Body language of mirroring

Mirroring body language: There are plenty of cool things that you can do when it comes to learning how to read body language or even interpret the nonverbal signs of men or women. One of the most important items that you can learn to help your persuasive abilities, best of all when done right you have some covert skills and it’s all nonverbal.

 

The term mirroring means that you would do nonverbally what the other person does:

  • ·         They woman touches her face, you touch your face
  • ·         She crosses her legs you cross your legs
  • ·         The man smiles you smile
  • ·         You yawn and then she yawns
  • ·         He touches you, you touch him back

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Wait it means that the mirroring and body language goes both ways?

 

Yes it does and you may have not ever noticed that salespeople may have mirrored you.

 

There is a point where you build enough rapport where they may start to follow you and then follow your lead (pace).

 

Body language mirroring of similar not exact

Mirroring body language can go wrong and that is for a few reasons and it makes your actions overt instead of covert:

 

Too similar too soon means that your reaction is too quick and that is a common body language mistake. The whole idea for your mirroring or copying is to be covert and not overt. When mirroring is done right the other person may or may not know that you are either pacing them or mirroring them.

 

Many times when people hear about or are shown mirroring they become too eager to get started and their movements are so quick that it isn’t really natural. These super skills that are supposed to help along with the process of rapport and or the persuasion process then end up hurting the person that they are supposed to help.

 

Just be patient when learning this new covert body language skill and you will be rewarded.

 

Body language of mirroring of similar

When mirroring a man or woman your bodies actions only have to be similar.

  • ·         When she touches her face you can touch you’re a few seconds later but do not touch it in the same exact spot
  • ·         When he crosses his legs you can wait a few seconds or a moment and then you cross your legs

 

 

Body language of pacing and leading

Pacing and leading is a strategy from NLP. Pacing means that you are following a man or woman. Leading would be when they are following you. Now throughout an interaction you can switch up the leader or the pacer.

 

You will know you are in good rapport when it goes both ways. At some moments it may be a body language strategy to give up some power and follow a man or woman and in some instances you may want to be in charge and have them follow you.

 

Body language of mirroring and touch

Now when it comes to touch there are common mistakes that you can make. In real time if you are waiting 5 – 10 seconds after someone makes movement for you to copy you will want to wait a few seconds longer if this action has to do with touch. You will have to practice this out with another man or woman that you know but you cannot tell them what you are doing to so that you can get the timing right. You can let the man or the woman in on your secret after you have practiced a few times. Mirroring touch has to feel natural or the situation will become very awkward.

 

Touching too quickly is also a common body language mistake.

 

Body language of mirroring and where to practice

How to learn body language made simple. You can practice mirroring body language anywhere and find it to be an effective use of nonverbal communication. You can just sit down at the coffee shop and watch a man or woman out of the corner of your eye and do a similar action and then when the man or woman changes their position you wait a few moments or even seconds and then do something similar but not exact. You may even want to watch the distance that you keep from the person when you make the touch so that you know where your proximics are or the “bell bubble”

 

Normally when someone hears about mirroring or wants to learn about it they make this common mistake for body language and that is to move too quickly.

 

As a side note while mirroring a man or woman out in public they may come over to you and ask questions like “Do we know each other”? This action is common along with them interacting with you somehow.

 

You can literally practice mirroring men or women’s nonverbal actions anywhere and get the same type of results. You may notice the next time someone is trying to influence you that they start to mimic or mirror your actions. You will be able to tell how good they are by their lag time or if they have just started by their ability to covertly mirror others.

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of mirroring.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reading body langauge: The perfect high five demonstration

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Reading body language: There are plenty of fun things to learn when studying non verbal communication or how to read body language. Understanding how people communicate and influence each other is a key component to the quality of life.

 

When it comes to supporting friends and going out to have fun there is nothing more important than being able to land a perfect high five at the right time to underscore a celebration for any occasion.

 

Now how could giving not being able to give a proper high five be part of non verbal communication?

 

Remember how people judge and view you is the real way that you are communicating whether you are talking or not. What communication is becomes more important the more risk that there is involved.

 

Take for example this sales scenario that could either help you make the sale or lose it to a competitor:

 

Say you are out on the town and you are a sales rep and you are working on a perfect deal that will help you with a new account. Your new potential client takes you out to a football game or similar sporting event and the team you are there for scores and the crowd goes wild… Your new potential client goes to give you a high five and you miss horribly.

 

There is no going back, you have left a bad impression. If you can’t give a high five properly what else can you not do? Where else would you screw up? How much internal fear would be developed on the part of the potential client? What if there were other team members there that you needed to impress and they interpreted body language from you after missing that wasn’t there?

 

Oh how this awkward situation could be reversed, is there a sure fire way that you would never miss an opportunity to not just deliver a high five but do it correctly every single time the situation calls for this awesome celebration?

 

Yes there is and it is an easy one step process that can almost never go wrong.

 

Lets face it how long have you been celebrating with friends after a scoring run, and you can’t do a simple high five?

 

Now this simple tip will help you in more ways than you could imagine.

 

Sometimes you need the ability to demonstrate something at the front of the room or there is the perfect opportunity to show your bosses kids or family members to deliver the perfect high five. This teaching opportunity usually stops people cold because nobody has ever shown or told them the secret of the proper high five. This could even work on a date if you were taking that special someone to a sporting event and you wanted to get in some early kinesthetic touch to help make that new person comfortable with you.

 

Knowing the secret to the perfect high five may not save your life in a critical situation but it may very well help your persuasive skills at the perfect moment with the right amount of confidence and certainty needed for whatever reason that you are celebrating.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions!

 

No go out and give the perfect high five and implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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