Reading body language of nervousness

Reading body language: Most people have fears of appearing nervous in so many situations. Sometimes this fear is warranted and sometimes it is not.


Many times people will ask “what can I do so that I do not appear nervous when others read my body language”?


There could be millions of reasons that you could be nervous some of these reasons could be seen from others as being legitimate and in some instances the reasons for your nervousness may seem silly to others.

  • ·         About to ask a woman for her phone number
  • ·         Go in for a job interview
  • ·         Get pulled over by a police officer


What would have to be identified first would be what is making you look nervous when it comes to others reading your body language?


reading body language while a woman is nervous
Reading body language signs of a nervous woman


The items in your body language that are making you look nervous are:

  • ·         Touching your face
  • ·         Rapid breathing
  • ·         Shifty behavior or actions that show fidgeting  
  • ·         Rubbing your neck
  • ·         Rubbing your hands
  • ·         Tapping your fingers
  • ·         Shaking of body parts like legs or arms
  • ·         Rigid body movement
  • ·         Frozen actions or an inability to move
  • ·         Flush complexion
  • ·         Locking your ankles
  • ·         Holding on tightly to chair arms or other objects
  • ·         Verbal actions would include stuttering or talking fast


When it comes to being nervous and the body language that you portray other people may be flattered or on the other end of the spectrum concerned that you have this issue. In instances of dating so men or women would consider this as a good thing while some man or women would say that nervousness shows a lack of confidence.


For a job interview it may not be a good thing that the person who is hiring you sees you as being nervous. If it is your first time sitting in front of a hiring manager and you are 16 years old it may be expected. If you are 5 years past college graduation you may be losing out on what is thought of you.


Reading your body language of nervousness

When people are put under pressure their positive and negative traits appear. It is good for you to know what your nervous traits are so that you can adopt your body language so that you are not seen or read as being nervous by others. One way to do this is by putting yourself in a situation where you can be videotaped. You would want to look for any of the signs of nervousness listed previous and make note of what actions that you make.


Many people will not chose to do simple actions because they are afraid of what they will see, You will look silly on video and that is ok and to be expected when working on your own body language.


Reading body language signals of nervousness
Reading body language to see if a man is nervous


To work on your body language so that you do not appear nervous the first thing that you will have to do is to get your body to relax.

  • ·         Breathe slower and put your arms by your side or on your lap.
  • ·         Avoid folding your hands or fidgeting.
  • ·         Remember to not touch your face.
  • ·         In some instances you will see people lock their ankles in front of themselves or under their chair. Think about how people are in a dentist’s chair to visualize the locking of ankles or the death grip on the chair arms. If you are a man sit in a way where your feet are on the floor. For a woman crossing your legs may be expected if you are siting.


Wherever you are or whatever you are doing be patient and slow down and you will be perceived as being less nervous with your body language and those who are reading it.


There are plenty of things that you can do to learn how to read body language like an expert, this is a course you can take to understand and read others like a book


As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of nervousness.


Now go implement!


Scott Sylvan Bell


Scared by graur razvan ionut,Nervous Woman by David Castillo Dominici :Photo credits for reading the body language of nervousness  

Reading body language during an interview

Reading body language: Interviews of any kind have to be one of the most intimidating moments for people because of the fear that it brings them and it’s all about how their new boss or partner may read their body language, and your body language does matter.


You have a brief few seconds to impress anyone when it comes to how they read you and your body language and all of the nonverbal traits that you have.


Reading body language durring a job interview
Reading body language of an interview


You are judged so quickly that there isn’t room to make mistakes of any kind. Search the internet and studies have state that people from HR departments decide in 30 seconds or less if they would hire you as an employee. That’s one commercial from televisions time where you are read, that’s it.


It is important to have the right strategy for your body language when it comes to setting up your body language to be read properly.


There are plenty of places to go wrong when meeting for a job interview and just as many items you can perform with to go the right way.


Reading body language in an job interview intro

Some will tell you that everything will start with the hand shake when it comes to a job interview but there is a short instance just before the handshake. There will be two things that will be looked at and those are:

  • ·         Posture
  • ·         Emotions


Your posture before your handshake is just as or if not more important than the handshake. For you to be or even seem confident your body will have to read that you believe in yourself.


This means that you will either want to be standing or sitting straight up but with a very slight relaxed stature. Done wrong and it will seem that you are cocky or arrogant done right it will be seen as confident. So what is the difference between the two? It will start with the position of your chin if you hold it too high you will fall into the cocky or arrogant category. The second part would be if your movements become too stiff and rigid.


It is important to note that most of the time people are wrong about reading into body language and what it means. You are up against peoples beliefs and perceptions as to what they think they know body language to be. If they believe your actions to mean something you are stuck with that belief and you will possibly lose out.


For job interviews done correctly your posture would be correct and your emotions that can be seen an interpreted correctly have been dealt with. This means that you have some enthusiasm but not so much that it is creepy. The creepy factor comes into play from smiling too much. A brief smile at an introduction does far more good for you than a long smile throughout the approach and then through the handshake. One appropriate place to insert a smile is when the other person says their name.


So now you made it past the first 30 seconds of the job interview and your body language has been read perfectly. Your posture was correct, you seemed enthusiastic but not too much with enough energy and you didn’t smile too much.


Now it is time to sit down again.


Here is what you would do right:


  • ·         Sit slightly away from the table with a confident posture – if you are too close to the table it is uncomfortable for the person on the other side. Keep your feet flat in front of you on the floor is you are a man. If you lock your ankles and put them under your chair it causes you to lean forward. As an exercise get a partner or friend and sit in a chair with your feet in front of you placed on the floor flat. Then cross your ankles and put them under the seat and see how much you move forward. In the right settings you can cross your leg but done too soon may make you appear to be over confident.
  • ·         For women there isn’t an issue with crossing legs it’s almost expected.
  • ·         Keeping hands out of pockets to show that you are not hiding anything will help their beliefs stay constant
  • ·         Leaving your hands and arms within the “bell bubble” and not allowing them to travel too far from your body.
  • ·         When standing or sitting next to others you stay far enough away that it is comfortable but not too far away.
  • ·         Not shifting around in your chair as if you were uncomfortable
  • ·         Not looking at too many things but keeping good eye contact with the person you are meeting with. Between 50% – 70%  eye contact is normal.
  • ·         Not tapping your fingers on the table or your feet on the ground because it would show that you are nervous


So you have made it through the interview and your body language has been perfect and the other person reads you as being confident and comfortable.


There are a few ways that you can really crew up an interview in the nonverbal categories of body language:

  • ·         Invading space – Think of locking your hands behind your head and being over confident or even taking up too much space or real estate on a table as if you own the place with your materials.
  • ·         Being too familiar with the other person and touching them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable.
  • ·         Touching anywhere near your face because most people see and believe this to be a tell that you are a liar
  • ·         Personal grooming in anyway like picking your teeth or cleaning your ears while you are being interviewed does not go over well
  • ·         Chewing gum for any reason would be silly
  • ·         Dressing inappropriately for the type of place you are interviewing at. There really isn’t any excuse for not dressing up.


If you are being interviewed by someone who does interviews all day long they will be sizing you up before you know it and even if the person doing the interview for the job doesn’t do interviews all day long they will be sizing you up instantly.


Reading body language durring an interview with expertise
Reading body language of a job interview with nonverbal communication


Reading body language advice for a job interview

Do everything you need to before you walk into the office. Before you walk in check your clothes to make sure you gig line is straight, your shirt is buttoned, you have nothing in your teeth, you zipper is up and that you feel and show confidence but not arrogance.


Having the right knowledge about the signs and signals from your body language can give you the upper hand during a job interview.


Reading body language experts know what to look at and where, understanding and interpreting the signs and signals of nonverbal communication can be learned here.


As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language during interviews.


Now go implement!


Scott Sylvan Bell

Hire Me by Michal Marcol,Business People In The Meeting by Ambro :Photo credits for reading body language during an interview by and expert.