Reading body language: Understanding what your feet are saying

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Reading body language: When understanding or interpreting body language one of the first things you can look at to determine how much people are into the conversation or person in front of them is to look at the feet.

 

Non-verbally the feet can determine how a conversation is going.

 

Now you would not imagine how much the feet can tell about a group of people or understand what is going on in a single glance. This nonverbal tip can also tell you or not if there is a possibility if another person is into you in a dating situation or even meeting new people.

 

When two people are talking when standing up facing each other normally their feet are directed towards each other. Almost as if their toes would touch if the two people were standing close enough. This can mean a few things:

 

  • ·         If the people are standing close it can be that there is an aggressive element or a possible fight especially if both people are animated and the fists are closed or people are pointing at each other.
  • ·         There is a possible previous relationship and the people are comfortable enough to be in close distance or within the Bell Bubble.
  • ·         If there is a conversation going on there is the possibility that those engaged are interested or engaged in the conversation.
  • ·         If in a romantic situation there is the possibility that the people being examined are into each other or have been in the past.

 

*As a side note the word possibility is used because all of this information cannot just be determined by the direction of the feet it is just a piece of the puzzle. Remember that while reading the body language of others you can be wrong and snap judgments can get you into some trouble.

 

Now if this information were to be used in a group setting for business you could determine who is interested in the conversation between a few people. The people who have a possible interest in the conversation will keep their feet towards the person who has whatever message should be listened to.

 

Now there is a term in the seduction world referred to as body rocking. This nonverbal trick is simple to perform.

 

Stand up straight and point both of your feet directly in front of you. Now take you right foot and turn it to the right as if that is the direction you wanted to go but your left foot is glued to the ground. Now when done even slightly your shoulders will tilt to the right and nonverbally you would be saying “I need to go over there” getting you away from the conversation or “I need to go somewhere else”. In the seduction world this would give you an “out” or a non verbal cue that you have other opportunities while talking to a targeted person. Now this could be used as body language of men or women because either way the body will react in the same way.

 

If you are in a dating element giving up your attention too quickly gives up your opportunity to meet other singles. In this setting when meeting another group you would not want to start directing both of your feet towards the others until they slowly start to move inwards towards you. This turning inwards tip works person to person also. You will feel a point where you need to turn in towards a single individual when the time is right.

 

The next time that you are stuck talking to that long winded “interesting” person you can use some nonverbal communication to help you project that there is somewhere else you need to be. This nonverbal tip works well when your renegade foot is pointed at something else like a group of people or even a door. Now if you do this so that your body has to turn too much your stance will look strange and this message will no longer be covert in meaning it will be rude.

 

This body rocking tip may take some time to get used to but if you practice it just a few times in the mirror you will be well ahead of those who do not know what it can do for you whether in business, seduction or even dating.

 

Here is your covert body language tip

 

Now stand up straight in front of a mirror and try this simple body language tactic.

Stand in front of the mirror as with both your feet pointed directly at it.

If your feet were the hands on a clock and your left foot was at the 12 O’clock position your right foot or minute hand would only need to be at the 2 or maybe the 3 O’clock position at that most. Notice how your shoulders will pivot just by moving your foot alone.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language: Lobster claw of deception

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Reading body language: Learning how to read or interpret body language can lead you to many different views of what other people are not just saying with their words but also their non verbal communication.

 

Many times when people say that they want to learn how to understand body language it is because someone that they are involved with may be a liar, cheater or thief. In most instances people leak their deceptive moves and they do not even know it. In some instances the deception can include facial expressions or hand movements.

 

Being able to detect when a person is lying or deceiving you takes some time to learn but there are a few items to watch:

  • ·         The eyes
  • ·         The lips
  • ·         The hands
  • ·         The feet

 

Any combination of these body parts can help determine if someone is lying or being deceptive.

 

One major sign that is obvious compared to some of the other leaks that people have is as normal in front of a crowd as it is in person and that is the Lobster claw of deception.

 

The name comes from what people will do with their hand just before they fabricate a story or completely lie about an event.

 

Fabrication occurs when a person takes someone else’s story and embellishes it as their own story. Deception or lying is just what it says a lie.

 

People will have a “tell” or a “leak” that they cant stop once they have made the lie or have deceived others. In some instances the non-verbal action that the liar uses it causes them to try even harder to cover up what they just acted upon.

 

There is a normal pull for people to touch their face or get their hands near their face once they tell the lie or start with the deception.

 

With the lobster claw of deception people have a pull to their face in a specific way for a brief second in time. In order to tell of the person is lying it is a good idea to watch for a while first to determine the tell or get a feel or baseline of their “actions”. When something is out of the norm then that may or may not mean that the person that you are watching is lying.

 

There are many things that can go wrong when reading body language that is why it is a good idea to not make snap judgments about what is being done because you may be wrong and react in a way that can cause more problems than good.

 

While learning how to read body language it is a good idea to take your time and learn how to decipher what is actually going on. If you treat learning nonverbal communication like a course to learn in school it makes it easier. It is always better to learn in small chunks vs trying to learn everything in one day.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

Reading body language: Judged by your hair?

Reading body language: There are so many factors in determining what communication is and how people react to your message or messages through verbal and non verbal  communication.

 

You are judged in seconds by others when they meet you and size you up at the same time.

 

Body language can include your hair style
Nonverbal communication can be determined by your hairstyle

 

You are judged by your clothes, your accessories, your words, your body movement and even your grooming habits or lack of them.

 

You have little chance for error and since we live in highly visual and highly judgmental society.

 

It is hard to determine what is looked at first when people meet you, it could be your:

  • ·         Teeth
  • ·         Clothes
  • ·         Shoes
  • ·         Hands

 

What if the first thing that people looked at and judged you on beyond your words was your hair?

 

There are so many things that can go good with your hair and also there are a few things that are not so good.

 

You can be part of the small segment of society that has been naturally blessed with great genetics or you can be like the rest of everyone else.

 

There really are three way s that hair can go:

1.      Trendy and stylish – This would say that you are worried about what people think or that you are swayed by the way that society feels you should fit into a group. Either way as long as the hair style is done correctly. This trendy style of hair has a low threat of causing you to be judged in negative non verbal terms.

2.      Extreme or negative – When this style is used there would be high significance that you would be judged nonverbally and no matter how well your self control of your body language you would have a tough time delivering a positive message. An example would be a hair cut style of a Mohawk in the business setting in a nice suit. This example could also be colored hair or a style that doesn’t match the person who has the style.

In this sense a person who has a bald spot or a comb over and is not secure in who or what they are in the eyes of the person or people who are judging the content of the interaction.

3.      Neutral – in this category would be someone who has not fallen into the extremes of being judged by a hair style nor someone who would be in the trendy or fashionable hair style. There would not be much risk or losing social value as long as the person who is being judged is not among others who are in the trendy group or people who are knowledgeable in style.

 

4.      Accessories – You can have all of the right style and it could be the exact perfect cut for your industry or your message but you can do one thing wrong and that would to be choosing the wrong accessory or accessories to put in your hair. If you
choose something that pulls attention from your message you are not communicating effectively and you lose value. Whatever you decide to use it should be subtle and also conform to whatever you event you are invlved with or whatever industry you are in.

 

 

It may not make sense that your ability to persuasively persuade others can come down to your hair style or lack of hair style.

 

Learn how to interpret body langauge
Understandling how to read non verbal communication

 

Remember you are being judged not only by your message but by your nonverbal actions and attire. By drawing too much attention to any part of what you do that is not needed you can make your message ineffective and inefficient.

 

As people judge you or interpret your body language your job is to make this task difficult for them by not giving a person or a group a reason to have a negative opinion of you.

 

As always I would like to thank you for your comments and or questions.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Photo Credits:Sweater Girl by Roland Darby, Natural Beauty Woman by Michal Marcol