Body language of listening

 

Body language of listening: One of the biggest complaints among people who have conversations is that the man or the woman is not listening.

 

It doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship, work for someone or even have kids at some point you have wondered if the people around you are listening.

 

As with any project or time with reading the body language of others you will want to baseline or watch the person for a moment to understand their signs and or signals before making a judgment.  

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Nonverbal signs of listening

There are a few nonverbal signs when it comes to listening:

  • ·         Eye contact
  • ·         Direction of the body
  • ·         Tilt of the head
  • ·         Nonverbal actions
  • ·         Micro expressions

 

Body language of eye contact and listening

When talking to others both men and women prefer that the person that is listening has good eye contact with the speaker. For most people it’s a sign of respect and just a good overall sign that the eye contact is present. Now there are people who pretend that they are listing and they have great eye contact. If it’s just eye contact and no other nonverbal sign the man or woman may be concerned that listening is not happening.

 

Nonverbal actions of listening and the direction of the body  

Now when a man or woman is listening to you they may turn their body slightly while they listen. If you are not familiar with the person facing each other and standing or sitting too close may cause some altercations. If there is an anticipation of issues it may be best to slightly turn to not aggravate the man or the woman talking to you. This may work well for relationships or in business interactions, just remember slight as it may be a sign that you want to be out of the conversation.

 

When the man, woman or child is not facing you there will be signs and signals that you will want to look for like shaking the head or using a symbol.

 

Body language of listening and the tilt of the head

For some men or women that listen actively they will tilt their head to the right or to the left and may even turn their head towards the speaker. Now this is not always the case but there are times where people do so and it may even be when it is difficult to hear in a loud location. Tilting the head is not a definite sign that there is listening going on but may give you a clue to if the man or the woman is listening to what you are saying.

 

Nonverbal actions of listing

Now some of the other signs and signals of listening is the head, hand or arm movement or even symbols that could be shown. Now people may shake their head yes or no when they listen to you. Now this may be through a sales presentation, a sermon, an argument between a boyfriend or girlfriend or just an everyday conversation.

 

You may see a man or women give you the thumbs up sign here in the United States or even use an arm swipe as to say no way. There may even be a time where the man or the woman throws their hands up as a sign of giving up while you talk and that may just be a sign that they are about to give up and walk away.

 

There may even be some signs by shrugging the shoulders or throwing the hands up in the air. There are times where people get impatient and tap pens or anything similar.

 

Micro expressions and the signs of listening  

As a man or women listens to you they may get emotional for the good or even for the bad and you may be able to see that through their microexpressions. You may have a coworker or friend that gets angry from your conversation and when you see that you may want to change the course of the conversation. It doesn’t make sense for you to expect the other person to listen to you and you then not listen to them.

 

You will also want to show your active listening body language or nonverbal communication with the other man or woman. Just remember the law of reaction because the reaction or the signs and signals you exhibit may cause the other person to react to what you do.  Be patient with others while they communicate and they should be patient with you.

 

Learning how to read body language can be fun and make your own communication more effective.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of listening

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

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body language of blinking

Body language of blinking: When reading the body language or nonverbal communication of others one of the items that may identify deceit, lies, stress or even medical conditions is blinking. The action of blinking happens naturally and you can easily make mistakes when it comes to interpreting what blinking means.

 

There are some actions that people really cannot control that perform necessary functions and blinking is one of them.  This action keeps the eyes moisturized but also protects the eyes from debris and bright lights.

 

The average person blinks every 3-12 seconds and that can work out to 8-10 blinks per minute unless under stress or medical conditions.

 

Under stress, while fabricating or while lying the rate of blinking may increase.

  

Body language of blinking and lying

One common mistake that people make when reading the body language of a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is that they are too quick to believe that excessive blinking is a definite sign of lying.

 

One of the signs of deception and or lying can be excessive blinking and through plenty of misinformation it’s an automatic belief in some it means lying. Now it may also be that the man or woman is under stress. You will have to be careful and baseline the person that you are examining to look for traits that would lead you to understand if it is a lie that is causing the blinking or jest the stress of being questioned. You will also want to take a look at the micro expressions that a man or woman has because if the person does not know about the accusations they should show surprise.

 

As a man or woman lies they may have a cluster of body language actions that happen when they start to deceive or fabricate. There may be touching of the face, excessive licking of the lips, a change in the breathing patterns, lack of eye contact, a long rub or stroke of a body part like the arm or leg. With these clusters you may notice that the blink rate would increase. This is where you would want to start questioning the story of what is going on if there is a combination of these items going on.  

 

It could be either be the stress of the encounter or the fact that the man or woman is lying and in some instances it could be both. Just take your time before you make a judgment.  

 

Body language of stress or fatigue

Fatigue or stress also may directly influence the rate of blinking. When being questioned by a significant other the stress alone may cause some questions about the blink rate. The signs and signals of stress or fatigue will be slower actions from the body.  

 

 

Body language of blinking and allergies and medical conditions  

Nervous system ailments can cause men or women to blink faster than normal and these faster blinks will be consistent for the most part.

 Having contacts in may also cause extra blinking so if you know that the man or woman has contacts there is a time where you may want to count this item.

When eyes are itchy there are times where men and or women will blink faster than normal, you may see that they eyes are red and or puffy when this happens. When there is an issue or medical condition the faster blink rate may or may not be consistently fast. There are some people that when interacting with others that blink faster than what they would if they were not. People who work in dimly lit areas may also have blinking triggered.

 

Reading the body language of others along with their nonverbal signs and signals can help you understand if a man or woman is lying.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about blinking and lying.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

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Body language of fear

 

Body language of fear: When it comes to reading body language or nonverbal communication of the “tells” or “leaks” that people have and can’t really control are micro expressions.

 

While reading the micro expressions of fear there are a few items to look at while reading facial expressions:

  • ·         The eyebrows
  • ·         The eyes and eye lids
  • ·         The mouth

 

Micro expressions of fear and the eyebrows

The eyebrows with the micro expression of fear with start with the eyebrows. They eyebrows will move upwards but also smash towards the center of the nose as one single movement. In most instances the eyebrows will move up as high as possible.

 

Micro expressions of fear and the eyes

With the emotion of fear the micro expressions for this non verbal action will have two things that happen.

  1. 1.      The top of the eyelids will move up high
  2. 2.      The bottom eyelid will flatten out

For all micro expression this is the only one that has these two actions when it comes to the eyes.

 

Micro expressions of fear and the mouth

When the emotion of fear is expressed the facial feature of the mouth will cause the corners of the lips to pull back towards the ears. This facial feature will almost make the lips flat.

 

Body language of fear

When a man or a woman shows the nonverbal emotion of fear the hands may raise in front of their face or trunk to protect the body. There are times where the hands and arms may get pulled to the body. Different people may have completely different reactions.

 

You may see a man or a woman cry after they are scared or they may even get angry depending upon the situation. There is no absolute formula when it comes to reading body language for every man or woman on the planet. In most instances base lining the previous actions would help to determine what is or has been going on.

 

There are some times where reading the body or the nonverbal communication must be done instantly. In those cases it would be a good idea to have enough knowledge to act correctly.

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Learn how to read micro expressions and body language

Learning how to process and read non verbal communication may be easier and more fun than you would think. The first place to learn is with friends or family that you know. Your greatest tool for learning how to read body language is a video camera or a mirror. Put yourself in a situation where you can make the required signs, signal or facial expression and either watch what you do in a mirror but the best bet is to record your own reaction so that you can slow down the video and watch in slow motion. With a video camera you have the ability to rewind and watch over again so it is one of the best options to learn how to read body language.  

 

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of fear!

 

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Reading body language of pickup artists

Reading body language: There is a certain allure set aside for the man who is considered a Pick up artist (PUA) in men’s magazines. Pick up artists are meant to be some magical creature that every man wants to be like because of the way that they can attract women to their persona.

 

The first step in interpreting the body language of the pickup artist is his person. This is the walk of confidence that the man has while entering a room that is meant to grab the attention of the women in the room or bar. This body language that the room is supposed to be reading shows that he is meant to be with any woman in the room. This confidence is also meant to build desire into any woman who see and view the PUA.

 

A smart pick up artist knows that in order to be seen he must stay away from the edges of vision so he will place himself in the center of the room so that he may be the center of attention as much as possible this is a huge part of his “game”.

 

Attention is everything

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and his swagger

The body language of a pickup artist will show confidence in every way possible; he will stand with confidence and obey the laws of proximity and the “bell bubble”. The pickup artist will be aware of the proximity of the people who are his friends but also their body language as to what they are reacting to.

 

The pickup artist will smile and look at everyone in the room even if they have disgust and disdain for him. He will ignore the statements made about him or he may react verbally with a smart remark.

 

Everything for the pick up artist has been engineered before he walked into the room. His clothing was well thought out, his accessories were predetermined hours earlier and even locations where he ends up may have been previously staked out.

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and peacocking

The clothing of a pickup artist may be a little different than what you would think. Everything is done to draw attention to himself of the opposite sex. The man may wear something that is unusual like a scarf or a piece of jewelry. These articles used are conversation starters for sure just unusual enough to get that extra bit of attention from the other guys in the room and even the alpha male.

 

The articles used to attract women nonverbally can even be part of women’s clothing. The scents used can be those of perfume just to get the extra touch and get her to question if it was from another woman who was interested causing her to be interested now.

 

Everything worn by the pickup artist whether clothing or scents is designed to build attention in a way that creates people either talking to the pickup artist or about him. This attention feeds into the persona of the man and helps build his confidence.

 

Reading body language of a pickup artist and “kino”

When it comes to reading body language and the actions of others including pick up artists kinesthetics is important. The word “Kino” is used meaning touch. The job of the pickup artist is to get playful touch in as soon as possible. The main goal is to show confidence and intent but to remain as playful as possible.

 

Touch crosses social boundaries and once crossed it is easier for the woman to relax around the pick up artist and buy into his persona and what he is saying to her. The more she is touched the more her guard drops or the more comfortable she becomes over time the more relaxed she will become.

 

Reading body language of pick up artists with body space and anchoring

Pick up artists usually work in groups of two or more or teams. The job of the wing man is to be support for their fellow pick up artists but at the same time getting more attention from the men and the women in the room. They may use each other’s bodies to have the right amount of anchoring or being in a good visible spot for others to see. The anchor may be the best seat in the house where the PUA may sit or stand with confidence.

 

Wherever he is the body language signs and signals of the pickup artist will show that he is relaxed and supposed to be right where the action is.

 

He may surround himself with adoring women who want his attention which will in turn cause other women to want to be within proximity to figure out who the man of mystery is. The closer in proximity the women are to him the better chance that the PUA has of gamming or working on his game with his new “target”.

 

While anchoring good interactions take place in one location and bad interactions will take place in another.

 

The best ally the PUA has is the attention that he gets from everyone in the room. This creates a buzz and creates attention and builds the confidence or swagger of the man.

 

A good pick up artist is good at reading the body language of others but also for using his to gain attention or know how to diffuse a bad situation.

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and bouncing

Once a location has been determined to be the venue must change. The whole goal is to get the girl away from the location where she was before. This can be for a mini date like a quick breakfast at 2:00am or even for activities back at home.

 

In some instances the whole goal is to get others to see the PUA to leave so that an internal sort of jealousy is built or even a feeling of exclusion.

 

This does build into the desire mechanism in the brain on the part of the person who is “missing out” on whatever the pickup artist has to offer especially if he is leaving with more than one girl.

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and rejection

A pick up artist who has been out in the field or “gaming” for a while will know that he will be rejected by women over time. The body language or on verbal reaction from him will show that the rejection is no big deal and that there are plenty of others who would be happy to be the center of his attention.

 

When the pick up artist does get the reaction that he wants he does not celebrate because it would create bad attention. On the other hand it is the same with rejection a good pick up artist will not react badly when he is rejection by his target he will just move on as nothing has phased him.  

 

Reading the body language of a pickup artist and his verbal attributes

There are a few things that need to be explained about the pickup artist and how he will use verbal actions to help with his nonverbal game. PUA’s will typically have a call sign or a nick name that they go by. In some instances the name will only be used on the internet in chat rooms but some of the guys will use them in the real world.

 

The nick name or call sign gives them confidence and allure and may help with their mystic and swagger. The whole intention of the pickup artist is attention from person or the group that they are targeting.

 

Remembering that the while goal of the body language and nonverbal actions is to build attraction and desire by increasing attention many great things can be learned from watching and reading the body language of a pickup artist.

 

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language signs and signals of pickup artists.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Body language: Learn how to read body language

Reading body language: When it comes to learning how to read body language and nonverbal communication like an expert you do have a few ways to get your hands on the information that gives you the edge of knowing what people are thinking.

 

Knowing how to read body language of women or men can almost seem like you are psychic and know how to read minds when others see you in action

 

There are a few options for you to get the most out of learning the skills of reading body language. The few places that you can gather information are:

  • ·         Books on body language
  • ·         DVD’s and cd’s that are home study courses
  • ·         Hire an expert or go to a class on reading body language
  • ·         Your own research

 

Reading body language like an expert exercise

For today the focus will be on the last item and that is through your own work and research. You will find that it is easier than you think when it comes to learning how to read body language of women or men because most of the skills needed you already have.

 

This body language exercise requires that you have 2 or more people available and some time to learn the nonverbal actions of emotions. You will want to set aside some time possibly grab a video camera so that you can record your own coursework for later use and also for a way to watch your own body language. Your eyes may be opened up as to what the nonverbal actions when you have an emotion in the presence of others.

 

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Body language and how to learn how to read it

 

Reading body language exercise: here is what you will need:

  • ·         Index cards
  • ·         A pen
  • ·         A list of emotions

 

What you will do is list each emotion on the index cards and draw them out randomly.

You and your partner or partners will act out each emotion on the card as you draw them. You will want the emotions random so that you do not have time to prepare for the action you have drawn. You will want this exercise to be as real as possible.

 

You will watch each person act out the emotion that is drawn noting what they do with their body, where there proximity is, what their facial features do when they act out the emotion. Note internally as many details as possible because these small actions or micro expressions will be needed later.

 

 

Reading body language like an expert and how to learn the body language of others

Now this exercise may sound simple but it will give you a good idea as to what you need to watch for while watching others. You need to learn how to read body language not just from watching others in the form of media but also in real life.

 

Sometimes the person or the people working with you will not accurately depict the emotion that they draw.  You will determine what is off with their body language and make a note of it.

 

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Reading body language and how to learn how to read the body language of women and men

 

As you learn real time what is going on it will make it easier for you to learn how to read body language of men or women form a home study course or even from reading a book on body language. Body language experts learn real time along with from courses and coaches

 

Your ability to not just act out the emotion with your body but also being able to feel the emotions will give you an upper edge over others who have just learned from a book or anything else of the nature. For those who do not take the time to learn what their body is saying while communicating they will “leak” their true intentions or emotions before they even come out of their mouths.

 

This body language exercise is meant to supplement other work in order to help you understand and interpret what others are doing with their bodies.

 

As a side note you will want to note that as you work with the person or group things may get tense when you act out emotions such as anger, frustration or disgust they may have a reaction negatively to you. Remind them that this is an exercise to learn how to read body language and nothing personal.

 

Reading body language like an expert home study course

Learning how to read body language like an expert takes time and effort to understand and interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about learning how to read body language like an expert.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Body language of confidence

Reading body language: Now there are many things that you can do when reading the body language of others. You can learn just as much if not more from a man or woman’s nonverbal communication as you can from their words.

 

When a woman or man is confident they have signs and signals that people not just interpret but they understand without knowing body language. It is just seen and automatically compiled in the brain.

 

As people lose their confidence there is also body language that is associated with their lack of certainty. This lack of certainty can also be picked up and picked apart.

 

When you are looking at or viewing a man or woman who has problems with their confidence  or the body language of someone who is confident there are a few items that you can read into:

  • ·         The posture of the man or the woman
  • ·         The pace of the man or woman’s walk
  • ·         The speed of the movements of the man or woman’s body
  • ·         The position of the chin
  • ·         The eye contact of the man or woman
  • ·         The micro expressions or facial expressions
  • ·         The breathing pattern or location of the man or woman

 

Reading the body language confidence that high or low

The posture is going to give you the first clue as to what is possibly going through someone’s mind and how confident they are or are not. A confident man or woman will typically sit or stand straight up with their shoulders rolled out. In a sense it may seem like they are trying to make their body appear larger or take up more space but in a little more subtle action. A non-confident person will shrink and the shoulders may roll inwards along with the lack of a strong posture. The man or woman’s head may be tilted down.

 

The posture is one of the easiest portions of the body when it comes to reading the signs and signals of body language, It is fairly simple to determine whether or not a person has proper posture.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell helps you interpret the body language of confident women
Body language of confident women a how to read guide

 

In some instances standing with hands behind the back may be seen as a high sign of confidence when it comes to body language but be careful sometimes this action may cause people to think that you have something to hide. “See the law of reaction”

 

Reading the body language of confidence and eye contact

Confident men and women are not scared to make or hold good eye contact. In some instances an arrogant person may hold eye contact too long and it becomes uncomfortable.

 

When dealing with a man or woman who is lacking confidence they may have a tough time holding eye contact with others for more than a few seconds. A man or woman who is good with their nonverbal communication would know when to break their eye contact so that it would not be uncomfortable.

 

Reading the body language of confidence and walking

Men and woman who have high confidence have a glide to their movements, an elegance that can be picked up on. The confident man or woman strides when they walk and they do not take small steps normally and this may not be an accurate explanation if there is a medical condition of the confident man or woman. 

 

When a man or woman lacks confidence they may walk slower than a person who has more confidence. The steps can be seen as smaller as the strides get smaller. It may also seem like the person with less confidence is wandering as if they don’t know where they are going. A confident person may not know where they are going but you may not be able to tell from how they are walking it may seem like they are on their way to a destination.

 

A confident man or woman will walk with their chin up in the body language of arrogance the man or woman may hold their chin up higher and may display contempt as a facial expression while they are on the go. The eye contact from a confident man or woman would be good and could be help for longer than most people are comfortable with.

On the other hand a non-confident man or woman would walk with their head down and not make good eye contact with others

 

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Body language signs and signals of confident women

 

Reading the body language of hands and confidence

A man or woman who is lacking confidence may hide their hands in their pockets or wring them together. The hand wringing may be in any situation even if the man or woman is standing or sitting.

 

If the man or woman uses his or her hands while talking you will see their glide or elegance of their actions while a man or woman who is lacking in confidence will have more jerky motions and it may seem like they are a bit nervous and sometimes they will shake.

 

A confident man or woman may know that they should not point at another person and would leave their hands open to display that they are trustworthy. A less confident man or woman may keep their hands closed and this may create confrontation.

 

To be seen and viewed as confident keep your hands in view or the people or person that you are talking to so that it is not difficult for others to trust you. Practice in front of a mirror or camera your average every day conversations to see how you interact using your body language with others.

 

Reading the body language of confidence and breathing

Men and women who are confident may breath differently than a person who is lacking confidence. The breathing pattern of someone who is confident will have a slower deliberate pattern and may know how to breathe through their diaphragm naturally but their breathes will still be seen as strong

 

For the man or women who are lacking confidence you may see and hear them taking slower shallow breathes. This breathing could be seen almost as a panting but slower.

 

Reading the facial expressions of a confident woman or man  

The facial expressions of a confident man or woman may be seen as a smile or smirk. The eyes are open and visible. The forehead is not scrunched but more relaxed. You would be able to read a relaxed state on the face or in the facial expressions of the man or woman. The eyebrows could be even but not down as if the person was sad.

 

For a man or woman who is lacking confidence their might be a tight look on their face almost as if they are worried about something. Their lips may be turned in or puckered out. The forehead of the man or woman who lacks confidence may show wrinkles and their eyebrows may be pointed down in the center.

 

Reading the body language of confidence in men or women has many of the same characteristics for both sexes. Start with looking at either men or women and learn one sexes traits before the others.

 

Body language expert advice

Learning how to read the body language like an expert of others can help you understand and interpret the signs and signals of other people’s body language can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of confidence.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of uniforms

Reading body language: In many instances the body language of men in woman in uniforms may be seen as very specific while you are reading the person. You may be reading the body language of a man or woman in uniform that is:

  • ·         A police officer
  • ·         A guard
  • ·         Military personnel
  • ·         A service technician
  • ·         A businessman or woman in a suit
  • ·         A judge in a robe
  • ·         Or any clothing or attire that has to be earned and gives the person title or power

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shows how to read the body language of uniforms
Reading the body language of uniforms of police, doctors, military and business women

 

You as the viewer have been preconditioned over time while reading the symbols and the body language of those in uniforms. In many instances their power comes from your recognition and conformity of those signs, symbols and uniforms. Their power and ability comes from your acknowledgement of what you perceive.  

 

The body language that you may be reading may be that of confidence and in some instances aggression depending upon the situation. In some cases the confidence may be artificial and based upon belonging to a group or collective.

 

The confidence or aggression that you could read may be just from the man or woman earning the right to wear the uniform along with the symbolism built into parts of the clothing. This confidence, conceit or aggression can be with the men or women in any type of uniform from an expensive business suit to a police officer.

 

You can recognize a police or judicial officer in just about any part of the world as their clothing or uniforms are similar.

 Reading body language of uniform signs

While reading the body language and signs of a uniform you will see:

  • ·         Some sort of official badge or marker showing that they are law enforcement
  • ·         A mark or insignia showing rank
  • ·         Similar haircuts or facial hair
  • ·         Some sort of device to hold people like handcuffs
  • ·         Some sort of device to deter people like a Billy club, baton or even a gun

 

The rank insignia may breed confidence, arrogance or even contempt for others outside of the group. For some people who are reading the body language of police officers they may say that all have an arrogance or belief of extra power because of the backing of others or because of the ability to have a gun or firearm.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell teaches how to read the body language of uniforms signs and siganls
Reading the body language of women in uniforms

 

In the case of a business man or woman you would see:

  • ·         A nice suit
  • ·         Possibly a briefcase
  • ·         Some ornate jewelry or watch

 

While reading the body language of a uniform you will want to look for what transformational item gives to person or group their power or perceived authority, this may come from the collective group or the uniform itself. You will also want to look for the items or item where they show their power and that can be a watch briefcase or badge.

 

Reading the body language of confidence from a uniform

When you see a man or woman in a uniform the confidence that is common from looking at and reading their body language will cause the man or woman to:

  • ·         Stand straight up
  • ·         Walk with a smooth glide and their arms and rest of the body will have the same
  • ·         Maintain good eye contact
  • ·         Keep their chin up
  • ·         Keep their clothing clean and their shoes or boots polished
  • ·         Verbally be able to give commands so that others follow their direction

 

Every person wears some sort of uniform and some of those uniforms will give the person who wears them powers that have super hero characteristics. These extra superhero powers and confidence just comes from putting the uniform on.

 

In some instances the persuasive power of the message of the man or woman does not come from their own mouth as much as it relies upon the power of their uniform. This can be for salespeople all the way across the spectrum to police officers. In some instances it not a matter of persuasion as it is a matter of intimidation.

 

Reading body language of uniforms and learning the signs and signals to understand an interpret nonverbal communication can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for you comments and or questions about reading the body language of uniforms.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of Presidential candidates Part 2

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Reading Body language of Presidential candidates in the debates

Reading body language: Presidential candidates are under a magnifying glass sort of speak when it comes to their presentations at debates or even out in public.

 

In some instances some parts of their lives are dissected over and over again, in some instances for a few this isn’t the case. This open dissection of a Presidential Candidate puts plenty of stress on them while out on the campaign trail and with that stress comes “mistakes” for the man or woman with their body language.

 

Reading the body language of a presidential candidate may help you gain a better understanding of the man or woman who hopes to become The President of the United States and in some instances the revelations about the person and the body language that others are reading may just be the hopes of the person who is reading the Presidential candidate.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates and their proximity to others

 

Proximity to others is an important aspect of reading body language and even self-control. How close you stand or sit next to people becomes important as the message that is being delivered. Now this may not seem like a big deal but if you were under scrutiny about personal business and even political relationships previous to wanting the President it becomes more important.  

 

When connecting with people it is important to know what distance is acceptable and what distance becomes inappropriate or even awkward.  The whole life of a political candidate may be put out for all to judge and things that may not seem significant can be beat into the dirt until they seem like they are.

 

When reading the body language of political candidates it is important to remember that the angle on one camera can tell a completely different story than the angle on another camera.

 

Proximity can show power depending upon where the person stand or sits in regards to other people and or candidates along with the ability to show weakness.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates and the “Bell Bubble”

If you were to consider the body a stage anything on the outside of 18 inches or 40 cm is really past personal space. When a Presidential candidate is within that space of another man or woman they have entered into their “Bell Bubble” Gestures outside of the 18” area away from the body may cause the Presidential candidate to lose value because they lack self-control.

 

When you get a chance later look into a mirror and talk with your armsn extended as far away form your body as possible and try to imagine a time where this type of nonverbal communication would be acceptable except for when you were in danger. Just move your mouth like you are talking . Now imagine for a moment that you were near a person and you were using the body language that is outside of the “Bell Bubble”, would the man or woman be comfortable?

 

Now just think for a second if the Presidential candidate were being viewed on television would their speech make sense if they were having a conversation and their hands or arms traveled outside of their “Bell Bubble”? It’s not a good idea to break the “Bell Bubble”.

 

Reading body language of Presidential candidates and lies or looking for lies

Some would say that all Presidential candidates are liars and when reading their body language they all leak deceit. Now as long as the politician follows the Law of proximity and keeps with the “Bell Bubble” and hasn’t done anything too silly in their past they must now keep away from body language signs and signals of lying.

 

Nonverbal signs and signals a Presidential candidate is lying

 

There are a few items that may help indicate that a person is lying:

  • ·         Their blink rate – possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Touching anything on their face neck or head – possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Looking the other way – possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Using their arms to distance themselves from the story or question at hand– possibly and not all the time
  • ·         Becoming flush or pale after an answer
  • ·         Biting the lips or wrapping their teeth with their lips
  • ·         Some verbal actions would be to ask the question again or when their vocal pattern changes.

 

Remember that when it comes to reading the body language of Presidential candidates or anyone else you must first watch them for a while to baseline them to ensure what you are accusing them of has happened. If the presidential candidate is lying it’s not an accusation anymore. Just because these signs and signals of body language are happening it does not mean there is a lie it means that there could be a lie with emphasis on the word “may”.

 

Body language of a Presidential hopefuls emotions

A presidential hopeful can destroy their candidacy by reacting the wrong way to a question, action or story with their emotions. Remembering that the Presidential candidate is under much scrutiny sometimes they are baited to react to situations so they can be shown as immature or something more than what they are.  

 

  • ·         Displaying the correct emotion to be read from the crowd of citizens, constituents or clients.
  • ·         Show the verbal and body language signs of leadership throughout their “sales process” of working to become President of the United States.

 

The people voting for the Presidential candidate may not really understand in a deep level as to what they are seeing when reading the body language of the man or woman’s emotions or facial expressions while watching them on the debates or out on the trail but they will understand what they see and make their own observations.

 

The biggest questions to answer when watching and reading the body language of Presidential candidates is are they lying about what they are saying or are they reacting badly to questions or comments made towards them?

 

Learning how to read body language of Presidential candidates can help you understand and interpret what they body of a politician is saying.

 

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of shoes

Reading body language: One of the most common items people look at but don’t think about until it is brought up in conversation is the condition of shoes.

 

For some nationalities and places in the world the type and condition of the shoes mean just about everything and determine your social status.

 

Clean shoes may show the signs and signals that you are conscientious about your work. Reading the body language of someone with clean or nice shoes might show that the person being read has an extra bit of confidence.

 

For some trust comes from the details of knowing that the person that they are working with of for pays attention to the small details.  

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell describes the body language of boots and shoes
Readig body language of shoes and boots

 

Reading body language experiment #1

If you were going to get a custom suit made and noticed that the man or woman who was taking the measurements had shoes on that were scuffed would you think that they would be able to do the work necessary to ensure that the suit was done correctly?

 

Chances are that you would have a tough time believing that they would do a good job.

 

Now there might be a light amount of scuffing on their shoes where the shine might have been slightly marred but excessively dirty?

 

In service technicians and personnel it is not uncommon to find that they have not ever cleaned their shoes and think nothing of walking into your clean house, condo or apartment without even thinking about what they are tracking in.

 

Think of your shoes appearance this way. If you were going to be judged by a man or woman from the ground up he or she is sizing up your nonverbal communication this way:

  • ·         Shoes and what they look like and are they the right shoe for the event
  • ·         The fit of the clothing that you have on
  • ·         Your gig line (where your fly meets up with your belt and button down shirt)
  • ·         If you have any weight hanging over your belt line
  • ·         If your clothes are clean or not stained
  • ·         Your teeth and if they are clean
  • ·         Your hair
  • ·         Your body language that is being computed, calculated and the tallied into some internal mental score.

 

Your shoes start the chain of events for you to be judged or end the chain of events when looking form the top down and having your nonverbal communication read.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shows how to read the body language of pollishing boots
Reading body langugae of clean boots and shoes

 

It may not just be a woman that is reading your body language and nonverbal communication it could be a man that is judging you. It may not even matter what your mouth is saying or your nonverbal of what you are wearing the belief in your previous lack of attention to your attire may skew the message while reading your body language.

 

Reading body language of your attire and shoes

In reading the communication of your shoes it is important to note that there are a few things that you can do to help your mental score from the man or woman viewing you.

 

1.      Make sure that your shoes are appropriate for your industry or event

2.      Make sure that your shoes are clean and or polished

3.      If your shoes are too damaged then replace them if possible

4.      If your laces need to be replaced then do so, it will cost you less than $3.00

5.      If your shoes need to be polished then get it done or do it yourself.

 

As a person in business or dating there are too many other areas where you can have a tough time making an impression so why would you risk not dealing with this one small area that can be made into a huge deal and ultimately determine what the person reading your body language decides about you.

 

If you are in the service industry it is a good idea to clean off your shoes throughout the day and wear floor savers inside the homes of your clients (these are the medical convers that would be worn inside of hospitals).

 

If you are in a business setting drop by a local mall and see if there is a place where you can get your shoes shined it should not cost you more than $10.00 in most places. As an added marketing benefit you never know who you might be sitting next to where you can make a connection or with the guys or girls polishing the shoes, they know many people you may not be able to connect with through social media or in their office. Treat them good and tip them well, they will remember you after a few visits.

 

There is so much to look at and inter[ret to understand what the body is saying. Understanding and reading body language is a skill that really is more relevant in today’s business life than ever before.  Your advantages get smaller daily why not learn how to read body language here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of shoes.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of approaching women

Reading body language: Attempting to talk to a man or woman takes a few skills that you may not know about and they have everything to do with your reading body language and nonverbal communication skills.

 

If you are a man and you are about to walk up and introduce yourself to a new woman you will have to be careful to not screw this approach up…

 

…and yes you can make some huge mistakes when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

When it comes to someone especially woman reading your body language you must know that above all else women need to protect themselves from harm. You must absolutely remember this fact: Women will do what they have to so that they can be protected and if you approach the woman wrong you will get shut down.

 

Instantly

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman
Reading body language of approaching a woman the right way

 

Really it’s that quick?

 

Yes instantly,

 

if you break the boundary of trust of a woman before you have her trust it may never happen and you get no second chance.  

 

So what are the best ways to approach a woman that allows them to feel safe and read your body language and or nonverbal communication?

  • ·         Always approach a woman from angles and not from behind of straight on
  • ·         Never touch an unknown woman from the back on the shoulder
  • ·         Never grab a woman to get their attention from the front side or the back (this should not have to be stated but some people out there need it)
  • ·         Interrupting a woman speaking may cause you harm
  • ·         If you hang out too long to talk to a woman you have lost value
  • ·         As an added bonus approaching a woman in a bachelorette party will not work out 99.99% of the time, especially when the woman is with their friends.

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman

If you are a man just for a second imagine the harm that go towards a woman and think about what happens if you startle her? If you scare a person especially a woman from the beginning you will have a tough time gaining her trust. If you scare her good luck getting her phone number, email address or even being friended on Facebook. In all realities you are going to get a fake number.

 

The best thing to do is to walk into a woman’s sight form an angle so that they can see you so that you do not scare or startle her. You will also want to observe her “bell bubble” and not get too close so that she can see you fully. In this approach you will also want to keep your hands visible so that she can see that you are not a threat. If you have any type of threat that is felt at also she will go into survival mode and you will get rejection instantly.

 

Reading body language of touching an unknown woman

Approaching a woman from behind and then touching her shoulder to get her attention may get you hurt instantly. It is not a good idea to get attention of a woman from touching her unless you have been out in the dating field for a while or have learned some tricks from Pick up artists (PUA) and even then this approach can go wrong.

 

Grabbing a woman will do the same thing as touching her but her danger level inside her mind will go up instantly and you will lose any ability to persuade her for contact information.

 

Reading the body language of interrupting a woman

Sometimes men will want to interrupt a woman to get their attention while approaching them for the first time. You will want to look for a break where she has the chance to address you.

 

Now PUA’s will teach you the three  second rule and that is: If you see someone that you are attracted to you should and will approach that woman within 3 seconds of seeing her or making eye contact.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares how to approach a woman
Reading body language of approaching a single woman

 

 If you have made eye contact and approach a woman it is different than just walking up and interrupting her.

 

Think about it for a second you had eye contact and it’s not really interrupting her if she knows you are on your way to talk to her. Now this can go either way you will be received well or you will get shut down.

 

There are really no other options when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

Approaching a woman does takes some body language skills and some reading of the situation on your part. Remember that you must think about how she sees your approach as safe or dangerous. If you approach her in a safe manner where she does not see you as a threat you will have a better chance of winning.

 

If you approach a woman wrong, touch her or interrupt her and your chances of getting another chance of meeting her again with positive results.

 

Reading body language like an expert requires you to understand and interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication and those skills can be gained here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your questions and or comments about approaching a woman.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

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