nothing to hide along with showing confidence in their posture?

 

Did they look into the camera or at the crowd when they were asked about a tough position they have held and now want to change because of public opinion?

 

Think back to when you were a kid and dealing with a Mother or Father, if you didn’t give them good eye contact when they asked about something you did or were going to do did they think you were lying?

 

You may get that chance to decide who is the best fit for you and your beliefs while watching the Presidential Debates.

 

The same goes for Presidential candidates who debate from the Republican or even Democrat parties or even those from the Libertarians or Green parties.

 

In the next article we will discuss a few more exciting things about reading the body language of Presidential candidates while debating.

 

Reading the body language of politicians or those who want to be politicians is a great skill to learn here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of presidential candidates.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

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Reading body language of hands

Reading body language: There are so many ways that we are judged for our communication both verbally and nonverbally. When most people communicate they use their hands for some sort of gesture to add to their words and that adds to their communication.

 

The body language that is read from the use of hands to communicate can be interpreted in so many ways good or bad.

 

First off an effective communicator would not put their hands too far away from their body. This would push the hands out past the “Bell Bubble”. When other people are reading your body language in their eyes you may lose social value when your hands get too far away from your body as it may be seen as a lack of control.

 

Reading body language of the hands of women
Reading body language includes the hands

 

Social value would be your perceived value by others as they watch your body language as one complete action.

 

Reading the body language of the hands

The hands tell so much when it comes to a person and looking at them could give you a clue as to what the person does for a living. Are the hands of the man or the women that is being read by  another person:

  • ·         Smooth and soft
  • ·         Rough and callused
  • ·         Clean consistently
  • ·         Dirty and stained

 

All of these appearances of the hands will tell you what type of job that the man or woman may have. If a man has callused hands it could be a sign that the work that is done is rough. If the hands of the man are soft it may mean that he has an easy job. Now these two differences are not absolutes as someone who works with their hands may use gloves.

 

It would be wrong to judge this situation quickly because some people who work with their hands take very good care of them and it would be hard to tell what type of job they have.

 

These small clues from reading the hands can give you some information but not all of what you would need to make an informed explanation as to the state of the man.

 

Now reading the body language of a woman’s hands is similar to the hands of men. You will look for the same items when it comes to the condition of the skin. Are her hands soft and smooth or does it look and seem as if she works with them. Now if you are a man you would have to be very careful as to make an observation about a woman’s hands that is something that is saved for a woman to say to other women.

 

Reading the condition of the hands and body language

Now the condition of the skin for men or women is one thing but the fingernails are another item all together. Reading into the fingernails of the man or woman go one more step as to what the person does. There are some men and or women who don’t care what their nails look like so what does that say about the person? Not much exactly as they may not care or understand that there may be a meaning associated with the looks of their nails or they may have a job or trade where it does not matter.

 

So what kinds of jobs matter when it comes to the condition of hands and fingernails for a man or women while reading into their body language?  Professional jobs:

  • ·         Doctors – sometimes*
  • ·         Attorneys – sometimes*
  • ·         Salespeople – sometimes*
  • ·         Jewelers – sometimes*

 

*It says sometimes because only sometimes it matters and sometimes it doesn’t.

 

Reading body language of hands can explain occupation
Reading body language of mens hands

 

For jobs where it does matter what the hands look like it would be a good idea to get manicures performed too keep up the appearance of the hands to be read by others in a manner where it gives an advantage. If a man or a woman gets a manicure does it mean that they are more detailed oriented? It is possible but it doesn’t mean that they are. Does it mean that they will communicate better? It may if the man or woman is put under scrutiny for what their hands look like.   

 

So now that you have the appearance of what the hands can mean how does this really affect body language?  

 

The hands may draw a reaction like repulsion or disgust or they may even draw surprise when they are neat and clean.

 

People look at your hands and fingernails more than people would guess especially when women meet other men or women.

 

Your hands are usually in front of you when you are communicating so they are one of the first things that people may have the capability of judging once they get close to you.

 

It is important to also remember that when people are reading your body language or nonverbal communication skills they are reacting to what they believe your body language means.  

 

Reading body language of hands can help you seem like you can read the minds of others. Learn how to read body language like an expert here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of hands.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

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Reading body language during an interview

Reading body language: Interviews of any kind have to be one of the most intimidating moments for people because of the fear that it brings them and it’s all about how their new boss or partner may read their body language, and your body language does matter.

 

You have a brief few seconds to impress anyone when it comes to how they read you and your body language and all of the nonverbal traits that you have.

 

Reading body language durring a job interview
Reading body language of an interview

 

You are judged so quickly that there isn’t room to make mistakes of any kind. Search the internet and studies have state that people from HR departments decide in 30 seconds or less if they would hire you as an employee. That’s one commercial from televisions time where you are read, that’s it.

 

It is important to have the right strategy for your body language when it comes to setting up your body language to be read properly.

 

There are plenty of places to go wrong when meeting for a job interview and just as many items you can perform with to go the right way.

 

Reading body language in an job interview intro

Some will tell you that everything will start with the hand shake when it comes to a job interview but there is a short instance just before the handshake. There will be two things that will be looked at and those are:

  • ·         Posture
  • ·         Emotions

 

Your posture before your handshake is just as or if not more important than the handshake. For you to be or even seem confident your body will have to read that you believe in yourself.

 

This means that you will either want to be standing or sitting straight up but with a very slight relaxed stature. Done wrong and it will seem that you are cocky or arrogant done right it will be seen as confident. So what is the difference between the two? It will start with the position of your chin if you hold it too high you will fall into the cocky or arrogant category. The second part would be if your movements become too stiff and rigid.

 

It is important to note that most of the time people are wrong about reading into body language and what it means. You are up against peoples beliefs and perceptions as to what they think they know body language to be. If they believe your actions to mean something you are stuck with that belief and you will possibly lose out.

 

For job interviews done correctly your posture would be correct and your emotions that can be seen an interpreted correctly have been dealt with. This means that you have some enthusiasm but not so much that it is creepy. The creepy factor comes into play from smiling too much. A brief smile at an introduction does far more good for you than a long smile throughout the approach and then through the handshake. One appropriate place to insert a smile is when the other person says their name.

 

So now you made it past the first 30 seconds of the job interview and your body language has been read perfectly. Your posture was correct, you seemed enthusiastic but not too much with enough energy and you didn’t smile too much.

 

Now it is time to sit down again.

 

Here is what you would do right:

 

  • ·         Sit slightly away from the table with a confident posture – if you are too close to the table it is uncomfortable for the person on the other side. Keep your feet flat in front of you on the floor is you are a man. If you lock your ankles and put them under your chair it causes you to lean forward. As an exercise get a partner or friend and sit in a chair with your feet in front of you placed on the floor flat. Then cross your ankles and put them under the seat and see how much you move forward. In the right settings you can cross your leg but done too soon may make you appear to be over confident.
  • ·         For women there isn’t an issue with crossing legs it’s almost expected.
  • ·         Keeping hands out of pockets to show that you are not hiding anything will help their beliefs stay constant
  • ·         Leaving your hands and arms within the “bell bubble” and not allowing them to travel too far from your body.
  • ·         When standing or sitting next to others you stay far enough away that it is comfortable but not too far away.
  • ·         Not shifting around in your chair as if you were uncomfortable
  • ·         Not looking at too many things but keeping good eye contact with the person you are meeting with. Between 50% – 70%  eye contact is normal.
  • ·         Not tapping your fingers on the table or your feet on the ground because it would show that you are nervous

 

So you have made it through the interview and your body language has been perfect and the other person reads you as being confident and comfortable.

 

There are a few ways that you can really crew up an interview in the nonverbal categories of body language:

  • ·         Invading space – Think of locking your hands behind your head and being over confident or even taking up too much space or real estate on a table as if you own the place with your materials.
  • ·         Being too familiar with the other person and touching them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable.
  • ·         Touching anywhere near your face because most people see and believe this to be a tell that you are a liar
  • ·         Personal grooming in anyway like picking your teeth or cleaning your ears while you are being interviewed does not go over well
  • ·         Chewing gum for any reason would be silly
  • ·         Dressing inappropriately for the type of place you are interviewing at. There really isn’t any excuse for not dressing up.

 

If you are being interviewed by someone who does interviews all day long they will be sizing you up before you know it and even if the person doing the interview for the job doesn’t do interviews all day long they will be sizing you up instantly.

 

Reading body language durring an interview with expertise
Reading body language of a job interview with nonverbal communication

 

Reading body language advice for a job interview

Do everything you need to before you walk into the office. Before you walk in check your clothes to make sure you gig line is straight, your shirt is buttoned, you have nothing in your teeth, you zipper is up and that you feel and show confidence but not arrogance.

 

Having the right knowledge about the signs and signals from your body language can give you the upper hand during a job interview.

 

Reading body language experts know what to look at and where, understanding and interpreting the signs and signals of nonverbal communication can be learned here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language during interviews.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

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Reading body language: The non verbal language of women part 2

Reading body language of women: While understanding the body language of women it is important to remember that first you should observe her non verbal communication to determine or base line her actions. This understand of what is normal for her is a key to interpreting body language correctly.

 

The body language of women may differ from the body language of men in a few ways. Going back and understanding the natural born tendencies in women to protect themselves from men or attackers of either gender knowing where to stand or even how close in proximity is important.

 

If you are working on determining her non verbal communication to see if a woman is interested into you there are a few signs to look for when it comes to body language signs of attraction.

 

When a woman is attracted to you her body language will cause her to “preen”. This action of preening could include her playing with her hair or clothing or even an object like a glass. If in the animal world this would be a sign of the woman’s capability to clean and take care of herself but also at the same time demonstrating that she is a capable mate.

 

If a woman is attracted to you she may use smiles as her body language to get your attention. Now the smile that a woman would use would be a genuine smile and not the kind that kids make when taking pictures in the 3rd grade. This smile used as nonverbal communication would not be a constant smile because that may just be creepy and strange it would be a shorter gesture.  

 

Now sometimes women will flirt with men and they may just wink or blink at a guy. You may smile back at her and then she may wink or even raise her eyebrows as a sign that she is interested. In some instances she may even motion for you to come over this may be an overt sign of body language and would definitely mean that she is interested in you in some way or another.

 

While determining if she is attracted to you through her body language you can look at her feet belly button and neck dimple. Now these three items can help in indicating or understanding the body language of attraction. When a woman is interested in her she may be more inclined to point her feet in your direction when standing in a group or even if it is just the two of you. Looking at her proximity or how close she to you will help be a good judge or indicator. If she enters your bell bubble or gets closer than 18 inches this is a good sign that she is comfortable with you or even interested.

 

The next step to see if her body language is showing that she is interested in you would be to look at her belly button will help indicate attraction or if she is interested. When people are concerned about their safety they will do what they can to cover up vital organs and what is common when someone is nervous or even scared would be to cover the belly button. If you are looking at the feet of a woman to determine if she is attracted her belly button would also face you directly.

 

Adding one more layer to understanding the body language of women or attraction would to be the neck dimple. If her feet and her belly button are facing you then so should her neck dimple. This is the area above her collar bone but below her chin. This is another area of the body when would need to be protected in a time of danger and when it is left open shows that there is no fear or reason to be concerned.   

 

When all three areas of the feet, belly button and neck dimple line up these are good signs that there is attraction but this is not definite. This body language of women is important to understand as a basic safety need protect. If you are attracted to a women and she starts to cover these areas or directing them away form you it may mean that she is not interested and her body language of attraction is showing it.

 

To determine if a woman is interested in you checking her body language or looking at her eyes

Can help determine if she is interested or even flirting. In most instances when attraction is present in men or women the eyes will dilate or even stay fixated on you longer. This fixation could help you determine if she is attracted to you. There is always a downside when looking for body language signs of attraction and that is misunderstanding what the person is looking at. She may be looking at someone or something behind you if you are a distance apart. If you are closer in proximity there would be no mistake if she was looking at you with attraction.

 

Now if you are new to flirting with women or understanding the signs or signals of attraction keeping eye contact too long is not the right thing to do in fact it may just have the opposite effect and cause the person to think that you are strange. Interpreting the body language of flirting may take some time to learn if you have not learned about it previously.

 

When the body language of women turns to attraction her non verbal cues may include her skin changing color or becoming flush, her lips may become more red and in some instances her actions over all may become slower as to attract more attention. In some instances these moves may become seductive or even suggestive. In those specific instances the message should be very clear and it would not take mind reading to understand the situation. This seductive body language would not need you to be clairvoyant as to intentions.

 

More ways to determine if a woman is interested in you she may touch you on your arm or shoulder. Now this touch doesn’t always mean that there is attraction she may just be a kinesthetic or touchy person. You may have to take some time with this nonverbal communication to see what is going on. Now if you are used to women flirting with you would know what this “touch” would mean. If you are not used to women flirting with you it may take some time for you to catch on that she is interested in you. If you are not used to women touching you this action could possibly be misread very easily.  

 

She may take something from you as a playful action along with all of the other body language signs or signals of flirting or attraction. The taking of an object from you would be used as an attention getting device. At this point she may become more playful and even start laughing. This playful activity of flirting may common at any age and not just defined by one group.

 

As one last non verbal tip to see if a woman is interested in you at in a public setting you can look at your watch. The way that you would use this would require the help of a wing man. This action is very simple you would look at your watch as if you have somewhere to be if there is a woman who is attracted to you she will also look at her wrist as if there was a watch there. Your friend or wingman would then share with you who may have the possibility of being attracted to you. At this point you would either take the time to flirt with her or go over and use your verbal skills and talk to her.

 

Learning the body language of attraction for women or being able to read their non verbal communication when it comes to flirting can be misjudged so it is important to decipher the situation correctly. Your communication skills can be increased by learning and understanding what your body movements and actions can mean.

 

As always i would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

Scott Sylvan Bell

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Reading body language: The non verbal lanaguge of women

Reading body language: The reading of female body language is something that stumps most men and may even confuse women. Reading her nonverbal communication may stump even the smartest of men.

 

 To understand or interpret the body language of women you must first understand the prewiring done by nature.

 

 What communication is to a woman will be determined by what has happened previously in her life. Your non verbal communication skills must be honed in order to effectively portray your masculine abilities.

 

 Women are innately born to take care of themselves and others. This instinct will cause women to react to the gestures, non verbal communication and body language of men.

 

 In instances this will cause the fight or flight mechanism in her brain to trip.

 

 Think about the last time that you got to close to a woman and she backed away from you and reacted in a way like you were trying to walk off with her purse and you had no such thoughts.

 

 Women are prewired to protect their bodies from men who would try to harm them. Then again yo have to remember that they are used to men trying to hunt them for their goods sort of speak.

 

 Knowing how to get close to a woman without triggering her instinct to run or mace a man is something that men all too often feel is a mysterious answered locked away in some box.

 

 The first step is to make a woman feel safe by you using the correct body language, this includes how fast you walk up to her and how close in proximity that you get with your first “meeting” or encounter. Now this proximity will be decided by where you are meaning:

  • ·         A park
  • ·         A bar or pub
  • ·         Church
  • ·         Work
  • ·         Any type of social gathering.

 

 The distance or proximity that you can work with will change depending on the venue and how skilled you are at using your body language or nonverbal communication.  If anything you do seems strange to her then almost certainly her defenses will go up and you are out of the game for getting a number, email address or Facebook friend.

 

 Stand too close you lose and then again if you stand too far away you will also have trouble. Standing 4- 5 feet away upon meeting would be acceptable and then slowly drawing in instead of the rush to get within 18 inches.  

 

 If you observe the rules of body language correctly then you would know that getting into her Bell bubble too soon would cause harm.

 

 Now that proximity has been dealt with your hands will need to be used correctly to convey that you are safe to be around. Keeping your hands visible in a non-threatening manner will help you but that is not all.

 

 If this is a business meeting or a setting where shaking a hand with an introduction is ok, do you know what is acceptable and what is not acceptable for your non verbal communication?

 

 Going for touch too soon or giving a death grip hand shake may destroy your chances of the right or correct first meeting. This is bad non verbal communication and a reminder that you handshake if appropriate should be firm.

 

 A body language tip to understanding the body language of women is to slightly glance at her hand to see if she is about to raise it to shake your hand, you will see her shoulder start to dip slightly this may tell you that she is ready for a handshake.

 

 Now what if this isn’t a meeting for business and you would like to get to know this special woman better. You may decide that you want to use the body language of attraction to get this woman’s attention and in this instance it would be good to know and understand the body language of men.

 

 If you smile too soon you will seem like a creepy stalker who will get a fake number for sure, if you are too serious of your facial expression is wrong once again you will get shut down instantly.

 

 Now some pick up artists will share with you that it is a good idea to touch a woman early on in the “game” so that she gets used to you touching her. Touch done wrong this can get you in trouble, even done right this “kino” (short for kinesthetic) action may disqualify you as cool guy before you even get close to finding out her real name.

 

 Getting to know a women by approaching her the right way will help you “get the girl” knowing your body language or how non verbal communication works just give you an upper hand.

 

 Next up part 2 – The nonverbal or body language of women and even possibly seduction.

 

 As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions!

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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