Reading body language: Learning how to read or interpret body language can lead you to many different views of what other people are not just saying with their words but also their non verbal communication.
Many times when people say that they want to learn how to understand body language it is because someone that they are involved with may be a liar, cheater or thief. In most instances people leak their deceptive moves and they do not even know it. In some instances the deception can include facial expressions or hand movements.
Being able to detect when a person is lying or deceiving you takes some time to learn but there are a few items to watch:
- · The eyes
- · The lips
- · The hands
- · The feet
Any combination of these body parts can help determine if someone is lying or being deceptive.
One major sign that is obvious compared to some of the other leaks that people have is as normal in front of a crowd as it is in person and that is the Lobster claw of deception.
The name comes from what people will do with their hand just before they fabricate a story or completely lie about an event.
Fabrication occurs when a person takes someone else’s story and embellishes it as their own story. Deception or lying is just what it says a lie.
People will have a “tell” or a “leak” that they cant stop once they have made the lie or have deceived others. In some instances the non-verbal action that the liar uses it causes them to try even harder to cover up what they just acted upon.
There is a normal pull for people to touch their face or get their hands near their face once they tell the lie or start with the deception.
With the lobster claw of deception people have a pull to their face in a specific way for a brief second in time. In order to tell of the person is lying it is a good idea to watch for a while first to determine the tell or get a feel or baseline of their “actions”. When something is out of the norm then that may or may not mean that the person that you are watching is lying.
There are many things that can go wrong when reading body language that is why it is a good idea to not make snap judgments about what is being done because you may be wrong and react in a way that can cause more problems than good.
While learning how to read body language it is a good idea to take your time and learn how to decipher what is actually going on. If you treat learning nonverbal communication like a course to learn in school it makes it easier. It is always better to learn in small chunks vs trying to learn everything in one day.
As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell