Reading body language of rolled sleeves: You can learn a lot about others by looking at their nonverbal communication and the way that they wear their clothes.
When people roll their sleeves there are 3 main reasons:
1.The person is working with current trends
2.The person doesn’t want to get their clothes dirty
3.The person wants to appear to others that he or she is “working hard”
Body language of rolling sleeves for trend
One of the current trends for men is to roll their sleeves of “flip” them up. In some instances the shirts will have a design on the inside sleeve because it was not meant to be left buttoned. When this is done for trend it more of a matter of fitting in so that there is not negative attention. There is some social value to appear like others. While reading the body language of a man rolling his sleeves for trend you could assume it is somewhat for the fitting in but also to get some attention.
An offshoot of the trend may be to show a bracelet or a watch to gain some attention through their nonverbal communication. Some people who wear expensive watches may do so just to see if others are paying attention to the social status of the jewelry. In a case like this the body language used may be more exaggerated with the arms.
Body language of rolling the sleeves for work
While reading the body language of someone working and rolling their sleeves the man or woman isn’t really doing the rolling to fit within a persona or to get attention they are doing so to get some work done. Their nonverbal communication may show them as being serious or working hard on a project or service. You may see the person not making much contact with others or you could see the man or the women lifting, cleaning or even moving products. This person who is working may give off the feeling through their body language that they are in a hurry or that they are willing to take time with whatever they are working on.
Body language of rolling sleeves to appear as hard work is being done
For some people who roll their sleeves they want to appear like they are working harder than what they really are by using their nonverbal communication to express this idea. Many times you will see politicians who while working in town halls do so to give the appearance of being just like everyone there who is hard working or that more work is being done that what is really going on.
Now there are some politicians or people who really are working hard but for the most part they have been “coached” by a body language or persuasion expert to help build a persona that identifies with a person or a group.
Whatever the reason a man or woman rolls their sleeves you can read from their body language and interpret the situation to help understand the best way to identify what message that they are trying or are delivering.
Learn how to read the body language of men and women
Reading body language: When reading the body language of deception or lies there is a long list of items to look at to determine if a man or woman is lying.
There is one universal body part to look at while determining if nonverbal communication is accurate.
While reading the body language of a man or woman it is important to get a feel for their normal activities or body language signs that are normal for them. When you have taken the time to learn people body language signals that they use when they are being inaccurate it will almost seem that you can read minds or that you are clairvoyant.
Take for instance a person who is nervous when they are under pressure they will have certain things that they do constantly. It could be that they:
·Rub their hands
·Sweat when nervous
·Dressed different than what they are comfortable in
·Shift more than normal
·Licking their lips
·Playing with their hair
·Touching their face
·Abnormal movement in their chair or seat
·Lack of eye contact or over excessive eye contact
·Breath differently taking deep breathes or even staggered breaths
·Tap their feet on the ground or their hands on a table
·Directing the feet towards an exit
Now everyone has a go to body language or non verbal “tell” when they are nervous and it is important to identify it when possible. This idea has been mentioned quite a few times in order to remind you that under any given circumstance people will react in a specific way. This nonverbal “tell” may even include a facial expression or a signature movement with the hands or even a nod. The problem is that many times “tells” of nervousness can be the same tells that a person uses when they are lying.
How to tell if a man or woman is lying!
So what happens if you meet a person for the first time and you don’t have a lot of time to determine if they are telling you the truth? There are a few things that will help determine if what they are saying is as accurate as their body language.
One way is that their story may be too good to be true or over told to make up what they think would be a deficiency in their own story. In this example the story may seem like it is pushed through and either overly detailed in areas that you would not normally ask about or seem like the story is too fast and there are too many holes that do not make sense. You would be able to look for abnormal actions like touching the face or even using the lobster claw of deception.
One way that commonly gets confused when it comes to reading body language especially when it comes to lying is that of the direction and orientation of the eyes.
NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming teaches that by looking at the location of the iris of the eye can determine the modality of learning for a person meaning are they:
·Visual or a person who learns from sight and sees what is going on.
·Kinesthetic or a person that learns and is comfortable with touch or feels their way through things.
·Auditory or a person who learns from hearing what needs to be done and listens intently.
Now there is an age old fairy tale that explains that when people look up and to the left there is fabricating going on or there may be a lie going on. In NLP this would signify visual construction (Vc) and if the person looked up and to the right this would signify visual remembered (Vr). The reason that this is thought of as a big deal is because in this theory visual construction means making up a story, fabrication or changing the story or even flat out lying.
NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming is not always right when it comes to any of their teachings but it does construct good guidelines for the way that things can be. When it comes to body language or non verbal communication there is not any rule that is 100% usable every time.
This theory of visual reconstruction would be great except that it is wrong and has been proven through a few studies done including one performed by Dr. Kevin Hogan. Police use this in interrogations, the military uses this style of lie detecting while interpreting stories about actions people have taken.
In some instances when men or women are lying they will not look at you while they are talking, now this may not mean that there is a lie directly going on but there is definitely something wrong with whatever they are talking about. This would also go with direct eye contact or looking someone in the eye. Now if a person has too much eye contact with you it is uncomfortable but if they do not make enough or if they break away too long at the wrong time it may be that there is a lie involved.
A good skilled liar knows this and may make the correct amount of eye contact and not really give off any signs of a lie. Most of the time when this situation happens you are dealing with a great manipulator and this type of person is great at guilting you into thinking that all of the problems and or issues are your fault. This is usually their giveaway more than
their body language and it is a verbal sign.
Places to use body language signs or signals
Now where else could you use this information? There are plenty of places:
1.A Job interview
2.Dating or seduction
3.Determining if a boyfriend or girlfriend is lying about where they were last night
Now what happens if you jump to conclusions too soon while reading the body language of males or females? You lose contracts, relationships, friends and you can even make some enemies. Understanding or interpreting body language and non verbal communication means you must be able to separate fact from fiction when it comes to knowing what is real and can help you or what is sometimes correct.
People have a tough enough time believing information and adding in the layer of detecting lies through nonverbal communication and half-truths makes this task even more difficult.
What is body language? That answer will be up to you and what you think the other person communication is and how they fill in the voids of what you thinks as the viewer.
It is entirely possible for you to read a situation the wrong way and your reaction as it has been explained previously is what will cause a reaction in the other person. You must take the time to baseline people and understand their actions and why they perform them unless you are in a situation where you have to make a split second decision then go the direction where it keeps you the safest.
One of the biggest mistakes that can be made is believing that one “tell” of a body language sign or signal is a definite. One of these items is the blinking rate of a person or touching the face means that there is a definite lie. In either instance when a person uses these “tells” this is an area where something just inst quite right but does not mean that there is a definite lie. Making the mistake of saying there is an absolute tell of lying would be inaccurate. These examples could be used for politicians all the way to salespeople.
The key is to take you time to understand what peoples actions mean nonverbally.
As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.
Now go implement!
Scott Sylvan Bell
Photo credits: Man by Salvatore Vuono, Woman On The Phone by Stuart Miles