Reading body language: Most people have fears of appearing nervous in so many situations. Sometimes this fear is warranted and sometimes it is not.
Many times people will ask “what can I do so that I do not appear nervous when others read my body language”?
There could be millions of reasons that you could be nervous some of these reasons could be seen from others as being legitimate and in some instances the reasons for your nervousness may seem silly to others.
- · About to ask a woman for her phone number
- · Go in for a job interview
- · Get pulled over by a police officer
What would have to be identified first would be what is making you look nervous when it comes to others reading your body language?
The items in your body language that are making you look nervous are:
- · Touching your face
- · Rapid breathing
- · Shifty behavior or actions that show fidgeting
- · Rubbing your neck
- · Rubbing your hands
- · Tapping your fingers
- · Shaking of body parts like legs or arms
- · Rigid body movement
- · Frozen actions or an inability to move
- · Flush complexion
- · Locking your ankles
- · Holding on tightly to chair arms or other objects
- · Verbal actions would include stuttering or talking fast
When it comes to being nervous and the body language that you portray other people may be flattered or on the other end of the spectrum concerned that you have this issue. In instances of dating so men or women would consider this as a good thing while some man or women would say that nervousness shows a lack of confidence.
For a job interview it may not be a good thing that the person who is hiring you sees you as being nervous. If it is your first time sitting in front of a hiring manager and you are 16 years old it may be expected. If you are 5 years past college graduation you may be losing out on what is thought of you.
Reading your body language of nervousness
When people are put under pressure their positive and negative traits appear. It is good for you to know what your nervous traits are so that you can adopt your body language so that you are not seen or read as being nervous by others. One way to do this is by putting yourself in a situation where you can be videotaped. You would want to look for any of the signs of nervousness listed previous and make note of what actions that you make.
Many people will not chose to do simple actions because they are afraid of what they will see, You will look silly on video and that is ok and to be expected when working on your own body language.
To work on your body language so that you do not appear nervous the first thing that you will have to do is to get your body to relax.
- · Breathe slower and put your arms by your side or on your lap.
- · Avoid folding your hands or fidgeting.
- · Remember to not touch your face.
- · In some instances you will see people lock their ankles in front of themselves or under their chair. Think about how people are in a dentist’s chair to visualize the locking of ankles or the death grip on the chair arms. If you are a man sit in a way where your feet are on the floor. For a woman crossing your legs may be expected if you are siting.
Wherever you are or whatever you are doing be patient and slow down and you will be perceived as being less nervous with your body language and those who are reading it.
As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of nervousness.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell
Scared by graur razvan ionut,Nervous Woman by David Castillo Dominici :Photo credits for reading the body language of nervousness