Reading body language of rolled sleeves

Reading body language of rolled sleeves: You can learn a lot about others by looking at their nonverbal communication and the way that they wear their clothes.

 

When people roll their sleeves there are 3 main reasons:

  1. 1.      The person is working with current trends
  2. 2.      The person doesn’t want to get their clothes dirty
  3. 3.      The person wants to appear to others that he or she is “working hard”

 

Body language  of rolling sleeves for trend

One of the current trends for men is to roll their sleeves of “flip” them up. In some instances the shirts will have a design on the inside sleeve because it was not meant to be left buttoned. When this is done for trend it more of a matter of fitting in so that there is not negative attention. There is some social value to appear like others.  While reading the body language of a man rolling his sleeves for trend you could assume it is somewhat for the fitting in but also to get some attention.

 

An offshoot of the trend may be to show a bracelet or a watch to gain some attention through their nonverbal communication. Some people who wear expensive watches may do so just to see if others are paying attention to the social status of the jewelry. In a case like this the body language used may be more exaggerated with the arms.  

 

Body language of rolling the sleeves for work

While reading the body language of someone working and rolling their sleeves the man or woman isn’t really doing the rolling to fit within a persona or to get attention they are doing so to get some work done. Their nonverbal communication may show them as being serious or working hard on a project or service. You may see the person not making much contact with others or you could see the man or the women lifting, cleaning or even moving products. This person who is working may give off the feeling through their body language that they are in a hurry or that they are willing to take time with whatever they are working on.

 

Body language of rolling sleeves to appear as hard work is being done

For some people who roll their sleeves they want to appear like they are working harder than what they really are by using their nonverbal communication to express this idea. Many times you will see politicians who while working in town halls do so to give the appearance of being just like everyone there who is hard working or that more work is being done that what is really going on.

 

Now there are some politicians or people who really are working hard but for the most part they have been “coached” by a body language or persuasion expert to help build a persona that identifies with a person or a group.

 

Whatever the reason a man or woman rolls their sleeves you can read from their body language and interpret the situation to help understand the best way to identify what message that they are trying or are delivering.

 

Learn how to read the body language of men and women

Learning how to read and interpret body language or non verbal communication can help you understand the unintentional messages of men or women and can be learned here.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of rolled sleeves.

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Now go implement!

 

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Reading body language of heaphones

Reading body language of headphones: With all of the technological advances that we have today one of the most common items that people carry is a smart phone. Now with a phone there are many things that people can do whether checking emails, looking something up on their browser but along with those two features people listen to music on their head phones.

 

It may even be that the man or the woman whose body language you are reading is just using an mp3 player and not their phone.

 

Reading the body language of headphones will help you understand if the person is just listening to music, avoiding talking to people or trying to talk to people or draw attention by their actions.

 

There are so many items that a person could be listening to while you read their body language and it could be that they are listening to:

•           Music

•           Training information like sales or negotiating

•           A prerecorded conference call

•           Not even listening to anything at all so people will ignore them but will speak when wanted to.

 

Reading body language of avoidance with headphones

When a person is listening to music and wanting to get away from others you will notice that they will make weak or no eye contact. Along with the weak eye contact if walking they will take a path to avoid people also.

 

The person who is using the nonverbal communication of avoidance may walk at a fast pace to get past others.

 

It is even common place to see people wearing their headphones and while working to avoid others the headphones may keep mall kiosk people from asking questions or interacting. The avoidance is common for men or women at the gym, while at work and even sometimes at play.  

 

Reading body language of interaction with headphones

On the other hand you may have a person who is wearing their headphones but also interacting with other people. You will notice that they make eye contact with others and that they may smile to people as they go by. This would be a clue that the person with the headphones on is willing to interact.

 

The person who is willing to interact with others may show the signs with their body language by having one cup off their ear or they may have a bud from the smaller headphones out of an ear. This man or woman may take the cup off or the bud out just in time to interact with another person.

 

Reading body language of headphones getting attention

Now if the person who is wearing the headphones is trying to attract attention they will associate much more moving physically to get people to notice them. They may bang their head they may dance along with the song or they may just move their arms. Verbally they may sing to get the attention of others. The man or the woman with their headphones on may even try to get others to dance with them.

 

In all there are many themes you can pick up from reading and interpreting the nonverbal communication of others while wearing head phones but the best way to learn how to read oterhs is here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language or non verbal communication of others.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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body language of winking

Body language of winking: Sometimes you get it when people look at you, that’s right someone gives you a wink but you don’t quite know if they are having fun and in some instances you don’t know if they are flirting with you.

 

So what exactly is the body language of a wink?

  •          It could be that the man or woman is just having fun
  •          It could be that the man or woman is emphasizing a point
  •          It could be that the man or woman is flirting with you
  •          It could even be that the man or woman is blinking and you may be misreading the situation

 

Body language of winking and fun

Reading the body language of a wink means that you have to understand or be able to interpret the signs and signals of nonverbal communication. In some instances men or woman will wink to just have fun. Some older men just like to wink and they get into the habit of it and sometimes this can be taken as flirting but it is all in fun. Sometimes you will see adults wink at kids as a gesture of fun.

 

Body language of winking and emphasizing a point

The wink or the winking can be used at the end of a joke or at the end of some retort. In some instances a wink may be used as a negotiation ploy to get the other side fired up or to prove a point as to what is going on. In some places the wink is used as a way to say for you to understand “I see you and don’t think I don’t see what is going on” in an instance like that it isn’t hard to interpret the message. The facial expression will be easy to interpret as a sign of danger from the stare afterward.

 

Body language of winking and flirting

In the case of flirting the wink may happen across a room or right next to you. You may see the body language of the wink and you may know that the man or the woman is flirting with you. In the case of not knowing if you would like to know for sure you would want to look at his or her eye contact. Is there or was there eye contact before or after the wink. Is his or her body directed towards you? If she is winking at you is she preening her hair or clothes? These are all signs that the nonverbal communication of the wink was a sign of flirting.  In the case of flirting there will be some facial expressions that will be read. It may be a slight smile or smirk along with the wink or it may even be a flash of the eyebrows.

 

Body language of winking and not understanding nonverbal communication

Sometimes you can just read body language wrong or even read more into a situation than what is really happening. In some instances you may think that a man or woman is winking at you and they really have something in their eye. It may even be that the man or woman is not flirting with you and at your angle it looks like they are winking at you. In any even a wink has more meanings that could be understood than just flirting. It may even be that the man or woman is nervous.

 

It is important for you to take the time to understand your social situation as to why a man or woman may be winking at you and interpret them correctly. Are they doing so in fun, to make or emphasize a point , is he or she flirting or are you misreading the situation?

Body langauge of winking and how to read like an expert

Learning how to read body language like an expert requires you to learn from one and that can be done here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading the body language of winking.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

:Video credit for Reading body language of winking by Body language expert Scott Sylvan Bell

Body language mistakes

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Body language mistakes: Now there are so many things that you can do right when using body language to be more persuasive. You don’t have to be an expert to know about body language that can offend others.

 

Now think for just a second about when you get to see a hidden message that others have not. It may happen on television or it can be something that you catch out of the corner of your eye. Now what if you were the one who made the body language mistake?

 

Body language mistakes in a covert manner

It is possible to have some covert messages or even embedded commands build into body language or non verbal communication. Now some of these messages are so strong that the “non verbal” element really doesn’t matter and the message really isn’t covert anymore.  

 

Salespeople make the body language mistake of letting their minds go on autopilot and allow their facial expressions and or hand gestures to display what they are thinking without thinking. The response that may happen is not always the best. In this instance the potential client does not have to be the best at reading people he or she is not engaged anymore and the chances of business happening are slim to none when these covert body language messages are caught.

 

The first thing for you to know if you live your life in a profession that requires your ability to persuade others is that your body language mistakes can be caught and beat. It is best for you to know about body language or nonverbal communication to help you understand the signs and signals that may allow others to interpret your message incorrectly.

 

Body language mistake of fingers

In the western culture it is common to point with your index finger, the digit closest to your thumb. Its not nice to point and this hand gesture can get you in trouble when done wrong because it can trigger the “rejection mechanism” in the mind of the person being pointed at.

 

There are some people who point with their middle finger …

 

And those people create problems for themselves with the covert body language mistake. Their message may not have a negative non verbal element but when the person gets caught by the brain with the hidden or covert body language message it is tough to recover because who is going to confront a person about being “flipped off” as its called here in the United states or even “flipping the bird”

 

What is body language? Very destructive when perceived wrong is the answer..

 

Its best to not point with anything but your index finger when need and if at all possible it is best to use a pen when available or an open palm. You don’t have to be an expert at reading people to know when the middle finger is used to convey a thought or message.

 

Learn how to read people like an expert with this course on body language

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about common body language mistakes.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Offensive body language

Offensive body language: Offensive body language doesn’t just come from your hands; while others are reading your body language they may become offended from different parts of your body.

 

Reading body language of offensive gestures

Your hands are used so much to communicate no matter what part of the world you are from.

 

Now in some spots of the world some symbols have different meanings than other parts of the world. So you want to say that everything is ok in the United States and think it’s a safe sign to pass off you may find that others who are reading your body language may be offended.

 

You decide that you want to give the thumbs up and think it’s a harmless action…

 

Once again as your nonverbal communication with your hands may confuse others who are reading your body language may get the sense you are being rude.

 

So you decide that you want to point at others, well that may not be considered rude all of the time or from many countries but it does lessen the effectiveness of your ability to persuade the person that you are pointing at.

 

Waiving a fist at a person can get you into a fight or altercation that can get out of hand so the waive of a fist for some may show power and for others it shows aggression.

 

This should not have to be mentioned but in the United States and other countries waiving a middle finger at a person or group is a giant step above the fist waiving and can be seen as a huge insult.  

 

It is important to pay attention to the people that you are with or around when using body language that may offend others.  

 

Reading body language of offensive feet signals

Your feet are the closest body part to the ground in most instances and to point at a person with your feet shows the person who is receiving the point may find that you have no value for them.

 

You walk on dirt with your feet

 

You step on less desirable items with your feet

 

So it would make sense that some people would find your body language offensive?

 

Reading body language of offensive touch

Now there are some social boundaries that seem like they should just make sense but there are some out there that just don’t get the social cues or they just do not care. Touching others in inappropriate places can get you in trouble. If you are reading the body language of others while watching interactions going on you may see some interesting facial expressions or reactions.

 

Touching others can be easy to remember so that you do not offend others. If you are a man and you are going to touch a woman the best and most appropriate place would be the back of the arm from the shoulder to the elbow, not the back, not the chest or the buttocks the arm. In some instances you can get away with the top of the hand.

 

Now for women who are touching men the rules may just as well get thrown out the window. If the touch is flattering to the man he will not care of believe the body language or touch is offensive. The same rules somewhat apply though even though with men the rule are more loose than with the women. The arm or the hand will work but not the leg, chest or stomach.

 

It is tough enough in some industries for women to be taken seriously because of their gender and if they buy into the flirting it may just hurt their real capabilities.

 

Reading body language of offensive proximity

There are some people who just don’t care how close you stand to them or if you touch them and then there is the rest of the world. Some men or women may find that your proximity to them may cause problems. A good rule of thumb is to stand at least 18 – 24 inches (40 cm) from people who you are not close with and sometimes more distance helps but not too much. If you are too far away from the man or woman they may find your body language not just offensive but strange.

 

Keeping the distance of the “bell bubble” will help others from reading your body language as offensive and combine the distance with offensive touch and you will stay away from dangers of getting too close for comfort.

 

Reading body language of offensive looks

Reading the “stink eye” or dirty looks causes people to be uncomfortable with the body language being presented. The “stink eye” may not always be on purpose. This facial featured look may just be a reaction on the part of the man or the women who is making the face. The “stink eye” can be more of a stare than anything else.

 

In some instances people will stick out their tongues or stick their fingers in their mouths when dealing with children as a way to have fun or scare children but when this action is done to an adult it may mean that there is no mutual respect or an anger or frustration involved.

One of the items that would go on the list of offensive looks would to be not to look at the person who is talking.  By looking at the person who is talking to you it shows a level of respect. If you were to turn your back on a person as they talk to you it shows a lack of respect and create altercations, anger and sometimes physical interactions.

 

Having good eye contact will keep you out of trouble with not giving enough attention to a message.

 

A yawn may be an offensive action when done with noise and excessive action. It is possible to yawn without noise or the body language that can be read as being bored. Done as silently as possible with a slight hand cover will keep your body language from being read as offensive.

 

Reading body language of offensive sitting

How you sit while talking to another may be seen as offensive. Without sitting straight up the man or woman may not think that you take their message seriously. If you are sitting in a slouched position while they are talking or presenting you may be showing body language that you are bored. The same goes with having a fist or hand under your chin.

 

Crossing your legs can cause some harm if done too often to draw attention to your actions. If you are a female wearing a skirt this action may be seen as a way to create undue attention. Some may find this body language flattering or a form of seduction so be careful even if done on accident.

 

Rocking back and forth can also cause some attention that is unneeded and can be seen as a distraction or rude to someone who is speaking or presenting.

 

Learning how to read body language can help you understand the signs and signals of what to do in public or what can be seen as offensive.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about reading offensive body language.

 

Now go implement!  

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of nervousness

Reading body language: Most people have fears of appearing nervous in so many situations. Sometimes this fear is warranted and sometimes it is not.

 

Many times people will ask “what can I do so that I do not appear nervous when others read my body language”?

 

There could be millions of reasons that you could be nervous some of these reasons could be seen from others as being legitimate and in some instances the reasons for your nervousness may seem silly to others.

  • ·         About to ask a woman for her phone number
  • ·         Go in for a job interview
  • ·         Get pulled over by a police officer

 

What would have to be identified first would be what is making you look nervous when it comes to others reading your body language?

 

reading body language while a woman is nervous
Reading body language signs of a nervous woman

 

The items in your body language that are making you look nervous are:

  • ·         Touching your face
  • ·         Rapid breathing
  • ·         Shifty behavior or actions that show fidgeting  
  • ·         Rubbing your neck
  • ·         Rubbing your hands
  • ·         Tapping your fingers
  • ·         Shaking of body parts like legs or arms
  • ·         Rigid body movement
  • ·         Frozen actions or an inability to move
  • ·         Flush complexion
  • ·         Locking your ankles
  • ·         Holding on tightly to chair arms or other objects
  • ·         Verbal actions would include stuttering or talking fast

 

When it comes to being nervous and the body language that you portray other people may be flattered or on the other end of the spectrum concerned that you have this issue. In instances of dating so men or women would consider this as a good thing while some man or women would say that nervousness shows a lack of confidence.

 

For a job interview it may not be a good thing that the person who is hiring you sees you as being nervous. If it is your first time sitting in front of a hiring manager and you are 16 years old it may be expected. If you are 5 years past college graduation you may be losing out on what is thought of you.

 

Reading your body language of nervousness

When people are put under pressure their positive and negative traits appear. It is good for you to know what your nervous traits are so that you can adopt your body language so that you are not seen or read as being nervous by others. One way to do this is by putting yourself in a situation where you can be videotaped. You would want to look for any of the signs of nervousness listed previous and make note of what actions that you make.

 

Many people will not chose to do simple actions because they are afraid of what they will see, You will look silly on video and that is ok and to be expected when working on your own body language.

 

Reading body language signals of nervousness
Reading body language to see if a man is nervous

 

To work on your body language so that you do not appear nervous the first thing that you will have to do is to get your body to relax.

  • ·         Breathe slower and put your arms by your side or on your lap.
  • ·         Avoid folding your hands or fidgeting.
  • ·         Remember to not touch your face.
  • ·         In some instances you will see people lock their ankles in front of themselves or under their chair. Think about how people are in a dentist’s chair to visualize the locking of ankles or the death grip on the chair arms. If you are a man sit in a way where your feet are on the floor. For a woman crossing your legs may be expected if you are siting.

 

Wherever you are or whatever you are doing be patient and slow down and you will be perceived as being less nervous with your body language and those who are reading it.

 

There are plenty of things that you can do to learn how to read body language like an expert, this is a course you can take to understand and read others like a book

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of nervousness.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Reading body language of flirting men and women part 1

Reading body language: Flirting has to be one of the most mysterious items when it comes to people wanting to know how to read body language.

 

Understanding and interpreting what others mean when they flirt almost seems like a secret passed down between secret societies.

 

Flirting is something that you do with your body language to see if another person is interests in you. Sometimes this flirting can be done to get just a little attention or it can be done to find a date with a man or a women or it can even be done on the path to a soul mate.

 

Knowing what each part of the body can do to help you flirt gives you an advantage, it can also clue you in why you keep meeting interesting people and they think that you are into them.

 

Flirting women and their body language
Reading body language of flirting women for dating

Reading the body language men or women flirting or even learning how to flirt with a man or woman can be fun and find you some new friends.

 

Learning and understanding these nonverbal cues will tune you in to all the times where someone has flirted with you and you were oblivious to the body language that the person was using to flirt with you.

 

To learn how to flirt it may take a visit to some information learned from pick up artists (PUA). One of the first rules taught to men who want to learn how to pick women up is the “Three second rule” this rules states that the woman, man or “target” should either be approached or flirted with within 3 seconds of finding interest in the person so that you do not build up internal resistance.

 

The body language of flirting can follow these rules but you don’t have to. Flirting can be done on your own time but understand that if you decide to take too long with setting the “hook” on some sort of attraction the man or woman that you are interested in may not ever get your nonverbal messages.

 

To learn how to flirt you must first learn what tools that you have on your body first, they are from the top:

  • Your head
  • Your eyebrows
  • Your eyes
  • Your mouth
  • Your body
  • Your hands

 

Now this may seem like it could just be your whole body to make flirting happen and that can be the case also.

 

Using your head to flirt

When you flirt with a man or a woman your head is used as a way to show interest in the other person. Sometimes with your body language you will decide to tilt you head towards the person or “target” you are interested in and when you are done playing with your “target” you may decide to pull away.

 

The tilting of your head towards a person or a way from a person can show interest and begin to flirt. This is the first part of the equation of flirting and not meant to be the whole series of actions but to start at the top of the body is the best place.

 

If you learn how to tilt your heard correctly during conversations this skill can be used for far more than flirting it can be used for persuasive sales skills. This is just one of the parts for one of the first steps. You must build a foundation to correctly convey the body language of flirting.

 

Reading body language of flirting women
Reading body language can teach you flirting by women

While talking with another person the tilting of the head slightly to forwards, backwards to the left or to the right can convey interest in the subject or the person almost as if you are asking the other person to tell you more by pulling your ear away from them slightly and the opposite would to be to tilt your head towards the person as to show you do not believe what they are saying.  This skill must be practiced flirt before you try to flirt if you do not know what you are doing. Use the flirting exercise below.

 

Flirting exercise

Now you can test this while talking to another person by slightly leaning your head into the conversation to see the reaction of the other person and then you will want to do the opposite and lean your head out of conversations lightly. A word of warning when overdone the other person will think that you are strange so you must be careful with how far you lean your head towards or away from a person and how often you do this. Slight tilt is the key for this nonverbal strategy to work.

 

On of the best places to practice the body language of flirting is at a place far from your home where you know that you will not run into people you will ever see again that way there is no real risk if someone thinks you are strange but if you find someone who is interested the sky is the limit for you.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about the body language of flirting.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo credits:Gossiping by Ambro, Smiling Woman by David Castillo Dominici

Reading body language: Lobster claw of deception

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Reading body language: Learning how to read or interpret body language can lead you to many different views of what other people are not just saying with their words but also their non verbal communication.

 

Many times when people say that they want to learn how to understand body language it is because someone that they are involved with may be a liar, cheater or thief. In most instances people leak their deceptive moves and they do not even know it. In some instances the deception can include facial expressions or hand movements.

 

Being able to detect when a person is lying or deceiving you takes some time to learn but there are a few items to watch:

  • ·         The eyes
  • ·         The lips
  • ·         The hands
  • ·         The feet

 

Any combination of these body parts can help determine if someone is lying or being deceptive.

 

One major sign that is obvious compared to some of the other leaks that people have is as normal in front of a crowd as it is in person and that is the Lobster claw of deception.

 

The name comes from what people will do with their hand just before they fabricate a story or completely lie about an event.

 

Fabrication occurs when a person takes someone else’s story and embellishes it as their own story. Deception or lying is just what it says a lie.

 

People will have a “tell” or a “leak” that they cant stop once they have made the lie or have deceived others. In some instances the non-verbal action that the liar uses it causes them to try even harder to cover up what they just acted upon.

 

There is a normal pull for people to touch their face or get their hands near their face once they tell the lie or start with the deception.

 

With the lobster claw of deception people have a pull to their face in a specific way for a brief second in time. In order to tell of the person is lying it is a good idea to watch for a while first to determine the tell or get a feel or baseline of their “actions”. When something is out of the norm then that may or may not mean that the person that you are watching is lying.

 

There are many things that can go wrong when reading body language that is why it is a good idea to not make snap judgments about what is being done because you may be wrong and react in a way that can cause more problems than good.

 

While learning how to read body language it is a good idea to take your time and learn how to decipher what is actually going on. If you treat learning nonverbal communication like a course to learn in school it makes it easier. It is always better to learn in small chunks vs trying to learn everything in one day.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language: Sunglasses can be nonverbal problems

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Reading body language: Communicating with others correctly takes practice, patience and discipline but after all of the body language or non verbal training you will be far better off than most people out there.

 

There are those times where after you know you did something wrong you wish you were able to kick yourself…

 

There are also those times where you wish a friend would have told you there was:

  •           Food in your teeth
  •          Your zipper was down
  •          And any other embarrassing mistake you could make and feel silly

 

If you were to have to communicate effectively and not screw it up what would you put on the list of things to do wrong?

  1.       Point at others
  2.       Talk outside of the Bell Bubble
  3.       Wear sunglasses while talking to others in general especially while doing business transactions or while meeting someone new.

 

If you wear sunglasses and are talking to someone they cannot see your eyes or the complete style of your facial expressions. Now for some reason when people can’t see your eyes they start thinking about everything you say and do in critical terms. They may interpret your communication as lies even if they do not understand body language formally.

 

Many people may get a shot back to their past when maybe an adult or parent said “Look at me while I talk to you” or “if you can’t look me in the eye I can’t trust you”. There is a huge amount of trust associated with looking someone in the eye. There is plenty of deceit built up when wearing sunglasses while holding a conversation with another person.

 

There are plenty of things that can be done wrong with glasses including wearing them on your forehead while trying to sell something. This just looks ridiculous and in no way should this be done unless it is Halloween and you are mocking a not too smart salesperson.

 

Now some people do have issues with the sunlight and really have a reason to want to wear sunglasses in a case like that it may be better to see if you can use some persuasive skills to get your meeting moved to somewhere that you can see better. In a case like this you would want to use prescription glasses that auto tint or move indoors.

 

There are also times where you are meeting with friends or people that you already know where this advice would not apply. This issue does not really develop unless you are talking about something serious. Now if you are all out in the sun or at the beach then disregard not wearing sunglasses.

 

Persuading people whether in a sales process or asking a girl out means that you must do your absolute best to not make any mistakes in any of the communication process and that means people should see your eyes. Make your nonverbal communication count every time.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Video courtesy of Scott and the North Shore of Oahu – Mahalo

Reading body language: How to interpret proximity

Reading body language:
When learning how to read body language or interpret non-verbal communications
there are a few concepts to build on and learn.

 

One of the first concepts to learn after social value or how
your message is viewed and judged by others would be the concept of proximity.

 

When evaluating the context of a situation and working on
understanding body language through pictures or judging a live situation
knowing how close people are can determine much of what is going on.

Understanding body langauge and proximity
interpreting body language of men and women

 

The distance that people are from each other is defined as
proximity. Whether you are reading male or female body language it is important
to understand what distances between people will change the meaning or context
of the situation. Even if you are working on deciphering what business people
are doing in relation to proximity the same rule apply.

 

There are certain distances for people where you are:

  • Intimate as in a relationship or even a really
    good friend
  • A close friend
  • A relative
  • A friend
  • A just introduced
  • Unknown or an enemy

 

The normal area to be considered intimate for a friend or a
relationship would be within 18 inches, a friend would be from the 18 inch range
to 36 inches and an unknown situation may be from 36 inches and beyond.

 

When reading or understanding body language you will need to
determine the context of the situation by understanding the relationship
between the people or the group that you are evaluating to determine what would
be appropriate. When looking at proximity it is your job to determine what is
going on in just a few seconds or within a minute what is going on.

 

It is possible to misread a situation as the distances
listed are only a guideline and not always an absolute. It is possible when
looking at a situation quickly to misread how the people being judged interact.

 

Reading the body language of men and women and interpreting the meanings
No verbal skills? try learning how to read body language.

Reading body language and interpreting what is being
conveyed is a skill that is sharpened over time and not just something that can
quickly be learned. Starting with the basics and moving from there will help to
build a foundation of knowledge that will help you over time.

 

As a homework assignment while out and about or even at work
start to pay attention as to how close people can get to each other before they
react by moving away from the other person. After a while you may start to see
people a little differently and may even determine that things are going on
that you may not have previously thought.

 

Your beliefs may change from seeing how people touch each
other, how close they stand, where they talk to each other when talking and how
comfortable they are when in the 18 in range or closer.

 

There is not a paper to turn in with the assignment as you
can do this work anywhere:

  • School
  • Work
  • At a gym
  • At a mall
  • At the corner market

 

It’s fun sometimes to just guess what people are doing or
how they are associated, if you have enough courage sometimes you can just go
and open up a conversation and ask people. If you get nervous tell them it is
an assignment for a communication course you are taking. Its ok people are
curious and they will open up. You may even find your “story” as a good way to meet
people.

 

Interpreting nonverbal communication can be fun and almost
be seen as mind reading. Reading the body language of attraction is something
that can be learned over time but the first thing you should master is
understanding proximity between people and what it may mean.

 

As a last note when learning about body language there are
three things that can happen:

  1. You
    can be right, this would mean that you have judged the context of the situation
    correctly and identified what is happening or has happened
  2. You
    are partially correct and have identified some of the things going on but
    somewhere you were wrong
  3. You
    were wrong altogether and misread the situation or the context

 

There really are not any other options when learning about
body language or non-verbal communication skills.

 

The next class for you will be on the “Bell Bubble”.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your
comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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