Body language of impatience

Body language of impatience has a few key components that can help you understand and interpret what signs and signals you can watch or see and almost immediately determine impatience. Now there is always the temptation to believe or to think that you know exactly what an action of the body means and therefore what the other person or people are thinking. Base lining or watching the man woman or child to determine their normal behavior patterns is always important to ensure that you read their message right. You will want to watch the person for a few moments to determine normal patterns or routines that they have.

It may be that you are the coolest person on the planet and everyone likes to hang out with you but what about when that person that is with you needs to be somewhere else or they are uncomfortable in their surrounding? You may find that the signs and signals of impatience show through and if they are not deal with your message may be lost.

 

 People can be impatient for many reasons but you will really find that there are really 2 reasons almost everything will fall under:

  • ·         They are not interested in what you have to say or offer because they are busy
  • ·         They have somewhere to be because they are busy and they are not interested in what you have to say or offer

 

As you watch and read the body signals of a person you can work with the top down approach and that is to start with the head and move down the rest of the body.

 

Impatience and the body language of the head, shoulders and torso

You may find that when anyone has somewhere to be they may not keep eye contact with you or may turn their head slightly while talking to you almost as if they are talking out the side of their mouth. The head of the person may even nod their head away from you as a nonverbal way to try and escape form the situation. Where you would normally find good eye contact with the person if you know them and now they will not hold it for very long chances are good that something else is going on and they would rather be somewhere else.

 

When you look at the trunk of the body, the shoulders or even the torso when there is impatience you may also see that there is a shift away from you to a door or someone else, their proximity to you may change. The level of the shoulders may change and tilt away from you or the man, woman or child will lean away from you. This may be a sign that the person you are with does not want to be with you or they need to be somewhere else.  

In some instances you may see the breathing pattern change and the person starts to take deep breaths.

 

Body language of the infamous hand roll

There has been a time where either you have done this or someone has done the action of rolling their hands or arms to you. This sign or signal is a way for the person to say without saying let’s get this ball rolling or move on. If you are a persuader or influencer your commitment to a message or a time has overstepped its bounds and chances are good you are about to lose the arrangement or agreement. This hand or arm roll may also be used with the head nodding as the impatience wears into the conversation. At first these signs may be subtle with a finger roll and may lead into full blown hand and arm rolls.   

 

A common set of body language signs of impatience paired together.

The changes in the body language may include groups or clusters of different actions along with the shifting of the body and or torso.

  • ·         Hand and arm rolls
  • ·         Glaring of the eyes
  • ·         Loss or lack of eye contact
  • ·         Micro expressions of contempt 
  • ·        Shaking of the head  
  •           Deep breaths and or sighs
  • ·         Foot tapping
  • ·         A body tilt toward the door
  • ·         A change in proximity
  • ·         Signs of pouting in the face
  • ·         Over animation in the arms and head
  • ·         Feet shifting away from you

There may also be some ever so subtle signs and signals that may even be considered convert could include the feet and hands of the person who is impatient. It may just be that the person who is impatient is slightly pointing their hand or starts to point a foot away from you.

 

Verbal actions coupled with nonverbal actions   

Impatience not only changes the nonverbal actions of the body but may also include the verbal attributes of another person wanting or having to be somewhere else. The pace of the words may speed up along with sentences that become shorter when impatience is present. Answers to questions may also become “yes” or “no” answers to get away faster.

Couple the all of the actions of the body along with the nonverbal actions and you spot when impatience has set in.

 

What to do with the signs of impatience

There will be times that you will read the signs of impatience and there is a right way to deal with the situation. You can use a phrase similar to “I sense you have somewhere else to be”. Now this can be done wrong if you are not patient and it isn’t vocalized the right way and if that is the case the nonverbal actions of the man or the woman will really change and they will react to you in a negative way.

 

Remember to be patient as you read the body language of others and that your reactions can cause more problems than what you started with.

 

Learning how to read body language can increase you effective communication skills.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading body language and or nonverbal communication.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Body language of a smile

Body language of a smile: It doesn’t matter where you go in the world there are a few things that are universal:

  • ·         Coca Cola
  • ·         Traffic
  • ·         Smiles

Now when it comes to other people you may not have the ability to speak their language but the universal sign and signal of approval is the smile. You know that whatever language you speak the smile is the gateway into others.

 

Body language of real smiles:

To learn about real smiles and how to understand them we will have to take a short trip to France. Its ok it will just take the time of this paragraph. You can thank a Dr. for Neurology as we know it today and that would be Guillaume-Benjamin-Amand Duchenne (1806 – 1875).

 

Dr. Duchenne is the father of neurology as we know it. When you see a real or genuine smile you can have some inside knowledge and know that the Duchenne smile was named after him.

 

There are a few traits when understanding the nonverbal communication of a smile and also to know if it is a real smile that you are reading:

  • ·         The corners of the lips will pull back
  • ·         The eyes will create crows feet wrinkles

 

When you read or interpret a real smile you will see the corners of the lips pull back towards the ears. When a man or women gives a genuine smile you will see crow’s feet or wrinkles at the corners of the eye. As age sets in on both men and women these crow’s feet become more pronounced.

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Body language of a fake smile:

When you are reading into the nonverbal signs of a smile you will want to look at the corners of the lips and or the cheeks. The cheeks may raise in the case of a fake smile depending on the man or the woman .

 

In some instances a fake or generated smile may look more like surprise than a smile.

Most people cannot successfully fake a “genuine” smile and that is great news for you because you know when you interpret a genuine smile there is high probability it is real. One could guess it is a natural defense mechanism built over time to defend real emotions.

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Body language and learning how to read it:

Reading the signs of a real smile is a great place to learn how to read body language. A great place to look into and increase your capabilities is to look at photos or videos of men, women and kids smiling in order to get your baseline of this nonverbal communication skill. You can go places where people would have real smiles and get a feel for what they look like and you could also just observe people at dinner where on a weekend night you can see just about every human emotion and or micro expression possible.

 

It is important for you to know what your body language is doing so why not video tape yourself so you can see for yourself what you are doing when you communicate with others. See if you can give a real or Duchenne smile when you don’t want to and then you can also see what it looks like when you fake this experience.

 

Reading body language home study

You can find out more here in order to learn the signs and signals of nonverbal communication.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of a real smile.

 

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Body language of contempt

 

Body language of contempt: When reading body language of the face there are 6 basic micro expressions that can be examined to understand and interpret the emotions of a man or woman that you are viewing.

 

While reading the body language of others it is telling to see where their emotional status is. One of the quickest and most effective ways of interpreting the emotions is to understand what the facial expressions mean.

 

Understanding what contempt is really helps as to understand what another person thinks of you. When a person has contempt for you their body language or nonverbal communication will show a half smile. Now this nonverbal cue may last less than a half second or last for a few seconds.

 

So what does the body language of contempt mean?

There are a few words associated with contempt:

  • ·         Disgust
  • ·         Disregard
  • ·         Anger
  • ·         Hatred
  • ·         Lack of respect

It is important to know when a man or woman shows the nonverbal actions of contempt because it will show you the beliefs that they have of you or whatever is going on at that moment.

 

It may be that it’s a

  • ·         New person to a group
  • ·         A business idea
  • ·         A problem with a relationship

 

Contempt signaled in any situation is not a good thing especially if you are in a relationship with the man or the women, if you are a figure of authority or if you are a salesperson this body language signal can let you know exactly where another person stands when they think of you or an idea.

 

There are good things about micro expressions and that is that they are very telling at the moment that they happen and they give away the position of the person who has the feeling and most times that person does not know that they are making the micro expression nor do most people have significant control over them.

 

The nonverbal signs and signals of contempt

Remember if a man or woman has contempt for you they will use a half smile on either side of their face. There are times where the person will look at you or they may even try to look away to hide the feelings and emotions that they have for you.

 

So which type is worse when they look at you with contempt or when they look away with contempt?

 

In any way contempt is shown the relationship has problems but a person who has a blatant disregard for you may give you more trouble because if they know what they are doing they are flaunting it in your face and may have more trouble in mind.

 

Contempt shown towards authority is dangerous because if the man or woman has this emotion they may think that they have nothing to lose. This micro expression is very telling and could save you from a dangerous situation or even a bad relationship.   

 

There are plenty of places to learn body language but this one is the best:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about body language and how to read the signs and signals of men or women.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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