Body language of licking lips

Body language of licking lips: Just for a minute imagine you are sitting in a meeting and the question about the new project goes to Joe and all of the sudden he starts licking his lips. And you think “wow this is unusual I have never seen Joe lick his lips, what on earth does it mean is he lying or is he excited”?

Or

You ask your boyfriend where he was and all of the sudden all of his body language changes into something not normal. You see him say “I was with Steve” pause … pause … licking his lips  “and we went to a new bar” as he looks away. Could this be a sign and signal that your boyfriend is lying or did he really go to the new bar?

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You go to a new bar and you look over in the corner and notice this girl who winks at you and slowly starts licking her lips. You pull out your phone and Google “Body language of licking lips” to find out how to interpret this sign or signal. Was that a sign of overtly flirting with you, was she thirsty or were her lips chapped?

 

Now it very well may be that licking lips means nothing …but just in case you decide it’s time to find out what the body language of licking lips means.

 

There are plenty of times where people lick their lips and there can be a few reasons why they do so.

  • ·         Out of necessity because of lack of moisture
  • ·         Excitement about an idea or thought non sexual
  • ·         Out of habit
  • ·         Nervous tick
  • ·         Caused by a lie
  • ·         Suggestive

 

Every day reason for licking lips

Now just think for a moment when you were out in the sun and were hot or even possibly when it was really cold and your lips were chapped. Did you lick your lips? The chances are great that you licking your lips meant absolutely nothing but that it was needed. Now if someone were in your peripheral they could read into a little differently. This is a reminder why you need to take a look at what the normal actions are of the person are who you are looking at while interpreting their body language.

 

Excitement and licking lips

There are some people that when they get excited about anything they lick their lips. This rush of energy has to go somewhere for them and the lips are the answer. You would see this as a common trait or action that happens. You would want to know this baseline before making a decision as to whether or not they are lying or if they are just excited about a thought or belief.

 

 Habit of licking lips or biting lips

There are also men and women who have developed the habit of licking or biting their lips over time and it means nothing except that it is a routine behavior. On the other hand if the man, woman or child has a normal behavior of licking their lips and all of the sudden in a situation that normal behavior doesn’t happen there might be a reason for it and it may not be good or it may need nothing at all. This means that it’s time to ask some questions to gather further information about what is going on.

 

 Nervous action of licking lips

On the next spectrum of the level from the body language of licking lips is the nervous tick or action. It may be the pressure of a tough question or an uncomfortable situation or room that would cause one to change their behavior and display. In this nervousness may fall the issue of lying but it doesn’t mean that there is a lie. It could very well be nervous energy just like a man or a woman tapping their foot. In fact you may see foot tapping and lip licking at the same time.

 

 Lying and licking lips

It could very well be that the man, woman or child that you are looking at is asked a tough question they pause and then they lick their lips with another pause and then answer your question. This may be a flat out sign that they are lying but be careful because remember it may be nervous energy. If you are a woman / girl and ask a guy do you love me? If he’s not ready be to answer this question be ready for all sorts of nervous behavior and stalls but even then it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or he’s lying that’s just a tough question all of the sudden.

 

In the case of lying you are looking for abnormal behavior or an action that is not a normal routine for the person that you are looking at. Sometimes it may seem that licking the lips may be a symbolic greasing of the lips to get the big whopper of a lie out of their mouth. This action may take place as a way to get another half a second to figure a story out.

If you spend some time watching the television show “Cops” you will see the suspects start licking their lips after a few tough questions are asked with long pauses or short pauses. Are the suspects lying before or after they lick their lips? Quite possibly but this show is a good place to look and watch for the signs and signals of lying.

 

Just remember before you try and confront your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, kid or coworker of lying look for abnormal behavior then question about it. You may see other signs you have never seen before or you may see normal routines remember the baseline their behavior first.

Seduction and licking of the lips

In the example of the woman licking her lips at the bar that would be considered overt behavior to induce behavior from you or whoever it was generated towards. The licking of the lips may be considered sensual when directed towards a person. Now this is the body language that movies scenes are based upon. You may see a man or woman lick their lips when they meet a new person and they may not even know that they are doing so. Just remember that this may be some nervous energy or it could mean something else entirely. This action may take a few minutes or it may happen instantly depending on what is going on in the mind of the two and the type of chemistry that they have.

 

Now there may be a tendency to look at the lips when a man or woman licks them but you may want to be careful because staring at the lips may be seen as being sexual. So all of the sudden you get excited that someone is licking their lips and you start staring and the other person takes your body language as sexually advanced and that’s not what they were licking their lips for.

Licking lips for many reasons

There may be more than one reason why a person would or could lick their lips while some of them may be good others reasons may be bad. It is important to take the time to learn the behaviors and characteristics of a person’s routine actions or baseline them to determine what their action means or could be interpreted to mean.

 

Understanding body language can help you determine what the actions that other people mean. Learning how to read body language can be fun and also done at home:

 

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body language of blinking

Body language of blinking: When reading the body language or nonverbal communication of others one of the items that may identify deceit, lies, stress or even medical conditions is blinking. The action of blinking happens naturally and you can easily make mistakes when it comes to interpreting what blinking means.

 

There are some actions that people really cannot control that perform necessary functions and blinking is one of them.  This action keeps the eyes moisturized but also protects the eyes from debris and bright lights.

 

The average person blinks every 3-12 seconds and that can work out to 8-10 blinks per minute unless under stress or medical conditions.

 

Under stress, while fabricating or while lying the rate of blinking may increase.

  

Body language of blinking and lying

One common mistake that people make when reading the body language of a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is that they are too quick to believe that excessive blinking is a definite sign of lying.

 

One of the signs of deception and or lying can be excessive blinking and through plenty of misinformation it’s an automatic belief in some it means lying. Now it may also be that the man or woman is under stress. You will have to be careful and baseline the person that you are examining to look for traits that would lead you to understand if it is a lie that is causing the blinking or jest the stress of being questioned. You will also want to take a look at the micro expressions that a man or woman has because if the person does not know about the accusations they should show surprise.

 

As a man or woman lies they may have a cluster of body language actions that happen when they start to deceive or fabricate. There may be touching of the face, excessive licking of the lips, a change in the breathing patterns, lack of eye contact, a long rub or stroke of a body part like the arm or leg. With these clusters you may notice that the blink rate would increase. This is where you would want to start questioning the story of what is going on if there is a combination of these items going on.  

 

It could be either be the stress of the encounter or the fact that the man or woman is lying and in some instances it could be both. Just take your time before you make a judgment.  

 

Body language of stress or fatigue

Fatigue or stress also may directly influence the rate of blinking. When being questioned by a significant other the stress alone may cause some questions about the blink rate. The signs and signals of stress or fatigue will be slower actions from the body.  

 

 

Body language of blinking and allergies and medical conditions  

Nervous system ailments can cause men or women to blink faster than normal and these faster blinks will be consistent for the most part.

 Having contacts in may also cause extra blinking so if you know that the man or woman has contacts there is a time where you may want to count this item.

When eyes are itchy there are times where men and or women will blink faster than normal, you may see that they eyes are red and or puffy when this happens. When there is an issue or medical condition the faster blink rate may or may not be consistently fast. There are some people that when interacting with others that blink faster than what they would if they were not. People who work in dimly lit areas may also have blinking triggered.

 

Reading the body language of others along with their nonverbal signs and signals can help you understand if a man or woman is lying.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about blinking and lying.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

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base lining body language

Reading body language: When it comes to reading the nonverbal communication of men or women there are a few things that you must do first in order to make sure that you read the situation the right way. For the ability to read body language effectively you must take the time to base line the situation.

 

The signs of body language can be overt or right out in the open and the man or the woman doesn’t care that you and everyone else sees them or the man or the woman does not really have control of what they are doing with their nonverbal communication.

 

The signals of nonverbal communication may also be covert where the people around may not see what one person does with their body language. This may be a threatening gesture all of the way to something seductive.

 

Base lining and body language

Men, woman and kids have set routines when it comes to gestures and ticks in their body language. Now there may be the sign of lying and touching the face but if the man or the woman consistently touches their face there is a high probability that they may not be lying.

 

Most readings of body language or nonverbal communication are based on probability. In order to understand what type of probability there is and the accuracy of the read one must take the time to figure out the normal routines of the person that is being read. Reading real time requires the use of probabilities.

 

In gambling they use the word “tell” as a way to describe the body language of a gambler who has a sign or signal when something good or bad happens.

 

How to baseline to read body language

Base lining others can happen real time or as the man, woman or child is in action. This reading can take place live or may even be done over video camera. There is also a possibility that there is video of the subject that can be read to help get a grasp for normal routines. In some instances their can be a great deal learned about the person by looking at pictures. Base lining the body language of others is a highly visible actions since you must be able to see what the body is doing.

 

 

Base lining and normal actions   

When base lining the normal actions of a man, woman or child you will watch what their body is doing by looking at:

  • ·         Their hands and arms
  • ·         Their facial expressions
  • ·         The direction and spacing of the body
  • ·         Their bell bubble and or proximity to others
  • ·         Their automatic gestures

 

Base lining of the hands and body language

Many people talk with their hands and they have gestures that are common for them to use. Some nationalities and regions have hand gestures that they use consistently and they may have a totally different meaning in other parts of the world. In some places talking with hands is not just normal but almost required to communicate effectively.

 

Base lining and facial expressions

Facial expressions can be a rich body language pool of knowledge when it comes to what the other person may or may not be thinking, Micro expressions may be used to determine what an emotion is and when reading the rest of the body may result in almost near mind reading experience of others. Looking at the eyes, eyebrow and mouth can help determine what emotion or emotions are present.

 

Base lining and the direction and spacing of the body

While base lining the body language of others it is important to note the distance between the people involved. You may be able to understand the nonverbal communication better by looking at the direction the body is facing compared to the other people in the conversation or the group. Talking face to face means one thing and talking to a man or a woman’s back means something different so it is relevant to understand and interpret what is going on.

 

Base lining and bell bubble and or proximity to others

Not only is it important to know what direction the body is facing to interpret nonverbal communication but it is also important to not the distance between the man or the woman that is being looked at. People who just met will typically have a greater distance from people who are friends and people who are close friends or intimate can be closer in proximity than those who are just friends.

 

The distance between those communication can help you interpret, understand and baseline a situation better.   

 

The bell bubble describes the distance between men and or woman and can be described as personal space.

 

Base lining and automatic gestures

When reading the body language of a subject you will watch for routine or automatic gestures that they have. When a man or a woman lies they may change their routines as to what their body language does. They may have had a hand gesture or facial expressions that they use and when the emotion or context of the situation changes the routine or the facial expression may change. You will want to look for the changes that take place and the is the whole point of base lining how people communicate nonverbally.

 

In order to interpret body language effectively you must take the time to base line the nonverbal communication of others.

 

Learning how to read body language can be fun and informative all at the same time, one of the best courses to take can be from home: learn more here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about base lining and reading body language.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reading body language of leaders part 2

Reading body language: Leadership has many important facets but one of the most important is the nonverbal communication that underlies the body language of the leader.  There are times where the actions of the body while communicating will erode the message from the leader.

Reading body language of leaders part 1

 

Reading body language of female leaders
Reading body language of effective leaders

 

At some point either our vocal words will betray us or the actions of the body will. There is however a downside and that is when people are watching you and listening have their own opinion to what your words and actions mean to them.

 

Reading body language of facial expressions

While watching the body language of a leader and interpreting their facial features may be the most telling and or damaging at the same time. Most people do not have the ability to hide what their face is doing. In many instances it is the hardened liar is used to keeping his or her facial features under wrap as to not give the emotion attention.

 

Most leaders who have spent time in front of audiences have had coaching as to what to do or not to do. Any body language coach worth their weight will help their clients learn to not use too many facial features because they may not connect with the viewer or client.

 

A good leader will keep their facial features blank when needed, disgusted when needed or even excited when needed. What you will find is that a well taught leader will use their facial expressions when needed and hopefully for them their body language that is being read will come across as confident.  On the other hand you may have someone who is a great leader but has not been coached as to what to do in public who can lose credibility because of their lack of training.

 

Reading the body language of a leaders message

Leaders know that they will at some point not only be on the end of a good message but they will also be on the receiving end of a bad message. Now there will be a mix of the posture, facial expressions and the movements of their body will either make or break the message of the leader. When a good message is delivered it is hard for the leader to ruin their fortune with body language but it can be done. When a leader gets caught up with a bad question or message you will see with some people their body language “squirm” for either a fraction of a second or even a few seconds. The leader may show in their body language:

  • ·         A new facial expression
  • ·         A deep breath
  • ·         The skin may become read or the leader may become blush
  • ·         The leader may have a body part that starts shaking
  • ·         The hands may now be used somehow to block the message or the answer
  • ·         Verbally the leader may stutter or the real answer may even be revealed and then the body language follows

When a leader has to deliver a bad message they may show the signs of sympathy, their body movements may be slower, their facial features may show sorrow or frustration and or the body language of the leader may lose the appeal of confidence (sunk in shoulders, loss of the glide in the movements of the body)

 

Reading the body language of reactions to questions

When reading the body language of a leader you will see that leaders who have a bad message will flinch when a tough question is asked. The nonverbal communication of the leader may or will display just as it would when either getting or giving a good or bad message.

 

Reading body language of a liar leader
Reading body language of leaders who lie

 

Usually a well-trained leader will know that a difficult question will be asked of them at the worst time and they have practiced scenarios so that their body language will not betray them. A well trained leader will also have been taught about composure when things are going well for them so that their reaction in their body language does not come across as gloating or arrogance.

 

Reading the body language of a leader lying

Leaders who have made the mistake of lying in public and then have been caught wish that they would not have leaked their mistakes. There are some very specific things that people do when they lie:

  •           Touch their face
  • ·         Become flush or blush
  • ·         Cover their mouths after the lie or even try to shovel the words back into their mouths
  • ·         Rub their bodies after the lie. The face, head, arms, legs or even the neck
  • ·         Look another direction than what they were looking before
  • ·         Lose composure of confidence
  • ·         The blinking rate may increase

 

Now any of these actions for the body language of lying may happen by themselves of a few can work together in a cluster. This “cluster of lies” becomes evident as it happens for those who can read the signs and signals of liars or the body language of liars.

 

Watching a leader and looking at their body language can be an eye opening experience. You may want to watch to see if they are telling the truth or if they are lying. You may want to read the body language and nonverbal communications to tell if they would make a good leader. In your judgment remember that first you must watch them and baseline their actions to see what is normal vs abnormal and to also see if they are reacting to someone else.  

 

Learning how to read body language like an expert may be easier than you would think.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of leaders.

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

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Reading body language of biting lips

Reading body language: Biting the lip can be seen as strange behavior from some while others may see this as a sign or signal of discomfort.

 

Anytime that you are reading body language there are some assumptions that are being made as to what the nonverbal communication aspect is. Of course there is the possibility of being wrong. There is no definite action of anything that can 100% be correct when it comes to reading the language of the body. This is true for understanding and interpreting seduction, lies, nervousness or even being truthful.

 

Reading body language signs and signals in real life

So you are having a conversation with a significant other and after you ask the question of him or her you notice that they bite their lip. Now in the back of your mind you think back and ask yourself “what does it mean when someone bites their lip”? You begin to panic because it may mean that there is some lie going on, but what if you are wrong about reading his or her body language. You react in the wrong way and it creates some problems.

 

Reading body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains biting lips
Reading body language of biting the lower lip

So just what does biting a lip mean, is it good or is it a bad action?

 

Biting the lip can mean a few things when being read by others:

  •           Lying by the person or even withholding information
  •           Nervousness or a habit
  •           Anger or frustration
  •           Thinking
  •           Flirting

 

Now all of these examples of reading the body language of biting the lip can be absolutely wrong and it may have the possibility of meaning nothing at all and the meaning can be different for men or women.

 

Biting the lip and lying

Starting with lying the action of biting a lip can be a sign or signal that the person with this action is being inaccurate and telling a lie. The biting of the lip could also be a way to hold the information internally by locking the lips down enough so that talking cannot be done. Sometimes the bite can happen before the lie and sometimes it can happen after the lie. It may even mean that the person is fabricating or embellishing a story or statement. A person biting their lip does not always mean that they are showing definite signs or signals of lies.

 

Biting the lip and nervousness or as a habit

Another explanation of a person biting their lip is that they can be nervous and it is nothing more than a nervous tick and a comfortable action that they use to mask discomfort in a situation. In some instances this type of body language can be read as a lie. If read into too much the meaning will become distorted, there are some people who use this as a go to nonverbal action after saying something and it means absolutely nothing.

When using base lining a person who uses this body language action of a normal interaction it would be seen that this is more of a comfort action than anything diabolical.

 

Biting the lip and anger

In the action or reaction of anger some people will bit their lip to keep themselves from saying something that they do not want to say. This is a control issue and there are times where whatever words are being thought of are better off left unsaid. Sometimes this can be the reaction of seething anger of someone who is beyond furious.There are also times where people who are frustrated will bite their lip as a sign of their impatience.

 

 

 Biting the lip in thought

Some people will bite their lip while they are thinking and this nonverbal action is harmless. If read wrong someone may see this as a “sure tell” that the person is lying. When read wrong this can create some real problems. This is similar to someone who uses this action like someone who is nervous. In most instances this can be seen more along the lines of uncertainty if a question is asked while looking for facts.

 

Biting the lip and flirting

In some instances some people will bite their lip when flirting now this is not just an action that a woman would use, sometimes a man could do
this also. This would be done to draw attention to the person.

 

Reading body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell explains women biting their lips
Reading body language of women biting their lips

As like any other body language reading it is important to take the time to understand the situation that is going on before reading what people are doing nonverbally.

Many times body language reading requires you to understand that your interpretations are just a glimpse into what may be happening and there is no definite action that means the same thing 100% of the time especially when it comes to the differences between men and women. Remember that the reaction from your body language will be read by the other person and they can be right or wrong also.

 

To become a body language expert requires an understanding of the basics of nonverbal communication.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of biting lips.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell – Body language expert

 

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Reading body language: Lobster claw of deception

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Reading body language: Learning how to read or interpret body language can lead you to many different views of what other people are not just saying with their words but also their non verbal communication.

 

Many times when people say that they want to learn how to understand body language it is because someone that they are involved with may be a liar, cheater or thief. In most instances people leak their deceptive moves and they do not even know it. In some instances the deception can include facial expressions or hand movements.

 

Being able to detect when a person is lying or deceiving you takes some time to learn but there are a few items to watch:

  • ·         The eyes
  • ·         The lips
  • ·         The hands
  • ·         The feet

 

Any combination of these body parts can help determine if someone is lying or being deceptive.

 

One major sign that is obvious compared to some of the other leaks that people have is as normal in front of a crowd as it is in person and that is the Lobster claw of deception.

 

The name comes from what people will do with their hand just before they fabricate a story or completely lie about an event.

 

Fabrication occurs when a person takes someone else’s story and embellishes it as their own story. Deception or lying is just what it says a lie.

 

People will have a “tell” or a “leak” that they cant stop once they have made the lie or have deceived others. In some instances the non-verbal action that the liar uses it causes them to try even harder to cover up what they just acted upon.

 

There is a normal pull for people to touch their face or get their hands near their face once they tell the lie or start with the deception.

 

With the lobster claw of deception people have a pull to their face in a specific way for a brief second in time. In order to tell of the person is lying it is a good idea to watch for a while first to determine the tell or get a feel or baseline of their “actions”. When something is out of the norm then that may or may not mean that the person that you are watching is lying.

 

There are many things that can go wrong when reading body language that is why it is a good idea to not make snap judgments about what is being done because you may be wrong and react in a way that can cause more problems than good.

 

While learning how to read body language it is a good idea to take your time and learn how to decipher what is actually going on. If you treat learning nonverbal communication like a course to learn in school it makes it easier. It is always better to learn in small chunks vs trying to learn everything in one day.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language: What not to do with your hands

Reading body language: One of the largest mistakes people make when communicating is probably something that they would not ever think of off the top of their head.

Many times people have no clue as to what their hands are doing, where their hands are going. Even worse the Person who is under scrutiny has not idea what non-verbal message that they are delivering. While reading body language it is important to note that whatever the internal meaning of the body language is to the viewer that is their reality. The viewer thinks you are put off so they react. The viewer things you are interested so they act accordingly. There is plenty of room to be wrong in any instance when reading body language.

Super huge point: You can guess the wrong thing as to what body language is saying. Deciphering is not just the case of looking at just one picture and knowing instantly what the other person is thinking or feeling. You can read a situation wrong and it can be detrimental to whatever you are doing.

When it comes to you or someone else out in public where you can go wrong is by touching your face. If you are in sales it is absolutely imperative that you do not touch your face with your fingers. If it is possible using your shoulder or the back of your hand is recommended.

Just think of what this action says to your potential client whether they are reading your body language the right or the wrong way.

If you touch your nose for instance that person may be thinking “I hope he doesn’t try and shake my hand” instead of focusing on your sales message. This is just one way that your body language can hurt your abilities.

Another possibility is that the person who is reading your body language may think that you are fidgeting and may not be trustworthy. Now remember their reading of your body language has nothing to do with your intentions  just what they believe.

Pinocchio was this mythical creature that when he lied his nose grew. In many instances where people lie they start touching their face and you may or may not pick up on it subconsciously. This is a huge reason alone why you should not touch your face whether in a sales call or talking to a significant other.

Many times when people lie their body language will show through as they will try to either cover their mouth after lying or they will with motions try to put the words back into their mouths by making a cupping motion. In some instances the offender will actually use both of their hands and roll them over the top of each other.

Lastly some people will rub their necks as a result of a lie but this is not always the case the person may be under stress and the neck rubbing is how they deal with it.

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

Now go implement!

Scott Sylvan Bell

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