Body language of alpha males

Body language: There is something about an Alpha male that eludes men and women’s ability to ascertain what makes them so special. When reading the body language of an alpha male there are quite a few things that the man will do that gets attention not only form the woman but also the men.

 

Both genders can read into the body language of confidence and that is one of them key items that an alpha male will portray.

 

Reading the body language of an alpha male in a room

If you are reading the body language of an alpha male in a room you will notice a few things:

  • ·         The alpha male will go wherever he wants
  • ·         The alpha male will do what he wants
  • ·         The alpha male will talk to who he wants even if that person is in a relationship
  • ·         In essence the alpha male will do what he wants when he wants

 

It doesn’t matter where the alpha male is in the room he gets attention and it is almost magnetic because he knows that he can get away with what he wants when he wants it.  That is the alpha male.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares how to read the body language of alpha males
Reading the body language of alpha males

 

In some instances the alpha male will use his special powers to get the attention that he needs from the men or woman that he wants to mate with.

 

Some people may confuse his confidence for arrogance but in some instances his arrogance is beyond his confidence. This arrogance may be seen through the eyes of contempt

 

Reading the body language of an alpha male in business

The alpha male will normally take the lead in many things in life and while in the business world he will do the same. You may find that he will live life by the motto of “it’s better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission” and sometimes he will cross the line and forget to ask for forgiveness.

 

In a room of business people the alpha male will take the best seat at the table or in the room. For the men in the room who don’t have the same type of special powers they may not say anything to the man when it comes to him doing something out of place.

 

The alpha male may have a natural ability to lead others or he may be ineffective but just goes with whatever because he feels that he can.

 

At a table he may take up more space than the other guys by spreading his arms or legs to take up more space. He may be fidgety while others talk and verbally he may just talk over the other men and woman in the room.

 

Whether standing or sitting you may find that the alpha male may break the unwritten laws of body language when it comes to proximity or the “Bell bubble”  

 

You would read his body language and find confidence in his actions no matter where he is in the room or who he is with.

 

The alpha male may display arrogance and sit with his fingers locked behind his head and lean back in his chair while others are talking.

 

The alpha may seem impatient with others ideas and thoughts and tell everyone what he thinks no matter what the outcome is.  

 

Reading body language of an alpha male in dating and relationships

There are many similarities between what an alpha male does in the business world and in the dating world:

  • ·         Taking the best seat
  • ·         Walking in front of others
  • ·         Stands and sits with a wide stance
  • ·         Holds and maintains eye contact longer than most
  • ·         Touches others freely
  • ·         Keeps his chin up
  • ·         Leaves his body open not covering vital body parts
  • ·         Has the consistent body language of confidence
  • ·         Automatically tells others what to do and yes it may come across wrong

 

While out on a date or in a bar the alpha male might display any of the characteristics that you may find in the business world.

 

The clothing of the alpha male could go a few ways. Pick up artists would say that the guy would “peacock” his clothes and or accessories as a way to get attention from others, but in most instances the alpha male would not have to do this since he would know how to get attention without gimmicks.  

 

Body language expert Scott Sylva Bell interprets the body language of alpha males
Reading body language of alpha males to understand their nonverbal actions

 

You may find the clothing of an alpha male to be trendy for whatever group or association as he would be seen as one that may be a leader. It doesn’t matter if he rides a Harley and wears blue jeans and leathers or if he is in the business world and wears a 5,000 suit. Whatever group he is associated with he is the one who sets the trends of his association.

 

Reading the body language of alpha males can be done best at bars or clubs. You will notice how the interactions happen with those who are not alpha males almost as if it is an unwritten code. The men who are not the alphas will automatically allow the alpha to take the lead.

 

There are some people who do not care for the nonverbal actions of the alpha male and this could be seen as a huge turn off.

 

Taking the time to read the body language of others means that you must first learn the “norms” of the man or the woman by watching them to see consistent behaviors. This base lining of the body language will help you read the situation better.

 

Learning how to interpret and understand body language like an expert can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for you comments and or questions about the body language of alpha males.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of eye contact

Reading body language:  There are many advantages to studying body language and how others read it. You get to learn where to stand when talking to people, whether to fold your arms or not, what to do during interviews and even what type of eye contact that you should have when interacting with others.

 

Eye contact is a form of nonverbal communication and it really defines what communication is. The is a difficulty for some because there are many subtleties between men and women and then throw in cultural differences to the mix and reading body language of eye contact and you have some confusion.

 

Reading body language of eye contact from women
Reading body language of eye contact and women

 

Men and women prefer different types of contact for different periods of time. If you have too much eye contact it is beyond uncomfortable and on the other side of the coin not enough eye contact and people think that you cannot be trusted. Reading the body language of men and women is entirely different in business and in dating.

 

Eye contact and business

So you have a new potential client you have been working on for months …

 

You gather all of the information you need to research the habits and buying trends..

 

You get all the way to get to give a presentation but it seems weird and it seems that the body language changes of your potential client because you didn’t keep enough eye contact or you didn’t give them enough and it hurts because it costs you…

 

And you don’t know why or how…

 

This scenario could play out exactly the same if you were to go on a date and screw it up with too much or not enough nonverbal contact.

 

Eye contact can define body language

Eye contact can make or break a conversation. Give the right amount and you have interest or buy in for the conversation or the interaction. There is a huge difference between eye contact and what you are looking at. Eye contact is how much you look at the eyes what you are looking at may be the person across the room.

 

For most people anything more than 70% of interval eye contact is way too much. 70% doesn’t mean look at the person in the eyes for 70% of the time without a break and then 30% look away all at one time. There are some people who do like this much eye contact, it could be a mother and sometimes female superiors. There are some nationalities where 70% eye contact is not enough. There are some nationalities where 40% is too much.

 

70% eye contact for some becomes very uncomfortable depending upon previous experiences in life. You will see people physically become uncomfortable with too much eye contact. They may pull away from you if they are sitting down, they may shift their body as to block you from looking at them or they may stop talking in the same pace or stop talking at all together. Yes the talking part would be verbal but there are ways to look at physical changes along with vocal changes at the same time.  

 

If it seems that the man or woman has a shift in their body language and shows a reaction because they are uncomfortable it means you should reduce your eye contact.

 

Reading body langauge of eye contact and men
Reading body language and eye contact of men

 

Different nationalities will have different amounts of eye contact and this can be confusing. If you don’t know for sure start at about 50% and if it seems that there is no reaction to your eye interaction you can increase your eye contact from there.

 

Body language signs and signals that you may not have enough eye contact:

  • ·         The man or woman keep staring at you
  • ·         They may draw closer in to get your attention
  • ·         They may start to ignore you or leave the conversation
  • ·         They may seem annoyed
  • ·         In the verbal sense they may even ask if something is wrong

 

Body language signs and signals you may have too much eye contact

  • ·         They may back away from you
  • ·         They may cross their arms or legs
  • ·         They may get fidgety
  • ·         There could be a time where they take a long time to get back to eye contact with you
  • ·         Their eye contact may shift to somewhere beyond you or they may even engaged another object or person
  • ·         Verbally the person may try to change the subject or the pace of their conversation will change

 

Reading the body language of the triangle of eye contact

Determining where to look to keep good eye contact means that you would understand that from just across the top of the eyebrows to the tip of the nose make up the “triangle of eye contact”. Looking anywhere else for long periods of time can become uncomfortable for the other person. If you have looked to long the person may change their facial expression.

 

As a reminder staring too long at the lips of another person can be considered as a sexual gesture.

 

Keeping eye contact is a gesture that is reactive when it comes to understanding and interpreting the body language of others. A correct reaction from you will build comfort for the other person in most instances. An inappropriate amount of eye contact from you will cause discomfort and a negative reaction in the sense of body language

 

Knowing the right amount of eye contact between people can help you in everything from business life to relationships.  

 

Reading body language exercise

The next time that you have a conversation with someone that know decide if you are going to give too much eye contact or not enough and note what type of reaction their body language has. The reason that you have to do this with someone that you know is because it may cause an altercation with a stranger. You can even do this exercise just sitting across from someone even if they know what is going on and you will get a similar reaction. Just note what types of reactions that the other person has for future use.

 

Learning how to understand and read body language like an expert can be done here

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about eye contact.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of mirroring and rapport

Reading body language: People have the ability to build comfort while in the presence of others and the body language of rapport will give that comfort and that comes through the use of mirroring. All of these fancy words can be summed up as a way to help others be like you or you be like them.

 

First off for someone to be comfortable you will have to understand what the other person is doing with their body.

 

You must ask yourself a few questions to help build rapport and to use mirroring correctly.

 

Is the target person in a good or bad mood? This is important because you will need to know what is comfortable when mirroring and what is not because you will need to be similar.

 

Reading body language of mirroring
Reading body language skill of mirroring

You must also determine what your intention is and what you want to do, are you just trying to build comfort or mirror the person or are you trying to build rapport because they are two separate things.

 

Using body language by mirroring others to build comfort

Mirroring would just be to copy the actions of another person to build comfort as rapport follows after another word for this would be synchronicity.

 

When you mirror the body language that you read of the other person you will make similar actions that they do. Now there are some mistakes that people make when mirroring the body language of others to help build rapport:

  • Mirroring too quickly
  • Trying to hard to build comfort non verbally by being too similar

 

When you copy the body language of another person to mirror you will want to do this slowly and not at the same exact time as the other person this would be uncomfortable and the other person subconsciously or consciously would think something strange would be going on.

 

By moving too quickly you will give up your strategy and it may build mistrust.

 

If you are sitting and the target person crosses their legs you would wait a few seconds and cross your legs in a similar fashion it would not have to be exact.

 

If the person that you are mirroring reacts to changing their body language by changing theirs you have made a mistake at this point you would need to slow down. This going too quickly when mirroring others would fall into the trying too hard by doing to many items as the target person.

 

You don’t have to be in the exact position as the other person just similar this is where the trying too hard comes in.

 

Body language reading can help you build rapport

If the goal is to build comfort through the use of body language or non verbal communication taking your time with the other person is the key to both of these items.

 

Building rapport is a term used in Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP it means that you are similar, not exact and that happens from mirroring another person. Synchronicity would be another explanation of rapport. Similar but not exact is key.

 

  • The person slouches in their chair and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.
  • The person folds their arms and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.
  • The person crosses their legs and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.

 

Once again the key here is similar but not exact and a little slower than the other person.

 

Reading body language of building rapport
Reading body language while building rapport

The places that you can use mirroring and rapport can be numerous.

  • Work
  • Dating
  • At a party
  • At the coffee shop
  • At church

 

The places and times that you can use this body language skill are endless. Learning how to read the signs and signals of body language can be done through practicing mirroring to gain rapport.

Body language reading assignment

To learn how to build rapport by mirroring you can use a simple strategy to learn this talent.

 

Decide to spend some time out for an hour somewhere that there are other people who you can mirror. The best thing is to not attract too much attention to yourself and just be similar to a person that you choose. Now this target can be a man or a woman and it doesn’t matter their age.

 

Do as much of your work mirroring and build rapport through your peripheral vision. Remember to go slow and make your moves a little slower than the other person. As your starting to gain rapport you will notice yourself starting to want to move faster this is a sign that you are getting close to rapport.  This also means that your body language reading is close to what it needs to be.

 

After accepting this assignment that will not only help you learn how to read body language but will also give you the skill of mirroring and then building rapport. You may just find while doing this skill building exercise that the people that you mirror and then build rapport with will approach you in some instances.

 

This exercise may just help you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend in a covert way without them knowing why they were attracted to you. You may just gain a new client or even help yourself get out of a tense situation.

 

 Learn how to read body language like an expert

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about mirroring and rapport.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language: Understanding what your feet are saying

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Reading body language: When understanding or interpreting body language one of the first things you can look at to determine how much people are into the conversation or person in front of them is to look at the feet.

 

Non-verbally the feet can determine how a conversation is going.

 

Now you would not imagine how much the feet can tell about a group of people or understand what is going on in a single glance. This nonverbal tip can also tell you or not if there is a possibility if another person is into you in a dating situation or even meeting new people.

 

When two people are talking when standing up facing each other normally their feet are directed towards each other. Almost as if their toes would touch if the two people were standing close enough. This can mean a few things:

 

  • ·         If the people are standing close it can be that there is an aggressive element or a possible fight especially if both people are animated and the fists are closed or people are pointing at each other.
  • ·         There is a possible previous relationship and the people are comfortable enough to be in close distance or within the Bell Bubble.
  • ·         If there is a conversation going on there is the possibility that those engaged are interested or engaged in the conversation.
  • ·         If in a romantic situation there is the possibility that the people being examined are into each other or have been in the past.

 

*As a side note the word possibility is used because all of this information cannot just be determined by the direction of the feet it is just a piece of the puzzle. Remember that while reading the body language of others you can be wrong and snap judgments can get you into some trouble.

 

Now if this information were to be used in a group setting for business you could determine who is interested in the conversation between a few people. The people who have a possible interest in the conversation will keep their feet towards the person who has whatever message should be listened to.

 

Now there is a term in the seduction world referred to as body rocking. This nonverbal trick is simple to perform.

 

Stand up straight and point both of your feet directly in front of you. Now take you right foot and turn it to the right as if that is the direction you wanted to go but your left foot is glued to the ground. Now when done even slightly your shoulders will tilt to the right and nonverbally you would be saying “I need to go over there” getting you away from the conversation or “I need to go somewhere else”. In the seduction world this would give you an “out” or a non verbal cue that you have other opportunities while talking to a targeted person. Now this could be used as body language of men or women because either way the body will react in the same way.

 

If you are in a dating element giving up your attention too quickly gives up your opportunity to meet other singles. In this setting when meeting another group you would not want to start directing both of your feet towards the others until they slowly start to move inwards towards you. This turning inwards tip works person to person also. You will feel a point where you need to turn in towards a single individual when the time is right.

 

The next time that you are stuck talking to that long winded “interesting” person you can use some nonverbal communication to help you project that there is somewhere else you need to be. This nonverbal tip works well when your renegade foot is pointed at something else like a group of people or even a door. Now if you do this so that your body has to turn too much your stance will look strange and this message will no longer be covert in meaning it will be rude.

 

This body rocking tip may take some time to get used to but if you practice it just a few times in the mirror you will be well ahead of those who do not know what it can do for you whether in business, seduction or even dating.

 

Here is your covert body language tip

 

Now stand up straight in front of a mirror and try this simple body language tactic.

Stand in front of the mirror as with both your feet pointed directly at it.

If your feet were the hands on a clock and your left foot was at the 12 O’clock position your right foot or minute hand would only need to be at the 2 or maybe the 3 O’clock position at that most. Notice how your shoulders will pivot just by moving your foot alone.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language: Judged by your hair?

Reading body language: There are so many factors in determining what communication is and how people react to your message or messages through verbal and non verbal  communication.

 

You are judged in seconds by others when they meet you and size you up at the same time.

 

Body language can include your hair style
Nonverbal communication can be determined by your hairstyle

 

You are judged by your clothes, your accessories, your words, your body movement and even your grooming habits or lack of them.

 

You have little chance for error and since we live in highly visual and highly judgmental society.

 

It is hard to determine what is looked at first when people meet you, it could be your:

  • ·         Teeth
  • ·         Clothes
  • ·         Shoes
  • ·         Hands

 

What if the first thing that people looked at and judged you on beyond your words was your hair?

 

There are so many things that can go good with your hair and also there are a few things that are not so good.

 

You can be part of the small segment of society that has been naturally blessed with great genetics or you can be like the rest of everyone else.

 

There really are three way s that hair can go:

1.      Trendy and stylish – This would say that you are worried about what people think or that you are swayed by the way that society feels you should fit into a group. Either way as long as the hair style is done correctly. This trendy style of hair has a low threat of causing you to be judged in negative non verbal terms.

2.      Extreme or negative – When this style is used there would be high significance that you would be judged nonverbally and no matter how well your self control of your body language you would have a tough time delivering a positive message. An example would be a hair cut style of a Mohawk in the business setting in a nice suit. This example could also be colored hair or a style that doesn’t match the person who has the style.

In this sense a person who has a bald spot or a comb over and is not secure in who or what they are in the eyes of the person or people who are judging the content of the interaction.

3.      Neutral – in this category would be someone who has not fallen into the extremes of being judged by a hair style nor someone who would be in the trendy or fashionable hair style. There would not be much risk or losing social value as long as the person who is being judged is not among others who are in the trendy group or people who are knowledgeable in style.

 

4.      Accessories – You can have all of the right style and it could be the exact perfect cut for your industry or your message but you can do one thing wrong and that would to be choosing the wrong accessory or accessories to put in your hair. If you
choose something that pulls attention from your message you are not communicating effectively and you lose value. Whatever you decide to use it should be subtle and also conform to whatever you event you are invlved with or whatever industry you are in.

 

 

It may not make sense that your ability to persuasively persuade others can come down to your hair style or lack of hair style.

 

Learn how to interpret body langauge
Understandling how to read non verbal communication

 

Remember you are being judged not only by your message but by your nonverbal actions and attire. By drawing too much attention to any part of what you do that is not needed you can make your message ineffective and inefficient.

 

As people judge you or interpret your body language your job is to make this task difficult for them by not giving a person or a group a reason to have a negative opinion of you.

 

As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body langauge: The perfect high five demonstration

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Reading body language: There are plenty of fun things to learn when studying non verbal communication or how to read body language. Understanding how people communicate and influence each other is a key component to the quality of life.

 

When it comes to supporting friends and going out to have fun there is nothing more important than being able to land a perfect high five at the right time to underscore a celebration for any occasion.

 

Now how could giving not being able to give a proper high five be part of non verbal communication?

 

Remember how people judge and view you is the real way that you are communicating whether you are talking or not. What communication is becomes more important the more risk that there is involved.

 

Take for example this sales scenario that could either help you make the sale or lose it to a competitor:

 

Say you are out on the town and you are a sales rep and you are working on a perfect deal that will help you with a new account. Your new potential client takes you out to a football game or similar sporting event and the team you are there for scores and the crowd goes wild… Your new potential client goes to give you a high five and you miss horribly.

 

There is no going back, you have left a bad impression. If you can’t give a high five properly what else can you not do? Where else would you screw up? How much internal fear would be developed on the part of the potential client? What if there were other team members there that you needed to impress and they interpreted body language from you after missing that wasn’t there?

 

Oh how this awkward situation could be reversed, is there a sure fire way that you would never miss an opportunity to not just deliver a high five but do it correctly every single time the situation calls for this awesome celebration?

 

Yes there is and it is an easy one step process that can almost never go wrong.

 

Lets face it how long have you been celebrating with friends after a scoring run, and you can’t do a simple high five?

 

Now this simple tip will help you in more ways than you could imagine.

 

Sometimes you need the ability to demonstrate something at the front of the room or there is the perfect opportunity to show your bosses kids or family members to deliver the perfect high five. This teaching opportunity usually stops people cold because nobody has ever shown or told them the secret of the proper high five. This could even work on a date if you were taking that special someone to a sporting event and you wanted to get in some early kinesthetic touch to help make that new person comfortable with you.

 

Knowing the secret to the perfect high five may not save your life in a critical situation but it may very well help your persuasive skills at the perfect moment with the right amount of confidence and certainty needed for whatever reason that you are celebrating.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions!

 

No go out and give the perfect high five and implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language; Is cologne or perfume a non-verbal skill?

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Reading body language:

You may find that when learning how to read a persons non verbal skills there is much more than just what the body is doing or what the mouth is saying.

 

Take for example what type of accessories that they are wearing

 

Or if they are close in proximity to another person, or maybe even too close.

 

What about those small things that could be making the difference that you may never even have thought of?

 

Do you think that Cologne or Perfume could be a part of your nonverbal communication or a way to read people?

 

What happens if you are that girl and trying to get the attention of a guy but at the same time trying to figure out the body language of the guy?

 

You meet him and all of the sudden you find that he is wearing too much cologne?

 

Now all of the sudden you are questioning his self control and even worse you may not be so attracted to the man any more.

 

 

You could even go the other way and you are a man looking for a women and you find what you are looking for but while meeting the girl you smell some wild flowery perfume that you cant stand. Now you want nothing to do with the girl you may have been interested in.

 

You can even put this in the form of a business conversation and question if you were going to meet a new client. It would not matter how good your persuasive selling skills are, all of your work would be destroyed by wearing too much scent.

 

Ok, so you may not think that how you smell is part of nonverbal skills, you may think that everything you do when you communicate only comes from words.

 

What happens when you have a negative reaction to you just because of the way you smell and maybe it isn’t cologne or perfume, it could be the soap that you use, it could be you forgot to put on some deodorant.

 

In any sense if people react to you from your words, your actions or even your smell you are indeed communicating.

 

Smell does cover a part of communication any time that there is a reaction negative or positive.

 

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Body language and non verbal skills become powerful tools when you know how to use them or even read what a person is saying without hearing one word from them. The clairvoyant read may just be from seeing a facial expression.

 

As a general rule when it comes to cologne or perfume and you being judged by your non-verbal actions less is more or a little dab will do you.

 

To change up the smell or communication of smell a slight bit lets move past cologne or perfume for a second.

 

Some real estate agents will tell homeowners to bake some cookies a few hours before showing a home for the positive feelings that they can cause. Many people have great feelings about cookies and the smell would piggyback that feeling.

 

The way that salespeople could use smell or cologne would not make sense until you take a look at how the smell would help your communication skills.

 

Take for instance that some older salespeople will wear cologne so that they can remind younger people the smell of their grandfathers or people of similar age feelings of the past. As you read on there may be a downside to using smell as a non verbal selling skill.

 

If you shop at some of the high end stores where colognes and perfumes can cost over $300 per bottle it is common for the saleswomen to wear men’s cologne in the areas that sell perfumes and for the salesmen to wear perfume when selling cologne.

 

Think for a second how this would help the person buying the scents.

 

Most times that a person is buying a scent it is for someone special and many times that person is the opposite sex. The scent becomes familiar to the buyer and is softer or more masculine either way depending on who is buying

 

Also be aware that people associate smells like they do songs with feelings and if you are wearing a smell that has been a part of a bad experience all of the sudden you are within the realms of that past bad experience. Now it really would not matter how much self-control you are capable of when it comes to your body language you would lose the:

  • ·         Girl
  • ·         Guy
  • ·         Job
  • ·         Possible friend or new associate

 

There is a saying that “you never get a second chance for a first impression” and that could not be truer for verbal and non-verbal communication skills.

 

As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell