Body language of licking lips

Body language of licking lips: Just for a minute imagine you are sitting in a meeting and the question about the new project goes to Joe and all of the sudden he starts licking his lips. And you think “wow this is unusual I have never seen Joe lick his lips, what on earth does it mean is he lying or is he excited”?

Or

You ask your boyfriend where he was and all of the sudden all of his body language changes into something not normal. You see him say “I was with Steve” pause … pause … licking his lips  “and we went to a new bar” as he looks away. Could this be a sign and signal that your boyfriend is lying or did he really go to the new bar?

Or

You go to a new bar and you look over in the corner and notice this girl who winks at you and slowly starts licking her lips. You pull out your phone and Google “Body language of licking lips” to find out how to interpret this sign or signal. Was that a sign of overtly flirting with you, was she thirsty or were her lips chapped?

 

Now it very well may be that licking lips means nothing …but just in case you decide it’s time to find out what the body language of licking lips means.

 

There are plenty of times where people lick their lips and there can be a few reasons why they do so.

  • ·         Out of necessity because of lack of moisture
  • ·         Excitement about an idea or thought non sexual
  • ·         Out of habit
  • ·         Nervous tick
  • ·         Caused by a lie
  • ·         Suggestive

 

Every day reason for licking lips

Now just think for a moment when you were out in the sun and were hot or even possibly when it was really cold and your lips were chapped. Did you lick your lips? The chances are great that you licking your lips meant absolutely nothing but that it was needed. Now if someone were in your peripheral they could read into a little differently. This is a reminder why you need to take a look at what the normal actions are of the person are who you are looking at while interpreting their body language.

 

Excitement and licking lips

There are some people that when they get excited about anything they lick their lips. This rush of energy has to go somewhere for them and the lips are the answer. You would see this as a common trait or action that happens. You would want to know this baseline before making a decision as to whether or not they are lying or if they are just excited about a thought or belief.

 

 Habit of licking lips or biting lips

There are also men and women who have developed the habit of licking or biting their lips over time and it means nothing except that it is a routine behavior. On the other hand if the man, woman or child has a normal behavior of licking their lips and all of the sudden in a situation that normal behavior doesn’t happen there might be a reason for it and it may not be good or it may need nothing at all. This means that it’s time to ask some questions to gather further information about what is going on.

 

 Nervous action of licking lips

On the next spectrum of the level from the body language of licking lips is the nervous tick or action. It may be the pressure of a tough question or an uncomfortable situation or room that would cause one to change their behavior and display. In this nervousness may fall the issue of lying but it doesn’t mean that there is a lie. It could very well be nervous energy just like a man or a woman tapping their foot. In fact you may see foot tapping and lip licking at the same time.

 

 Lying and licking lips

It could very well be that the man, woman or child that you are looking at is asked a tough question they pause and then they lick their lips with another pause and then answer your question. This may be a flat out sign that they are lying but be careful because remember it may be nervous energy. If you are a woman / girl and ask a guy do you love me? If he’s not ready be to answer this question be ready for all sorts of nervous behavior and stalls but even then it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or he’s lying that’s just a tough question all of the sudden.

 

In the case of lying you are looking for abnormal behavior or an action that is not a normal routine for the person that you are looking at. Sometimes it may seem that licking the lips may be a symbolic greasing of the lips to get the big whopper of a lie out of their mouth. This action may take place as a way to get another half a second to figure a story out.

If you spend some time watching the television show “Cops” you will see the suspects start licking their lips after a few tough questions are asked with long pauses or short pauses. Are the suspects lying before or after they lick their lips? Quite possibly but this show is a good place to look and watch for the signs and signals of lying.

 

Just remember before you try and confront your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, kid or coworker of lying look for abnormal behavior then question about it. You may see other signs you have never seen before or you may see normal routines remember the baseline their behavior first.

Seduction and licking of the lips

In the example of the woman licking her lips at the bar that would be considered overt behavior to induce behavior from you or whoever it was generated towards. The licking of the lips may be considered sensual when directed towards a person. Now this is the body language that movies scenes are based upon. You may see a man or woman lick their lips when they meet a new person and they may not even know that they are doing so. Just remember that this may be some nervous energy or it could mean something else entirely. This action may take a few minutes or it may happen instantly depending on what is going on in the mind of the two and the type of chemistry that they have.

 

Now there may be a tendency to look at the lips when a man or woman licks them but you may want to be careful because staring at the lips may be seen as being sexual. So all of the sudden you get excited that someone is licking their lips and you start staring and the other person takes your body language as sexually advanced and that’s not what they were licking their lips for.

Licking lips for many reasons

There may be more than one reason why a person would or could lick their lips while some of them may be good others reasons may be bad. It is important to take the time to learn the behaviors and characteristics of a person’s routine actions or baseline them to determine what their action means or could be interpreted to mean.

 

Understanding body language can help you determine what the actions that other people mean. Learning how to read body language can be fun and also done at home:

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains the nonverbal action of licking lips: Video credit

 

body language of winking

Body language of winking: Sometimes you get it when people look at you, that’s right someone gives you a wink but you don’t quite know if they are having fun and in some instances you don’t know if they are flirting with you.

 

So what exactly is the body language of a wink?

  •          It could be that the man or woman is just having fun
  •          It could be that the man or woman is emphasizing a point
  •          It could be that the man or woman is flirting with you
  •          It could even be that the man or woman is blinking and you may be misreading the situation

 

Body language of winking and fun

Reading the body language of a wink means that you have to understand or be able to interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication. In some instances men or woman will wink to just have fun. Some older men just like to wink and they get into the habit of it and sometimes this can be taken as flirting but it is all in fun. Sometimes you will see adults wink at kids as a gesture of fun.

 

Body language of winking and emphasizing a point

The wink or the winking can be used at the end of a joke or at the end of some retort. In some instances a wink may be used as a negotiation ploy to get the other side fired up or to prove a point as to what is going on. In some places the wink is used as a way to say for you to understand “I see you and don’t think I don’t see what is going on” in an instance like that it isn’t hard to interpret the message. The facial expression will be easy to interpret as a sign of danger from the stare afterward.

 

Body language of winking and flirting

In the case of flirting the wink may happen across a room or right next to you. You may see the body language of the wink and you may know that the man or the woman is flirting with you. In the case of not knowing if you would like to know for sure you would want to look at his or her eye contact. Is there or was there eye contact before or after the wink. Is his or her body directed towards you? If she is winking at you is she preening her hair or clothes? These are all signs that the nonverbal communication of the wink was a sign of flirting.  In the case of flirting there will be some facial expressions that will be read. It may be a slight smile or smirk along with the wink or it may even be a flash of the eyebrows.

 

Body language of winking and not understanding nonverbal communication

Sometimes you can just read body language wrong or even read more into a situation than what is really happening. In some instances you may think that a man or woman is winking at you and they really have something in their eye. It may even be that the man or woman is not flirting with you and at your angle it looks like they are winking at you. In any even a wink has more meanings that could be understood than just flirting. It may even be that the man or woman is nervous.

 

It is important for you to take the time to understand your social situation as to why a man or woman may be winking at you and interpret them correctly. Are they doing so in fun, to make or emphasize a point , is he or she flirting or are you misreading the situation?

Body langauge of winking and how to read like an expert

Learning how to read body language like an expert requires you to learn from one and that can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of winking.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

:Video credit for Reading body language of winking by Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language of flirting men and women part 1

Reading body language: Flirting has to be one of the most mysterious items when it comes to people wanting to know how to read body language.

 

Understanding and interpreting what others mean when they flirt almost seems like a secret passed down between secret societies.

 

Flirting is something that you do with your body language to see if another person is interests in you. Sometimes this flirting can be done to get just a little attention or it can be done to find a date with a man or a women or it can even be done on the path to a soul mate.

 

Knowing what each part of the body can do to help you flirt gives you an advantage, it can also clue you in why you keep meeting interesting people and they think that you are into them.

 

Flirting women and their body language
Reading body language of flirting women for dating

Reading the body language men or women flirting or even learning how to flirt with a man or woman can be fun and find you some new friends.

 

Learning and understanding these nonverbal cues will tune you in to all the times where someone has flirted with you and you were oblivious to the body language that the person was using to flirt with you.

 

To learn how to flirt it may take a visit to some information learned from pick up artists (PUA). One of the first rules taught to men who want to learn how to pick women up is the “Three second rule” this rules states that the woman, man or “target” should either be approached or flirted with within 3 seconds of finding interest in the person so that you do not build up internal resistance.

 

The body language of flirting can follow these rules but you don’t have to. Flirting can be done on your own time but understand that if you decide to take too long with setting the “hook” on some sort of attraction the man or woman that you are interested in may not ever get your nonverbal messages.

 

To learn how to flirt you must first learn what tools that you have on your body first, they are from the top:

  • Your head
  • Your eyebrows
  • Your eyes
  • Your mouth
  • Your body
  • Your hands

 

Now this may seem like it could just be your whole body to make flirting happen and that can be the case also.

 

Using your head to flirt

When you flirt with a man or a woman your head is used as a way to show interest in the other person. Sometimes with your body language you will decide to tilt you head towards the person or “target” you are interested in and when you are done playing with your “target” you may decide to pull away.

 

The tilting of your head towards a person or a way from a person can show interest and begin to flirt. This is the first part of the equation of flirting and not meant to be the whole series of actions but to start at the top of the body is the best place.

 

If you learn how to tilt your heard correctly during conversations this skill can be used for far more than flirting it can be used for persuasive sales skills. This is just one of the parts for one of the first steps. You must build a foundation to correctly convey the body language of flirting.

 

Reading body language of flirting women
Reading body language can teach you flirting by women

While talking with another person the tilting of the head slightly to forwards, backwards to the left or to the right can convey interest in the subject or the person almost as if you are asking the other person to tell you more by pulling your ear away from them slightly and the opposite would to be to tilt your head towards the person as to show you do not believe what they are saying.  This skill must be practiced flirt before you try to flirt if you do not know what you are doing. Use the flirting exercise below.

 

Flirting exercise

Now you can test this while talking to another person by slightly leaning your head into the conversation to see the reaction of the other person and then you will want to do the opposite and lean your head out of conversations lightly. A word of warning when overdone the other person will think that you are strange so you must be careful with how far you lean your head towards or away from a person and how often you do this. Slight tilt is the key for this nonverbal strategy to work.

 

On of the best places to practice the body language of flirting is at a place far from your home where you know that you will not run into people you will ever see again that way there is no real risk if someone thinks you are strange but if you find someone who is interested the sky is the limit for you.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of flirting.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:Gossiping by Ambro, Smiling Woman by David Castillo Dominici

Reading the body lanaguage of men part 3

Reading Body language: Understanding and interpreting or reading the body language of men can be used to determine if he is interested in you as in flirting, help you know if you are being seduced or it can even help you in negotiating in a business setting.

 

Nonverbally the body says more than you would think and many times these automatic gestures or actions will allow you to read his body language quickly and effectively.

 

 The first 6 step of 9 in reading his body language are:

  1.       Proximity or distance from the person or the people involved
  2.       What position is his boy in compared to others         
  3.       Where his hands and what are they doing?
  4.       Look at the direction of his feet and what they are possibly pointing at  
  5.       Decide what his shoulders are doing to tilt his body
  6.       Loot at his posture and whether he is standing or sitting  

 

The last three items while reading his body language to gain an upper hand are not always as easy as the first six. Now nobody said that reading body language was “easy” and didn’t have any drawbacks. In most instances the combination of all of these items do help you gain a possible understanding of what is going on but there may or may not be some rules set in stone.

 

Take for instance the proximity or distance in a crowded situation people will have to be closer like at a busy bar setting the distance of his bell bubble closer than normal and this may also determine how far his hands can move away from his body. This is where it becomes increasingly important to watch the situation and figure out what is going on.

The body language of a man who is flirting
How can I tell if a guy is flirting with me? A way to read a mans body language

 

Another place where you can have some issues while reading and deciphering the body language of men is when you look at his posture: What if he has a medical condition and you make a snap judgment if he is showing confidence but because of an injury or something similar you read him and determine his body language is saying something else.

 

There is one rule that covers all the others and that is take you time to determine what his body language his saying by base lining or watching him for a few seconds or meanings to see his routines and normal actions.

 

So yes the rules do get a little complicated but by following these few steps you can determine what a man’s body language actions mean and keep you from being wrong in making snap judgments.

 

You may also have some unconscious reactions to these nonverbal cues and not really understand why unless you have previously looked into reading body language. You may have intuitively understood what things like his feet facing the door have meant but know you can tell for sure. Remember for you it matter how you react to situations while interpreting his non verbal actions mean. The ability to rad a mans body to understand his language is a skill.  

 

The last three steps in reading, interpreting and understanding a man’s body language are and can be a little more challenging.

 

Step 7, 8 and 9 – Reading men’s body language – look at his facial expressions, head and chin.

 

Now there is good reason that the last three things to look at while reading a man’s body language are all lumped together and that is because they interact with each other and rely on each other.

 

A mans facial expressions will help you determine the context of a situation. Are his eyebrows up or down, does his face show signs of stress or in other words is his jaw tight? Does he show signs of contempt? All of these items play into what reaction his body will show and can help you determine what he is saying nonverbally.

 

In most instances the center of the eyebrows going up can show signs of surprise, excitement. The eyebrows staying even can sometimes mean happiness while the center of the eyebrows moving down could be seen as anger or sorrow. Now this section of learning about what the eyebrows mean could fill pages alone and the explanation of micro-expressions would take more time and detail. Know that these are just quick generic rules and this information will be covered more later.

 

The eyebrows will set the stage for what the eyes will do and depending on what the eyebrows and face are doing the structure of the facial expression will help determine what the eyes will say about the situation.

 

Step 8 – Reading men’s body language – look at his head and the direction it is going.

 

The tilting of the head can show interest, reaction or even boredom. When the head reacts so will the rest of his body and the language that it communicates. If his shoulders are tilted his head will react also or his body’s position will look awkward. If he is interested he may lean his head in towards you while flirting but this may also happen if he is angry. This is where it comes in handy to understand what the actions of his eyebrows mean.

 

In some instances the tilting of the head away from a person can show attraction but chin would somewhat point at the person who the interest is found in.  

 

Step 9 – Reading men’s body language – look at his chin

 

Lumping facial expressions head and chin all together was done because they all interact at the same time but they are all categories of their own in a sense.

 

The chin down could mean a sign of sorrow or boredom and if a man is into you his chin may only go down to his chest for a second while he arched his eyebrows looking at you. Now this does depend upon the situation as does reading and interpreting most body language actions.

 

Body language of a man flirting
Body language and the interested man

The chin up could determine how much self-confidence the man has but that would also be encompassed with the other 8 steps. If the chin is too far up at may be a sign of arrogance or a stiff neck so you may want to save this body reading action for last.

 

Men do not normally communicate with their chin down to their chest and on the other end of the spectrum men normally do not communicate with their chin up as high as possible so determining where the correct or normal location can help you understand or interpret what state of mind he has or possibly even an emotion that he is feeling.  

 

 Reading body language note of caution

It is always important to note that these are all general guidelines and do not always 100% determine what is going on. Depending on where you are in the world and the social situations they could be wrong. It is a good idea to watch and see what reactions the people have who are interacting with others before judgments are made. It is also important for you to look at the context of a situation before you make judgments about what is going on. Reading body language is not always an exact mathematical formula meaning A+B = C it can be far more complicated than that.

 

Body language exercises

 

The eyebrows say more than you would think, for just a second arch your eyebrows as if you were angry, so that would mean that just above your nose your eyebrows would drop down and your eyes may squint.  How does that feel for just those few seconds?

 

Now open your eyes and arch your eyebrows as if you were surprised. Now in just those few quick instances how did either one of those exercises make you feel? When you are done reading this information try it in a mirror and see what your reactions are. Last try looking at a partner and do the same items to see what your reactions would be.

 

*As a side note this exercise may not help you if you decide to test this out on a person unless you let them know first what you are doing or you may just get a chance to interpret what their body language along with some verbal communication is saying*

 

 It is important for you to see what your body does and the possibilities of your reactions so that you know and understand what your own body language is saying so that you can identify what other peoples body language is portraying. Next let’s take a look at head tilts:

 

Now look and think about something in the room that you can see and would be interested in get interested in it and become curious about it. Did you tilt your head towards that thing you are interested in or thinking about or did you tilt your head away from the item or did you even tilt your head at all? Where did your chin go towards the item or away, to your chest or did you raise it?

 

Now do the same exercise as if you were angry with the item. Are you tilting towards it or away from it? Where does your chin go when you are not happy vs where does it go when you are happy?

What did you learn about yourself and how you communicate?

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credit: Businessman Sat Talking On Mobile Phone by Ambro, Loving Couple Look Each Other by photostock

 

Reading body language of men part 2

 

body language of mens posture can determine flirting
Body langugae of men and seduction

Reading Body language: When looking or reading the body language of men there is a simple 9 step process that helps you understand what nonverbal communication is happening

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The first 3 steps in reading his body language for business, datting or seduction or even safety are:

1.      Proximity or distance from the person or the people involved

2.      What position is his boy in compared to others?

3.      Where his hands and what are they doing?

 

The next three steps in reading his body language consist of determining a few more things that will help you decipher the situation and what is going on between him and others.

 

Step 4 – Reading men’s body language – look at his feet

When looking at a man to determine what his communication is you will look at his feet. Now the feet will either consciously or subconsciously point to what he is thinking about or what he may be interested in you.

 

Is he thinking about the woman over in the corner? He may start by pivoting his body and then will eventually get the courage to go over and flirt with her, he may already be engaged in flirting with the woman and he is waiting for the perfect time to go over and chat her up.

 

In a business setting the body language of his feet may be saying that he needs to leave, the new potential client is long winded and he has a meeting to get to. His feet or even maybe one foot will point at the door and a way saying “I want to go that way and get out of here.

 

So there is the potential when reading his body language of a man that it may be he is either interested in something going where his feet point at that person or object on or uninterested and then will point his foot or feet at that object or person.   

 

In the instance of non verbal communication the feet may determine the direction of conversations and actions literally.

 

Step 5 – Reading men’s body language – look at his shoulders

The next step while reading the body language of a man for dating or business is to look at his shoulders in context of his feet. If he is standing the second he points his feet any other direction than forward his shoulder will dip towards the direction that his foot is going.

 

There is a very simple body language exercise of standing and directing both feet directly at the wall in front of you and then slightly start to twist the right foot and start to move it towards the wall to your right. If you do this in a mirror you will see you shoulder drop.

 

This same exact nonverbal cue will happen for men or for women so it is important to note that your shoulders will be a gibe away for whatever your feet are doing.

 

The shoulders will also determine the amount of self-confidence that he may have. If his shoulders are drooped there is a possibility that he lacks confidence especially if his chin is down. Now be careful here because it may be that he is tired and or that the chair he is sitting in is not comfortable this is where the signs and signals of a man’s body language may be misinterpreted. This non verbal communication of the shoulders must be looked at in context of everything else that is going on and not just by itself.  

 

If the shoulders are up and the chin is up there is a good possibility that everything is ok with what is going on around him. There is one clue as to if there is danger or stress and as his shoulders will be rolled back and more than likely his fists will be balled up if there is confrontation going on between him and others. This puffing up is a natural reaction of a fight or an altercation.

 

Learning how to read the body language of men does take some time to learn and there is more elements to look at nonverbally than just one specific body part.

 

Shoulders and chins can help determine the body language of men
Understand his body language by learning about his shoulders and chin

 

Step 6 – Reading men’s body language – Look at his posture

In reading the body language of men the posture is next on the list now this item is similar to where the shoulders are but now you would take into account his stance and whether he is standing or sitting.

 

The posture will play a part in his confidence but also if he is attentive to what is going on.

 

If the man is sitting and he is slumped forward do you think that he is interested in what is going on around him? Is it possible for him to see everything that is going on? If he is out looking for a woman or a partner can he see the cues or the flirting action of others.

 

If he is at work can he pay attention to what is being presented to him if he is in a meeting?

 

Does he seem confident as to what is being said or being presented?

 

In most instance his posture will determine his body language and most of the nonverbal emotional cues that go along with it.   

 

If he is flirting with a woman or a man his posture should show that he is interested by it being attentive. This does go back to primal days when people had to “peacock” or make themselves more attractive. “Peacocking” is a term used by pick up artists or seduction artists. If he were to slump down this effect would not be possible. When animals are in the mating mode they take up as much space as they can to be visible so their posture goes straight up and whatever parts of the body can go out to attract attention follow. Now this “peacocking” animal style would be a bad idea for a man who was trying to attract a mate to put his arms as far ways from his body as possible or to try and take up as much room as possible as it would go against social norms and he would lose social value. If he were trying to seduce a mate he would “peacock” on a smaller scale.

 

Body language or nonverbal communication exercise

 

As a body language exercise stand up straight with your shoulders out and with your chin up  breath in deep and exhale deep (but not too much where you pass out) and try and feel sorry for yourself or even try to not feel confident. Now do what you would to feel confident.

 

Now do the opposite stand up and roll your shoulders in chin down and breath slow and shallow and try and feel confident or excited.

 

What did you find?

 

If you did the exercise you would find it is hard for you to be in a good state of mind when your body language goes against what you are thinking.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of men or women.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:  Business Man by Andy Newson, Man With Sunglasses by photostock

Reading body language: The non verbal language of women part 3

Reading body language of women: Understanding female body language includes non verbal communication, apparel and accessories. Looking at what women decide to wear can help you determine many thins about them but specifically what women decide to wear can teach you many things about her non verbal communication.

 

When reading the body language of women there is one single item that almost every time is the one accessory that she will worry about more than anything else..

 

Now as a side note when a woman gets dressed is she more interested in dressing for the men or for the women?

 

Reading body language of women for seduction or attraction
Attract women with this nonverbal communication skill

 

Quick answer for the man or for the women?

 

Many times when women get dressed up they are doing what they can to not have other women discuss what they are wearing or how they are wearing it.

 

Many times when it comes to reading the body language of women of their non verbal communication to be more specific men do not even think of this.

 

Women know that for the most part they can do what they like for the most part and some of that may include flirting or seduction and most guys will eat this act up.

 

On the other hand the women are competing against each other for status or attention.

 

Ok so you do not believe this:

 

Next time you go out for a night on the town and you are in a small venue look at how women scan the room to check out their competition so that they “know” what they are up against.

 Know what to look at when determining female body language

They check out the other woman’s:

  • ·         Hair to see if the cut is nice and current
  • ·         Her makeup to see how it was applied
  • ·         Her top or blouse to see how it fits or even possibly to see if it is a designer label
  • ·         Her jewelry to see how extravagant it is or if she has a trophy ring (that means its big and that would equal her man has money for some reason the bugger the ring the more he loves her)
  • ·         Her chest to see what she is stacked against
  • ·         Her waist line to see if she is overweight
  • ·         Her backside to see if she is fit
  • ·         What type of nylons or possible legging she has on
  • ·         Lastly they look at other women’s shoes

 

All of these items are then added up in some mental mathematical size up and then deducted from her beauty or lack of and then a decision is made about what type of competition *she* is.

 

Now in all of this there is one accessory that has more weight than most items…

 

… and that would be her shoes.

 

If you are a man and you think you know about the non verbal communication of women and you don’t include her shoes into the equation you have made a mistake.

 

For women shoes make the outfit and are the keys to the kingdom.

 

Readinge the nonverbal communication of women and their shoes
Learn how to read the body language of women

 

Guys worry about their body language sometimes if they think about it. What women worry about has many more aspects they worry about facial expressions or features, body language signals, non verbal signs of flirting and so much more.

 

How understanding the body language of women can help with attraction

 

Now if you wanted to impress that special woman that you meet one of the best ways to grab her attention may be something you may have thought of as a joke.

 

The best non-verbal feature to comment on for a woman is her shoes. Now if you are looking to strike a conversation in a manner where you may be attracted or flirting there does have to be some finesse when it comes to making the comment on one of the most important accessories ever made for a woman.

 

Guys look at shoes as a part of clothing women look at shoes as one of the single most important inventions ever next to chocolate. For woman shoes make and finish or complete the outfit. For guys they are just boxes and boxes of costly shoes in the closet with funny names:

  • ·         Peeps
  • ·         Sling backs
  • ·         Pumps
  • ·         Flats
  • ·         Wedge
  • ·         Loafers

And the list can go on not to mention the designers who make them Jimmy Choo, Stuart Weitzman, Vera Wang, Prada, Christian Louboutin, Dior and so many more.

 

For guys or men there is no comparison for articles of clothing.  For women this *is* everything because more time is worried about shoes than the clothes that are worn. This is the non-verbal key.

 

Now if you want to master the skill of attraction, seduction or if you just want to impress a woman comment on how her shoes compliment or finish her outfit.  There is one bit of warning if you do this complement too soon in the conversation she will pick up on your fake complement and if you slide it in too late it will not fit in the conversation.

 

Reading female body language covers clothes, actions and even accessories.

 

In order for you to attract the girl you may need to increase you skills when relating to nonverbal communication and complementing shoes is one special key that unlocks many doors.  The attraction may not come from body signs or signals but your attention to detail and being able to complement it.

 

If you are a man and are competing with other men for the attention of a woman your ability to pick out some subtle clues may just help you.

 

Now this may not be of what you thought when you started to learn about seduction or even attraction but shoes are a simple topic to do some homework on. Go to a website where you could buy some women’s shoes. You could then learn about the types styles and manufacturers. Thinking ahead of other men and take some notes and your time invested would be less than half an hour or you could try and use the same old pick up line that other guys have tried.

 

Learning how to read, interpret and understand body language may increase your knowledge in more areas than facial expressions, body signs or even posture. It is ok to go and take physical field trips or even virtual trips to increase your ability to read non verbal communication.  Reading body language can open doors or even get you the girl when you know how to ask the right question or make the perfect statement.

 

I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell  

Photo credits: Stiletto Shoe by Boaz Yiftach, Group Of Girls Partying by photostock

Reading body language: The non verbal language of women part 2

Reading body language of women: While understanding the body language of women it is important to remember that first you should observe her non verbal communication to determine or base line her actions. This understand of what is normal for her is a key to interpreting body language correctly.

 

The body language of women may differ from the body language of men in a few ways. Going back and understanding the natural born tendencies in women to protect themselves from men or attackers of either gender knowing where to stand or even how close in proximity is important.

 

If you are working on determining her non verbal communication to see if a woman is interested into you there are a few signs to look for when it comes to body language signs of attraction.

 

When a woman is attracted to you her body language will cause her to “preen”. This action of preening could include her playing with her hair or clothing or even an object like a glass. If in the animal world this would be a sign of the woman’s capability to clean and take care of herself but also at the same time demonstrating that she is a capable mate.

 

If a woman is attracted to you she may use smiles as her body language to get your attention. Now the smile that a woman would use would be a genuine smile and not the kind that kids make when taking pictures in the 3rd grade. This smile used as nonverbal communication would not be a constant smile because that may just be creepy and strange it would be a shorter gesture.  

 

Now sometimes women will flirt with men and they may just wink or blink at a guy. You may smile back at her and then she may wink or even raise her eyebrows as a sign that she is interested. In some instances she may even motion for you to come over this may be an overt sign of body language and would definitely mean that she is interested in you in some way or another.

 

While determining if she is attracted to you through her body language you can look at her feet belly button and neck dimple. Now these three items can help in indicating or understanding the body language of attraction. When a woman is interested in her she may be more inclined to point her feet in your direction when standing in a group or even if it is just the two of you. Looking at her proximity or how close she to you will help be a good judge or indicator. If she enters your bell bubble or gets closer than 18 inches this is a good sign that she is comfortable with you or even interested.

 

The next step to see if her body language is showing that she is interested in you would be to look at her belly button will help indicate attraction or if she is interested. When people are concerned about their safety they will do what they can to cover up vital organs and what is common when someone is nervous or even scared would be to cover the belly button. If you are looking at the feet of a woman to determine if she is attracted her belly button would also face you directly.

 

Adding one more layer to understanding the body language of women or attraction would to be the neck dimple. If her feet and her belly button are facing you then so should her neck dimple. This is the area above her collar bone but below her chin. This is another area of the body when would need to be protected in a time of danger and when it is left open shows that there is no fear or reason to be concerned.   

 

When all three areas of the feet, belly button and neck dimple line up these are good signs that there is attraction but this is not definite. This body language of women is important to understand as a basic safety need protect. If you are attracted to a women and she starts to cover these areas or directing them away form you it may mean that she is not interested and her body language of attraction is showing it.

 

To determine if a woman is interested in you checking her body language or looking at her eyes

Can help determine if she is interested or even flirting. In most instances when attraction is present in men or women the eyes will dilate or even stay fixated on you longer. This fixation could help you determine if she is attracted to you. There is always a downside when looking for body language signs of attraction and that is misunderstanding what the person is looking at. She may be looking at someone or something behind you if you are a distance apart. If you are closer in proximity there would be no mistake if she was looking at you with attraction.

 

Now if you are new to flirting with women or understanding the signs or signals of attraction keeping eye contact too long is not the right thing to do in fact it may just have the opposite effect and cause the person to think that you are strange. Interpreting the body language of flirting may take some time to learn if you have not learned about it previously.

 

When the body language of women turns to attraction her non verbal cues may include her skin changing color or becoming flush, her lips may become more red and in some instances her actions over all may become slower as to attract more attention. In some instances these moves may become seductive or even suggestive. In those specific instances the message should be very clear and it would not take mind reading to understand the situation. This seductive body language would not need you to be clairvoyant as to intentions.

 

More ways to determine if a woman is interested in you she may touch you on your arm or shoulder. Now this touch doesn’t always mean that there is attraction she may just be a kinesthetic or touchy person. You may have to take some time with this nonverbal communication to see what is going on. Now if you are used to women flirting with you would know what this “touch” would mean. If you are not used to women flirting with you it may take some time for you to catch on that she is interested in you. If you are not used to women touching you this action could possibly be misread very easily.  

 

She may take something from you as a playful action along with all of the other body language signs or signals of flirting or attraction. The taking of an object from you would be used as an attention getting device. At this point she may become more playful and even start laughing. This playful activity of flirting may common at any age and not just defined by one group.

 

As one last non verbal tip to see if a woman is interested in you at in a public setting you can look at your watch. The way that you would use this would require the help of a wing man. This action is very simple you would look at your watch as if you have somewhere to be if there is a woman who is attracted to you she will also look at her wrist as if there was a watch there. Your friend or wingman would then share with you who may have the possibility of being attracted to you. At this point you would either take the time to flirt with her or go over and use your verbal skills and talk to her.

 

Learning the body language of attraction for women or being able to read their non verbal communication when it comes to flirting can be misjudged so it is important to decipher the situation correctly. Your communication skills can be increased by learning and understanding what your body movements and actions can mean.

 

As always i would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

Scott Sylvan Bell

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