body language of negotiation

Body language of negotiation: There are plenty of times where you can use body language or nonverbal communications to your advantage. Negotiating is something that people do on a dialy basis but may not even notice that they are doing it.

 

You may use the body language of negotiation with:

  • ·         Your co workers
  • ·         Your significant other
  • ·         Your kids
  • ·         The neighbor you don’t really like
  • ·         When buying a big ticket item

 

Body language of negotiation with coworkers

Using body language while negotiating may happen by the way that you stand. When you are face front to a man or woman there is a certain value to the direction that you face. You may have one of your feet pointing to the door as if you are saying I have somewhere else to be. This nonverbal action may just put the pressure on your coworker to answer you faster for something you want.

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Body language of negotiation with significant others

While dealing with your significant other you may bite your lip when they ask for “permission” to go somewhere with the friend you don’t like. The biting of the lip or smashing of the lips together may say my mouth is saying “yes” but my brain and my heart are telling me “no”. You may even see the deep breath being taken almost to say “here we go again” without saying it.

 

In some instances the body language of negotiation may be slamming a door or an item down when a question is asked. Anytime that body language is used to relay a message it may be used as a negotiation ploy.

 

Body language of negotiation with kids

So your kid cut their arm and you don’t want them to panic so you use your body language to get them to not freak out. You may disguise your true feelings with a smile it may not be a true smile but you may act like its no big deal. You may have a difficult kid to deal with and you find that it is easier to make a request of them where you are almost talking through the house away from them, you are using your body language where it cant be seen and where theirs cant be seen so there is no reaction. Believe it or not you use negotiation and body language more than you would guess.

 

Body language of negotiation with the neighbor

You may have to deal with a difficult neighbor and you decide to take them a plate of cookies so that your hands are full so that you don’t use an offensive nonverbal hand gesture. You may even have the talkative neighbor so you decide to negotiate your time by having the conversation far away so they it is understood that you have things to do but it isn’t with them.

 

Body language of negotiation with salespeople

Now there are not many times where people feel like they have to negotiate but it is something that is done every day. The nonverbal communication while making sales is no different, you will use your body language in a way that you may not even know you are doing it. Remember that a salesperson who has been out in the field for a while will know what you are up to. So you wait for the “glance” or the facial expression” from your significant other just when the “closing question” is asked and you know who can be the bad guy and say “you have to think about it”.

 

The salesperson may use a lack of body language when you ask for a discount.

 

You may rub your face and breath a deep sigh when he or she counters.

 

The salesperson may just shake their head “yes” or “no” when you ask for a discount.

 

You may even get the end of the negotiation sign with body language and that is the handshake to signify that the dealing is over and you are both satisfied with the offer.

 

Body language of negotiation everyday    

You may have just found that you use body language of negotiation more than you thought of. You may even have found that you negotiate more than what you thought. Keep your eyes open today or tomorrow to how often that you use nonverbal actions to negotiate for something.

 

Body language of negotiation requires learning nonverbal communication

You could spend time and energy trying to find the best place to learn nonverbal communication or body language and not get the right product. The search is over learn how to read the body language signs and signals you have been looking for like the body language of a liar. Its all right here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of negotiation.

 

Now go implement!

 

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

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Offensive body language

Offensive body language: Offensive body language doesn’t just come from your hands; while others are reading your body language they may become offended from different parts of your body.

 

Reading body language of offensive gestures

Your hands are used so much to communicate no matter what part of the world you are from.

 

Now in some spots of the world some symbols have different meanings than other parts of the world. So you want to say that everything is ok in the United States and think it’s a safe sign to pass off you may find that others who are reading your body language may be offended.

 

You decide that you want to give the thumbs up and think it’s a harmless action…

 

Once again as your nonverbal communication with your hands may confuse others who are reading your body language may get the sense you are being rude.

 

So you decide that you want to point at others, well that may not be considered rude all of the time or from many countries but it does lessen the effectiveness of your ability to persuade the person that you are pointing at.

 

Waiving a fist at a person can get you into a fight or altercation that can get out of hand so the waive of a fist for some may show power and for others it shows aggression.

 

This should not have to be mentioned but in the United States and other countries waiving a middle finger at a person or group is a giant step above the fist waiving and can be seen as a huge insult.  

 

It is important to pay attention to the people that you are with or around when using body language that may offend others.  

 

Reading body language of offensive feet signals

Your feet are the closest body part to the ground in most instances and to point at a person with your feet shows the person who is receiving the point may find that you have no value for them.

 

You walk on dirt with your feet

 

You step on less desirable items with your feet

 

So it would make sense that some people would find your body language offensive?

 

Reading body language of offensive touch

Now there are some social boundaries that seem like they should just make sense but there are some out there that just don’t get the social cues or they just do not care. Touching others in inappropriate places can get you in trouble. If you are reading the body language of others while watching interactions going on you may see some interesting facial expressions or reactions.

 

Touching others can be easy to remember so that you do not offend others. If you are a man and you are going to touch a woman the best and most appropriate place would be the back of the arm from the shoulder to the elbow, not the back, not the chest or the buttocks the arm. In some instances you can get away with the top of the hand.

 

Now for women who are touching men the rules may just as well get thrown out the window. If the touch is flattering to the man he will not care of believe the body language or touch is offensive. The same rules somewhat apply though even though with men the rule are more loose than with the women. The arm or the hand will work but not the leg, chest or stomach.

 

It is tough enough in some industries for women to be taken seriously because of their gender and if they buy into the flirting it may just hurt their real capabilities.

 

Reading body language of offensive proximity

There are some people who just don’t care how close you stand to them or if you touch them and then there is the rest of the world. Some men or women may find that your proximity to them may cause problems. A good rule of thumb is to stand at least 18 – 24 inches (40 cm) from people who you are not close with and sometimes more distance helps but not too much. If you are too far away from the man or woman they may find your body language not just offensive but strange.

 

Keeping the distance of the “bell bubble” will help others from reading your body language as offensive and combine the distance with offensive touch and you will stay away from dangers of getting too close for comfort.

 

Reading body language of offensive looks

Reading the “stink eye” or dirty looks causes people to be uncomfortable with the body language being presented. The “stink eye” may not always be on purpose. This facial featured look may just be a reaction on the part of the man or the women who is making the face. The “stink eye” can be more of a stare than anything else.

 

In some instances people will stick out their tongues or stick their fingers in their mouths when dealing with children as a way to have fun or scare children but when this action is done to an adult it may mean that there is no mutual respect or an anger or frustration involved.

One of the items that would go on the list of offensive looks would to be not to look at the person who is talking.  By looking at the person who is talking to you it shows a level of respect. If you were to turn your back on a person as they talk to you it shows a lack of respect and create altercations, anger and sometimes physical interactions.

 

Having good eye contact will keep you out of trouble with not giving enough attention to a message.

 

A yawn may be an offensive action when done with noise and excessive action. It is possible to yawn without noise or the body language that can be read as being bored. Done as silently as possible with a slight hand cover will keep your body language from being read as offensive.

 

Reading body language of offensive sitting

How you sit while talking to another may be seen as offensive. Without sitting straight up the man or woman may not think that you take their message seriously. If you are sitting in a slouched position while they are talking or presenting you may be showing body language that you are bored. The same goes with having a fist or hand under your chin.

 

Crossing your legs can cause some harm if done too often to draw attention to your actions. If you are a female wearing a skirt this action may be seen as a way to create undue attention. Some may find this body language flattering or a form of seduction so be careful even if done on accident.

 

Rocking back and forth can also cause some attention that is unneeded and can be seen as a distraction or rude to someone who is speaking or presenting.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you understand the signs and signals of what to do in public or what can be seen as offensive.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading offensive body language.

 

Now go implement!  

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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