Body language of alpha males

Body language: There is something about an Alpha male that eludes men and women’s ability to ascertain what makes them so special. When reading the body language of an alpha male there are quite a few things that the man will do that gets attention not only form the woman but also the men.

 

Both genders can read into the body language of confidence and that is one of them key items that an alpha male will portray.

 

Reading the body language of an alpha male in a room

If you are reading the body language of an alpha male in a room you will notice a few things:

  • ·         The alpha male will go wherever he wants
  • ·         The alpha male will do what he wants
  • ·         The alpha male will talk to who he wants even if that person is in a relationship
  • ·         In essence the alpha male will do what he wants when he wants

 

It doesn’t matter where the alpha male is in the room he gets attention and it is almost magnetic because he knows that he can get away with what he wants when he wants it.  That is the alpha male.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares how to read the body language of alpha males
Reading the body language of alpha males

 

In some instances the alpha male will use his special powers to get the attention that he needs from the men or woman that he wants to mate with.

 

Some people may confuse his confidence for arrogance but in some instances his arrogance is beyond his confidence. This arrogance may be seen through the eyes of contempt

 

Reading the body language of an alpha male in business

The alpha male will normally take the lead in many things in life and while in the business world he will do the same. You may find that he will live life by the motto of “it’s better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission” and sometimes he will cross the line and forget to ask for forgiveness.

 

In a room of business people the alpha male will take the best seat at the table or in the room. For the men in the room who don’t have the same type of special powers they may not say anything to the man when it comes to him doing something out of place.

 

The alpha male may have a natural ability to lead others or he may be ineffective but just goes with whatever because he feels that he can.

 

At a table he may take up more space than the other guys by spreading his arms or legs to take up more space. He may be fidgety while others talk and verbally he may just talk over the other men and woman in the room.

 

Whether standing or sitting you may find that the alpha male may break the unwritten laws of body language when it comes to proximity or the “Bell bubble”  

 

You would read his body language and find confidence in his actions no matter where he is in the room or who he is with.

 

The alpha male may display arrogance and sit with his fingers locked behind his head and lean back in his chair while others are talking.

 

The alpha may seem impatient with others ideas and thoughts and tell everyone what he thinks no matter what the outcome is.  

 

Reading body language of an alpha male in dating and relationships

There are many similarities between what an alpha male does in the business world and in the dating world:

  • ·         Taking the best seat
  • ·         Walking in front of others
  • ·         Stands and sits with a wide stance
  • ·         Holds and maintains eye contact longer than most
  • ·         Touches others freely
  • ·         Keeps his chin up
  • ·         Leaves his body open not covering vital body parts
  • ·         Has the consistent body language of confidence
  • ·         Automatically tells others what to do and yes it may come across wrong

 

While out on a date or in a bar the alpha male might display any of the characteristics that you may find in the business world.

 

The clothing of the alpha male could go a few ways. Pick up artists would say that the guy would “peacock” his clothes and or accessories as a way to get attention from others, but in most instances the alpha male would not have to do this since he would know how to get attention without gimmicks.  

 

Body language expert Scott Sylva Bell interprets the body language of alpha males
Reading body language of alpha males to understand their nonverbal actions

 

You may find the clothing of an alpha male to be trendy for whatever group or association as he would be seen as one that may be a leader. It doesn’t matter if he rides a Harley and wears blue jeans and leathers or if he is in the business world and wears a 5,000 suit. Whatever group he is associated with he is the one who sets the trends of his association.

 

Reading the body language of alpha males can be done best at bars or clubs. You will notice how the interactions happen with those who are not alpha males almost as if it is an unwritten code. The men who are not the alphas will automatically allow the alpha to take the lead.

 

There are some people who do not care for the nonverbal actions of the alpha male and this could be seen as a huge turn off.

 

Taking the time to read the body language of others means that you must first learn the “norms” of the man or the woman by watching them to see consistent behaviors. This base lining of the body language will help you read the situation better.

 

Learning how to interpret and understand body language like an expert can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for you comments and or questions about the body language of alpha males.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of approaching women

Reading body language: Attempting to talk to a man or woman takes a few skills that you may not know about and they have everything to do with your reading body language and nonverbal communication skills.

 

If you are a man and you are about to walk up and introduce yourself to a new woman you will have to be careful to not screw this approach up…

 

…and yes you can make some huge mistakes when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

When it comes to someone especially woman reading your body language you must know that above all else women need to protect themselves from harm. You must absolutely remember this fact: Women will do what they have to so that they can be protected and if you approach the woman wrong you will get shut down.

 

Instantly

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman
Reading body language of approaching a woman the right way

 

Really it’s that quick?

 

Yes instantly,

 

if you break the boundary of trust of a woman before you have her trust it may never happen and you get no second chance.  

 

So what are the best ways to approach a woman that allows them to feel safe and read your body language and or nonverbal communication?

  • ·         Always approach a woman from angles and not from behind of straight on
  • ·         Never touch an unknown woman from the back on the shoulder
  • ·         Never grab a woman to get their attention from the front side or the back (this should not have to be stated but some people out there need it)
  • ·         Interrupting a woman speaking may cause you harm
  • ·         If you hang out too long to talk to a woman you have lost value
  • ·         As an added bonus approaching a woman in a bachelorette party will not work out 99.99% of the time, especially when the woman is with their friends.

 

Reading body language of approaching a woman

If you are a man just for a second imagine the harm that go towards a woman and think about what happens if you startle her? If you scare a person especially a woman from the beginning you will have a tough time gaining her trust. If you scare her good luck getting her phone number, email address or even being friended on Facebook. In all realities you are going to get a fake number.

 

The best thing to do is to walk into a woman’s sight form an angle so that they can see you so that you do not scare or startle her. You will also want to observe her “bell bubble” and not get too close so that she can see you fully. In this approach you will also want to keep your hands visible so that she can see that you are not a threat. If you have any type of threat that is felt at also she will go into survival mode and you will get rejection instantly.

 

Reading body language of touching an unknown woman

Approaching a woman from behind and then touching her shoulder to get her attention may get you hurt instantly. It is not a good idea to get attention of a woman from touching her unless you have been out in the dating field for a while or have learned some tricks from Pick up artists (PUA) and even then this approach can go wrong.

 

Grabbing a woman will do the same thing as touching her but her danger level inside her mind will go up instantly and you will lose any ability to persuade her for contact information.

 

Reading the body language of interrupting a woman

Sometimes men will want to interrupt a woman to get their attention while approaching them for the first time. You will want to look for a break where she has the chance to address you.

 

Now PUA’s will teach you the three  second rule and that is: If you see someone that you are attracted to you should and will approach that woman within 3 seconds of seeing her or making eye contact.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell shares how to approach a woman
Reading body language of approaching a single woman

 

 If you have made eye contact and approach a woman it is different than just walking up and interrupting her.

 

Think about it for a second you had eye contact and it’s not really interrupting her if she knows you are on your way to talk to her. Now this can go either way you will be received well or you will get shut down.

 

There are really no other options when it comes to approaching a woman.

 

Approaching a woman does takes some body language skills and some reading of the situation on your part. Remember that you must think about how she sees your approach as safe or dangerous. If you approach her in a safe manner where she does not see you as a threat you will have a better chance of winning.

 

If you approach a woman wrong, touch her or interrupt her and your chances of getting another chance of meeting her again with positive results.

 

Reading body language like an expert requires you to understand and interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication and those skills can be gained here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your questions and or comments about approaching a woman.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

Young Woman by David Castillo Dominici, Happy Couple In Night Club by photostock:Photo credit for reading body language of approaching a woman expalined by body language expert Scott Sylvan Bel

Reading body language of nervousness

Reading body language: Most people have fears of appearing nervous in so many situations. Sometimes this fear is warranted and sometimes it is not.

 

Many times people will ask “what can I do so that I do not appear nervous when others read my body language”?

 

There could be millions of reasons that you could be nervous some of these reasons could be seen from others as being legitimate and in some instances the reasons for your nervousness may seem silly to others.

  • ·         About to ask a woman for her phone number
  • ·         Go in for a job interview
  • ·         Get pulled over by a police officer

 

What would have to be identified first would be what is making you look nervous when it comes to others reading your body language?

 

reading body language while a woman is nervous
Reading body language signs of a nervous woman

 

The items in your body language that are making you look nervous are:

  • ·         Touching your face
  • ·         Rapid breathing
  • ·         Shifty behavior or actions that show fidgeting  
  • ·         Rubbing your neck
  • ·         Rubbing your hands
  • ·         Tapping your fingers
  • ·         Shaking of body parts like legs or arms
  • ·         Rigid body movement
  • ·         Frozen actions or an inability to move
  • ·         Flush complexion
  • ·         Locking your ankles
  • ·         Holding on tightly to chair arms or other objects
  • ·         Verbal actions would include stuttering or talking fast

 

When it comes to being nervous and the body language that you portray other people may be flattered or on the other end of the spectrum concerned that you have this issue. In instances of dating so men or women would consider this as a good thing while some man or women would say that nervousness shows a lack of confidence.

 

For a job interview it may not be a good thing that the person who is hiring you sees you as being nervous. If it is your first time sitting in front of a hiring manager and you are 16 years old it may be expected. If you are 5 years past college graduation you may be losing out on what is thought of you.

 

Reading your body language of nervousness

When people are put under pressure their positive and negative traits appear. It is good for you to know what your nervous traits are so that you can adopt your body language so that you are not seen or read as being nervous by others. One way to do this is by putting yourself in a situation where you can be videotaped. You would want to look for any of the signs of nervousness listed previous and make note of what actions that you make.

 

Many people will not chose to do simple actions because they are afraid of what they will see, You will look silly on video and that is ok and to be expected when working on your own body language.

 

Reading body language signals of nervousness
Reading body language to see if a man is nervous

 

To work on your body language so that you do not appear nervous the first thing that you will have to do is to get your body to relax.

  • ·         Breathe slower and put your arms by your side or on your lap.
  • ·         Avoid folding your hands or fidgeting.
  • ·         Remember to not touch your face.
  • ·         In some instances you will see people lock their ankles in front of themselves or under their chair. Think about how people are in a dentist’s chair to visualize the locking of ankles or the death grip on the chair arms. If you are a man sit in a way where your feet are on the floor. For a woman crossing your legs may be expected if you are siting.

 

Wherever you are or whatever you are doing be patient and slow down and you will be perceived as being less nervous with your body language and those who are reading it.

 

There are plenty of things that you can do to learn how to read body language like an expert, this is a course you can take to understand and read others like a book

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of nervousness.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of eye contact

Reading body language:  There are many advantages to studying body language and how others read it. You get to learn where to stand when talking to people, whether to fold your arms or not, what to do during interviews and even what type of eye contact that you should have when interacting with others.

 

Eye contact is a form of nonverbal communication and it really defines what communication is. The is a difficulty for some because there are many subtleties between men and women and then throw in cultural differences to the mix and reading body language of eye contact and you have some confusion.

 

Reading body language of eye contact from women
Reading body language of eye contact and women

 

Men and women prefer different types of contact for different periods of time. If you have too much eye contact it is beyond uncomfortable and on the other side of the coin not enough eye contact and people think that you cannot be trusted. Reading the body language of men and women is entirely different in business and in dating.

 

Eye contact and business

So you have a new potential client you have been working on for months …

 

You gather all of the information you need to research the habits and buying trends..

 

You get all the way to get to give a presentation but it seems weird and it seems that the body language changes of your potential client because you didn’t keep enough eye contact or you didn’t give them enough and it hurts because it costs you…

 

And you don’t know why or how…

 

This scenario could play out exactly the same if you were to go on a date and screw it up with too much or not enough nonverbal contact.

 

Eye contact can define body language

Eye contact can make or break a conversation. Give the right amount and you have interest or buy in for the conversation or the interaction. There is a huge difference between eye contact and what you are looking at. Eye contact is how much you look at the eyes what you are looking at may be the person across the room.

 

For most people anything more than 70% of interval eye contact is way too much. 70% doesn’t mean look at the person in the eyes for 70% of the time without a break and then 30% look away all at one time. There are some people who do like this much eye contact, it could be a mother and sometimes female superiors. There are some nationalities where 70% eye contact is not enough. There are some nationalities where 40% is too much.

 

70% eye contact for some becomes very uncomfortable depending upon previous experiences in life. You will see people physically become uncomfortable with too much eye contact. They may pull away from you if they are sitting down, they may shift their body as to block you from looking at them or they may stop talking in the same pace or stop talking at all together. Yes the talking part would be verbal but there are ways to look at physical changes along with vocal changes at the same time.  

 

If it seems that the man or woman has a shift in their body language and shows a reaction because they are uncomfortable it means you should reduce your eye contact.

 

Reading body langauge of eye contact and men
Reading body language and eye contact of men

 

Different nationalities will have different amounts of eye contact and this can be confusing. If you don’t know for sure start at about 50% and if it seems that there is no reaction to your eye interaction you can increase your eye contact from there.

 

Body language signs and signals that you may not have enough eye contact:

  • ·         The man or woman keep staring at you
  • ·         They may draw closer in to get your attention
  • ·         They may start to ignore you or leave the conversation
  • ·         They may seem annoyed
  • ·         In the verbal sense they may even ask if something is wrong

 

Body language signs and signals you may have too much eye contact

  • ·         They may back away from you
  • ·         They may cross their arms or legs
  • ·         They may get fidgety
  • ·         There could be a time where they take a long time to get back to eye contact with you
  • ·         Their eye contact may shift to somewhere beyond you or they may even engaged another object or person
  • ·         Verbally the person may try to change the subject or the pace of their conversation will change

 

Reading the body language of the triangle of eye contact

Determining where to look to keep good eye contact means that you would understand that from just across the top of the eyebrows to the tip of the nose make up the “triangle of eye contact”. Looking anywhere else for long periods of time can become uncomfortable for the other person. If you have looked to long the person may change their facial expression.

 

As a reminder staring too long at the lips of another person can be considered as a sexual gesture.

 

Keeping eye contact is a gesture that is reactive when it comes to understanding and interpreting the body language of others. A correct reaction from you will build comfort for the other person in most instances. An inappropriate amount of eye contact from you will cause discomfort and a negative reaction in the sense of body language

 

Knowing the right amount of eye contact between people can help you in everything from business life to relationships.  

 

Reading body language exercise

The next time that you have a conversation with someone that know decide if you are going to give too much eye contact or not enough and note what type of reaction their body language has. The reason that you have to do this with someone that you know is because it may cause an altercation with a stranger. You can even do this exercise just sitting across from someone even if they know what is going on and you will get a similar reaction. Just note what types of reactions that the other person has for future use.

 

Learning how to understand and read body language like an expert can be done here

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about eye contact.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Blue Eye by Danilo Rizzuti, Friendly Smile by Timeless Photography:Photo credit for reading body language of eye contact like an expert.

Reading body language of mirroring and rapport

Reading body language: People have the ability to build comfort while in the presence of others and the body language of rapport will give that comfort and that comes through the use of mirroring. All of these fancy words can be summed up as a way to help others be like you or you be like them.

 

First off for someone to be comfortable you will have to understand what the other person is doing with their body.

 

You must ask yourself a few questions to help build rapport and to use mirroring correctly.

 

Is the target person in a good or bad mood? This is important because you will need to know what is comfortable when mirroring and what is not because you will need to be similar.

 

Reading body language of mirroring
Reading body language skill of mirroring

You must also determine what your intention is and what you want to do, are you just trying to build comfort or mirror the person or are you trying to build rapport because they are two separate things.

 

Using body language by mirroring others to build comfort

Mirroring would just be to copy the actions of another person to build comfort as rapport follows after another word for this would be synchronicity.

 

When you mirror the body language that you read of the other person you will make similar actions that they do. Now there are some mistakes that people make when mirroring the body language of others to help build rapport:

  • Mirroring too quickly
  • Trying to hard to build comfort non verbally by being too similar

 

When you copy the body language of another person to mirror you will want to do this slowly and not at the same exact time as the other person this would be uncomfortable and the other person subconsciously or consciously would think something strange would be going on.

 

By moving too quickly you will give up your strategy and it may build mistrust.

 

If you are sitting and the target person crosses their legs you would wait a few seconds and cross your legs in a similar fashion it would not have to be exact.

 

If the person that you are mirroring reacts to changing their body language by changing theirs you have made a mistake at this point you would need to slow down. This going too quickly when mirroring others would fall into the trying too hard by doing to many items as the target person.

 

You don’t have to be in the exact position as the other person just similar this is where the trying too hard comes in.

 

Body language reading can help you build rapport

If the goal is to build comfort through the use of body language or non verbal communication taking your time with the other person is the key to both of these items.

 

Building rapport is a term used in Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP it means that you are similar, not exact and that happens from mirroring another person. Synchronicity would be another explanation of rapport. Similar but not exact is key.

 

  • The person slouches in their chair and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.
  • The person folds their arms and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.
  • The person crosses their legs and then so do you a few seconds or even a minute later in a similar fashion but not exact.

 

Once again the key here is similar but not exact and a little slower than the other person.

 

Reading body language of building rapport
Reading body language while building rapport

The places that you can use mirroring and rapport can be numerous.

  • Work
  • Dating
  • At a party
  • At the coffee shop
  • At church

 

The places and times that you can use this body language skill are endless. Learning how to read the signs and signals of body language can be done through practicing mirroring to gain rapport.

Body language reading assignment

To learn how to build rapport by mirroring you can use a simple strategy to learn this talent.

 

Decide to spend some time out for an hour somewhere that there are other people who you can mirror. The best thing is to not attract too much attention to yourself and just be similar to a person that you choose. Now this target can be a man or a woman and it doesn’t matter their age.

 

Do as much of your work mirroring and build rapport through your peripheral vision. Remember to go slow and make your moves a little slower than the other person. As your starting to gain rapport you will notice yourself starting to want to move faster this is a sign that you are getting close to rapport.  This also means that your body language reading is close to what it needs to be.

 

After accepting this assignment that will not only help you learn how to read body language but will also give you the skill of mirroring and then building rapport. You may just find while doing this skill building exercise that the people that you mirror and then build rapport with will approach you in some instances.

 

This exercise may just help you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend in a covert way without them knowing why they were attracted to you. You may just gain a new client or even help yourself get out of a tense situation.

 

 Learn how to read body language like an expert

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about mirroring and rapport.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of a first date part 1

Reading body language: The first date has a huge pressure built about it to leave a fantastic impression on the person that you are meeting. It’s not just that your body language or nonverbal communication has to be great, so does what you say or your verbal communication while meeting your new potential mate for the first time.

 

While it may not be something that you think of you the other person is reading your body language and reacting form it either positive or negatively. Remembering that most nonverbal communication comes from your reactions to the other person’s body language are just as important as your reactions to theirs.

 

Reading body language signals from a first date
Reading body language on a first date understand what his body is saying

Men will react to body language differently then will that of women. Knowing what the right types of signs or signals that can be used can and will increase your chances of a better date.

 

Reaction is so important but is not normally talked about when discussing how to read body language or understanding and interpreting non verbal communication.

 

When it comes to meeting your date for the first time your body language really does matter. The situation on a first date would include:

  • ·         How you shake hands or your physical greeting
  • ·         Eye contact
  • ·         Where or how you stand
  • ·         Where and how you sit
  • ·         What you touch on your body and theirs
  • ·         What you are looking at
  • ·         What you are wearing not just for clothes but also accessories
  • ·         Your attention to details
  • ·         Your grooming style or lack of it
  • ·         Your reaction to their body language or even rapport

 

On a first date the first few seconds are probably just as important or even more important than the whole meeting itself. Your date will react to you either in a positive or negative reaction if they have never met you before.

 

The hand shake or the half hug?

 

Greeting a new person for the first time in real life can be awkward if you get caught up in a bad handshake of the wrong type of half hug. When reading the body language of a first date what happens when someone goes for the air kiss?

 

Start with a handshake, it is safe and you are not breaking the proximity rules from the “bell bubble”

 

Reading body language of a bad first date
Reading body langugae and understanding a first date

Now as you shake someone’s hand there is an appropriate way to do so, your hand straight up and down with a firm but not strong grasp with 3-4 easy shakes. If you go into the handshake where your hand ends up on top it may give the cue nonverbally that you think you are in control. If you go in and let your first date roll their hand over yours it may tell then unconsciously that you are weak.

 

Now what’s wrong with a half hug?

 

Everything as this is something that is saved for friends or semi friends. Now some cultures may find this a good thing to do it is a little personal, the better thing to do is to save it for the end of the date not the beginning where it will be more comfortable. If you break the “comfort factor” from the beginning you will have a tough time making a good impression. The comfort factor is the initial response that a person has when first meeting another person. This is a gut reaction and it may be wrong but people go by their gut instinct.

 

Now for the air kiss, once again some cultures do this and it is common, in some areas of the country it may be common. For the place where it isn’t common it isn’t a good idea to do especially if you are a man and meeting a women for the first time.

 

Eye contact on a first date

 

Your eye contact on your first date may create comfort or it may create difficulties. What you are looking at should be the person that you are meeting for the most part and not all of the other people who pass you by. This lack of contact and looking at other people is rude and if you are not into the date you are meeting for the first time then let him or her know you don’t think that the two of you will work out.

 

On the other hand too much eye contact is beyond creepy. Too much attention is not a good thing. Just think back to how comfortable or uncomfortable you were when someone stared at you. Now amplify this feeling because it is a first date.

 

50 – 60% may be the right match of eye contact in the beginning and if it feels more comfortable you can add a little more over time.

 

Now what you look at as body parts can get you in trouble also. Sometimes people dress in a way to get attention but even then if the person that you are meeting for a first date has dressed in a way where it is tough to keep eye contact pick an object slightly beyond them. Reading the body language of a stare will make one uncomfortable.

 

Staring at someone’s mouth can be seen as a sexual advance while staring at the forehead is uncomfortable. Keeping eye contact from the nose to the eyebrow can keep comfort while having a first conversation.

 

Reading the body language of a first date should not be difficult as long as you keep good eye contact and do not break the proximity rule from the beginning.

 

Learn how to be a expert at reading body language

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language or nonverbal communication of a first date.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo Credits: Couple Getting Close In Romance by photostock, Young Couple In Bar by photostock

 

Reading body language of flirting men and women part 2

 

Reading body language: Flirting is one of the most misunderstood concepts when it comes to others reading the body language of men or women, in the last article on reading body language the head was used to describe some of the ways that a man could be flirted with along with a woman.  

 

Understanding what communication is being presented in front of you may help you to determine if someone is interested in you for more than just a friendship. Reading the body language of flirting will go into other items besides the actions of a man or woman’s head tilts, there is the art of reading facial expressions.  

 

Reading body langauge of flirting while winking
Reading body language of women flirting

The facial features of flirting can include using

  • ·         Eyebrows
  • ·         Eyes
  • ·         The mouth

 

Using eyebrows to flirt

There are very specific things that people will do to flirt with a man or a woman and there can just be one thing used in their body language that can be read into. When a person is using their nonverbal communication and eyebrows they may arch them quickly once or twice to see if the other person is receptive to the advance. In some instances the flirter will make sure that their message is seen and will arch their eyebrows a few times. If done too many times towards a target that is being flirted at the flirter may be seen as being desperate or even that there may be a lack of social value.

 

Part of the fun for some of the people who flirt with others is the thrill of the chase. Once this flirter reaches and gains the attention of their target they may just give up and move onto the next person hat they wish to target.  So as a side note there are people out there who just are flirting to get a quick fix of attention.

 

Once someone has possibly used their head or eyebrows they may use their eye or eyes to gain attention they may even use their eyes to grab your attention. When people use this nonverball communication there may be a few things that can be done:

 

1. Flirting action of Winking – This wink can just be from a quick action or they even wink once slower than what you would think. The downside is that you may think that someone was flirting and they may just have something in their eye.

 

2. The flirting action of batting the eyes – Sometimes women while flirting will bat their eyes or flutter them at a person that they may interested in. This is not as common as a wink at a person to flirt with them.

 

3. The flirting action of the stare – Sometimes to get the attention one may stare to at a person to flirt with them or use this action for a while until the other person looks and then the eyebrows can be arched or a wink can be used. 

 

4. How to flirt with your mouth. Sometimes while flirting will blow a kiss and even sometimes as a overt action some will lick their lips. It is good to know that sometimes people may unconsciously lick their lips when they are attracted to you. Sometimes even a smile can be considered a form of flirting but it will really depend upon the situation. As a side note if you stare at someone lips while they are talking to you and this is not a situation where flirting is involved it can be looked at like a sexual advance.

Reading body language of smiling while flirting
Reading body language can include flirting amd smiling

 

While being flirted with the nonverbal communication from the other person may be overt in nature or almost covert depending upon the situation.  Knowing what each action being used with these body language techniques can help you land a new friend or even just to learn to have more fun.

 

As with reading the body language of other people there are times where you can be right with your interpretation of the actions or you could be wrong.

 

Body language exercise

One of the things that can be done to practice flirting is just to arch your eyebrows once with a person whether you are interested in them or not. The nonverbal communication exercise can be done just about anywhere but if you are married or have a significant other this action may not be the best idea for you.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading or interpreting body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits: Young Woman by David Castillo Dominici, Beautiful Asian Woman by nuchylee

 

Reading body language of flirting men and women part 1

Reading body language: Flirting has to be one of the most mysterious items when it comes to people wanting to know how to read body language.

 

Understanding and interpreting what others mean when they flirt almost seems like a secret passed down between secret societies.

 

Flirting is something that you do with your body language to see if another person is interests in you. Sometimes this flirting can be done to get just a little attention or it can be done to find a date with a man or a women or it can even be done on the path to a soul mate.

 

Knowing what each part of the body can do to help you flirt gives you an advantage, it can also clue you in why you keep meeting interesting people and they think that you are into them.

 

Flirting women and their body language
Reading body language of flirting women for dating

Reading the body language men or women flirting or even learning how to flirt with a man or woman can be fun and find you some new friends.

 

Learning and understanding these nonverbal cues will tune you in to all the times where someone has flirted with you and you were oblivious to the body language that the person was using to flirt with you.

 

To learn how to flirt it may take a visit to some information learned from pick up artists (PUA). One of the first rules taught to men who want to learn how to pick women up is the “Three second rule” this rules states that the woman, man or “target” should either be approached or flirted with within 3 seconds of finding interest in the person so that you do not build up internal resistance.

 

The body language of flirting can follow these rules but you don’t have to. Flirting can be done on your own time but understand that if you decide to take too long with setting the “hook” on some sort of attraction the man or woman that you are interested in may not ever get your nonverbal messages.

 

To learn how to flirt you must first learn what tools that you have on your body first, they are from the top:

  • Your head
  • Your eyebrows
  • Your eyes
  • Your mouth
  • Your body
  • Your hands

 

Now this may seem like it could just be your whole body to make flirting happen and that can be the case also.

 

Using your head to flirt

When you flirt with a man or a woman your head is used as a way to show interest in the other person. Sometimes with your body language you will decide to tilt you head towards the person or “target” you are interested in and when you are done playing with your “target” you may decide to pull away.

 

The tilting of your head towards a person or a way from a person can show interest and begin to flirt. This is the first part of the equation of flirting and not meant to be the whole series of actions but to start at the top of the body is the best place.

 

If you learn how to tilt your heard correctly during conversations this skill can be used for far more than flirting it can be used for persuasive sales skills. This is just one of the parts for one of the first steps. You must build a foundation to correctly convey the body language of flirting.

 

Reading body language of flirting women
Reading body language can teach you flirting by women

While talking with another person the tilting of the head slightly to forwards, backwards to the left or to the right can convey interest in the subject or the person almost as if you are asking the other person to tell you more by pulling your ear away from them slightly and the opposite would to be to tilt your head towards the person as to show you do not believe what they are saying.  This skill must be practiced flirt before you try to flirt if you do not know what you are doing. Use the flirting exercise below.

 

Flirting exercise

Now you can test this while talking to another person by slightly leaning your head into the conversation to see the reaction of the other person and then you will want to do the opposite and lean your head out of conversations lightly. A word of warning when overdone the other person will think that you are strange so you must be careful with how far you lean your head towards or away from a person and how often you do this. Slight tilt is the key for this nonverbal strategy to work.

 

On of the best places to practice the body language of flirting is at a place far from your home where you know that you will not run into people you will ever see again that way there is no real risk if someone thinks you are strange but if you find someone who is interested the sky is the limit for you.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of flirting.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:Gossiping by Ambro, Smiling Woman by David Castillo Dominici

Reading body language: Understanding what your feet are saying

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Reading body language: When understanding or interpreting body language one of the first things you can look at to determine how much people are into the conversation or person in front of them is to look at the feet.

 

Non-verbally the feet can determine how a conversation is going.

 

Now you would not imagine how much the feet can tell about a group of people or understand what is going on in a single glance. This nonverbal tip can also tell you or not if there is a possibility if another person is into you in a dating situation or even meeting new people.

 

When two people are talking when standing up facing each other normally their feet are directed towards each other. Almost as if their toes would touch if the two people were standing close enough. This can mean a few things:

 

  • ·         If the people are standing close it can be that there is an aggressive element or a possible fight especially if both people are animated and the fists are closed or people are pointing at each other.
  • ·         There is a possible previous relationship and the people are comfortable enough to be in close distance or within the Bell Bubble.
  • ·         If there is a conversation going on there is the possibility that those engaged are interested or engaged in the conversation.
  • ·         If in a romantic situation there is the possibility that the people being examined are into each other or have been in the past.

 

*As a side note the word possibility is used because all of this information cannot just be determined by the direction of the feet it is just a piece of the puzzle. Remember that while reading the body language of others you can be wrong and snap judgments can get you into some trouble.

 

Now if this information were to be used in a group setting for business you could determine who is interested in the conversation between a few people. The people who have a possible interest in the conversation will keep their feet towards the person who has whatever message should be listened to.

 

Now there is a term in the seduction world referred to as body rocking. This nonverbal trick is simple to perform.

 

Stand up straight and point both of your feet directly in front of you. Now take you right foot and turn it to the right as if that is the direction you wanted to go but your left foot is glued to the ground. Now when done even slightly your shoulders will tilt to the right and nonverbally you would be saying “I need to go over there” getting you away from the conversation or “I need to go somewhere else”. In the seduction world this would give you an “out” or a non verbal cue that you have other opportunities while talking to a targeted person. Now this could be used as body language of men or women because either way the body will react in the same way.

 

If you are in a dating element giving up your attention too quickly gives up your opportunity to meet other singles. In this setting when meeting another group you would not want to start directing both of your feet towards the others until they slowly start to move inwards towards you. This turning inwards tip works person to person also. You will feel a point where you need to turn in towards a single individual when the time is right.

 

The next time that you are stuck talking to that long winded “interesting” person you can use some nonverbal communication to help you project that there is somewhere else you need to be. This nonverbal tip works well when your renegade foot is pointed at something else like a group of people or even a door. Now if you do this so that your body has to turn too much your stance will look strange and this message will no longer be covert in meaning it will be rude.

 

This body rocking tip may take some time to get used to but if you practice it just a few times in the mirror you will be well ahead of those who do not know what it can do for you whether in business, seduction or even dating.

 

Here is your covert body language tip

 

Now stand up straight in front of a mirror and try this simple body language tactic.

Stand in front of the mirror as with both your feet pointed directly at it.

If your feet were the hands on a clock and your left foot was at the 12 O’clock position your right foot or minute hand would only need to be at the 2 or maybe the 3 O’clock position at that most. Notice how your shoulders will pivot just by moving your foot alone.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell