Reading body language of hands

Reading body language: There are so many ways that we are judged for our communication both verbally and nonverbally. When most people communicate they use their hands for some sort of gesture to add to their words and that adds to their communication.


The body language that is read from the use of hands to communicate can be interpreted in so many ways good or bad.


First off an effective communicator would not put their hands too far away from their body. This would push the hands out past the “Bell Bubble”. When other people are reading your body language in their eyes you may lose social value when your hands get too far away from your body as it may be seen as a lack of control.


Reading body language of the hands of women
Reading body language includes the hands


Social value would be your perceived value by others as they watch your body language as one complete action.


Reading the body language of the hands

The hands tell so much when it comes to a person and looking at them could give you a clue as to what the person does for a living. Are the hands of the man or the women that is being read by  another person:

  • ·         Smooth and soft
  • ·         Rough and callused
  • ·         Clean consistently
  • ·         Dirty and stained


All of these appearances of the hands will tell you what type of job that the man or woman may have. If a man has callused hands it could be a sign that the work that is done is rough. If the hands of the man are soft it may mean that he has an easy job. Now these two differences are not absolutes as someone who works with their hands may use gloves.


It would be wrong to judge this situation quickly because some people who work with their hands take very good care of them and it would be hard to tell what type of job they have.


These small clues from reading the hands can give you some information but not all of what you would need to make an informed explanation as to the state of the man.


Now reading the body language of a woman’s hands is similar to the hands of men. You will look for the same items when it comes to the condition of the skin. Are her hands soft and smooth or does it look and seem as if she works with them. Now if you are a man you would have to be very careful as to make an observation about a woman’s hands that is something that is saved for a woman to say to other women.


Reading the condition of the hands and body language

Now the condition of the skin for men or women is one thing but the fingernails are another item all together. Reading into the fingernails of the man or woman go one more step as to what the person does. There are some men and or women who don’t care what their nails look like so what does that say about the person? Not much exactly as they may not care or understand that there may be a meaning associated with the looks of their nails or they may have a job or trade where it does not matter.


So what kinds of jobs matter when it comes to the condition of hands and fingernails for a man or women while reading into their body language?  Professional jobs:

  • ·         Doctors – sometimes*
  • ·         Attorneys – sometimes*
  • ·         Salespeople – sometimes*
  • ·         Jewelers – sometimes*


*It says sometimes because only sometimes it matters and sometimes it doesn’t.


Reading body language of hands can explain occupation
Reading body language of mens hands


For jobs where it does matter what the hands look like it would be a good idea to get manicures performed too keep up the appearance of the hands to be read by others in a manner where it gives an advantage. If a man or a woman gets a manicure does it mean that they are more detailed oriented? It is possible but it doesn’t mean that they are. Does it mean that they will communicate better? It may if the man or woman is put under scrutiny for what their hands look like.   


So now that you have the appearance of what the hands can mean how does this really affect body language?  


The hands may draw a reaction like repulsion or disgust or they may even draw surprise when they are neat and clean.


People look at your hands and fingernails more than people would guess especially when women meet other men or women.


Your hands are usually in front of you when you are communicating so they are one of the first things that people may have the capability of judging once they get close to you.


It is important to also remember that when people are reading your body language or nonverbal communication skills they are reacting to what they believe your body language means.  


Reading body language of hands can help you seem like you can read the minds of others. Learn how to read body language like an expert here.


As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of hands.


Now go implement!


Scott Sylvan Bell



Hands Concept by Idea go, Empty Handed by Michal Marcol :Photo credits for reading the body language of hands

Reading body language; Is cologne or perfume a non-verbal skill?

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Reading body language:

You may find that when learning how to read a persons non verbal skills there is much more than just what the body is doing or what the mouth is saying.


Take for example what type of accessories that they are wearing


Or if they are close in proximity to another person, or maybe even too close.


What about those small things that could be making the difference that you may never even have thought of?


Do you think that Cologne or Perfume could be a part of your nonverbal communication or a way to read people?


What happens if you are that girl and trying to get the attention of a guy but at the same time trying to figure out the body language of the guy?


You meet him and all of the sudden you find that he is wearing too much cologne?


Now all of the sudden you are questioning his self control and even worse you may not be so attracted to the man any more.



You could even go the other way and you are a man looking for a women and you find what you are looking for but while meeting the girl you smell some wild flowery perfume that you cant stand. Now you want nothing to do with the girl you may have been interested in.


You can even put this in the form of a business conversation and question if you were going to meet a new client. It would not matter how good your persuasive selling skills are, all of your work would be destroyed by wearing too much scent.


Ok, so you may not think that how you smell is part of nonverbal skills, you may think that everything you do when you communicate only comes from words.


What happens when you have a negative reaction to you just because of the way you smell and maybe it isn’t cologne or perfume, it could be the soap that you use, it could be you forgot to put on some deodorant.


In any sense if people react to you from your words, your actions or even your smell you are indeed communicating.


Smell does cover a part of communication any time that there is a reaction negative or positive.




Body language and non verbal skills become powerful tools when you know how to use them or even read what a person is saying without hearing one word from them. The clairvoyant read may just be from seeing a facial expression.


As a general rule when it comes to cologne or perfume and you being judged by your non-verbal actions less is more or a little dab will do you.


To change up the smell or communication of smell a slight bit lets move past cologne or perfume for a second.


Some real estate agents will tell homeowners to bake some cookies a few hours before showing a home for the positive feelings that they can cause. Many people have great feelings about cookies and the smell would piggyback that feeling.


The way that salespeople could use smell or cologne would not make sense until you take a look at how the smell would help your communication skills.


Take for instance that some older salespeople will wear cologne so that they can remind younger people the smell of their grandfathers or people of similar age feelings of the past. As you read on there may be a downside to using smell as a non verbal selling skill.


If you shop at some of the high end stores where colognes and perfumes can cost over $300 per bottle it is common for the saleswomen to wear men’s cologne in the areas that sell perfumes and for the salesmen to wear perfume when selling cologne.


Think for a second how this would help the person buying the scents.


Most times that a person is buying a scent it is for someone special and many times that person is the opposite sex. The scent becomes familiar to the buyer and is softer or more masculine either way depending on who is buying


Also be aware that people associate smells like they do songs with feelings and if you are wearing a smell that has been a part of a bad experience all of the sudden you are within the realms of that past bad experience. Now it really would not matter how much self-control you are capable of when it comes to your body language you would lose the:

  • ·         Girl
  • ·         Guy
  • ·         Job
  • ·         Possible friend or new associate


There is a saying that “you never get a second chance for a first impression” and that could not be truer for verbal and non-verbal communication skills.


As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.


Now go implement!


Scott Sylvan Bell