Offensive body language

Offensive body language: Offensive body language doesn’t just come from your hands; while others are reading your body language they may become offended from different parts of your body.

 

Reading body language of offensive gestures

Your hands are used so much to communicate no matter what part of the world you are from.

 

Now in some spots of the world some symbols have different meanings than other parts of the world. So you want to say that everything is ok in the United States and think it’s a safe sign to pass off you may find that others who are reading your body language may be offended.

 

You decide that you want to give the thumbs up and think it’s a harmless action…

 

Once again as your nonverbal communication with your hands may confuse others who are reading your body language may get the sense you are being rude.

 

So you decide that you want to point at others, well that may not be considered rude all of the time or from many countries but it does lessen the effectiveness of your ability to persuade the person that you are pointing at.

 

Waiving a fist at a person can get you into a fight or altercation that can get out of hand so the waive of a fist for some may show power and for others it shows aggression.

 

This should not have to be mentioned but in the United States and other countries waiving a middle finger at a person or group is a giant step above the fist waiving and can be seen as a huge insult.  

 

It is important to pay attention to the people that you are with or around when using body language that may offend others.  

 

Reading body language of offensive feet signals

Your feet are the closest body part to the ground in most instances and to point at a person with your feet shows the person who is receiving the point may find that you have no value for them.

 

You walk on dirt with your feet

 

You step on less desirable items with your feet

 

So it would make sense that some people would find your body language offensive?

 

Reading body language of offensive touch

Now there are some social boundaries that seem like they should just make sense but there are some out there that just don’t get the social cues or they just do not care. Touching others in inappropriate places can get you in trouble. If you are reading the body language of others while watching interactions going on you may see some interesting facial expressions or reactions.

 

Touching others can be easy to remember so that you do not offend others. If you are a man and you are going to touch a woman the best and most appropriate place would be the back of the arm from the shoulder to the elbow, not the back, not the chest or the buttocks the arm. In some instances you can get away with the top of the hand.

 

Now for women who are touching men the rules may just as well get thrown out the window. If the touch is flattering to the man he will not care of believe the body language or touch is offensive. The same rules somewhat apply though even though with men the rule are more loose than with the women. The arm or the hand will work but not the leg, chest or stomach.

 

It is tough enough in some industries for women to be taken seriously because of their gender and if they buy into the flirting it may just hurt their real capabilities.

 

Reading body language of offensive proximity

There are some people who just don’t care how close you stand to them or if you touch them and then there is the rest of the world. Some men or women may find that your proximity to them may cause problems. A good rule of thumb is to stand at least 18 – 24 inches (40 cm) from people who you are not close with and sometimes more distance helps but not too much. If you are too far away from the man or woman they may find your body language not just offensive but strange.

 

Keeping the distance of the “bell bubble” will help others from reading your body language as offensive and combine the distance with offensive touch and you will stay away from dangers of getting too close for comfort.

 

Reading body language of offensive looks

Reading the “stink eye” or dirty looks causes people to be uncomfortable with the body language being presented. The “stink eye” may not always be on purpose. This facial featured look may just be a reaction on the part of the man or the women who is making the face. The “stink eye” can be more of a stare than anything else.

 

In some instances people will stick out their tongues or stick their fingers in their mouths when dealing with children as a way to have fun or scare children but when this action is done to an adult it may mean that there is no mutual respect or an anger or frustration involved.

One of the items that would go on the list of offensive looks would to be not to look at the person who is talking.  By looking at the person who is talking to you it shows a level of respect. If you were to turn your back on a person as they talk to you it shows a lack of respect and create altercations, anger and sometimes physical interactions.

 

Having good eye contact will keep you out of trouble with not giving enough attention to a message.

 

A yawn may be an offensive action when done with noise and excessive action. It is possible to yawn without noise or the body language that can be read as being bored. Done as silently as possible with a slight hand cover will keep your body language from being read as offensive.

 

Reading body language of offensive sitting

How you sit while talking to another may be seen as offensive. Without sitting straight up the man or woman may not think that you take their message seriously. If you are sitting in a slouched position while they are talking or presenting you may be showing body language that you are bored. The same goes with having a fist or hand under your chin.

 

Crossing your legs can cause some harm if done too often to draw attention to your actions. If you are a female wearing a skirt this action may be seen as a way to create undue attention. Some may find this body language flattering or a form of seduction so be careful even if done on accident.

 

Rocking back and forth can also cause some attention that is unneeded and can be seen as a distraction or rude to someone who is speaking or presenting.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you understand the signs and signals of what to do in public or what can be seen as offensive.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading offensive body language.

 

Now go implement!  

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Body language of confidence

Reading body language: Now there are many things that you can do when reading the body language of others. You can learn just as much if not more from a man or woman’s nonverbal communication as you can from their words.

 

When a woman or man is confident they have signs and signals that people not just interpret but they understand without knowing body language. It is just seen and automatically compiled in the brain.

 

As people lose their confidence there is also body language that is associated with their lack of certainty. This lack of certainty can also be picked up and picked apart.

 

When you are looking at or viewing a man or woman who has problems with their confidence  or the body language of someone who is confident there are a few items that you can read into:

  • ·         The posture of the man or the woman
  • ·         The pace of the man or woman’s walk
  • ·         The speed of the movements of the man or woman’s body
  • ·         The position of the chin
  • ·         The eye contact of the man or woman
  • ·         The micro expressions or facial expressions
  • ·         The breathing pattern or location of the man or woman

 

Reading the body language confidence that high or low

The posture is going to give you the first clue as to what is possibly going through someone’s mind and how confident they are or are not. A confident man or woman will typically sit or stand straight up with their shoulders rolled out. In a sense it may seem like they are trying to make their body appear larger or take up more space but in a little more subtle action. A non-confident person will shrink and the shoulders may roll inwards along with the lack of a strong posture. The man or woman’s head may be tilted down.

 

The posture is one of the easiest portions of the body when it comes to reading the signs and signals of body language, It is fairly simple to determine whether or not a person has proper posture.

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell helps you interpret the body language of confident women
Body language of confident women a how to read guide

 

In some instances standing with hands behind the back may be seen as a high sign of confidence when it comes to body language but be careful sometimes this action may cause people to think that you have something to hide. “See the law of reaction”

 

Reading the body language of confidence and eye contact

Confident men and women are not scared to make or hold good eye contact. In some instances an arrogant person may hold eye contact too long and it becomes uncomfortable.

 

When dealing with a man or woman who is lacking confidence they may have a tough time holding eye contact with others for more than a few seconds. A man or woman who is good with their nonverbal communication would know when to break their eye contact so that it would not be uncomfortable.

 

Reading the body language of confidence and walking

Men and woman who have high confidence have a glide to their movements, an elegance that can be picked up on. The confident man or woman strides when they walk and they do not take small steps normally and this may not be an accurate explanation if there is a medical condition of the confident man or woman. 

 

When a man or woman lacks confidence they may walk slower than a person who has more confidence. The steps can be seen as smaller as the strides get smaller. It may also seem like the person with less confidence is wandering as if they don’t know where they are going. A confident person may not know where they are going but you may not be able to tell from how they are walking it may seem like they are on their way to a destination.

 

A confident man or woman will walk with their chin up in the body language of arrogance the man or woman may hold their chin up higher and may display contempt as a facial expression while they are on the go. The eye contact from a confident man or woman would be good and could be help for longer than most people are comfortable with.

On the other hand a non-confident man or woman would walk with their head down and not make good eye contact with others

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell helps you understand the body language of confident men and women
Body language signs and signals of confident women

 

Reading the body language of hands and confidence

A man or woman who is lacking confidence may hide their hands in their pockets or wring them together. The hand wringing may be in any situation even if the man or woman is standing or sitting.

 

If the man or woman uses his or her hands while talking you will see their glide or elegance of their actions while a man or woman who is lacking in confidence will have more jerky motions and it may seem like they are a bit nervous and sometimes they will shake.

 

A confident man or woman may know that they should not point at another person and would leave their hands open to display that they are trustworthy. A less confident man or woman may keep their hands closed and this may create confrontation.

 

To be seen and viewed as confident keep your hands in view or the people or person that you are talking to so that it is not difficult for others to trust you. Practice in front of a mirror or camera your average every day conversations to see how you interact using your body language with others.

 

Reading the body language of confidence and breathing

Men and women who are confident may breath differently than a person who is lacking confidence. The breathing pattern of someone who is confident will have a slower deliberate pattern and may know how to breathe through their diaphragm naturally but their breathes will still be seen as strong

 

For the man or women who are lacking confidence you may see and hear them taking slower shallow breathes. This breathing could be seen almost as a panting but slower.

 

Reading the facial expressions of a confident woman or man  

The facial expressions of a confident man or woman may be seen as a smile or smirk. The eyes are open and visible. The forehead is not scrunched but more relaxed. You would be able to read a relaxed state on the face or in the facial expressions of the man or woman. The eyebrows could be even but not down as if the person was sad.

 

For a man or woman who is lacking confidence their might be a tight look on their face almost as if they are worried about something. Their lips may be turned in or puckered out. The forehead of the man or woman who lacks confidence may show wrinkles and their eyebrows may be pointed down in the center.

 

Reading the body language of confidence in men or women has many of the same characteristics for both sexes. Start with looking at either men or women and learn one sexes traits before the others.

 

Body language expert advice

Learning how to read the body language like an expert of others can help you understand and interpret the signs and signals of other people’s body language can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of confidence.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Smiling Woman by David Castillo Dominici, Girl In Purple Dress by posterize:Photo credit for reading the body language of confidence in women

Reading body language of eye contact

Reading body language:  There are many advantages to studying body language and how others read it. You get to learn where to stand when talking to people, whether to fold your arms or not, what to do during interviews and even what type of eye contact that you should have when interacting with others.

 

Eye contact is a form of nonverbal communication and it really defines what communication is. The is a difficulty for some because there are many subtleties between men and women and then throw in cultural differences to the mix and reading body language of eye contact and you have some confusion.

 

Reading body language of eye contact from women
Reading body language of eye contact and women

 

Men and women prefer different types of contact for different periods of time. If you have too much eye contact it is beyond uncomfortable and on the other side of the coin not enough eye contact and people think that you cannot be trusted. Reading the body language of men and women is entirely different in business and in dating.

 

Eye contact and business

So you have a new potential client you have been working on for months …

 

You gather all of the information you need to research the habits and buying trends..

 

You get all the way to get to give a presentation but it seems weird and it seems that the body language changes of your potential client because you didn’t keep enough eye contact or you didn’t give them enough and it hurts because it costs you…

 

And you don’t know why or how…

 

This scenario could play out exactly the same if you were to go on a date and screw it up with too much or not enough nonverbal contact.

 

Eye contact can define body language

Eye contact can make or break a conversation. Give the right amount and you have interest or buy in for the conversation or the interaction. There is a huge difference between eye contact and what you are looking at. Eye contact is how much you look at the eyes what you are looking at may be the person across the room.

 

For most people anything more than 70% of interval eye contact is way too much. 70% doesn’t mean look at the person in the eyes for 70% of the time without a break and then 30% look away all at one time. There are some people who do like this much eye contact, it could be a mother and sometimes female superiors. There are some nationalities where 70% eye contact is not enough. There are some nationalities where 40% is too much.

 

70% eye contact for some becomes very uncomfortable depending upon previous experiences in life. You will see people physically become uncomfortable with too much eye contact. They may pull away from you if they are sitting down, they may shift their body as to block you from looking at them or they may stop talking in the same pace or stop talking at all together. Yes the talking part would be verbal but there are ways to look at physical changes along with vocal changes at the same time.  

 

If it seems that the man or woman has a shift in their body language and shows a reaction because they are uncomfortable it means you should reduce your eye contact.

 

Reading body langauge of eye contact and men
Reading body language and eye contact of men

 

Different nationalities will have different amounts of eye contact and this can be confusing. If you don’t know for sure start at about 50% and if it seems that there is no reaction to your eye interaction you can increase your eye contact from there.

 

Body language signs and signals that you may not have enough eye contact:

  • ·         The man or woman keep staring at you
  • ·         They may draw closer in to get your attention
  • ·         They may start to ignore you or leave the conversation
  • ·         They may seem annoyed
  • ·         In the verbal sense they may even ask if something is wrong

 

Body language signs and signals you may have too much eye contact

  • ·         They may back away from you
  • ·         They may cross their arms or legs
  • ·         They may get fidgety
  • ·         There could be a time where they take a long time to get back to eye contact with you
  • ·         Their eye contact may shift to somewhere beyond you or they may even engaged another object or person
  • ·         Verbally the person may try to change the subject or the pace of their conversation will change

 

Reading the body language of the triangle of eye contact

Determining where to look to keep good eye contact means that you would understand that from just across the top of the eyebrows to the tip of the nose make up the “triangle of eye contact”. Looking anywhere else for long periods of time can become uncomfortable for the other person. If you have looked to long the person may change their facial expression.

 

As a reminder staring too long at the lips of another person can be considered as a sexual gesture.

 

Keeping eye contact is a gesture that is reactive when it comes to understanding and interpreting the body language of others. A correct reaction from you will build comfort for the other person in most instances. An inappropriate amount of eye contact from you will cause discomfort and a negative reaction in the sense of body language

 

Knowing the right amount of eye contact between people can help you in everything from business life to relationships.  

 

Reading body language exercise

The next time that you have a conversation with someone that know decide if you are going to give too much eye contact or not enough and note what type of reaction their body language has. The reason that you have to do this with someone that you know is because it may cause an altercation with a stranger. You can even do this exercise just sitting across from someone even if they know what is going on and you will get a similar reaction. Just note what types of reactions that the other person has for future use.

 

Learning how to understand and read body language like an expert can be done here

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about eye contact.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Blue Eye by Danilo Rizzuti, Friendly Smile by Timeless Photography:Photo credit for reading body language of eye contact like an expert.

Reading body language of happy couples

 

Reading body language: With all of the negative reasons why people look up how to read body language one may believe that there are not many happy couples out there.

 

There are plenty of fantastic relationships out there and you may want to see if you are in one of them.

 

There are some very specific non verbal actions that people make when there is happiness in their relationship.

 

Reading body language of happy couples in love
Reading body language of happy couples in public

 

Reading the body language of happy couples is not as complicated as you think but there are some very similar aspects as you would find in the body language of couples in a bad relationship.

 

The first thing that you want to look at when looking at a happy couple starting at the top of the body will be the head.

 

The amount of time that a person stares at their partner in a good way or the amount of eye contact given will be one of the first cues as to what type of relationship the two people have.

 

The eye contact between the couple who is happy will be consistent. The glances will not be a stare but more of a caring look. There may also be a smile after the look between the two and there will be feeling of comfort just looking at the two.

 

These glances are a way to hold contact with the other partner more of a sign or signal with their body language to say “I am here and thinking of you”. Now some couples do go overboard with this and makes the whole process seem creepy and strange. When this eye contact goes wrong it makes the people around the couple feel weird also.

 

From reading the body language of a happy couple and starting at the head the next step would be the touch between the couple. Happy couples will be more willing to touch their partner in a soft way. Women can be seen in pictures placing their hand on their partners chest or shoulder. If there is a hug involved the bodies will be close to each other and it will appear from looking that there is comfort and the smiles will be real.

 

The proximity or distance that is kept whether standing or sitting is normally close.

 

Body language of a happy couple sitting next to each other

 

When the happy couple sits next to each other their signs or signals of body language once again will include touch.  The couple may be holding hands or one person may place their hand on the leg of their partner or on their back. It may even be that one person leans on the other person. Their body language for the most part will seem comfortable when looking that them.

In an instance where the couple is sitting next to each other they may or may not glance or keep eye contact but each person will normally have a smile or even a small smirk almost to say that they are happy without even having to say it.

 

Reading the body language of couples that are happy can be done out in public places like busy public parks or gardens, out at dinners on the weekend or even at churches or synagogues.

 

Reading body language of happy couples standing

 

When the couple is out on the town or just in public the body language that can be read will be similar to that of a happy couple sitting. The two will be close to each other and will normally have some sort of physical contact with the other partner. When the two are not standing next to each other they make keep or make the occasional eye contact with a slight smile and sometimes you may even see the happy couple flirting with each other while standing or sitting next to each other.

 

Reading body language of a happy couple in public
Reading body language of happy couples a how to guide

 

Not everybody has positive role models of happy parents but there can be places where you can go out and watch some people who do have these traits.

 

As you watch these people remember that they have had their ups and downs no matter what age the people are and it taken them some work to get to the point where they are happy. There will also be times where their body language has not been so positive.  

 

So you may think that some of this may too good to be true? Go out and look for happy couples so that you can read their body language.

 

Learn how to read the body language of other like an expert

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of happy couples.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Honeymoon Lovers by Piyaphon, Couple At Play by africa:Photo credits for reading body language of happy couples.   

 

 

 

 

 

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